Journey, Not A Destination

Oooh just saw the engagement pictures... you two love birds are so cute together :D and the person who took the pictures did a lovely job.

When's the wedding then? You must be excited. Is it a bit scary too? (I'm scared of the "c" word - aka commitment - so I'm always kind of impressed/secretly envious when people in their 20s do it. Hopefuly I won't turn into these neurotic single 35 year women... ahem).

EDIT: 9 days time :) how exciting
 
Lula Part I

Probably not right now due to bad digestive problems

Yea, I think I read you have IBS.

What are you doing about this?

I cannot eat enough protein right now (proteins I find hard to digest - when I am well I aim for 1.5-2g per kg)

IMO, protein requirements are not as high when you are trying to gain muscle (read: bulking).

What is your current weight... I'm sure you told me before but I think 20 people per day tell me their weights.

I'd shoot for 1 gram per pound of your estimated LBM, which will probably put you close to where you currently are.

I'm a bit shy about talking bout my digestive problems here).

I'm sorry.

Nothing to be embarrassed about.

I'm having some crazy digestive problems this morning. Can't get off the toilet. 3 times in there already and it's only 9am! :)

I find it hard to know how much I should eat. I think about 1900 cal a day for my size is about right if Im active. If I was sedentary, it would probably be around 1400-1500 calories.

Okay, I just opened another window and went to your journal to check your weight. You are currently around 124 lbs, right?

You say, "1900 is about right if I'm active."

What do you mean by "right?"

If you are saying 1900 calories is your maintenance, you are probably pretty close.

Don't worry about finding the EXACT caloric intake. Start with something, track your weight and measurements every 2 weeks or so and adjust. It's that simple.

14-16 calories per pound is generally what I use for determining one's maintenance level. This range would put you right where you believe your maintenance to be. That is if you mean maintenance when you say "right."

Yes he's very good, has many returning clients for personal training, and gives sound advice - he told me that like you said there is no difference really, except in terms of certain excercises that may need to be slighly modified (e.g. he said that women that have a wide pelvis have to squat in a slighly different way to avoid knee strain) and avoiding things like squats during pregnancy.

Some women need to modify their squat stance. So do some men.

I just like to hear he has you squatting. :)

That's already a plus in my book. Returning customers means nothing to me. Most "customers" don't know anything about right from wrong. If they get along with their trainer, they return. I've seen it more times than I care to remember.

When he gives you a set routine, I'd love to see it if you don't mind.

He appreciates the fact that apparently unlike many women out there, I know that lifting a 2lb dumbell 95043594 million times won;t do much, but he's admitted that he's not used to women asking him to make them do what men do, as most women are scared of the weight rooms etc and he doesn't want me to feel intimidated, surrounded by all the grunting massive men (it can be intimidating at times, especially when you get starred at and feel out of place between all these muscular men and their big weights), so he'd rather start off with something more "woman friendly" (aka stuff that women usually prefer doing) then move me to other things once I get more and more comfortable and used to the whole atmosphere.

This seems to be commonplace among trainers and fitness facilities as of late and it's really disheartening to me. I think I am going to post an email convo I'm in the middle of between myself and a local gym owner here. It amazes me.

Nothing provides such positive benefits as free weight strength training, yet, trainers think that it's a man's exercise.

I sleep good at night b/c I believe (at least I hope) there are a number of women squatting in gym across the country due to this website and proper education.

Right now I do 3x 15 of:

What made you choose this rep range?

It is fine for now, until you get used to weight lifting. That reminds me, are you just starting?

Rep range is a very critical component of a program. For one, it determines the loads lifted. The higher the rep range, the lighter the load and vice versa.

Volume is also a critical concept. When dieting, volume needs to be cut. When bulking, volume needs to be increased along with your food consumption.

Once you are used to training, pretty much anytime (cutting or bulking), your routine should have a core component of heavy, compound work. Think 4-6 reps.

Even when bulking, but also, when bulking, you can mix in some other higher rep ranges.

I'm rambling, but hopefully that makes some sense. Don't get stuck following one rep range. And if you do, the heavier (lower reps) the better.

