nataliejo's diary: Moving, flowing, grooving forward... change is coming...

NatJo! I was wondering where you were for so long because I stupidly didn't realize you had a new diary! Sorry about that, hun. I'm glad to hear that you have been pushing on and trying your very best to stay focused. Congrats on having the strength to put away those cookies. A wise person on this forum once said to me: When you're tempted, always think "What do I deserve more? A tasty treat or to reach my goal and feel fantastic?"
And of course, you deserve you reach your goal and feel AMAZING!

Hey SunnyDee..
how are you hun? Will have to check your diary! How are you maintaining?

Ttylater hun
love yas
always
natalie jo :seeya:
 
Hi Natalie Jo

Good girl for going out for that walk.

That is what you need to do.

Do not believe that it is an impossible task. It is not impossible.

If you get to wonder if it is possible go and look at those photos of me again (link p21 of my diary). I was 294 pounds at the start of the year.

It is hard. It is very hard work. But you can do it.

As I write this I am wet after having got home 10 minutes ago from walking 6.3 miles in the pouring rain.

I am going to go and get changed in a minute - but my legs are tired so I am resting and looking at the computer for a few minutes before I go to get changed.

It is very hard work. But nothing worth having in life comes too easy and we must not confuse the impossible with the difficult to achieve.

I must admit that I agree with Sarah - it sounds like remaining friends with Alex is not working - not least because his inability to consider your feelings does not make him a true friend to you at the minute. It may be that things will change with time - but currently I cannot see what you gain by maintaining this "friendship".

Take care
Love
Margaret


Dear Margaret!
Thanks for this quote:

"Do not believe that it is an impossible task. It is not impossible."

I know its more than possible now. It will happen, this is happening, slowly, but it is ..

and thanks for reminding me everyday!

Love yas
always
natalie jo :seeya:
 
Natalie Jo: I have to agree with everyone else here who says don't give up. I'm sure we all have our moments when it feels like life is just hard work, sometimes joyless, often disappointing. There's plenty of challenges without adding more (like, a weight loss goal). But, a lifetime is really just one day after another, and anything can happen. If you can control ONE day at a time, getting yourself just one step closer to where you want to be, then you can reach your goals. Keep the faith :)

Hello Lagniappe,
Its always nice to hear from you ... :)
Thanks hun .. I know I should take one day at a time, control one day at a time, and you are right. But I am thinking of next June in 2008. I am dedicated to being twenty pounds less...and I am seriously looking forward to this .....

thanks hun
ttylater
love yas
always
natalie jo :seeya:
 
That's great Natalie jo!!!!

And all up hill in the dark - now that's hard!!

Congratulations!

Frankie

Hey Frankie!
yes I did and today I walked uphill for thirty five minutes. I slipped too, but I am doing it again tomorrow ..

love yas
always
natalie jo

thanks for popping in hun!!!:seeya:
 
Everyone has left such lovely comments, and I couldn’t agree more with them. You shouldn’t give up or let other people’s comments slow you down. It’s easy said than done, but I’m glad you’re motivated again!

You’re definitely an inspiration for us procrastinators, or rather us: people-who-would-have-seen-the-snow-and-gone-back-in-for-soup xD I’m sure it felt great once you got going though!

Good luck :)

Thanks Snapshot!
I do feel motivated and thanks to everyone it feels even sweeter, because you are all such wonderful friends and in joining this forum I am losing weight again .. I will not give up ...snow or no snow .. I will be out there! :)

ttylater
love yas
always
natalie jo :seeya:
 
Hey hunny :) Haven't been in here in a bit, sorry bout that :( I agree with Snapshot- You are TOTALLY an inspiration, because ha! I flippin have a free gym membership that I haven't used in a month... how rediculous... I liked your comment about not putting it off anymore. Not a chance. Thats how we should ALL be!! We're killin ourselves if we don't do something about it. You are a freakishly strong person to deal with everything you deal with and STILL fight for yourself. Keep it up hunny. You are doing a FABULOUS job.

