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awwww Randy you are a GOOD daddy. I'm glad you and your wife can do whats best for your daughter and that she was willing to go to treatment. She is so lucky that the hospital didn't call the police and have her dry out in jail. That would have been the worst. I'm glad she's getting the best.
What a roller coaster, and I thought my day was long and bad. it pales in comparison. Get some sleep Randy, you need it.
 
Iwan naloseit said:
awwww Randy you are a GOOD daddy. I'm glad you and your wife can do whats best for your daughter and that she was willing to go to treatment. She is so lucky that the hospital didn't call the police and have her dry out in jail. That would have been the worst. I'm glad she's getting the best.
What a roller coaster, and I thought my day was long and bad. it pales in comparison. Get some sleep Randy, you need it.
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As parents do, we sometimes question ourselves just how good we are at times like this, in this case, I'll always blame my absence being on the road causing my obesity via divorce as a direct affect on my daughter.

Maturity tells us we have to accept young adults behavior as a product of their own choice at some point and I do hold her accountable to her decision(s).

I wrote the lead story with the appearance I may not been aware of this problem - I do and did know of her problem however her hospital visits were a complete surprise to me until Tuesday when she told me she had a heart attack (major wtf here) and was released and sent home a couple hours later and it red-flagged me as suspicious in nature and there were underlying issues here.

Sleep ?? HA !! I have a goodbye story to write yet tonight...

Like Wade Garrett said in Roadhouse: "I'll get all the sleep I need when I die" ;)
 
Wow! You are an awe in spiring person. I hope this treatment will help your daughter. I have a cousin that got bad like that a nd he refuses to do anything about it. So I'm glad she's trying. I hope despite everything you have a great weekend. And congrats on not blowing it because of stress!!:)
 
she told me she had a heart attack (major wtf here) and was released and sent home a couple hours later and it red-flagged me as suspicious in nature and there were underlying issues here.
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Wait, did she have a heart attack? Or did she say she did, and that the hospital let her go as a way to explain her precesnce in the hospital in the first place?
 
The latter. I couldn't imagine a hospital releasing anyone that had a heart attack within hours. That's pretty much an ICU stay for at least 4 days bare-bones minimum.

The only missing link is what prescription medication she's was aiming for faking a heart attack. I seriously doubt heart attacks are treated with painkillers at least at the prescription level. Perhaps at the ICU care level there are methods to increase/decrease hearts rates but I'm kinda dumb about cardio treatment.
 
T, I've lived with a heart condition for a majority of my adult life and if you go in with chest pain evetually you will get pain killers if they can't find anything else wrong with you...its kinda a pacifier and the docs have only their selves to blame for so liberally distributing pain meds to every tom dick and harry that walks through their doors. Although, there are much cheaper ways to obtain pain meds. She may have gone to the doc thinking she was having a heart attack due to other drugs she was consuming such as cocaine, methamphetamine or speed. Those will all cause rapid and irregular heart beat and chest pain. The thing is, when somebody gets to that point the trip to the er is really a cry for help...good thing they called you. especially when she's freaking out like you discribed I would suspect meth.

whether you knew about her drug issues or not, she is the only one that can get better and kick the habit and you cannot blame yourself for her addictions (even if she blames you). It is 100% true that an addict can go to treatment but won't get better unless they want to. Its all in their ball court buddy. So stop blaming yourself, your obesity and your divorce on her drug use. And another thing. An addiction is not the end of the world. death is the end and she's going to try to do something about this. You just need to be there to support her on her efforts to get better, get clean and get healthy...and I think your the perfect role model for that.
 
Hi Toots! Just wanted to check in on you real quick. Hope your daughter is doing better - good luck to her. Such a long road ahead of her. She's lucky to have such a great set of parents who can work together to help her get well.

You are a good dad!!
 
Heya's T2,
Awwww I am so sorry to hear about your daughter!:(
I hope she gets the help she needs! You were an awesome dad you
did the right thing and didn't blow up congrats! I hung out with
the wrong crowd as a teenager and it took alot to turn my life around
and looking back now I can't belive the stuff I did and I pray my kids
don't grow up and choose that path! It's pretty scary not knowing
what lies ahead, I guess just teach them the best you can be a good
listener as well! I hope things get better have a good night, Tammy:)
 
be_gone_soon said:
Wow! You are an awe in spiring person. I hope this treatment will help your daughter. I have a cousin that got bad like that a nd he refuses to do anything about it. So I'm glad she's trying. I hope despite everything you have a great weekend. And congrats on not blowing it because of stress!!:)
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Awww bless you b_g_s. As for my weekend, this has been a memorable weekend at best and if one ever has doubts that losing bunches of weight isn't socially rewarding, I hope they think again.