Dumbell squats (6kg)
Lunges (7kg)
Calf raises (6kg)
Lat pulldown machine (I find that machines vary from one brand to another, but my local gym usually about 25kg)
Chest press machine (15kg)
Cable seated row on swiss ball
Cable Tricep pushdown on swiss ball
Shoulder press with dumbells (7kg)
Bicep curls with dumbells on a swiss ball (6 or 7kg)
Swiss ball back extensions
Swiss ball crunches with a 12.5kg weight
Swiss ball obliques
Criss cross
Standard lying crunches
Lying leg-hip raise

That's a shit load! How long does it take you to complete this?

And if I read you above correctly, you are just taking it easy with your trainer currently, right. Once you are more comfortable you are going to utilize more "real" lifts.

For example DB or BB bench press rather than the chest press machine and DB or BB rows instead of cable rows on a swiss ball.

Also, how many times per week do you do this?

I always warm up to a sweat on some machine, like the rowing machine or treadmill (well to be honest Im always already sweaty as I cycle to the gym and I pedal like a crazy woman :rotflmao:).

If you cycle to the gym, there is no need to warm up on a machine.

A warm up should serve as a neuromuscular rehearsal of the upcoming lift as well as an opportunity to get your body used to progressively heavier loads.

Most people mess around with really light weights for high reps thinking they're getting the blood flowing. No, this is not correct.

Your focus should be on relatively high weight and low reps.

When compared to your "working" set weight, your warm-up weight will be light. But the idea is to use a progressively heavier weight with each passing warm-up set.

So, a warm up for a 200-pound squat might look something like this

95x5
135x3
185x1

And then you'd start the work sets with 200lbs for the designated number of reps.

I cant usually do more than 3x15, sometimes I dont even finish my set, and I usually feel it the following day!

How long have you been doing 3x15?
 
Lula Part II

I'm also practising doing a full squat with a barbell, but with just the bar and no weights, by looking in the mirror to see if it looks right (I got one of the trainers to watch me too to make sure) after having read a few articles and pages in books at Borders on how to do it right. When I feel comfortable enough, I'll start adding a bit of weight.

Grrr!

Books at borders aren't worth crap IMO in terms of training information. You want book recommendations, come to me.

For now, here are my pointers for the squat:

With the squat, a lot of trainers don't know how to execute a squat correctly! There are a lot of myths out there like, "Don't squat so deep in that your thighs go below parallel with the floor." And, "Don't let your knees drift in front of your toes while going down in the squat."

A lot of trainers, even those "in the know," tell their clients to start out without weight until you get the form down. You can try this if you'd like. However, I have found personally, and with quite a bit of clients, that squatting without weight is difficult. The weight is what helps keep your center of gravity. So, if you are comfortable, start out with a very conservative weight.

How to squat. I posted the video above which allows you to see a perfect squat execution. Let's talk about the mechanics. Most people think you initiate the movement with your knees. "In order to squat down, I have to bend my knees." Right? Wrong. The initiating movement for the squat, in order to get the proper depth, starts in the hips.

How do you move your hips? The first sign of movement should be your butt moving back, so that your hips are moving posteriorly. Think, "start the movement by sticking my butt out."

So, with a bar on your shoulders, here are the cues:

1. Chest up (don't cave in)
2. Shoulder blades pulled back together, which reinforces number 1
3. Hands gripping the bar are not wide, but closer. Not so close that it becomes uncomfortable for your shoulders though.
4. Pull your elbows under the bar. Make them point to the floor. This will keep you more upright.
5. Initiate at the hips (think about sitting down) and stick your butt out.
6. Keep a nice, tight arch in your lower back.
7. Keep your abs tight.
8. Stance should be feet slightly wider than shoulder width.
9. You should point your toes slightly outward, maybe 30 degrees.
10. As you start to flex at the knees, your knees should follow the path (line) of your toes.
11. If you leaning excessively forward, you are using too much weight or you have flexibility issues. This is not an exercise for the lower back, do not make it one.
12. Your heels should stay planted on the floor at all times. Many people have flexibility issues and the squat is the exercise that uncovers the issues. Many people, in order to get deep in the squat, feel the need to elevate their heels from the ground. In this case, at the bottom of the movement, their weight is on the balls of their feet. Instead, the entire movement, you should keep your feet flat on the floor and drive the weight pushing through your heels.
13. Remember the hips!

At the bottom of the movement, your hips should be deeper than your knees. This is a full squat.

So there is hope :) They have this dubious looking machine called an assisted pullup - would that be of any use?

I've had clients use this. Anything that builds up a base of strength is fine. The idea is to progressively make the vertical pulling motion harder which will force your body to get stronger in that plane of motion.