Hey Jess,
Thank you so much! No, I won't give up. Not anymore. And it feels great ..

thanks hun
love yas
natalie jo :seeya:
 
35 Minutes! I did my second goal!

Hello everyone!
Well I reached my second goal, to walk thirty minutes. But I walked 35 minutes! It was awesome. I slipped a few times, but I went out when it was supposed to snow... it could have opened up at any time. They have not ploughed all the side walks, damn city!

oh well .. I walked on the road and on the side walk when it was clear, but the main sidewalks were cleared off. I think that friend I made is not wanting to be much of a friend lol, because she hopes that I will be available in three weeks ..lol I know I will be, but I don't know if she will be! Her husband has moved back in, I hope everything is going well at her house. Hopefully not much shouting, but She obviously can't be one to walk with. She is pretty thin anyway. She isn't very big, she just has a jelly belly...
one of those bellys that bounce everywhere. I personally, if were her, would watch what I ate and excersized, but thats because I understand the whole weight gain/loss thing and know she is getting bigger and will ...

she doesn't care
her reasoning is, because she can still fit in Banana Republic shirts ...she doesn't have to care. Obesity won't happen to her she thinks... hmmm..
she is up a shoe size and noticed it the other day ...

I think she needs to think, before she eats.. I have started doing that ...

I don't think she believes she can gain weight ..interesting ...

But ... she ...I think ...will gain .... more ....which is too darn bad, but I have one person I need to focus on ..and thats me! :driving:

I must keep focused ...

This is what happened today:

I called Alex and said hey! and we talked about his dating site and what not. He says he wants me to critique his personal ad. Which I don't know if I will, I just like letting him hang on my insight. lol He really wants to know what I think lmao .. I love killing him with anticipation :smilielol5:

BUT
We got into promises and weight and our relationship ..
and he said "I looked up morbid obesity and your are morbidly obeses. And there is no chance you will lose that weight!"

And I said "I am going to lose this weight. I lost three pounds now!"
and he said "A spit in the bucket. Its not possible for you to lose weight!"


and than he said "lets drop this..."
and I was like I am going to
and he said "promises always, but never delivering..."

and I said " I am doing this for me. You put me down.. you went through me like a mac truck!"

and he said "IT takes two, you were too dependent upon me and my value for you. You put too much importance on what I thought about you. I can never be with someone I can't respect..."

Well he doesn't respect me because I am overweight, well I have news ..after that I went out for a thirty five minute walk ...when I am twenty pounds less or at 270 I will send him a pic to his email ... and at 250 I will do the same thing ..
I am going to lose this weight and that is no empty promise, it took Alex's words to get some fire under my butt ..and it worked ...
and tomorrow I am going for another half hour to forty minute walk ...

love you guys always
btw .. I am keeping a journal. It has butterflies on it. I take my weight every morning ...and I take the time and date down ... I am going to put pics in it ... as I go along .. I am also going to dedicate time to write in my journal about more than weight .. I am in on the fourth page ..

btw .. I weighed myself today with clothes on .. I weighed 292.4
two pounds less than last week ...

so .. I feel good! Whoot! Whoot! I am going to prove you can lose weight during winter ..when you slip and slide everywhere (which I did). Walking on ice and snow wears out your legs and glutes more ...my stomach was tight and I pulled it in to make sure the muscles were being worked ...
I am doing this, finally!

love yas
always
natalie jo :):seeya:
 
Hi NJ
Great attitude! You ARE doing this! It's wonderful to hear you sounding so charged up and ready to go! :driving:

Phooey on Alex. I don't think I would even bother maintaining any kind of relationship/friendship/communication with someone who claimed not to respect me. LIFE IS TOO SHORT to allow toxic people to have any kind of say in it! He is obviously NOT on your side, period.

I like it that you are committed to YOURSELF these days. You really are moving ahead and flowing forward!

Keep it up, sistah!

:seeya:
 
Yeah, I agree with Abba. Alex sounds like a complete bastard, to put it more bluntly. I would *never* put up with anyone who talked to me like that, and I don't think you should, either.

But great job on your positive outlook! I too am trying to prove it's possible to lose weight in the winter, with all those Christmas feasts lurking on every corner. :)

Anyone who doesn't think you're valuable (and is brazen enough to tell you that to your face!) isn't worth wasting your valuable time on, in my personal opinion. There are plenty of people in the world who won't put you down, so why waste your lifespan on somebody who does?

Screw that, I say. You don't need that, and you don't need him.
 
Oh Natalie, we should put your ex and my ex in a wooden box and ship them off to some deserted island. Who needs fools like them?

3 lbs...spit in the bucket, are you effin kidding me? It takes hard work and patience to lose *one* lb, blah, you'll show him. You'll be healthy and super sexy in no time!

