I DO care about him leaving me, I never said I didn't. I just don't want to be like her as a PERSON. I'm not jealous of her as a PERSON. I think I'm ranks above her in personality and intelligence, I just think physically, her body is far more attractive than mine. Of course I'm going to compare, I still miss him. I wish he felt for me, the way he feels for her. And we're still great friends, which makes it 10 times harder.
pleeease help with my legs (pic heavy)
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I DO care about him leaving me, I never said I didn't. I just don't want to be like her as a PERSON. I'm not jealous of her as a PERSON. I think I'm ranks above her in personality and intelligence, I just think physically, her body is far more attractive than mine. Of course I'm going to compare, I still miss him. I wish he felt for me, the way he feels for her. And we're still great friends, which makes it 10 times harder.
Time to cut the friendship. Harder at first, easier in the end.
Sorry about the misinterpretation. I read: not jealous of her physically as not jealous they are together.
Sorry about the misinterpretation. I read: not jealous of her physically as not jealous they are together.
Until you can move on and love yourself for who YOU are regardless of what any of your ex boyfriends/lovers may or may not think of you then you will be doomed to feeling crummy about yourself.
Instead of wishing he felt a certain way about you, feel that way about yourself. You know that song, "If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with." Well guess what, you're with someone, that someone is you and you're stuck with her until the day you die. You better learn to love her.
You will find a meaningful connection with someone someday and it won't be based on how your legs compare to some other girl's. It will be about who you are as a person and what you have to offer as a whole package. Jealousy and envy will get you nowhere. Love and acceptance will get you what you want.
I know it's hard, but you must learn to let go of the things in your past that went wrong. Focus on what you do want and go for what you know is right.
Okay so I hope that de-masculinized the thread a bit...
Good luck
PS, break off the contact with this guy. It's clearly causing you a lot of grief. He may seem like a great "friend" but if having him in your life is making you feel this bad then you need to move on. The problem with keeping exes in your life is that it keeps old feelings lingering around. The sooner you can move on, the sooner you an find your own way to happiness.
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He'll never love you like I love you, bb. <3
Err, I mean, that's rough. But y'know what.. I personally am of the philosophy that the ends sorta justify the means. Doesn't matter too much why you want to be your best, as long as you do.
Internet is bad for hugs, but try to imagine getting slimered - that is roughly what it would be like.
Also, tony loves you too. He's just shy. And spicy really, really loves you. Look at her, all goin' to bat for estrogen and you and great justice. She's such a good girl. :bncry:
Err, I mean, that's rough. But y'know what.. I personally am of the philosophy that the ends sorta justify the means. Doesn't matter too much why you want to be your best, as long as you do.
Internet is bad for hugs, but try to imagine getting slimered - that is roughly what it would be like.
Also, tony loves you too. He's just shy. And spicy really, really loves you. Look at her, all goin' to bat for estrogen and you and great justice. She's such a good girl. :bncry:
For your listening entertainment. Enjoy...
Awesome post, Spicy. Lots of good advice in there, especially "You have to love yourself first before anybody else can love you."
RN76, it sounds to me as though this guy still owns your heart and you are allowing him to control how you feel.
Tony is right. Take a big breath, cut your ex loose, get your heart back and take charge of your life again
We don't have much choice in the cards we're dealt in life. But we have 100% control over how we play them.
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I'm not good at helping people with 'feelings' (In fact when I do try it almost always ends up with someone crying) but from what I've seen of the pictures you've posted on the site over time I really don't think you've got much to worry about.
You're always gonna be hard on yourself when looking at your pics and build her up when you look at hers so it's not a fair fight.
The facts are that, yes, she has slightly better legs than you (but I think you've taken unflattering pics of yourself) but you have a far nicer bum which is more important for a guy I also think you're probably a bit bustier than her which counts about 10x as much as calves
Anyway, what I'm trying to say is, 'I'd hit it'
You're always gonna be hard on yourself when looking at your pics and build her up when you look at hers so it's not a fair fight.
The facts are that, yes, she has slightly better legs than you (but I think you've taken unflattering pics of yourself) but you have a far nicer bum which is more important for a guy
I also think you're probably a bit bustier than her which counts about 10x as much as calvesAnyway, what I'm trying to say is, 'I'd hit it'
LOL, you guys crack me up. Thanks for the replies. Thanks for the song, spicy!! For the record, I do love myself, and I don't think she's better than me in any way, shape, or form, aside from her body. He knows that too, but love isn't about who's "better" or prettier or smarter, or whatever. He's with her because they were more compatible, and I wish him all the love and luck in the world. But I'm still going to be sad that it's not with me.
And you're right. I'll TRY to cut him out of my life, but that's hard because we were friends for many years before we became lovers, and he's been very supportive, appreciative, and invaluable to me as a friend, even since we stopped dating. And for what it's worth, he always tells me I'm beautiful, no matter what I weigh, or how much I dislike my body -- he has always been (and probably still is) my biggest fan.
And Nooooo I don't do squats! My butt is 100% fat, no muscle. It shakes. But the boys seem to like it, so I can't complain.
And you're right. I'll TRY to cut him out of my life, but that's hard because we were friends for many years before we became lovers, and he's been very supportive, appreciative, and invaluable to me as a friend, even since we stopped dating. And for what it's worth, he always tells me I'm beautiful, no matter what I weigh, or how much I dislike my body -- he has always been (and probably still is) my biggest fan.
And Nooooo I don't do squats! My butt is 100% fat, no muscle. It shakes. But the boys seem to like it, so I can't complain.
Love it. That's a great way of looking at things. Thank you!
But the boys seem to like it, so I can't complain.
That's better, ****er. How soon do we find out about what the doc has to say? I'm so excited.
My Ortho appointment is Monday. I'm sure he's going to order MRIs or Xrays before he tells me his plan though. I'll keep you posted!
I can't see your pics, so I can't comment...however, I had thyroid cancer as a young lass and am now on thyroid meds forever. Since you said your doc just changed your dose, I'd probably try to just hang in there a little bit longer--when the med adjustment kicks in, you'll feel better.
Also, if my dose is off, i will feel like I have a neuromuscular-connective tissue disorder, too. I feel like I am "tough meat"--it's weird to describe, and very uncomfortable. Make sure you have your levels checked regularly--it will help! (But you are an RN--you already know this...jsut trying to offer some support.)
When I was 270 and very fat, with almost no muscle, it was murderous to try to get the ole bod moving the first few times--but I did it! After you start working those muscles, in your legs and calves, your muscles will "find themselves", and the work will get easier...eight months later I feel like the Hulk because I can feel my muscles working, and that is truly an new experience! (Unfortunately, I still look like a big ole hulk, but progress is being made there, too!)
Hang in there, hunny--the folks on this forum will guide you and help you and you'll be right where you wanna be in a few months! You'll see!
Also, if my dose is off, i will feel like I have a neuromuscular-connective tissue disorder, too. I feel like I am "tough meat"--it's weird to describe, and very uncomfortable. Make sure you have your levels checked regularly--it will help! (But you are an RN--you already know this...jsut trying to offer some support.)
When I was 270 and very fat, with almost no muscle, it was murderous to try to get the ole bod moving the first few times--but I did it! After you start working those muscles, in your legs and calves, your muscles will "find themselves", and the work will get easier...eight months later I feel like the Hulk because I can feel my muscles working, and that is truly an new experience! (Unfortunately, I still look like a big ole hulk, but progress is being made there, too!)
Hang in there, hunny--the folks on this forum will guide you and help you and you'll be right where you wanna be in a few months! You'll see!