I prefer lat pulldowns for starters.

Or you can use lat pulldowns one day and assisted pullups the next.

No it's the stupid machine thingy. Any alternative would be great, as long as it's ok on my back.

Barbell bench press.

Usually I do 2-3 sessions a week of all the stuff I mentionned in one go.

That answers my question above.

I do my abs first as I find it easier that aferwards, however I sometimes do them on cardio days if I lack time.

You really don't need such a large focus on abs.

I certainly wouldn't be doing them first in a program. It goes like this: Work from hardest to easiest. So abs should be the last thing you are training. You don't want to use up energy doing an exercise that doesn't carry a lot of bang for the buck.... which abdominal exercises don't.

I usually do 2-3 days of cardio in between, where I aim to do 30-45 minutes of high intensity, but I find it hard.

What do you mean by high intensity?

My cardio fitness was rubbish and I couldn't jog for more than 5 minutes in February, but now I can do about 30 at 9km/h on incline 3 quite easily, or outside in the cold, wind and rain (much harder!), and doing intervals has helped a lot, and quite fast too. Stopping smoking obviously was the best thing I did.

I'm very glad to hear you stopped smoking.

So you do intervals. HIIT or just plain old intervals? Is every cardio session interval training?

Basically a typical good week looks like:

day 1: whole body strength
2: cardio
3: whole body strength
4: cardio
5: whole body strength
6: cardio
7: rest

I really don't have a problem with this split.... but I'd really switch some things around with your strength training program if I were going to follow this split. That's a lot of "banging" on the legs. Especially when you start doing squats. Squats 3 times per week and high intensity cardio.

I read somewhere that to put on muscle, you shouldnt do that much cardio.

It's a heavily disputed topic. I try and always do some cardio, even while bulking. It isn't best in terms of creating the "anabolic atmosphere." However, I'm in this for health before muscle. What's the point of looking good if your heart is weak, ya know?

So when bulking, I usually only do maybe 2 low intensity sessions per week. And if I miss, I miss. I certainly don't make cardio a primary concern. Follow me?

And I forgot you were going to start bulking. I'd def. modify your current cardio routine.

I have no clueif this is bullshit or not. Ideally I'd like to gain muscle, but for it to show (esp my abs) I need to trim down. I'm guessing I cannot do both at the same time.

You guessed right generally speaking.

I've seen some crazy things happen though, especially when someone starts "really" strength training for the first time coupled with a proper diet. Even a "surplus diet."

Do I need to concentrate on building muscle, then getting leaner?

This is really your call. If I remember, you looked very thin in your pics from what I could see. Personally, I would try and build some. Remember, you are not signing a contract. If you find that the "bulk" is not going the way you wanted and too much fat is being gained, you can always cut back or cycle back into a cut.

It's a touch and feel process with no concrete answers.

EDIT: forgot to ask - what do i do with my obliques? I seem to have put muscle on there very fast- I don't want them to bulk up as they seem to make my waist look thicker. Should I just leave them for a while/do lots of reps in one go?

Stop doing so much ab work. I don't do any ab work, majority of the time.

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I'm sure you will have more questions. We are working towards some precise answers for you.

That's what I'm here for. :)
 
Hi Steve. I thought I'd shoot another question at ya, 9 days before we lose you. :)

Remember last sunday, when I took that big ride and ended the day with a 2,200 calorie deficit? The next morning, I dropped 3 pounds. Since then, I have gradually gained it all back.

What made up that 3 pounds? I don't think it was water, because I drank plenty of water, and never got dehydrated. I don't think it was lean mass, because my body fat percentage, if anything, has gone down slightly. Was it glycogen? Or was it just an anomaly? I'm just curious what's going on in the old body.


I don't have an answer for ya. It was most likely a combination of things, one of them being glycogen from so much excess activity.

That said, I don't ever pay attention to acute weight fluctuations. But I know you like numbers. :)
 
Oooh just saw the engagement pictures... you two love birds are so cute together :D and the person who took the pictures did a lovely job.

Thanks very much Lula! :)

When's the wedding then?

7/7/07

Next Saturday. :eek2:

You must be excited.

I've been with her for 9 years. Though it will be a special day... it won't change much of the norm.

The next time I see a change happening in my life is when little Stevie jrs are running around.

Is it a bit scary too? (I'm scared of the "c" word - aka commitment - so I'm always kind of impressed/secretly envious when people in their 20s do it.

