Looking to lose an extra human I apparently picked up along the way

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Well there's "weird" and then there's weird, and apparently I'm the latter. I guess I'm supposed to be "weird" in the same way lots and lots of other people are "weird" (IE tattoos, fair trade coffee, artisanal mayonnaise, etc.), not in the having unique personality traits no one else seems to have kind of weird.

She genuinely seemed like she was trying to help and was trying to be constructive, it wasn't meant maliciously. Ultimately, it's good advice if I could just figure out how to follow it.
 
When you find out how to do it, please let us know. I will then ignore the instructions :D
I think you are just the right amount of weird Vee!
While the advice you think was well-intentioned, how on earth are you meant to lower your "weirdness" levels?
Now, that is weird. Does that mean changing your unique, quirky personality? Becoming boring? Definitely, more detailed information is required from your friend/reli. Weirdness is really only a matter of perspective. Tell us more when you find out please :)
 
Ah, you mean you should be a hipster (ie: mainstream weird) instead of genuine? How... respectful of her. Well-meaning people aren´t always right, hon. I know it´s harder to find people to click with when you stand by yourself but when you do it´s so much more satisfying than all other contacts. I tried the "look pretty, hold back, pretend to enjoy what other people enjoy" shtick for a couple of years and I will say it kept my social schedule very busy... Then I gained 20 kg in a year and suddenly people didn´t want to be seen in public with me. And I found some friends through other channels with whom I could actually feel like me. Life is much better now, even though 10 of those 20 kg are still with me. The hard part is finding ways of detecting your own brand of weirdos.
 
180.5 this morning and malfunction on my digital tape measure.

While I certainly don't want to change too much "deep down," we all from time to time have to put up false fronts in order for people we don't know to want to interact with us. It appears that I'm just not very good at that. I think I might just have a really bad RBF, and people interpret all sorts of negative things from that without me actually knowing I'm doing it.

I dunno, I guess it's just penance from gaining a bunch of weight and more or less withdrawing from the outside world for a dozen years.

What is clear is that I need to stop melting down and lose the rest of this weight. It won't solve all or even most of my problems, but at the very least it would deal with one of them anyway.
 
MrVee said:
I think I might just have a really bad RBF, and people interpret all sorts of negative things from that without me actually knowing I'm doing it.
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Chef has a classic case of RBF. I'm used to it now, but there were countless times I assumed he was pissed off about something and asked, and he was perfectly fine. So you're not alone there.
 
It has possibly been a defence mechanism. I hope you don't change who you are deep down, but maybe practising putting on a friendlier face might not go astray. I often remind myself to smile & it usually results in my feeling better about myself & the world. Doing it in front of a mirror is even better. I had to look up RBF. G frowns a lot & I often think he's cranky about something or worrying about something & he assures me he isn't. That is maybe a female thing :blush5: I am getting better at not assuming I have done the wrong thing somehow. These days I just ask, whereas once I would have stressed over it. It is nice having you back Vee, xoC
 
jen_renee said:
Chef has a classic case of RBF. I'm used to it now, but there were countless times I assumed he was pissed off about something and asked, and he was perfectly fine. So you're not alone there.
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Dude, I do NOT. Ooooh, ok...yeah, I do
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:D With you on the RBF. Used to have it and actively practiced to get rid of it after high school. Ended up making me feel "lighter" too. Facial expression and mood can be connected both ways.
 
178 this morning, hopefully that's the last of that 180s nonsense.

Played golf with some buddies yesterday, was the first time I had swung a club since last September. Had a good time, got sunburned and much laughs were had. Hit a couple of 300+ drives, so maybe the weight lifting is paying off. One was a bit flukish (landed on the back end of a large hill and took off, but the other was on the 18th and was crushed. I guess I decided to use up all the energy I had left for the last hole. Arms are a bit sunburned but nothing too bad. It was about 105 degrees when we made it off the course at around noon.

My food scale appears to have shorted out from my trying to wash it. Probably heading out to Sur La Table in a bit to grab another one as they tend to have them on clearance. I really can't count calories without the thing.
 
I love that you went out & played golf with some buddies. Golf is not much fun at the moment here. It's too cold & too wet :( I'm looking forward to that Summer run again :) Glad you have said goodbye to the 180's nonsense Vee :D
 
179.5 this morning after an ill-spent Sunday. Close call but still out of the 180s. Binged a touch on walnuts this afternoon, so I'm canceling dessert and removing the rice from tonight's menu. Apparently and can't have walnuts in the house.

Leg workout today. Leg press was 380 pounds. It's a little scary lowering that much weight onto yourself, but it does go back up. 9 reps. Probably had at least 10 in me, but looking for slow and steady progress. Also looking to be able to walk tomorrow. Focusing my workouts on lower reps, heavier weight and more cardio. Making another run at the 150s and shredditude.
 
Alright, 179.5 again this morning and "pull" workout in. "Pull" meaning weight lifting using exercises with pulling mechanics instead of pushing: weighted rows, lat pulldowns, shrugs, curls, etc.. No lifting tomorrow, just cardio.

Gonna track calories on my white board for a little while until I get back in the groove. Writing them down my prevent me from overeating. I suspect a substantial drop on the scale tomorrow.
 
Wow Vee (too informal?) I have to say I fell into your diary and am amazed at your progress. I'm sure you will be shredded soon! ;)
 
177.5 this morning. Had a rough couple of weeks, but the last week or so I've pulled it back together. Got my first sarcastic comment about my "O'Doul's" last night but I just shrugged my shoulders and ignored the guy.

Have re-signed up for Ok Cupid. We'll see how it goes. Won't be committing any money to this for the foreseeable future, so no Match.com or anything.

And no, Julie, Vee is not too informal.
 
Hi Vee. I had to look up O'Doul's. Glad you could shrug it off. What is this about full strength beer and some men anyway? G can't stand beer & he drinks cider & gets laughed at, but he shrugs it off too. Here's to men who can shrug off silly sarcastic comments :beerchug: (with cider or low alcohol/low carb beer!)
Hope OK Cupid goes well for you xo
 
Next time I'll just tell him that the O'Douls bottle will hurt just as much as a normal beer bottle when I bust it over his skull.

Anyway, 177 this morning. Today is legs day at the gym. My least favorite.
 
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