It's all about ROUTINE!

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Hi im new to the forum and thought I would have a go at one of these diary things and see how it goes.


I am 25 5"7 and 11.5stone. i want to get a a healthy weight. 10 stone, but 9.5 would be the ideal. I aim to eat a healthy diet of fish,fruit,veg,milk,soya milk,yogurt...but if im eating with family, or a special occasion then i will eat some junk food so i dont miss out.


I'm not going to track my weight however as i am not weighing myself right now.To start with I'm going to focus on getting into a routine which will hopefully lead to a healthier weight because for me routine will be the key.


I don't work at the moment I think due to lack of confidence...and because ideally I would like to study again...and Also a major factor that stops me looking for jobs is my uncomfortableness of my weight and my body ( i tend to hide away from the world.).


I am doing a course once a week in NLP and I also attend a group once a week on a friday about change.


For now I think I will keep it simple:

typical day:

get up at 10

have an hour on laptop etc

get to gym for 12

after gym and sometimes swim have coffee, read paper or book


I will go food shoping AFTER going to the gym.


something I dont do is a proper workout of sit ups etc. I only do cardio at the gym this is a confidence things of not entering the zone with lots of men doing weights :( . however Idealy i would use a routine at home but its getting motivation to do it becuz i dont have any whatsoever.
 
Hello Tink,

Welcome to the forum! I understand your desire not to weigh...it's certainly a personal choice...I did not weigh for the 1st 4 months of my journey...I do however go to the gym...for me, diet alone wouldn't get it,so I had to do the exercise. I go early in the morning when no one else is at the gym (it's also the only time I have) so I don't feel embarrassed. I will tell you from experience though that after awhile, people who are exercising at the gym and not looking at others...they are looking at themselves...so don't let that thought keep you from the gym! For me, it has been very beneficial to post on this forum every day...good days, bad days, in between...it's about being honest with yourself and getting some supportive help along the way. we're here to help you and give you our thoughts (doesn't make them right...just our experience, strength and hope!) I have been on here since November 2011 and I started my journey to lose weight back in June 2011, and the support and strength I get from people I have never physically met is great...especially for me as I am living outside of my home country right now and the communication link is great.

Good luck and let us know how we can help you!

Sarah
 
thankyou so much for your post sarah.


I have decided not to actually madly track my weight because the numbers game for me doesn't work , I have tried to do it that way so many times before. I did actually weigh the other day but I don't think I'm going to weight myself that often, maybe every 2 weeks, or once a month..i will see. If I put too much pressure on the scales going down I feel the pressure of trying to loose, but if i focus more on changing things such as going to the gym again etc then thats more productive!


exercise definitely helps because it actually makes your body not want to eat/crave so much! I wish i had the motivation to go in the morning, for me I am not a morning person, and the best time to exercise for me is probably late afternoon which sucks because thats quite busy. Although i want to try and go earlier afternoon now.


thanks for your support it is very inspiring on here and i like that it promotes healthy ways to loose weight rather than drastic!
 
update on today....

havent made it to the gym, or even out my flat which is pretty terrible but I have done some washing and cleared up a bit which is really good as I am terrible at doing housework.


I had a really stressful day on friday and so didn't sleep well friday night with sweats and nightmares and being up in the middle of the night. So I slept this afternoon. Everytime its that time of the month I feel so tired too sometimes to the point where I cant do anything at all but sleep and even siting up is too exhasuting, never mind going to the gym! I wounder if this is normal or if I haven't enough iron and if taking an iron vitamin each day is ok to do? I have lots of vitamins but dont take any and am actually a bit scared to take them im worried if they are actually harmfull to take.


my diet is pretty good at the moment I am eating fish,veg,fruit,milk and soya milk. I dont eat meat so maybe I do lack in iron i dont know. I am majorly overeating and probably eat for about 4 people!! i kid you not.


It has snowed here quite a bit so if i go out tomoro I dont know how to get to the gym because I cycle. I dont know if I can carry all of my gym stuff for the 10/15 min walk....or if I should push my bike and put my gym stuff in my panier bags!