I'd be extremely scared of the "c" word if I didn't find the right girl. So many people I know are with their signifcant other in a committed relationship, yet, they aren't sure if they are with the right person or not.

Life's too short.

IMO, be with the right person or be single.

Harsh/extreme, ya.

But single life is too fun to let pass by while spending time committed to someone whom might not be right for you. (not that I would know!)

And my opinion is strictly focused at people in their twenties.

Hopefuly I won't turn into these neurotic single 35 year women... ahem).

You'll be a hot 35 yr old. :)
 
I just read thought he last bit of your diary here and wanted to tell you that you have been great. You have answered so many questions for and alot of other peopl on here. You have been a great inspiration and I just wanted to let you know!!:)
 
I just read thought he last bit of your diary here and wanted to tell you that you have been great. You have answered so many questions for and alot of other peopl on here. You have been a great inspiration and I just wanted to let you know!!:)

Thanks so much for taking the time and for saying so! It means a lot. :)
 
7/7/07

Next Saturday. :eek2:


I've been with her for 9 years. Though it will be a special day... it won't change much of the norm.

The next time I see a change happening in my life is when little Stevie jrs are running around.

I'd be extremely scared of the "c" word if I didn't find the right girl. So many people I know are with their signifcant other in a committed relationship, yet, they aren't sure if they are with the right person or not.

Life's too short.

IMO, be with the right person or be single.

Hi Steve, I hope you have a wonderful week this week and a fabulous wedding day. I totally agree with you that single is the way to go unless you've found someone you're really compatable with and can totally be yourself with.

Your comment that not much of the norm will change just because you're getting married caught my eye. I want to pass on some quick thoughts that someone shared with me before I got married.

My husband and I knew each other for a long time before we got married, had lived together, had a brief engagement, and got married at city hall. During the months we were engaged I commented to a friend that not much would change when we were married.

My friend said that wasn't true - that regardless of whether you're living with someone or whatever, being engaged is totally different that just being together, and being married is totally different than being engaged. I think she wanted me to enjoy every phase I was experiencing, and appreciate it for that moment. Because she pointed it out to me like that - I did.

So, my wish for you and your fiance is to enjoy this last week of engagment, have a wonderful wedding day/weekend and have a wonderful time as newlyweds!
 
My husband and I knew each other for a long time before we got married, had lived together, had a brief engagement, and got married at city hall. During the months we were engaged I commented to a friend that not much would change when we were married.

My friend said that wasn't true - that regardless of whether you're living with someone or whatever, being engaged is totally different that just being together, and being married is totally different than being engaged. I think she wanted me to enjoy every phase I was experiencing, and appreciate it for that moment. Because she pointed it out to me like that - I did.

But what really changes? I promise you I will love her just as much in 2 weeks as I've loved her since the day I met her.

And love is the backbone of our relationship along side of compatibility.

I've been with her for 9 years and we've never had one serious disagreement or fight. Sounds like bullshit, but I swear. People always say that they worry about us b/c we don't ever fight and fighting is healthy.

That's news to me b/c I think the both of us as a *unit* feel healthy as a horse!

I understand that pretty much everything changes with time. But the fundamental components that make Krista and I, "us" I don't think will ever change.

That's what I was talking about for the most part.

Certainly how I feel today could change 20 years from now. Who knows! If things didn't change for the worst concerning love and marriage, divorce rates wouldn't be sky high.

I'm only a rookie.... I welcome any advice. But so far, just going with the flow, being true to myself, and not forcing anything has worked wonders for me. :)

So, my wish for you and your fiance is to enjoy this last week of engagment, have a wonderful wedding day/weekend and have a wonderful time as newlyweds!

THANKS SO MUCH!!!! :)
 
Steve, I'm with you on the non-fighting thing. While disagreements over petty things are healthy, fighting over core beliefs is not a good indicator of a healthy relationship, IMO.

The act of getting married is not what will change your life.

Having kids -- now THAT'S a different matter! If that doesn't change your life, then something really is wrong! :D

That said, I think you guys will make terrific parents. You are flexible and patient, but believe in hard work and determination. What more could a child ask for?

By the way, are you planning on having children pretty quickly, or do you want to wait a while?
 
Steve, I'm with you on the non-fighting thing. While disagreements over petty things are healthy, fighting over core beliefs is not a good indicator of a healthy relationship, IMO.

The act of getting married is not what will change your life.