Best of luck to you girl! Never ever give up!!
 
Hi Natalie Jo

Well done for getting out and walking.:hurray:
And for losing weight - 292.4 pounds is a definite improvement.:hurray:

I really would not waste any time on Alex. He is not your friend. You get nothing but hurt by the relationship.

I really think that you should cease all contact with him and only contact him again by possibly sending him a photo of you at your goal weight preferably with a gorgeous lad to make sure that he gets the message that you wouldnt have him back ever.

It's a shame that your friend does not realise that anyone can become obese - indeed morbidly obese. Like so many things - people think "it could never happen to me" - until it happens. These things are so difficult to deal with once it has happened. That is her problem - we have our own problems. We can do no more than warn people - if they ignore us - that is their choice. We have to put ourselves and our own problems first.

I posted this in my diary for you:

I am pleased that you like the creaming regime. I certainly think that it is a good idea. We would all like our skins to remain in as good a condition as possible and we are asking a lot of it if we are hoping that it will shrink again as we lose the pounds.

We deserve to have lovely skin both at our current shape / size - and at the shape / size that we aspire towards.

I would certainly be creaming and massaging all the areas that concern you if I were you. All it costs is your time and the price of a little bit of cream. Most creams / oils are very similar so supermarket own brands will probably work pretty well. I actually think that the most important factor is the act of massaging.

I certainly have stretch marks (mainly acquired many years ago when I was on the way up) - thankfully they are clear coloured so not too obvious. I also certainly have some loose skin - but I think that it is not as much loose skin as I deserve to have at this stage of the project. Naturally with rolls of fat still to be dealt with there is plenty of scope for acquiring more loose skin as the project continues.

My daily creaming is as follows:
daytime moisturiser and vaseline lips
2 bio-oil 5 minute massages to abdomen - but I seem to be often just doing one of these most days
Massage thighs with body lotion. I rub body lotion using sweeping up and down movements 140 times up and down
Massage bum with body lotion - both hands one on each cheek - 70 times up and down
Massage upper arms with body lotion - 70 times up and down
Massage each breast with body lotion
Night-time moisturiser and vaseline lips

If you have dark stretch marks they can be turned into the clear ones that are not so obvious by laser treatment.

Since you mention feet:
I do not cream my feet every day - I tend to be in for the evening when I do.
I soak my feet in a bowl of warm water with soda crystals.
If there are hard skin areas I give them a little gentle scrape.
I cream with a foot repair cream
I then wear white socks for the rest of the day

People say that you cannot use exercise to target the areas that we would most like to reduce first. I am inclined to think that massage may be able to direct things a little.

I credit my moisturising with the fact that I lost my double chin while some people who are taller than me and weigh less than me are still complaining about theirs. I was very happy to see mine go.

Take care
Love
Margaret
 
Well done NJ,

I am so happy for you getting outside, and have so much admiration for you doing it in such challenging weather conditons. Big hugs again. And you know, all these steps will add up. So congratulations.

It is a shame about your friend, but we can only be responsible for ourselves and you are doing such a great job. I didn't walk yesterday for the first time in weeks, but got back into it today. It was hard you know, it's not that easy getting up at 5.30am on a sunday, but I know I have to do it. And knowing there are people like you out there struggling as I am to get up and out, well, it does help me. So thanks for that.

Frankie
 
Thanks hun!

Hi NJ
Great attitude! You ARE doing this! It's wonderful to hear you sounding so charged up and ready to go! :driving:

Phooey on Alex. I don't think I would even bother maintaining any kind of relationship/friendship/communication with someone who claimed not to respect me. LIFE IS TOO SHORT to allow toxic people to have any kind of say in it! He is obviously NOT on your side, period.

I like it that you are committed to YOURSELF these days. You really are moving ahead and flowing forward!

Keep it up, sistah!

:seeya:

Thanks Sistah!
I went walking once again today...a brisk 32 minutes walk ..really brisk ...and the cold cut my throat while I was panting, but it felt good ...
Well I was hating the dark. I am trying to make it out during the day, but it felt good irregardless. :driving:
Thanks hun for your advice. Alex actually called me today and was nice. It was very odd. He says he is sad and just wants to find love ...

