Oh, the issues abound!

How you view yourself in the mirror isnt neccessarily how others view you, or the 1st thing they notice. I work with a variety of people. One thing that I realized one day, is that they come in all shapes and sizes, and the ones who are beautiful are the ones with the lovely personality, the ones who are a delight to work with. The ones who aren't so beautiful are the ones whose personalities sadly leave a lot to be desired. Beauty isnt about looks. Take a look at people you know, and the ones who you consider to be truly beautiful and loveable - they arent usually the ones that the media would portray as great beauties. A sweet personality, and a big smile are true beauty and the things that matter. Weightloss is something we do for ourselves, its not because we should be overly concerned about what others think.
 
Great points L-Jay. To drive it home even further everyone should rent the movie "Shallow Hal" and report back with their critical reviews.
 
Cripes I can relate to you about thechanging room fiascos I utterly hate trying on clothes in shops - blah.

Hope you're having a nice weekend anyway and well done for your food choices and being able to resist fries. I don't think I could have done such a thing!
 
And remember, for some reason the lights in those changing rooms are hideous. Have you ever noticed how your skin looks. All red and blotchy, and my blemishes are magnified about 20 times. It is not a fair representation of what you look like. Also, I think we feel especially vulnerable in that situation. We are away from the comfort of our own homes, we are semi naked, in front of a mirror, hoping that what we try on is going to suit us ... its very emotionally charged. And believe it or not, slim people have trouble finding things that fit them right aswell. Has anyone watched 'Retail Therapy' where a stylist takes people clothes shopping to show them where they are going wrong. Some of the outfits the slim woman put on are very unflattering. See if you can keep that in mind, so that next time you try on clothes you know from the start that the item may not suit you, not because of your size, but just because it isn't the right style for you ;) .
 
great point!

MB, that is SUCH a good point! I never really thought of that. I just kind of thought slim gals were like clothes hangers - everything looked right on them!
 
I'm focussing on the good stuff. I worked tonight. I work in the cosmetics department of a pharmacy chain. There is always lots of junk food available; chips and chocolate bars that are just past the freshness date, crackers etc. I have gotten so good at not eating any of it! Now I'll get a small bag of dry roasted soy nuts if I'm hungry or a fruit bar if I want something sweet. And I'm a salt & chips fanatic so that is an accomplishment.

I ate pretty well today and I bought a pedometer so Emmcookie and I are gonna get a ticker to walk somewhere and get a reward when we get there. Woo hoo!

We are having lasagne tomorrow, something that I love, so I'll let myself cheat a bit.
 
sillygirl said:
I couldn't fit into the things I tried on and the sight of myself in the full length mirror made me sick. I can't believe I look like this. I wanted desperately to cry but held it together until we left. Trying to fight the fact that so much of my self-worth is tied up in my weight... I'm going through so many ups and downs emotionally during this process.
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I really think dressing rooms were invented by skinny people :rolleyes: I CAN tell you that it WILL get easier to look at that image in the mirror as you make progress:D The journey to your goal IS an emotional process, its hard and there are setbacks along the way that take time to overcome. It will get better and you will succeed! Remember, your weight isn't WHO you are or WHAT you can become, it is only the package that the good Lord put you in and you have the power to adjust it how you see fit! ;)

Have a great day, Hun (or is that "night"???? hmmm LOL)
 
Hey, Sillygirl. Sorry you had such a hard time with the shopping. I have to shop and plus size shops. They have all those "skinny mirrors" so you look good in the store, but when you get home and look in a regular mirror you feel like crap. I have found myself very up and down emotionally the last couple of weeks as well...just ask my boyfriend. I attribute it to having such an emotional connection to food. Now that I am trying to break that cycle I am a little out of sorts. Everything is going to be fine. Just keep on focus of your goal. Good Luck!
 
Sunday - I had 2 1/2 slices of lasagna and a beer and a half glass of wine. I only had a bowl of cereal and an apple the rest of the day. It was a horrible calorie day but I knew ahead of time I was going to do it and I enjoyed every last bite! I know that if I'm to make this a lifetime change I will have to have the occasional day like this, when we have people over or whatever. Days to just let go and not worry. I think as long as it only happens once a month or so I think it's fine.

Yesterday was back to normal. I had cereal for breakfast, beans for lunch and two pieces of veggie pizza (homemade thin crust with way less than normal cheese). I walked to and from work. It was a good day. Drank lots of water. So far today I've had a bowl of cereal and a banana. I'm going to do my best today, will definitely be walking to work and hopefully home as well depending on how my back feels.

Feeling positive. Woo hoo!!
 
I am glad that you are going to get an exercise ticker, they are sooooo good for motivation. Also, you are so grounded about the odd treat day. As you say, it is a part of life. People who are slim, and stay slim, do push the boat out occasionally, and it is okay to do this once in a while. Keep up the great work ;)
 
You planned for a day like that and then you went right back on track the next day. That's what it's all about. You did good, honey!!!
 
I agree with the others. You've got to have a day like that every once in a while or you will go insane! The problem is when those days start getting more and more often. ;)
 
Whoop-pi-ti-yi-yo

She's back in the saddle again,
Out where a friend is a friend.
Where the long-horn cattle feed
On the lowly jimson weed,
She's back in the saddle again. ;)
 
Thanks so much for your comments ladies! I appreciate every one of them.

Did well yesterday. After my morning banana and cereal I had two veggie dogs with soy cheese for lunch (no buns), an apple and a nectarine while at work and two Tofurky sausages with sauerkraut for supper. I'd never had sauerkraut before but Emmcookie really likes it so I gave it a try. Pretty darned good and 0% fat.

I also walked to and from work yesterday. Woo hoo!

I'm being really careful today because we are having our reduced fat taco salad for supper (baked chips, soy cheese, no fat faux meat). So far I've had my Special K, banana and an apple. Looking forward to supper. It's just so darned hot in the apartment that salads are great.
 
yay for you for walking to work... and home too.. .that's awesome... :)

sauerkraut has an interesting taste -- low calorie and low fat... and it's cabbage so i think it's got fiber... ;)

have a great day
 
You may notice the new exercise ticker. It is a very long distance but I wanted something that could keep me going for a very very very long time. Emmcookie is going to use it too and when we finally get to the end it'll be reward time ... handbag shopping!!! She wants a Mat & Nat bag and I'm keeping my options open.


Also, I didn't weigh myself this past week because I was starting my period and knew I was seriously retaining water. Ugh! This Sunday I'll be weighing myself again.
 
Way to go on getting the exercise ticker, it is so motivating ;) And what a good idea to have a reward at the end. I should do that really, but I'm not sure at the moment what I would want.

Keep up the great work, oh and I nearly forgot, I am definitely going to try sauerkraut. Sounds like a great alternative to coleslaw ;)
 
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