Having kids -- now THAT'S a different matter! If that doesn't change your life, then something really is wrong! :D

I agree with all of the above.

That said, I think you guys will make terrific parents. You are flexible and patient, but believe in hard work and determination. What more could a child ask for?

Thanks very much for saying so. I pride myself on this actually. Everyone says I am going to be an awesome dad... I can't wait to live up to that title!

[quote}By the way, are you planning on having children pretty quickly, or do you want to wait a while?[/QUOTE]

That said, I want to get some stuff done before having children. I'm thinking before 30 but probably 28ish.

Who really knows though.

Like I said before.... I like to go with the flow.
 
You know, my wife and I travelled all over the country for 5 years before we had kids. It's a decision we're very happy with to this day. We knew that kids would really tie us down to one place, and we kind of got the "travel-lust" out of our systems.
 
You know, my wife and I travelled all over the country for 5 years before we had kids. It's a decision we're very happy with to this day. We knew that kids would really tie us down to one place, and we kind of got the "travel-lust" out of our systems.

What a great thing to do! We didn't waste any time on having kids because we weren't spring chickens when we got married (33 and 40). Travelling together pre-kids would have been great had we been in a different situation . . . no regrets though. :)
 
I gotcha. :)


So the rack has high enough "holders" for positioning the bar for a squat? If so, that is excellent.


Yes, it's an adjustable rack and the bench is detached (and quite light) so I'll just have to push it out of the way.

Ahhh, I think you are talking about a pullover.

Does it look something like this?

YouTube - DB Pullovers 120 for 6


My husband will kill me if I check the link now... he wants to go to the store, so I'll stop in tomorrow and check that one out and let you know.

Really, I'd keep tempo consistent across each set. Tempo is simply another variable you can use for "progressive overload." For instance, suppose you started using 201 for your entire routine.

Now that I have 300 lbs of weights, I'll start with the 201 then.


That would be plenty of weight to start with. You will not be squatting 220 lbs. I've seen sets of plates sold up to certain poundages sold in many sporting good stores for a relatively good price. Hopefully you can find them in a "package deal."

I did get a nice package deal. 300 lb for 109 plus bar. Olympic size though, but the bench I have would accomodate either. I think the bar is 100 lbs on it's own! I got the bench set up alone. Brought it into my house by myself... It was not an easy task even just rocking it back and forth. Thankfully no stairs! The weights, I'll bring in tonight.

Keep your arms planted on the floor beside you to balance yourself.

These (SHELCS) actually were quite easy. I had my arms on the ground for the first couple, but then placed them across my chest to make it a bit more challenging. Slowed it down to make myself have to balance more, too.

Once you get use to this type of program I laid out for you, we should add some volume to it if you are going to start eating in an energy surplus.
I did the lower body day yesterday and it went well. It wasn't too challenging because of the lack of my weight set not being set up, so I'm sure I'll be crying with DOMS next week Thursday/Friday in my quads and hams :).

100 grams sounds about right.

I prefer whey. And I've always used chocolate whey. But I know tons of people that use all kinds of exotic flavors and love them. I've heard of companies sending you sample packets to try if you contact them.... might be worth it so you don't waste money buying something you won't eat.


I think what I'll do is just focus on the protien first, and once that's consistent then work on the rest. I cant make it all perfect at once so if I get too much fat or calories while getting my protien right for a couple weeks, so be it.

I gave Mucle Milk to my brother in law because I hated it. I don't mind the soy protien bars at 19 g of protien per bar. I can up those to one a day while still getting in some whey at another time in the day, too. Whey protien bars... EEK! They are scary so hopefully I'll find a powder. I'll stop in my local GNC and Vitamin world and see if they have any samples or for numbers to call to get a sample.
 
9 days!!!! I knew it was next weekend, but putting it in days just makes it seem so much closer. I don't know why.

My husband and I were together for 5 or 6 years before getting married. I met him while I was married the first time, but fell in love with him the moment we met. We never yelled once at each other. Yeah, we disagree over whether or not to buy a new computer vs new living room furniture, but yelling, IMO, is never healthy. I wouldn't want my daughter growing up thinking it was okay to be in relationships without respect, because to me, yelling at someone is a lack of respect for them.

I think your relationship sounds very healthy and I hope even post kids, it stays that way :). Sounds like, as it is, you'll both be good role models for your kids.