My grandpa isnt well at the moment so I am dealing with that. But I am doing OK. I havent completely collapsed.
 
ok so so far im doing crap! because I have no motivation to get up im staying in bed till really late becuz im down about the fact I have nothing to get up for. I am thinking that I need to get to a gym class. gym classes I am thinking about are spin,core conditioning( cuz its only 30 mins),and bums,thighs and tums.

however i know these classes are REALLY HARD. so worried i wont manage them when my fitness level is down at the moment due to too much sleep and overeating and no exercise! :( but if i dont go then how am I going to change? but if i do go it will be really embarrasing that i cant keep up/do what im meant to be doing!! but if i dont change im guna stay stuck and i dont want to be in this position still by the summer, somehow i have go to get moving.


another thing I can do is look for volentary work to get me up in the mornings, then id head the the gym in the afternoon. ( classes r in the mornings and evengings tho )


also once I have drank the milk i have in my fridge im guna try not buy anymore as im drinking like 2L of it a day. I will just drink soya milk, maybe get some sweetened soya milk to cheat for a while. And also I am going to just have grapefruit,plums,blueberries and strawberries for fruit as I dont overeat on these...in the last 2 days iv eaten like 15 apples. Also I am going to throw out my salt because Im eating too much, its rock salt and i dont know if thats healthy or not to be eating so much of it!


so my plan:

keep flat tidy/sort it out

throw out salt

fruit:berries,grapefruit,plums

other foods:fish,vegetables

no milk but sweetened soya milk

go to 1 gym class this coming week!
 
Hey Tink,

I understand the motivation thing...as you said in your title...it's all about routine. If you are intimidated by the gym classes, just go for a good brisk walk for 30 minutes the 1st day and work your way up to 45 minutes. Get yourself a cheap mp3 player and put on some peppy music and just rock your walk! No one has to know what you are doing...and if they do...so what...it's all about you girl!

For the milk...I would suggest that you really limit that intake if not totally stop it. I think milk just turns to sugar when you digest it and so while you don't realize it, when you drink that milk, your body is turning on the cravings to get more milk and in my opinion will just make you eventually want your food of choice (for me it's sweets and carbs) This is my opinion and I'm not a nutritionist...so take that for what it's worth.

I've found that for me, I've had to just go cold turkey stopping on processed sugars and I eat only fresh fruits for my sweet tooth. I know this is hard, but it's really necessary for me..maybe for you too...only you know yourself enough to know if this is true for you.

No matter what...stay with your goal and sometimes take it one minute at a time...but stay with it! load up on the fresh fruits and clear out the "bad" food from your closet...and really consider setting a set time for a 30 minute brisk walk every day...from what I see you might benefit from some structure to your routines.

Enough of my ramblings...just hope it can help you!


Sarah
 
Thanks Sarah :) I managed to go to the gym day yipee! bascially becuz i just felt like going, first time iv felt like it in a long time. And I had that feel good post exercise feeling. Yesterday I went out for a walk in the snow. I suppose as long as I managed to get out and do something walk/cycle/gym then thats the main point, and on the days I have no energy and feel crapy just a 30 min walk with music like you suggested is good.


Thanks for your advice on the milk..I am thinking that it isn't good either. If I used sweetened soya milk that has half the carbs of milk but its still got sugars/sweetners. but its a better step maybe. I brought more milk today tho from the small shop outside my flat as I couldnt cycle to the other shop to get soya milk because of the snow and i dont know when i will be able to go.


My freezer is stocked up with frozen veg and fish. i find if i get fresh veg i just dont eat it and it just goes off. Thanks for your help!



I think that I need an eating ROUTINE, so that I just get used to eating certain foods when and it's part of a daily routine. This is going to be really hard though. I think I need to stick to it if I feel like eating or not....porblem is I dont feel hunger in my stomach, but I get other signs that I need to eat such as irriability,tiredness,heart feels funny, i just feel like I need food but without the hunger sign.


