Oh, that's great! yes, you deserve all the compliments.
And yes, a target, not a challenge - it's what we're doing for ourselves, not for others.
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And yes, a target, not a challenge - it's what we're doing for ourselves, not for others.
alligatorob
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Well deserved complements I am sure.
I have never heard of a quark you could eat, but we may just call it yogurt, even if we don't spell it the way you do. I enjoy the language differences we see here, not enough to block understanding, just enough to be interesting. For example I have never heard a woman here say they were wearing trousers, women here wear slacks or pants. We see Trousers as kind of an old term used mostly for men's pants, when its used at all. I'll bet your accent is really nice, I think the Irish accent is one of the more pleasant English accents. Maybe one day we should arrange a conference call just so we could listen to each other talk!
In answer to your comment on my diary I am not yet retired, I am in the process. I am a consulting engineer, not employed by any company, just my own. I have a number of clients and am letting them go one by one. At this point I am about half way through that process, so I still work about half time. I have one client who I have worked for more than 30 years, they have a big project that they have asked me to stay on until the end, probably a year off, that will be my last before complete retirement. Fortunately though that project is big my role in it isn't so it doesn't take a lot of time.
Lol at the line of about parading in your undies. In this Instagram and ad-drenched universe, how many women actually feel confident enough to do this? The percentage is probably very low, which is such a shame.
Congrats on the compliments, that is great. It's like a reward for your hard work and discipline. You're doing really well Petal.
Petal001
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Thsnks Em , Amy and Rob. Em yes I thought i would be embarrassed really but was chuffed and it's a motivator.
Amy well if we don't do it for us there is no point . I think I finally learned that.
Rob your comment about trousers made me laugh. There are so many different accents in Ireland we can tell when someone is from the north and the south pretty easily. I have lived in different places so may be hard to pinpoint.
Oh my weight is down 1.5 lb so I'm happy enough with that. That's 24.5 lb since may 15th.
Amy well if we don't do it for us there is no point . I think I finally learned that.
Rob your comment about trousers made me laugh. There are so many different accents in Ireland we can tell when someone is from the north and the south pretty easily. I have lived in different places so may be hard to pinpoint.
Oh my weight is down 1.5 lb so I'm happy enough with that. That's 24.5 lb since may 15th.
alligatorob
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That's great! No one has said anything to me about my weight loss yet, except for my wife of course. I think that's because I tend to wear baggy clothes, and though I am now wearing smaller trousers, they are still baggie and look a lot like the old ones.
That's probably true most places, but only noticeable in the one where you live. Northern and southern accents here sound very different to me, and being from the south I can usually tell what part of the south someone is from. In Louisiana we have several different accents, north Louisiana is more like other southern states, but a bit softer. In south Louisiana there's Cajun and New Orleans, different from north Louisiana and different from each other. Those are just the larger categories lots of variety within them and other minor accents. Like you my accent is a kind of mix, in the deep south I sound like a Yankee, in most of the country I sound like a southerner, my wife tells me that when we are amongst southerners my accent returns. I don't think I have an accent at all, everybody else does.
Petal001
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Thank you all .Rob get yourself some fitted clothes and people will notice. Tbh me swapping into proper fitting trousers for work was when they noticed and I feel so much better. My other "pants" were sagging on my bum and flapping on my thighs . Not buying more until I shift another few lbs.
That's so wonderful all the weight loss and compliments!!! And especially that you are doing this for you, and you are really into self care now. It's so great seeing all this - it inspires me a lot! I had some sort of taboo about taking care of myself before all the other chores are done, but now that I am starting to do things for me, I can't tell you why I was so stuck on that idea. Nice we both have much happier, healthier perspective changes! Here's to a lot more of them!!
Just to clarify, we are not English! This is more important than ever, with talks of borders, backstops, Boris and Brexit. It's a bloody minefield!
alligatorob
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Sorry, I know that, should have said English language accents or something. I suppose the term English accent could be interpreted as being an accent of a person from England, not what I meant. I am not English either, but I think of my accent as one of the English language accents.Just to clarify, we are not English! This is more important than ever, with talks of borders, backstops, Boris and Brexit. It's a bloody minefield!
So Emily, you are Irish also?
Petal001
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Thanks Marsia .yes self care is really important I am finally realising . I have not looked after myself on many different levels and put way too many people first at my expense. Sometimes I can still feel it happening and the overwhelming feeling takes over but now I try to back it all down.
Rob I knew what you meant more the English language accent . English is the second most spoken language in the world and Chinese I think is first. There are more than 6500 languages but 2 thousand of them are spoken by a very minority population.
Rob I knew what you meant more the English language accent . English is the second most spoken language in the world and Chinese I think is first. There are more than 6500 languages but 2 thousand of them are spoken by a very minority population.
It's a hard bit of conditioning to work through - I have it myself. It's a philosophical/ethical/self-care tangram puzzle (or puzzle of choice!) - solidarity, from one over-conditioned after-you-my-dear-Alphonser to another.
I think there’s a fear (for me) that if I say no to people, they’ll disappear from my life. Which is crazy.
Keep putting yourself first Petal.
I always think of Bruce Jenner - he seemed to be the caring one and put himself second to Kris and the rest of the family. Then he transformed into Caitlyn and almost went too much the other way. But it was probably because she could finally be herself. Anyway, that’s the Kardashian lesson over for today.
Keep putting yourself first Petal.
I always think of Bruce Jenner - he seemed to be the caring one and put himself second to Kris and the rest of the family. Then he transformed into Caitlyn and almost went too much the other way. But it was probably because she could finally be herself. Anyway, that’s the Kardashian lesson over for today.
. Not a train but a car will doI think my social anxiety is fueled by something similar - maybe that I am not going to be at all what they want me to be. But I am realizing that these type of thoughts just make me behave in a way that isn't really me, so even if I make friends by compromising who I am, I don't feel very close to them. Better to be ourselves and have friends who understand and love us for who we really are - like I think you are saying with the Bruce Jenner example.
I call shotgun in the self care car!
with Marsia. I feel the same.