"Niapage's"Out with the old In with the New"

Ty GAL'S,we got into it so bad I feel it is paper thin to being OVER thought I wiouldn't say it but he lied ALOT today,he kept calling me from paying phones claiming that he was going to the storage place where the hotel keeps their chtistmas stuff at,anyway I called the FING hotel and they said he has been off for 3 hours(we live 30 minutes away)after he kept up these lies such as they must not know I left and was coming back the man assured me the banquet department was CLOSED for the day!
So he admits he was hanging out with TAMMY(bitch has my name to)and her hubby then has enough nerve to ask me if he can go out with them I basically said a bunch of @#$%^&*!@#$%^&*() words.
He chose to hang out with the problem people that I was upset about the night before.I am beyond angry at this point,he had me making calls playing phone games he had the husband call me to say BRIAN needed to get out and clear his head needed to get away,WTF wheres my get away ???He's here so I need to go to bed cuz I can't stand to see him right now,he's a LIAR I told him he loves hid friend TAMMY so much go stay there and here he is.EVERYONE HAVE A GR8 THANKSGIVING**HUGGS***I WILL BE ON HERE TOMORROW NIGHT,TAMMY
 
Oh Tammy! I'm sooo sorry your H is being such an ass!! Damn. Well, that is a terribly shitty thing to do--cheat on your fiance who is pregnant with your third child!! That is pretty bad, and I'm surprised you didn't tell him to get lost then. I don't blame you for being suspicious. It sounds like he is incredibly selfish and inconsiderate. Gee, maybe the reason you're not very affectionate to him is b/c your EXHAUSTED from taking care of his 4 children! Maybe if he helped you out more, you'd be more inclined that way. And WTF is up with him asking you how long you plan to be sick--as if it's an inconvenience to him. Bloody hell, I'm so pissed off for you...lol. What a bastard. Have you considered marriage counseling? There are probably places where you can get it for free. I went to the intern at an office, and there was no charge b/c she is still getting her masters. Even if H won't go, you can go and vent and maybe get some insight into things, and help in dealing with H. I don't know why more men don't figure it out, but the nicer and more helpful they are to their wives, the more likely their wives are to be "in the mood."

It doesn't sound like he's cheating to me, just being an ass. The thing is, he has a history of it, and seems to not give a shit about your feelings. The fact that he lied and went out with Tammy2 and her H, is just plain disrespectful. I hope you can get him to see this. Try talking to him as calmly as you can, b/c I've found that when voices are raised, nothing gets solved. Take a DEEP breath, girl, and think about what you need to say to him, and do it in a normal voice, and try not to let him get you so mad that it turns into a yelling, screaming situation. Easier said than done, I know, but it's the best way to get resolution--and I think you could really use some of that.

God knows I'm no expert, but I hope this helps a little. :biggrinjester:

:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:
 
Hi hon! I am so sorry for what is happening. Something similar happened with my exhubby and it was awful! Your man is not honoring your relationship at all (I don't mean by cheating because it hasn't been proven but by disrespecting you) and that he is lying to you is leaving me with my mouth open! I am wondering what sparked this after 6 years??? Bikinibound said it all very well and if you can keep your composure when you talk to him it will make a world of difference... though easier said than done. No matter what happens you want to be able to look back and know that you did the best you could and you don't regret anything. I only say that because I have seen people (me included) go off the deep end when they are hurt and angry and I regretted a lot that I said and did and how I handled myself. I didn't do it with a lot of dignity and a lot of the time he just shut down or got defensive so it didn't do any good anyway to yell and carry on! I have you in my thoughts and prayers. Take care of yourself and your kiddos... take some time for yourself if you can. Start jogging! It's a great way to clear your head and a nice time to yourself... even if your huffing! lots of hugs for you.
 
Hi Tammy

Kimberly is so right - I have read through her comment several times and agree with every word she has written.:iagree:

Marriage guidance may bring home to him how serious the situation is. He may then be willing to cut the friendship with Tammy2. I think that you want that friendship axed if at all possible.

If they work together - is there any chance that you could get him to change jobs?

Take care
Love
Margaret
 
:hurray:OKOK What can I say MEN ARE STUPID!! LOL He came home we talked after ignoring him for 3 hours watching him ball and cry and say SORRY but his outlook is he feels I don';t show him enough affection and love so he thought by staying out late and hanging out with someone I didn't want him to until I meet them on the day before THANKSGIVING will make me realize how much I love and miss him lamo,NOT I said you went about it all wrong if you want US to talk be romantic ect,try being romantic,sneak get a babysitter ,rake me out somewhere ect ANYTHING but going out and excluding me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Anyway I told him I felt disrespected and pissed about him lying to hangout with the HAPPILY MARRIED couple and thats not going to happen ever again.He swore on the children that he would never cheat on me so YEAH I believe him but that won't happen again,Anyway I am HAPPY again lol.

OK on to good new's with me not exactly keeping exact calorie count,and exersicing still I was thinking the scale would say 185-187 NOPE I freaking lost a 1lb lol 181 baby!!I know it still Thanksgiving day and have to see the damage tomorrow lol.

OK I LOVE YOU ALL HAVE A HAPPY THANKSGIVING AND FRIDAY IS BACK ON TRACK DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11:hurray::cheers2::biggrinjester:
 
Hi Tammy

I am so pleased to hear that you have talked and communicated with each other. You sound so happy.

:party:

All men can be really stupid at times - and this was certainly his turn to be stupid. He now knows that doesnt work. Hopefully he will follow your advice and make a fuss of you if he wants some affection.