I think its interesting. He says he feels a connection with me that he doesnt have with anyone else and he is happy we can have a friendship. I am going to give him a chance to be my friend. He acted different tonight. I just want to be his friend and I hope we can. I don't want anything else with him and if I have to cut him out of my life, than I will. But I think he acted pretty good today .. I guess he had a bad day ... he ended up being a victim of a drive by yelling ...for quite a few stop lights ..they have a horn that you yell into and he was really angry and depressed about it ...

so I just tried to talk him up from his depression ...

He is harmless ... I don't have any other friends than online, its kind of nice having a phone friend... hmmm... that girl isn't panning out as a friend. She doesnt want to even be online friends, except when she is on nolongerlonely .. I am not going to give her the time of day .. I like walking ... and I will do it by myself ...

thanks for your concern hun


love yas always
natalie jo :seeya:
 
Thanks Maverick!

Yeah, I agree with Abba. Alex sounds like a complete bastard, to put it more bluntly. I would *never* put up with anyone who talked to me like that, and I don't think you should, either.

But great job on your positive outlook! I too am trying to prove it's possible to lose weight in the winter, with all those Christmas feasts lurking on every corner. :)

Anyone who doesn't think you're valuable (and is brazen enough to tell you that to your face!) isn't worth wasting your valuable time on, in my personal opinion. There are plenty of people in the world who won't put you down, so why waste your lifespan on somebody who does?

Screw that, I say. You don't need that, and you don't need him.

Hey Maverick,
I know I shouldn't have talked with him, but somehow it got through to him. Its not up for conversation. He said he liked my pic on plentyoffish.com ..
I just put it up to find friends. I bluntly, on the profile, wrote that I wanted friends .. I think I will become friends with people ... I have a positive attitude now ..and think I am a pretty good person and value myself on and off .. I will get a hang out of loving myself again ...

thanks hun .. I know it sounds like your words are falling on deaf ears ..but Alex is harmless at this point ... He won't make a bad effect on me ..actually he was one of the reason I walked for the first real time yesterday for longer than fifteen minutes ..and I didn't give up and go for less of a time ...

Thanks for your kind words .. I know you are right ...but he actually showed respect to me tonight ... he will make a good phone friend ..he is miserable ...
I don't mind cheering up as a friend ...

thanks ..
love yas
natalie
and thanks for writing in my journal .. I shall stop into your diary!:seeya:
 
Thanks Misty!

Oh Natalie, we should put your ex and my ex in a wooden box and ship them off to some deserted island. Who needs fools like them?

3 lbs...spit in the bucket, are you effin kidding me? It takes hard work and patience to lose *one* lb, blah, you'll show him. You'll be healthy and super sexy in no time!

Best of luck to you girl! Never ever give up!!

Thanks Misty!
I will NEVER give up ever again! This is for me and I want to do this .. I love walking ...
thanks for your words .. Even though my ex is less than kind sometimes, which he wasnt a jerk tonight ... I wouldn't want to put him in a pine box lol but it does sound like a honorable idea :smilielol5:

But anyway .. I just have him as a phone friend ... and he showed me a lot of respect tonight

I was pretty honest with him tonight .. I told him his personality is less than nice ..and he said .."I know"

lol
ttylater hun
love yas
always
natalie jo :driving:
 
Hi Natalie Jo

Well done for getting out and walking.:hurray:
And for losing weight - 292.4 pounds is a definite improvement.:hurray:

I really would not waste any time on Alex. He is not your friend. You get nothing but hurt by the relationship.

I really think that you should cease all contact with him and only contact him again by possibly sending him a photo of you at your goal weight preferably with a gorgeous lad to make sure that he gets the message that you wouldnt have him back ever.

It's a shame that your friend does not realise that anyone can become obese - indeed morbidly obese. Like so many things - people think "it could never happen to me" - until it happens. These things are so difficult to deal with once it has happened. That is her problem - we have our own problems. We can do no more than warn people - if they ignore us - that is their choice. We have to put ourselves and our own problems first.

I posted this in my diary for you:



Take care
Love
Margaret

I think I will put a light cream on my stomach tonight ... I think you are on top of things and I should take your advice .. you are so right about these "scars" from weight gain .. I need to do something to make my skin more flexible ...

thanks hun
your awesome!

love yas
always
natalie jo :seeya:
 
Well done NJ,

I am so happy for you getting outside, and have so much admiration for you doing it in such challenging weather conditons. Big hugs again. And you know, all these steps will add up. So congratulations.

