The (im)possible mission of an Italian cook's daughter

Hi Lena! The weather here is cloudy as well...So annoying! Yesterday was a perfect spring day...

I've just pmed you Steve. Thank you so much for your help.
 
Just stopped by to see what's up!

Don't worry, you WILL reach your goal--plateaus come, but they go too! Don't lose hope and take it ONE DAY AT A TIME!!! Patience is really hard for me when it comes to losing weight, too, but it DOES happen, and like Mal said, "What's a few months out of your life?" After several months you'll be thin and fit and gorgeous and glad for all the hard work and self-control you did! Ciao!
 
Steve said:
Failing to lose weight should not be cause for depression and back-tracking. Rather, be happy you found what hasn't worked to date and alter your approach.
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listen to the hot young man - he's quite wise... (and not just a wise ass either - though i might need photographic proof of said ass -- crap nevermind)

seriously, venice... don't let a plateau get you down - look how far yu've come and you don't have that far to go-- you will get there - have patience with yourself... this is a little side trip on your journey - don't beat yourself up.
 
Thank you everybody! I'm so sad about this plateau, and I really need your support! You're great people!

Steve, I wrote back :)
 
mal and steve so eloquently put what i wanted to say!

don't let it bring you down... you have come so far! now you (and steve! :) ) can figure out something new, and you will be back on track in no time!! :)
 
Hello Venice Girl!
I know you can obtain your goal! I know how frustrating it can be to want to lose wieght and have an excellent cook in the house. Reaching a weight loss plateau can be hard, but it just means you have to try something different. I wish you lots of encouragement!
 
Ok...so it looks like I had it all wrong! And now it's going to take a looong time to set things right... :(
Steve is helping me fortunately! But I have to say adios to my August goal...Oh this is so sad!

Thanks a lot to everybody who's supporting me! I really need you now!
 
Venice girl said:
Ok...so it looks like I had it all wrong! And now it's going to take a looong time to set things right... :(
Steve is helping me fortunately! But I have to say adios to my August goal...Oh this is so sad!

Thanks a lot to everybody who's supporting me! I really need you now!
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Don't be silly Nora. Who cares about a short term goal. We will get you back on the right path in no time. I promise, I won't lead you astray.

Remember, being married to a goal is not a wise choice. Work toward goals, but don't marry them. Not reaching goals is inevitable. If you marry yourself to them, what happens emotionally and mentally when you don't succeed?
 
Steve said:
Don't be silly Nora. Who cares about a short term goal. We will get you back on the right path in no time. I promise, I won't lead you astray.

Remember, being married to a goal is not a wise choice. Work toward goals, but don't marry them. Not reaching goals is inevitable. If you marry yourself to them, what happens emotionally and mentally when you don't succeed?
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Steve's right, dont get married! hehe just kidding

Thanks for stopping by my journal Venice :)
 
I know you won't lead me astray Steve, and I can't say how grateful I am for your help.
And I also know that I shouldn't think in terms of time, but this goal was so important for me for so many reasons...I'm so tired of always have to be the fat one when everybody else look gorgeous. I wanted to feel at my best for my bestfriend wedding, and not to spend most of the time thinking that I could have been better, that I could have done more. I feel like a failure now, and I'm sorry to vent here, but it's not just about losing weight, weight loss is just a way to show myself that I can do something good, that I can be better...and instead it turns out that I was wrong again...

Sorry, I know you're trying to help and I really appreciate it, i promise. I just feel so bad right now...
 
Venice girl said:
I know you won't lead me astray Steve, and I can't say how grateful I am for your help.
And I also know that I shouldn't think in terms of time, but this goal was so important for me for so many reasons...I'm so tired of always have to be the fat one when everybody else look gorgeous. I wanted to feel at my best for my bestfriend wedding, and not to spend most of the time thinking that I could have been better, that I could have done more. I feel like a failure now, and I'm sorry to vent here, but it's not just about losing weight, weight loss is just a way to show myself that I can do something good, that I can be better...and instead it turns out that I was wrong again...

Sorry, I know you're trying to help and I really appreciate it, i promise. I just feel so bad right now...
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Sweetie, it's not that you were wrong. It's that you didn't know. You were doing what you knew to improve upon yourself. Now, you are going to be doing this in a really healthy way. When I first started taking Steve's advice, I thought I was going to gain weight. I haven't, but I did stop losing as quickly. That's ok though because in the long run, we are correcting something that will make us healthier, happier (think of how much more food you get to eat) and we will feel soo much better. I promise that you will feel alot better once you start paying more attention to what is going into your body. And you should still feel good in August! This is not just about weight, it's about LOVING yourself, and starving is not a loving action, it's detrimental. Your best friend just cares that you are there for this special moment.
And FYI- You ARE Gorgeous!!!! Look how pretty you are now! Being thin, or at your ideal weight does not make you pretty. You will radiate at any weight, if you just take the time to love yourself. What is within you will overflow into the outside, and that is REAL beauty!
Keep your chin up hun, in a few days you will be feeling the difference, and you will know without looking at the scale that you are making progress. You will lose, but right now just focus on how great you body is going to feel in the next couple of days. :)
 
Don't beat yourself up over it hun! You had no way of knowing that what you are doing was not the best way. Blame the media ;)

Anyway, you can still make good progress between now and then, just 10-15lbs I am sure will make you feel really great! I'm only down 4lbs, but already feel better about myself -- little milestones are reasons to get excited too! And look at how far you've come already! A little pouting is ok, but don't let it get you down too much, if for no other reason than stress and depression are like the mental equivalent of twinkies during your diet ;)

Chin up hun! *hugs* :D
 
Could not have put it better than Brit. It is only March. We have plenty of time to make stuff happen by August. Really. :)

Remember, Nora, what we think about the most is what we become. So stop thinking of yourself as a failure. Stop thinking this process is futile.

You succeeded in finding something that was not working. Now it is time to move on to something that WILL work. Be happy you did not get stuck in the rut that so many others do, who fight the plateau for YEARS! Or they give up completely and gain the weight back plus more.

One's weight does not determine one's beauty. I know you know this, and it is your acute emotions talking. But spend some time to realize this again.

Edit to add: I see you are feeling better now..... good!
 
steve i think youre secretly a big softie :)
all these nice posts now .. we have converted you from your "the harsh truth ways" :D
 
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