Iwan naloseit said:
T, I've lived with a heart condition for a majority of my adult life and if you go in with chest pain evetually you will get pain killers if they can't find anything else wrong with you...its kinda a pacifier and the docs have only their selves to blame for so liberally distributing pain meds to every tom dick and harry that walks through their doors. Although, there are much cheaper ways to obtain pain meds. She may have gone to the doc thinking she was having a heart attack due to other drugs she was consuming such as cocaine, methamphetamine or speed. Those will all cause rapid and irregular heart beat and chest pain. The thing is, when somebody gets to that point the trip to the er is really a cry for help...good thing they called you. especially when she's freaking out like you discribed I would suspect meth.

whether you knew about her drug issues or not, she is the only one that can get better and kick the habit and you cannot blame yourself for her addictions (even if she blames you). It is 100% true that an addict can go to treatment but won't get better unless they want to. Its all in their ball court buddy. So stop blaming yourself, your obesity and your divorce on her drug use. And another thing. An addiction is not the end of the world. death is the end and she's going to try to do something about this. You just need to be there to support her on her efforts to get better, get clean and get healthy...and I think your the perfect role model for that.
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I agree with your post Iwan (rather call you by your real name - it's so friggin' beautiful), you speak for me in so much of the way I feel in the reality aspect. I just do a mental checklist from time to time of what I could've done to give her better opportunities. She may have very well not taken advantage of anything different I would've done and I don't spend much time pondering it, just have those moments I guess. I probably do this out of love for her.

heidilw said:
Thanks for the welcome back T2.
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Just glad to see you back Heidi :)

pequin said:
Hi Toots! Just wanted to check in on you real quick. Hope your daughter is doing better - good luck to her. Such a long road ahead of her. She's lucky to have such a great set of parents who can work together to help her get well.

You are a good dad!!
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Thanks Amy, you always know when to say the right things. I appreciate that. I like your av :)


niapage said:
Heya's T2,
Awwww I am so sorry to hear about your daughter!:(
I hope she gets the help she needs! You were an awesome dad you
did the right thing and didn't blow up congrats! I hung out with
the wrong crowd as a teenager and it took alot to turn my life around
and looking back now I can't belive the stuff I did and I pray my kids
don't grow up and choose that path! It's pretty scary not knowing
what lies ahead, I guess just teach them the best you can be a good
listener as well! I hope things get better have a good night, Tammy:)
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You're right, being a good listener is probably as important as it gets. If we as parents smother our children with our thoughts, ideas, rules and way of life, we'll misunderstand what's going in their life, after all, it is their life is it not ?? I think most kids have a story tell and we need to be quiet and listen when that moment confronts us.
 
Thank you Tammy, soon I will need shades :cool: if it gets any brighter here :)

I hope you had a good weekend and pissed on a KFC bucket just for fun :p
 
Hey QT :) I'm sitting here patiently waiting for permission to say HI _ _ _ _ _

I'm just serious about your name, it's a great name but anyone with a 5-letter name is awesome automatically aren't they ?? ;) :p
 
hehe, I snuck in a Def Leppard video yesterday unannounced so anyway next up on MTV on WLF is a very early video that probably got 6 million hours of airplay launching new creative thinking to videographers with an awesome combination of animation and real actors. I still like revisiting this video every once in a while - it's all good :)

I found myself in need of tailoring a goal-specific next two months. I had some things I needed to consider before I break my ties with Social Security and be honest with myself about ambition vs. stupidity. When all the thinking was said and done, I made a short list of what I need to do the next two months.

Like everyone else on the planet, we fear the holidays weight-wise and why shouldn't we ?? it's certainly no urban legend what all the food and parties do to our weight at this time of year - especially us in the cold regions.

My wish is to lose 20 lbs by Jan 15th and hopefully 4 inches off my waist. When I depart for my new job I want to be wearing a size 38 pants (the size I wore for my wedding tux :) ) and be in the 2-teens in weight.

Yanno it's not so much I ace my goals but it's gonna be great to have a goal to shoot for over the holidays. I'm placing myself in an enviroment where my mental test will beat my first phase of weight loss in terms of determination because I'm forcing myself to use more exercise than I did the first 8+ months - something outside of walking, I avoid like a 6 pack of Taco Bell softshells.

Tomorrow I'm starting with a 20-25 minute bike ride every morning and the same sometime after supper and will carry on this routine till it's time to leave. I hope to work up to 2 - solid 30 minute rides per day. I'm also going to play around with some other exercises also, kinda try a lil of this and that and see what I like. And oh yeah, the walks will forever be there too.

I don't really see much change in my menu (kinda hard to change what you know works) but I do have some minor snacky issues to address - mainly what time I eat my snacks. I need to start eating to exercise and start burning smartly.

I'm really up for this :) Keep me honest people :D
 
Oh my god!! Thats the best video ever!! (even though the lyrics are a little dippy..lol)

I need to sit down and make a few holiday time goals too. I get really bad when it comes time to bake the goodie baskets for family members each year. How can you not nibble on homemade cookies & fudge when they're just sitting there waiting!?

We will emerge VICTORIOUS!! :D:D
 
Yeah Amy, we're going to take on a new look at the holidays in a fashion we never did before. I plan on enjoying it but I'm still going to be strong. I know you can get through this successfully, just be fair to yourself.

haha,, the 80's music was never too strong in the lyric dept. - it was all about the look. :)
 
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