PS- Tomorrow I'm scheduled for doing pull ups 3x6. When I last did them, I could only make it to three in one set. It's been a few months so I'm thinking I'll go each rep to where I can't do another then use a chair to get to the top then use the eccentric contraction for how many ever are left after I cant pull myself up anymore. Is that appropriate?

And I can't workout in the morning anymore (pretty much just did it then because I run in the morning because of the heat). Josh wouldn't be too happy if I wake him up at 4:30 to use the weight set in our bedroom ;). I'm comfortable lifting later, just was doing it in the AM to keep day to day things similar and compliance up. So, there is no longer a time constraint and I'll just have to focus on compliance later in the day :).
 
Yea, I think I read you have IBS. What are you doing about this?
I don't want to take medicine for it. I have an idea of why I started having it, and how to handle a flare-up, which I'm experiencing right now. I take soluble fibre, pre and probiotics, avoid cafeine/alcohol/artificial sweetners/sugar/additive as much as I can, avoid raw fruit and veggies, avoid gluten and diary etc. Once things get better (I am better already - not passing undigested food anymore), I can slowly start to re-introduce food. It's a bit drastic and I never could be bothered before, but it does work. It's just a bit hard to eat enough as choices are limited.

I'd shoot for 1 gram per pound of your estimated LBM, which will probably put you close to where you currently are.
LBM? How much protein should I am for then?

You say, "1900 is about right if I'm active."
As in to maintain current weight yep.

What made you choose this rep range?
The trainer who does my gym review every 5 weeks (it's part of the gym contract thing - I dont pay him extra for it). I joined the gym in feb, and had a 2 month break during easter then exam time, so yeah I'm a newb. The first 2 months I had another guy who made me do 12x3 but he kept perving on my ass and chatting me up, so I got pissed off (and so did my bf we go to the same gym) and changed.

That's a shit load! How long does it take you to complete this?

Is it? About 1h-1h20? Not sure but to count cycling to the gym and back, and changing, it takes me 2h.

So, a warm up for a 200-pound squat might look something like this

95x5
135x3
185x1

Confused - you mean before doing x reps and x sets at 200lb you'd do this warm up?
 
So hopefuly I'll become the squat master with these instructions :D thanks a lot!

I'll try the assisted pull-up too.

So you do intervals. HIIT or just plain old intervals? Is every cardio session interval training?
Plain old intervals right now - I know I will have to spice it up a bit. I do a mixture: cardio bores the shit out of me so I don't have a set routine. I do usually 15 minutes of intervals then carry on for a bit, and then swap to another machine. Basically I always make sure that I get really out of breath and tired.

I really don't have a problem with this split.... but I'd really switch some things around with your strength training program if I were going to follow this split. That's a lot of "banging" on the legs. Especially when you start doing squats. Squats 3 times per week and high intensity cardio.
My legs often feel very wobbly... What should I do then?

And I forgot you were going to start bulking. I'd def. modify your current cardio routine.
OK any suggestions then? For example I could do 1 intense session, 2 less intense sessions? What's "less intense"? 50% of max heart rate?



You guessed right generally speaking.

I've seen some crazy things happen though, especially when someone starts "really" strength training for the first time coupled with a proper diet. Even a "surplus diet."



This is really your call. If I remember, you looked very thin in your pics from what I could see. Personally, I would try and build some. Remember, you are not signing a contract. If you find that the "bulk" is not going the way you wanted and too much fat is being gained, you can always cut back or cycle back into a cut.
Very true I dont mind experimenting :D. I wouldn't say I'm very thin :( I don't have bones sticking out everywhere!!

It's a touch and feel process with no concrete answers.



Stop doing so much ab work. I don't do any ab work, majority of the time.
Well it worked though :D and my back is better for it (since I strenghened by back and my abs, it doesnt hurt anymore). I guess I could to less to maintain.
I find that they're the first thing that go though

That's what I'm here for. :)
Thank you so much for helping me out. I'm going away in 2 weeks for a month, so I think the best thing to do is during these 2 weeks is to research what to do next, and how to implement your guidelines, then once I'm back from holidays (apparently there is a gym with a monthly membership there so I'll try joining), do my gym review and explain to the guy what I want to do, see what he says (he might be useful if I have a precise goal), and start something new altogether. Combined with a decent way of eating (things should have calmed down by now), I should see some results!

Is there a post on this board that leasts good websites with accurate info?
 
9 years - that's a long time! Will you have a stag night?