And it is excellent news about your weight being down. OK - so you may do some celebratory damage today - but it is a lot better to do damage at 181 than at 187.

Have a wonderful Thanksgiving day.

I really couldnt be more pleased for you.

Take care
Love
Margaret
 
Happy Thanksgiving!

:grouphug: Huggs all,you all rock! OK I am postine my menue cuz I
think I did good on Turkey day since the scale loved me lol.
Menue
Breakfast
1 piece (small )cream cheese homade danish(250 cals)
Lunch
notta was running around
Dinner
1 plate of food but alot but then again1 plate mash taters,homade mac and cheese,green beans,corn,1 roll,stuffing,1 piece turkey gravy on turkey the only thing I went a lil over board with was the mac and cheese(900 cals)
Snack
nothing
LATE NIGHT
1 turkey sandwhich w/ 1 slice cheese and miracle whip on lite wheat bread(320 cals)
THATS IT NO DESERTS!!!!1,470 NO WHERE NEAR THE 5,000 THE THEY CLAIM PEOPLE EAT ON TURKEY DAY,YAY.:party:
 
Tammy

Well done.

To eat at that level on a special holiday is amazing. I am about the same weight as you and I eat more calories than that just about every day. You did so well.:hurray:

Clearly happiness helps you to make sensible food choices....

Take care
Love
Margaret
 
What???? No dessert? Talk about willpower. ;) Hey, beautiful... sorry I couldn't drop in before I went MIA. I hope Turkey Day treated you and the family well. Now don't go getting run over by anxious parents hitting Toys R Us today, because heaven knows, you'll be out there shopping for the babies. haha Have a great weekend, beauty.

-Sheryl
 
Heelo all,and Hell no MGB I would be like this in the AM hours :svengo: and
add people and toys @ that.I just wait until last coiple weeks before xmas to get the last minute stuff that I really want and they usually still have pretty good deal's,specially all the recvalls lately I am thinking you will find gr8 prices.
Well I had me my turkey sandwhich forlunch and 1 pices of choclate truffle it says 240 cals for 4 HOLY CRAP so 1 is 80 cals wowzer but only 1 to kill the crave.
I have my In Laws 35th anniversary party tomorrow,they went all out rented a hall dj ect so my kids tought me the CHACHA SLIDE and all the fun party dances,so I may join this time since I am 74 lbs lighter,I was the type that sat in the back and watched everyone else have fun and always said I was sick so I didn't have to dance ect but WILD WOMAN is coming out tomorrow haha!!I plan to stationary bike later not sure what my food will be I haven't had the chance to grocery shop I may just have another yummy turkey sandwhich and some veggies and fruit.
BIKINI I HAVE BEEN EATING MY VEGGIES AND FRUITS!!:party:
 
I'm impressed on your T-day eating. I ate about 3X as much as you did..lmao. oh well. :biggrinjester:

That is great that you aren't going to be the wallflower at parties anymore. Go get your groove on, girl!! :party::party:

Congrats on eating your veggies, woman!
 
good for you eating all those fruits and veggies Tammy!!!

Dont' let that Wild Woman get too out of control tommorrow :D
 
:grouphug: You all mean alot to me!I swear when I got married had kids all my friends seem to disapear and then struggling with weight and no one to talk to about it no support around here either so YOU all mean ALOT to me!!:biggrinjester: I am am going to have another turkey sand and veggies for dinner,miracle whip has only 40 cals so not bad and that turkey and cheese on lite wheat is yummmmmy!I noly do miracle whip on real turkey sands and deviled eggs.Ok I am going to BINGO tonight cuz I NEED OUT and I need $$$$$$$$$$ BAD LOL my aunt is paying for some.
MENUE
Breakfast
--------------sleep
LUNCH
1 turkey sand (250 cals)
SNACK
nannah(100 cls)
1 choch truffle(80 cals)
Dinner
turkey sand (250 cals)
mixed veggies(80 cals)
Snack
couple 100 cal pk's snackies....:biggrinjester:
 
:nopity: lol me @ bingo again haha!Korrie I wish you culd have went,lol you need to move closer.I won $85 I am Ok with that but I bingo 3 times and 1st time $5 then $50 then $25 lol should have been $225 big differnce yeah I get greedy after a while when I lose for months lol.
Ok more food to add small pate of spaghetti 1 slice garlic bread(375 cals)
night time snack cashews(150 cals)NEW TOTAL 1,360 Walked 20 minutes not as much as I wanted but it's something.:seeya:
 
I am going to post a few thanks giving pics me and my son,the kids,my doggie,also a pic of my mom and stepdad,I have talked about him before but he fell down the steps the day before thanksgiving last year and he is now paralized from the neck down.They are still doing different things to see how much he can get back if any.
 
HI Tammy,
As always your pictures of the kids and you are so beautiful!!!
I am so impressed with your turkey day menu!! You rock!! That is willpower!! I over-ate, not so bad... but still above my planned calories...
I am happy that everything is getting back to normal on the home front..
You are doing awesome!!!!
Have a great weekend girl!!
Hajni
 
Love the pics! Your littlest guy is a doll! And you look gorgeous, as usual. Any guy who'd even think of cheating on you would be nuts. :D Not only are you gorgeous, but you're sweet and caring, supportive and funny as hell. So there's your ego boost for the day--and I mean every single word of it. :beating::beating:
 
Hey Tammy - you look great - I really need to get my ass in gear - Ive totally let myself down...LOL

Your kids are so beautiful and man I cant believe the little guy...he is so cute and getting so BIG!!!

You did awesome at Thanksgiving...
 
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