It is a shame about your friend, but we can only be responsible for ourselves and you are doing such a great job. I didn't walk yesterday for the first time in weeks, but got back into it today. It was hard you know, it's not that easy getting up at 5.30am on a sunday, but I know I have to do it. And knowing there are people like you out there struggling as I am to get up and out, well, it does help me. So thanks for that.

Frankie

Frankie I appreciate your words ..and I admire you so much! You have no clue how much I admire you ..you were and are so right ..walking can lift your spirits and it has mine ..
I am making changes and part of that is you and the rest of my friends on here..
thank you for believing in me!

love yas
always
natalie jo:seeya:
 
Brisk 32 minute walk in pitch black!

Hiya friends,

Thanks for your words and votes of confidence. It feels good to know I have a team behind me kicking my butt and holding me account for not or for walking ...

and I was thinking of all of you and tonight I decided I am not going to write a entry where I tell you I didn't walk ...so I did a brisk 32 minute walk tonight ... pitch black ... I was kind of scared, some of the streets aren't lit .. I am going to try to go during the day.

I didn't eat too good today ...went to a Christmas Party with step family ...it was my first time ..and I could feel the love ..

My own family is not close to my immediate family ... they get together, but my mother and my sisters are not welcome ..we are pretty much shut out of their lives and never see them ... my grandmother I see a few times a year. Sometimes .. once in a blue moon I talk with her on the phone .. I think she genuinely cares, but not enough to have anything to do with us ..

its the way it goes ..we are the black sheep of the big ole family .. I missed my family for a long time, but now I realize I have another family who wants to embrace me ...and thats my step-father's family ...they have been inviting us all our lives and we felt no real connection ..but now I want to be apart of their lives and learn all their names .. I feel loved for once and I feel like I have a family and it was so nice to have a family invite me to a gathering with their loved ones and I have fell in love with their family ...so in August they are going to have a gathering ... and a camping gathering ..so I am going to join them ..whoot whoot! :)

but you know since my walk I feel better .. I came home and I was soaked in sweat ... I wore all necessary clothing for a winter walk ... almost slipped last time ... and this time ...but I had my boots on and tried to take advantage of the tread ..the black ice sucks ..but I am so proud of myself and I know I will lose this weight

my step sister, who I am VERY close with doesn't think I should go down to 155 pounds ..she thinks I will look anorexic and she doesn't want to see that ..she says I have big bones, which I do, and I should probably shoot for 165 pounds ...so that is what I will shoot for ..but I will keep in mine 155 ...pounds .. I will just pay attention to my body and what weight it feels best at ...activity level ..vitality ...

but anyway ..had a wonderful day and evening ..
thanks for all being here for me .. I won't disappear at all ever again!

thanks
love you all

love ya
always
natalie jo :seeya:
 
That's awesome Natalie Jo!!! Walking in black ice and working up a sweat for 32 minutes!!!!!!! That is fantastic.

You know, I haven't put a number on how much I need to lose, but I have instead based my journey on fitting into a certain pair of jeans in my wardrobe. They are hot, and I don't think I could get them over a knee at the minute, so they are my motivation. I haven't put a number on my weight loss goal because I am bad at numbers and from that I mean I would get depressed if I didn't get to that number, so the jeans, well they are here, and I know they are bloody small (well, alot smaller than me) so if I can fit them , I mean WHEN I can fit them, well, that will be awesome.

I too am not close to my family - am not well liked. It is sad for me around christmas. My brother lives within walking distance from me but we don't see each other. My family really consists of friends who have become like family. But this time of year is always tough for me. Since I was 13 I spent christmas with other peoples families, and as soon as I was working and financially independent, I used to spend christmas somewhere new and travelled, always on my own. Only when I met my husband who is extremely close to his family, did I start spending christmas with his family. That has been a very difficult adjustment for me as when you are not used to a 'family christmas' you can feel very stressed and out of place. I still suffer from panic attacks about it, but just have to breathe, and get on with it.

So am thinking of you,
Frankie
 
Natalie- thats really cool that you get along so well with your stepsister. MY stepsister actually friggin made out with my last boyfriend... Oh, I was pissed. So, he was a goner, and she and I don't really talk other than family functions now... hm. lol... ANyways, congrats on the two pounds!! Thats awesome. I think that, uh, I mighta gained two pounds last week, :rolleyes: . Help me!! I'm so jealous of the resolve you have to do this.. give me some tips hun!
 
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