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Okay. I went to town on the almonds last night. Didn't count how many. 40?50? Not sure what's the best thing to do in this circumstance.

Here's how I'm handling it.

Less hungry for breakfast so I'm drinking a jug of tea. I must be dehydrated because its going down fast. I'll wait for the hunger signal to kick in and then start the day's meals. Its too discouraging to add it to today's calories so I'm going to stick 40 almonds on to yesterday's calories. Like to start each day with a fresh slate. Any comments?

So here's what I've come up with - thanks Steve.

15 calories x 188 pounds = 2820 maintenance calories (with exercise component) A 20% deficit would be 2250 calories.

So since I started charting I have been in some deficit every day and that might explain the pound lost two days ago.

I have been wanting to find a way to see a deficit each day that I"m working so hard on this and this will work. Gonna fix my chart.
 
About 4 months ago I ate 1000+ cals in nuts in a single sitting...when you look at how many calories are in how few nuts, it ain't hard to do! It was one of those little cans of lightly salted mixed nuts. My first mistake cause salty foods can be a trigger for me. I kept going back to the can and back to the can and finally just plopped down on the couch with the darn thing. My then bf looked at me and says "do you know what you're doing?"...."Yep, I'm eating every nut in this can till they are gone"...and I did.

And I logged it into Fitday. And next day just proceeded to eat my normal cals like the nuts were history...'cause they were. And it was a blip on the screen that did not affect my weight in the least 'cause, other than making you feel bad (and giving you baaad gas) the next day, one single over-indugence is really just not that important....it's the little daily "uh ohs" that we brush off (an extra bite here, a taste of that) that are more likely to bite us in the butt.
 
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Yeah, I was just going to say its like I PUNISH myself for being hungry.

And I added the 270 calories or whatever to yesterday's calories and it was no big deal.

Why do I punish myself for being hungry. Because I think I must be overeating. BUT I WASN'T.

Because I think that kind of nighttime hunger is a sign of weakness. THAT'S A HARD ONE FOR ME.

Because I think if I eat in the night I have somehow failed. THAT'S ANOTHER HARD ONE FOR ME.
 
Hi Kelly,
Just remember, day to day ups and downs are normal...in the course of this week, I've seen 173 and 178, this morning it was 174. I only write the number down and change my ticker on the first of the month and if it happens to be on the low end of the daily blips on the day I write it down, I spend the first two weeks of the month working like crazy to see it again ;)

But it's the over all downward progression we look at - it's the sign that YES, these pounds ARE coming off - you've lost 11 of them so far and are well away from that 200 mark!

Good for you for taking the time to figure out your maintenance - it is SO important! I've spent 2 months not losing much of anything simply trying to find out my maintenance and staying level.

Yes, I'd love to have dropped some more weight then I have - but this knowledge is SO important!

You're doing an excellent job Kelly - keep at it :D
 
If I weighed myself more than once every week, sometimes every ten days (cause I forget), I'd go insane. I know from when I used to do the daily scale dance that my weight will vary as much as 2-3 lbs overnight depending on how much sleep I've had (seriously), the time of the month, how much water I've had, how many salty foods, how much fiber...heck, if I have a day with a lot of fruit the next day it'll show up in scale weight. The only thing daily weighing was useful for was helping me balance out my sodium/water intake. Pointless as far as a tool for monitoring real loss/gain.

I'm with M2M, pick a day, once a week, a month, whatever, record it and move on.

edited to add: chances are 99.9% that, if you weighed in at 188 yesterday, that is your actual weight because unless you ate around 3500 calories in the last 24 hours - on top of your maint. calories - it's just not physically possible that you gained a pound of anything other than water.
 
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Kelly, the calculator I use to get my resting metabolic rate (RMR) is here:
Bodybuilding.com - Tris Mardiastuty - Resting Metabolic Rate Calculator.

I find that's a fairly good estimate of the calories I use if I don't exercise. Then I just add my exercise calories to that number, and I end up with a fairly good estimate of calorie expenditure for the day.

I found this method more accurate (for me, at least) than BMR and then using some sort of multiplier. When I did that, I ended up with way too many calories as my "maintenance level" - about 400 or 500 more than it actually is.