IDEAL EATING ROUTINE:


breakfast: 2 scrambled whole eggs/prawns, grapefruit/plums


snacks:fruit


dinner/lunch: piece fish with veg or can tuna/mackeral/prawns with salad.


glass Red wine[/b]


warm soya milk[/b]



Multiviamins[/b]

green tea[/b]

garlic[/b]

multivitamin[/b]

omega 3[/b]

B vitamin [/b]


IM quite confused about vitamins and which I need. I want to take something so that at that time of the month I don't feel so lathargic and tired. I read B vitamin good for that. Iron i'm unsure about as I dont wana take it and find i have too much iron. i don't know if to ask my doctor about this, but i hate going to the doctors. I also don't know if I should see a nutritionist and really get myself sorted, or maybe I should just keep things simple.



I think for now this is ok as I will keep it simple. I may obviously emotinally eat around this too, but hopefully setting a routine will make me feel better. In the future I would like to make smoothies with yogurt and frozen fruits and maybe a protein powder. And also eat different types of veg. at the moment I am just having lots and lots of frozen veggies peas,carrots,brocoli,sweetcorn etc i dont really know even how healthy this is! I need to get a non stick frying pan as mine is a nightmare and puts me off cooking fresh veg. Basically I just want to get the best out of my diet and all the nutrients that I need.
 
Couldnt sleep last night and was just thinking horrible things which was freaking me out.

So got up late and started reading a book on hormones which is complicated and scary.

It talks about hormone balance and eating things like phyto oestrogens and it list herbs which are photo estrogens, which I have heard about before ( to increase breast size as im flat chested. however the pills iv heard about have huge amounts in them which i dont know if its safe. ) so thinking maybe taking a small amount of the herbs is ok and good....its all so confusing, also I dont know if my hormones are balanced or not and i dont know how to get this tested. All I know is every month I get fatigued and have to sleep allday somedays.


It also says how packedged food in plastic things are really bad...which scares me as food comes in packedges! my soya milk is in a carton, froxen fish wrapped up in plastic, i always drink from plastic bottles...and its not like i can carry around a glass bottle everywhere and to the gym is it? ! so that has kind of freaked me out and I need to read it in full instead of skim reading it, and then search it on the net.


Now i dont really feel like going out or going to the gym. feeling sleepy and lathargic and miserable lol.
 
Hello Tink,

I was browsing some different fitness sites and I saw one that I think would be interesting for you to check out. I'm not selling her products or buying them, but in the video, she mentions what sounds like a really good program (it's very similar to what I'm doing...without knowing anything about her program). You might want to check it out...and at least do what she says to stay away from...just a thought.


http://www.beyonddiet.com/bd/landing?food=avocado&ad=12


Sarah
 
Hey Tink,


Exercise is one of those catch 22s. Exercise can make you feel less lethargic and sleepy but when you feel too tired to go exercise it can be hard to come up with the energy to get started.


I've heard a suggestion that by forcing yourself to stop what you're doing and do something as simple as 25 jumping jacks it can get the ball rolling in the right direction again. Small trick but it might be worth giving it a shot.
 
Hiya

Sarah - thanks for the link I am definitely going to check that out! :)


feeling gooder - yeh i agree with both those things you've said! Its worse if I oversleep...as I wake up and feel realy tired. The 25 jumping jacks is a really good idea. Or doing lunges or having small weights handy and using those....for some reason i have this mega block to doing any exercise at home. which is a pathetic excuse i know!!


Anyway the last couple days I have been to the gym and afterwards I have felt exhausted and have had to lie down for a while to recover. . and after I get this funny feeling in my heart/lung area that it feels hollow, I don't know if this is because I have sweated a lot and need some kinda salt or pottasium, or electrolytes, or if I need protein? But for about 3 or 4 hours after I literally cant eat anything except for some fruit, so eating a meal i cant do, so i need some kind of protein shake but I am scared of what to get and if whey is good for you or if its damaging to your body and maybe i will look into soya protein.


