Losing it for the baby making =]

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Ohsillygirl

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I didn't realize there were journals so I think I pretty much added my first entry in the newcomer section. So I'm just going to copy and paste it here to get started.

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Hi all =]
I actually thought that once I had my first baby, the weight would all be sucked out with him somehow and I would return to my pre-pregnancy state. Nope. That didn't happen. In fact, the reverse happened. It's actually harder to lose weight now. My son is now nearly 14 months old and the hubby and I want baby number 2 but I don't see that happening with my current 259.4 lbs. I've gotten down to 237 since my son was born but somehow gained it all back. I'm at my wits end now. I HAVE to lose this weight. I feel really ashamed that I allowed it to come to this point and take complete responsibility for every sugar filled nothing I ate. Does anyone know where to get an accurate calorie per day amount? I tried an app on my phone and it said 1420. Sorry but that seems low to be starting out. I guess I could be wrong. Here's to hoping this works.

Cheers!

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I desperately want to lose weight. I know I need to. From my weight trends, if I don't actively watch my calories, I gain gain gain. And not just small doses. We're talking 10 lbs a month. It's serious that I take control and stop being so retarded and eating everything I come into contact with. I'm truly sick of it. I'm hoping this forum will help.


Thanks for reading if you made it this far =]
 
Ok by digging into other folks' journal's I saw a calorie per day link and figured up this:

BMR: 1980.79 x 1.375 (exercise at least 3 days a week) = 2723.59

So then to lose I subtracted 20% of that = 2179 calories/day

So that's what I'll shoot for. Does that sound right?

Sounds better to me than 1420. Sheesh. I'm deleting that app.
 
I'm not much good at the counting calories business partly because its so hard to switch between imperial and metric all the time. And it seems hard to put every dam tablespoon of different food into tool thingy. Maybe its not as hard as i've found but anyway.

There are ways to double check all that i guess. Run your numbers through a couple of different online calculators for BMR and RMR.

Anyway, welcome to the forum. I know the newcomers and weight loss diaries are too far apart on the forum. I suggested they put them closer together, but that's not very likely. Anyway at least you've found the right place ultimately.

I"ve got a friend who put on tons of weight with pregnancy. You haven't got gestational diabetes have you? Have you discussed your weight issues and goals with your gp? It might be a good idea.

Still i wish you much luck and strength of mind with your goal.

I find it helpful to keep a detailed diary of what goes in my gob.
 
I know what you mean! I too thought that all the weight I gained with my kids would just magically disappear when they were born. I had no idea it would be this hard to loose it! (my oldest is 2 and my youngest is 3 months)
Welcome to the forum - you are in a good place to get support and ideas to make the weight loss happen!

Congratulations on starting the journey! I look forward to reading your updates in your diary!! :)
 
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Hi! thanks for the reply =]

I had all my blood work done 6 months after delivery and it was all great. No blood pressure problems here even. I just need to get it in gear I guess. I know that by me being heavier with a munchkin running around, it's a lot easier to say I'll just cook something quick (boxed), and then nap when he naps. Weight just makes me feel yucky and tired all the time and I know if I would exercise and not eat all the sugar/fried junk I would feel so much better. I just have to get over this hump.

It doesn't help that my hubby is a gym rat and doesn't look like he should be with me lol. I'm worried people think "why is he with her". I'm not looking for pity, it really does look that bad and I know it. I also know that I can change it. One meal at a time.
 
re the gym rat, I know two couples like that. One is the woman with the gestational diabetes i mentioned. Another is one of my closest friends who has always referrred to herself as Mrs Round, even before she was very round at all. Her man is really into his own bod. Seems to love his woman anyway, with due cause.

Me, my problem is my skinny sister. She's 55kg and only 1/2 an inch taller than me. I was going to go for 59, but now i think i am going to have to head down to 55 also. She will still be ahead of me on other fronts though. She's much prettier than me so in any competition, she will always win.
 
Just wanted to welcome you to the forum, hun :) I want to commend you for wanting to get to a healthy weight for baby number 2--You'll set your babies a great example and your body will be in prime condition for the stress of labor and mother-hood!
 
Ok so I'm pretty happy with myself today. We went out to eat (it's a Sunday after church thing) and I requested that we go somewhere that I could make my own salad and better choices. =] My mom asked me what I was planning and I gave her my short version and she's jumping aboard too and wants to shed some lbs. I also work with her so it will be nice to have someone to walk with me at lunch and all.


I've consumed 1105 cals already today so I'll be taking it easy tonight. My hubby and I are also the youth leaders for my church so we have sign language practice today so that will be good exercise. (We sign to songs) We'll practice for 1.5 hrs but I'm logging into my fitnesspal as 45 mins of general dance since there isn't a "sign language" option lol. -397 cals that way so I'm well on my way to starting things right.



Here are my current goals to get me under 250:

* drink only water (occasionally add crystal light for a change)
* one weight watchers dessert per day (after supper this is my only sweet)
* exercise at least 4 times/week.
* out to eat once a week.
* try to limit all of my "white" intake. (bread, salt, rice, sugar, etc)
 


Yay me! :hurray:

I didn't kill myself over my meals, I just made good choices and held myself accountable with my food journal and I had 43 cals to spare! I did it! :hurray:

My hubby is being very supportive as well which is always a plus. I hope everyone else is having a good one.
 
That is wonderful that your hubby is being supportive! It is way easier to do anything when you have support at home. I am looking forward to an update from you! What have you learned about yourself in the last 2 months?
 
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