And, after having tracked everything meticulously for 2 months now, I am pretty close to the mark with my calculations.

It just takes some trial and error and adjustments along the way.

Weighing yourself -- I think this really depends on your personality. If you do it every day, you are guaranteed to have LOTS of fluctuations. And the heavier you are, the bigger the fluctuations will get. On top of that, if you're a woman, you have to cope with fluctuations from your period as well. So it can be really frustrating -- unless you're a data driven type like me.

I just have that need to know, and it works for me.

Again, the idea that there is one formula that works for everyone is right and wrong. It's right in the sense that energy balance applies to just about everyone. But it's wrong in the sense that getting to that energy balance and motivating yourself to stay there differs with every person. Some people need data; others freak out from it. What I do works for me, but it may not work for other people.

What I am learning is this -- some of us, maybe many of us, don't lose weight in a smooth line. Instead, we hit a plateau, stay there for a while, then lose some more, then hit another plateau, then lose some more, etc. That's just the way it is for some of us. Sure, it would be nice to see that smooth line. It would be so cool if on Monday you could rack up a deficit of 1,750 calories, and on Tuesday, see your weight drop by 0.5 pounds.

But it just doesn't work that way. So we just plug away, doing what we know in our hearts is right, and eventually our hard work will get rewarded.
 
Don't de discouraged--I was 138.5 yesterday, the lowest I have been in 4 and 1/2 yeas, and today I am 139.5--but I KNOW that a lower number is coming soon--and you will see 188 soon--and less! Hang in there, and watch those nuts! LOL!
 
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M2M said:
Hi Kelly,
Just remember, day to day ups and downs are normal...in the course of this week, I've seen 173 and 178, this morning it was 174. I only write the number down and change my ticker on the first of the month and if it happens to be on the low end of the daily blips on the day I write it down, I spend the first two weeks of the month working like crazy to see it again ;)
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This helped me a lot. I noticed last time you moved your ticker it went down five pounds I think and I thought, boy she lost those in a hurry. How does she do that? Still, for a month five pounds is pretty fantastic. I will be lucky to see two. And I do believe that. Even though its slow losing I feel certain that I will maintain my new weight. Even to think I will see 180 this year is exciting.

I like the idea of changing the ticker once a month. I hope I can look forward to a pound or two every month.
 
Howdy Kelly,
Cannon made a very good point losing slowly
helps reduce saggy skin which I am noticing :rolleyes: I am trying
to avoid it as much as possible! Your doing great and that ticker
will keep heading south,Have a wonderful night Tammy
 
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Got my calories just right today. 2257 for a deficit of 567.

50 minute walk.

Hope to make it through the night without getting too hungry.

Hope for another sunrise walk this week.
 
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Also, I know I'm more patient this time around. Besides, there's really no choice but to be patient. But this time I know I'm capable of patience.

Patience and daily deficits.

Does one ever get confident in losing the next pound?
 
Hey Kelly just wanted to see how your doing - and maybe next time I come to the island we should get together for a walk - Ive met one other woman off this sight and she is great !!! I told my boss when she is ablet o work a normal work load I want liek 4 days off to come to the island and chill with my folks...you arent far from where they are...

as for patience and confidence - well I try not ot get confident in loosing my weight b/c when I do usually something happens - I was on a loosing role - everytime i stepped ont eh scale and hten I woudl get a bit cocky and such and my weight slowly creeps up...

anyway I hope you are doing well - you sound like you are - you are turnign into an exercise junky :):):)!!! You go girl that is key !!! I like to exercise my ass off because it gives me more leway to eat as I like - heh heh heh...



 
Happychubette said:
Also, I know I'm more patient this time around. Besides, there's really no choice but to be patient. But this time I know I'm capable of patience.

Patience and daily deficits.

Does one ever get confident in losing the next pound?
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Hi Kelly. It's a good thing that for most of us, patience comes with age. We're too damned old to keep beating ourselves with a hammer.

I'm still not confident. I get nervous every time I step on the scale. But I am pretty confident in my overall process. I think I'm doing it right this time.
 
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