Hi Girls, I'm here. I tend to drift off for 3 days at a time (weekends, and no internet at home), but I promise I'm not gone. I'm still at 206 (surprise surprise) I wish I had read your thoughtful and helpful posts before this weekend. At least I didn't gain, but I really can't help eating what I shouldn't during my TOM.
I'm over it now, and I had to change my calorie goal up to 1600. I just couldn't stick to 1500, and at 6'2" (and still building muscle) getting some activity in every day, I think I can still lose at 1600, and it may be a goal I can actually hit. I figure it's better to hit my goal at 1600 cal than to lose control after dinner and accidentally get 1900 cal. I think I'm always keeping it under 2000, but that's not enough with my measly excuse for exercise I've been doing.
I've been biking a couple miles a day (mostly weekdays), which is nearly nothing, and one way it's just downhill enough that I barely need to pedal at all, so it's a lot like being a passenger on a very windy ride. Yesterday I tackled a hill, but it turned out to be smaller than it looked initially, so it only got my heart rate up for about 30 seconds. It was a good little interval though. I've been lifting weights about 4 times a week (alternating upper & lower body twice a week each) but getting very little cardio in at all, and I think it's holding me back (not to mention the extra eating at night).
So thank you for the advice, I'll try the water, gum, anything that might possibly work, and I'm going to try to refocus on my white flour ban. I've had a little slipping on the pastry front, and if I stuck to my white flour ban, then I wouldn't be eating one of the worst things in my diet that throws me out of control. I don't know why, but when I eat things made w/ white flour (and white sugar) my cravings go mad, I eat entirely too much, and then an hour and a half later I actually want more! Logic tells me this is totally unnatural, but that's what happens when I "just have one cookie". I can only eat whole wheat, oat, etc. without this consequence. I should learn from my experience here, and maybe by actually talking about it now I'll think twice before I take that first fateful bite.
I'll try to behave, thank you so much for your help and encouragement. I appreciate it, and I'm going to try it all!