Anyway today I got some coconut water ( has pottasium, is meant to rehydrate. ) Also I got some V8 juice, and some cottage cheese. I thought maybe i could put the cottage cheese in a blender with soya milk! really afterwards I feel like my body needs something, but I just don't know what.


today I havent been in the gym and just went swimming as I will also do tomorow. I really need to do some other stuff though like weight lifting. But i just dont dare have an induction and go through all of that! but i feel i need to !
 
got up late lol....ok so im fitting bits into my day such as relaxing,reading,(need more reading though),getting out to gym, but all at different times.


Im doing volentary work tonight for 3 hours and so have to dress decently which i hate doing because it isnt me. and I hav to get a taxi there which i hate doing too, but cant bare to cycle in the dark and through town with drunk people. ok that's it!
 
volentary work last night went well altho it was dead in the time that i was there, so i wasnt doing much at all but it was still good to go...even though i was stressed a bit yest morning, but in the afternoon i think i relaxed and i went swimming. I HAVnt had a good night sleep though as been having constant dreams/nightmares what seemed one after the other. I feel a bit odd, my throat feels a bit odd like iv been smoking ( but i havent ) and i have a cold, so its prob just a cold..im hoping in a few hours ill feel better then i can go out for a walk. Dont know if i will go to the gm today or tomoro as hav family things going on. but will go all next week :)
 
Hey,

I share your pain. I am a very active person, except when I go through sloth phases and they can last looooooong periods of time. And then when I am slothy, I get chubbier, I get self conscious and nothing can get me out of bed. I just had a long sloth phase over the summer (prior I was going to dance class 5 days a week, and then suddenly, nothing but bed for me), and it makes you feel bad and yet, getting out of bed and doing something feels so pointless and unnecessary too. When you start doing something suddenly your days become so productive, but it is hard to get to the point where you do. And no job and stuff doesn't help. I know for a while it would take me all day to get myself to go to my voluntary position once a week for two hours and I would dread it because it was the day I needed to make an effort.

But you know what? Nobody judges you! You can go outside and go for a walk and nobody will think you are fat or terrible (this is what I kept thinking), just little things that will make your day so much easier and more productive. Babysteps! And you will get there in the end. It is really important to love yourself, today, not just to wait to be thin to love yourself. Because you are awesome the way you are, not the way you look!

Have a great weekend, J.
 
Hey Tink,

Hope you are getting better sleep and getting out to exericse. I agree with JoannaBoo...no one will notice or think twice about you walking outside...so you might get out and go for it!

Thanks for stopping by my diary by the way...I did mix up my exercise routine..hopefully it will pay dividends!

Take care,

Sarah
 
Hope you're feeling better these days. Fighting off a cold and trying to get workouts in can be tough so maybe take a bit of time to figure out meals and such for the upcoming week.


I haven't been a huge fan of working out at home but it's been easier to fit in 5-10 minutes here and there to get short bursts of exercise in rather than trying to schedule an hour at a time.
 
:angel:thankyou for your posts.

feelingooder - Cold not feeling as bad just have a bit of one now and meals and snacks I am just keeping simple for now. I do find it hard to do it at home, I think maybe too because my main priority everyday is to just make sure I get out the flat!


Sarah - yeh walking is good in the winter because i can wear more layers...in the summer I dont like it as much and there are more people about..but that's a long way off!! I havent been out for a walk for a while now but I have been to the gym a few times, because by the time i have been for a walk then then usually id never get to the gym, so now I choose walk or gym :) . But in some ways cant wait for the summer because I can go cycling again! Hope the new routine works! You are very motivated. :)


Johanaboo - Thanks for stopping by it does really sound like you understand as I do go through phases as you describe, sometimes I can be active, other times for weeks on end I can just watch dvds back to back! altho now i seem to have a bit more balance, but im no way as active as i used to be. And yes no job helps. I am taking little steps however, I am going into volenteer with children next monday everyday monday morning and I am doing a course on a weds, and have a group on a friday. so I have a little routine, but I hope to build on it. And usually at this weight I wouldnt go out AT ALL apart from to the shops, but I have gone and done a little volentary work so I am doing a lot better I think than what I used to. I really like what you have written, i wounder if i can put that in my signiture? I always put my self worth on my weight...and I need to really stop doing that!!





