So help her.
I don't get what you are trying to do here.
Or do you think saying, "Stop the game playing and stop it now" is help?
I don't get it? For being all high and mighty when it comes to psychology, you haven't even used basic approaches such as NLP and the like to establish a bit of authority yet.
1. I am helping her. I am pointing out reality that she refuses to see.
2. I didn't think you would get it. If you "got it" you would not still be struggling and you would not need this support group. Until you do get it. Being fat will always be an issue with you even though you are not fat. You put on some muscle. I think you did that so you could eat more. Why an I wrong?
3. I do not need authority. I am simply confronting illogic so that I can short circut their denial.
TomO is playing the metabolism denial game. He says there are some "finer points" the fact is he does not know Jack shit about denial and now he has to as you put it, put up or shut up. You should do the same thing with TomO. I asked him to show me any data the metabolic variance between individuals of the same height, weight, gender and age. The variance is less than 2%. He claims to believe otherwise. As the resident guru here are you going to ignore the fact that he believes something that is total crap? Why don't you tell him the truth? Hmmm I wonder.