Looking to lose an extra human I apparently picked up along the way

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The weight really isn't my main concern, though obviously it will be harder to accomplish if I keep sabotaging myself. What I need to put on hold for a while is dating. It's absolutely killing me, but it was such a big part of why I lost all this weight that I just can't figure out how to give up on it while still trying to maintain my weight and fitness goals.

Anyway it was 179.5 this morning. Played lots of basketball today. Hopefully tomorrow's weigh-in will be good. Had another terrible day events wise, but managed to behave myself both with calories and exercise.
 
Oh, Vee. Dating must be awful, but don't give up. You can't do that. Can you come & put up our decorations please? I just can't get inspired at all!
 
If you paid the airfare (about $100,000,000) I'd do it. I'm not going to give up on the weight loss, have come way too far for that. But I'm clearly under-equipped for the battle with the opposite sex at the moment as I'm getting slaughtered.

Anyhow 177.5 this morning as the numbers start trending back down. I wasn't too worried as my newer pants were all still fitting fine, so I was fairly certain my Thanksgiving vacation in the 180s was temporary. Didn't get my leg workout in after the light hanging yesterday though. I can either do my scheduled cardio or do my leg workout today.

It's also haircut time today.
 
As long as dating is a burden for you it´s no good, so just take care of yourself for the time being. Some things can not be forced. My mom is starting to complain about my lack of male companions but I´m pretty sure she used to complain about the opposite so I don´t have to pay attention. And I find it rather funny that´s she´s started to think I´m secretly a lesbian. Sorry mom, I´m just not feeling it right now...
 
Although I'm glad the weightloss isn't bumming you out, it sucks that dating is such a hassle. I'm so unqualified to give dating advice, but maybe trying to find ways to interact with women outside of dating? I know striking up conversations in public is daunting, but you could find a bookclub, bike riding group, hiking group, group charity, casual adult sports league, and/or yoga class at the gym.

You could do these this without the intent of asking someone out. Just go for interaction. See it as practice and maybe it will make dating easier or maybe it will lead somewhere on its own. Work the social skills and see if that makes the dating part work better.
 
To be fair, I just had two unusually bad luck hits in a row. The sorts of things where you say, "this can't happen to everybody, can it?" I seem to be getting plenty of interaction, but it never seems to go much of anywhere. Either they're married or I'm not attracted to them or I ask for a number and get it, but then get blown off. Approaching women and talking to them is actually fairly easy for me as long as there's a suitable opportunity to do so. But to be honest I still have no idea how the dating world at large perceives me. So I don't know whether I'm aiming too high or too low or whatever.

What I'm saying is, it's a hell of a lot more complicated than "calories in, calories out."
 
Have you read Amy Webb´s "Data, a love story"? It´s about her experience of online dating and how she got slightly obsessive about trying to use the algorithm to her advantage. I wouldn´t copy her behavior but it is interesting and often hilarious.
 
Aiming too high or too low shouldn't factor into it really.. Anyone worth your time wouldn't think you were punching above your weight whether or not they were gorgeous or not and anyone who thinks they are too good for you are vapid and uninterested in the shit that actually matters anyway. Maybe it's your confidence that's lacking? Being able to talk to girls is one thing but what you said about aiming too high or too low makes me think that maybe it's how you are percieving yourself that's holding you back. Just my random, useless 2 cents xo

I'll shove online dating into the mix..I had to wade through a few weirdos (A/S/L? DO YOU CAM>!>!??) but found Yank very quickly and it was refreshingly wonderful to just Skye, chat online, etc without the pressure of "dating". We were best friends before we even met and then when we did it was a case of "well, if we think each other is hot then we'll become a thing and if not, we're good friends now." Luckily I thought he was shithot (although I had to battle for 3 years to get him to chop off his horrible ponytail ;)) Just a thought..It took the pressure off dating for me massively.

Anyway, have a good weekend V xo
 
Thanks for the input SF. And yeah I obviously have some confidence and self esteem issues, but I feel like with everything I've been through that's normal and I also think I've gotten better.

178 this rainy Saturday AM. I think I'll partake in the Saturday basketball game at noon today, particularly since the rain means that mountain hiking is out. Did a good job on the chest and back workout yesterday
 
I think you're doing better too. You still make jokes about yourself, but it's obvious that you have gained a lot more confidence, over the last few years. Hope you have a great game today V!
 
Thanks Cate. I did. Played four full court 5 on 5 games. And then played 1 on 1 with a guy for two games. Post-basketball weigh-in:

175!!!

Also, for the first time since my early 20s, I can tap the backboard of the basketball hoop. Maybe at 161 I'll be able to dunk. :D

The water will return, but hopefully before too long I can get another morning weigh-in at that number and be on my way to more "new low" territory. The day I break the 170 mark I'm going to be very proud of myself.
 
So this morning's weigh-in was also 175.

I missed my schedule legs workout on Wednesday due to spending the day at my parents putting up lights. So while today would normally be my day off, I think I'll try and squeeze the leg work out in today.
 
176 this morning.

Back from an arms and shoulders workout and gonna shower and head to the parents to watch football (the pointy kind, not the round kind).

XMAS shopping tomorrow!!!
 
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