The next time I see a change happening in my life is when little Stevie jrs are running around.
:)

IMO, be with the right person or be single.
You say that because you've had the luxury of finding the right person straight away :rolleyes: - I see what you mean but then i would have been single for the last 21 years. I just dont make long term plans and take every day as it comes right now. It works until a certain point. Idealy I'd like to commit to someone (maybe even get married) by my mid/late-20s. I have fairly young parents (they were 24) which I think is a great thing - here people have kids at 35, so by the time they leave home, you're only 10 years away from retirement...

You'll be a hot 35 yr old. :)
They need some kind of blush icon on this forum :eek:
 
Hey Steve - I wrote it up in the pm but I was getting tired of fiddling with it so here it is...:)thanx for your time

Im not concerned abt my walking - I walk because I enjoy it and have a dog that needs to be walked it isnt my only source of exercise and I dont do it as my exercise...

Are you doing the elliptical/treadmill at curves?

No - I use the elliptical and the treadmill at home...

Curves is a circut training gym for woman...it is strength training and cardio for 30 mins...



I attend Curves 3 times a week and 7 days a week I rotate the elliptical and treadmill at home...

Elliptical - I will use for anywhere from 30 mins 60 mins either 3.5miles or 6 miles...

Treadmill 30 mins on average rotating walking/jogging at one or two min intervals at a speed of 3 - 3.5 - im just starting out on the treadmill I average 1.25 - 1.5 miles...Im slowing getting better and faster and pushing myself harder...

An average day for me would be a 2 mile morning walk in abt 45 mins - work - then Curves for 30 mins and treadmill (30 mins) or elliptical (30 - 60 mins)and then a second walk before or after dinner...on Tuesdays I usually walk 3 walks and 3 to 4 mornings a week I got to the nature park int he am and walk 3.25 miles in abt 65 mins...


No weight training?

I was told by the wmn at Curves that it is strength training and therfor I shouldnt be doing weights on top of attending Curves...


Yea, protein is important... and it sounds like you are getting next to none.

Probually - however dinner is always a sit down meal that consists of a meat - usually chicken or hamburger or pork...veggies of course and a salad or rice or potatoe...

Explain to me why you don't eat any meat?

I do eat meat but I find during the day it is easier to just eat the fruits and veggies and somethign a little more solid- I eat my meals and snacks in the car and I find by eating the fruits and veggies during my work day it is easier for me to control my calories and my eating...

Is your schedule busy?

Yes very much so...I am a single mom of two - I work for a cleaning company - im in my car and on the road all day - Im usually on the go from the minute I get up till I go to bed...

If so, it sounds to me like you need to work on PLANNING.

Yup I do need to work on that - usually Im just so damn tired and Im always pulled in every direction...we get home late and after dinner and exercise Im beat so I prepare everything quickly in the morning...

I pre-cook most of my meats twice per week so all I have to do is grab a baggy out of the fridge. These kinds of things are saviors.


This is what I need to start doing - Ive found a cpl easy and healthy recipes that i have started cooking and using...I also need easy to eat food and perferably something I dont need to warm up...

Along with the protein and fiber, I bet you are not getting enough essential fats in too.

Im looking for help Im ready to I dunno - Im just getting tired of not seeing results...

Do you count calories? Would you? [/QUOTE]

Yes I do or well I did - I kinda do - I always did for the longest tiem and then it just became second nature...I eat all the same things so I know how many cals are in what I eat - I have been starting to do it agian ...

This is what i did this week - also I walked every day but Friday and Sat for 2 to 3 miles...I only went to Curves once this week as I was lazy and it was on Tuesday...

This week

Monday - Elliptical - 3.5 miles 25 mins
Tuesay - Treadmill - 1.25 miles in 27 mins 15 secs
Wednesday - Elliptical 5.5 miles
Thursday - Treadmill - 1.25 miles - 26:50 time
Friday - Rest Day
Saturday - Elliptical - 3.5 miles in 33 mins...
Sunday Treadmill - 8.25 miles - 61.20 mins average speed of 14.5 - 15.5 - it was a treadmill day but elliptical was more convient as it is on teh deck and the little playd in the pool as I used - I will try to use the treadmill later as well - we will see how ambitious I am...
Treadmill goal - 30 mins - 1 mile - 1.5 miles walking/jogging
Elliptical to use for 30 mins 3.5 - 6 miles depending on time

 
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