YESTERDAY:

I gave away my guinea pig! so I am feeling sad, but I wasn't giving her the time she deserved, wasnt cleaning her out when I got depressed, wasn't combing her long hair so it got matted all the time and 2 people are really needed to be able to groom her. But I am thinking OMG what have I done? shes gone :(. But I know I have done the best thing for her so I have to think of that.


yesterday I did some baking cupcakes I really enjoy baking but usually i eat a lot of the mixture and cakes, but yesterday I just had a little. so that was really good. Took the cakes to my grandparents. I feel like doing more today I think because its something that I actually enjoy and it always takes my mind off everything else.


I have thought recently about studying again....but I dont know if that is possible :(. I am interested in health and the human body and nutrition and would like to learn about this. Also maybe in speech therapy. But i am unsure and maybe I shouldn't even be thinking of this right now I dont know. Since a levels 8 years ago ( gosh thats a long time) I got too stressed out and just couldnt study anything again...the stress lead to me binging and purging which I spent a lot of my time doing everyday instead of studying and I was in a mess, my health, my head, and my studies. Its something I have never goten over. And its really huge of me to share.


TODAY:

I got up about half an hour ago and I felt low, but having here really is helping. :) I think I am going to miss the guinea pig today. Hope to get out to the gym even if i just go for a slow swim, and a cup of tea. :) That is going to simply be my aim for today and the rest of the week.


I feel like I am eating too much fruit at the moment! But I have cut out milk for about I think this is my 4th day. It is hard because tea just doesnt taste the same! But if i have milk in I just drink WAY too much.
 
Congratulations on cutting out the milk...I think you'll see results with that move...and some exercise! Keep on posting here...it will help you and keep you motivated! Love seeing your posts!

Sarah
 
thankyou sarah :)


im not feeling great! I think Im struggling to get out today and dont know if I will make it. I keep thinking but if i went swimmin at this time...it will be too busy...so its too late to go now...blah blah...and then i feel anxious..


I feel a bit low. I have hoovered up left over sawdust and am trying to sort out clothes to take to the charity shop. They are old clothes are vary in sizes from uk size 6 - size 12. I am currently a UK size 16. Some clothes are so pretty. A few I haven't even ever worn. It's depressing sorting through them and remembering how much I liked wearing them and the nights out I used to have in them. Then there are clothes from april 2009-december 2009, I was underweight. So i actually had to go and buy new clothes as I had lost weight. It's really hard seeing these clothes and giving them away. And I feel mixed about the clothes...I suppose in some ways they remind me of bad times,very very anxious times, I had an eating disorder, times I was drunk all the time and behaved inappropiatley, times of my life that I would much rather forget. Yet I almost mourn the loss of those times because I could wear those nice clothes and go out...and so thinking about those times are depressing either way. And I also think what a waste of money...and what if...what if I did loose weight again and fit into those clothes....But then these clothes I have'nt worn for 2 and a half years. Do I select a few to keep? Do I take them all to a charity shop? Is keeping these clothes stopping me loosing weight and getting on with my life? Isn't it time to move on now? Its really really hard!!
 
Good to hear that you've recovering from that cold. Not sure how the UK sizes (or any women's sizes for that matter) work but maybe ditching the sizes that represent being underweight would be a good first step? The other idea that a friend gave me is planning to get rid of any sizes that become too big as a way of committing to never needing those sizes again.


Maybe plan to hold onto the stuff you intend to fit in again even if it's just to wear around the house and then add new clothes as a reward for hitting some of the goals you have set for yourself.


Good luck finding that motivation and if you find extra please keep us all in mind. February and winter is getting a little.... blah...
 
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