General hysterical diet related rambling: From Flab to Fab.

AListen here LADY!! I need you...I am sure others here need you too!!! You can still be on here with all your daily struggles....you don't have to quit...something will "click" again...just wait it out and do the best you can in the mean time!! OK!!!
 
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You can't leave us!!!!!!! I will cry and everything.........I don't care what you are eating at the moment. You will get back on track. Just don't leave us.
 
ADON'T EVEN THINK ABOUT IT!!!!!

We love you, we want to stay up to date with your goings on, and we want to motivate you to get back to your awesome healthy self! KEEP IN MIND that you have just had a MAJOR life shift, and it's natural that you will have things going a bit mental for a while, like your food! That's okay! Just keep sticking around here and filling us in, and youwill eventually get the time,energy and motivation to keep going. You just have to find your new routine, that's all!

:( Don't go!
 
Here is the reality for people like us..like almost all of us.


This is never over.


I know that sounds depressing but it isn't. Every day, we make food choices that effects our lives. Every day, it's a new start. You can't change the past, you learn from it .Go see Lion King and actually apply it to life..it's pretty useful. For a time, Simba takes up the Hakuna Matata way of life, the way of life of you can't change the past so who cares. It takes the wise Rafiki and a smack on the head to realize that the past can hurt but we learn from it.


lifestyle changes (of all types, including relationship) can hurt when we look back at the previous day..but we learn from it to help prevent it from hurting again. You over ate yesterday? Can't change it but you can work hard at not doing it today..or tomorrow..or the day after. We are going to slip.I myself had slipped bad enough that I lose 20 pounds of my success. I'm on the path back and THAT is what is the key.


The path is always there..no matter how often we step off it.
 
Hey girl! I'm back! Sorry I've been gone. Looks like I missed quite a bit. I do hope you come back. It's so cool you're back in school! I miss you and hope to talk to you soon.
 
AHeya Ruth, how've you been?
Have you sorted out a routine with the kids and being at uni? It must be a bit stressful atm ey? I hope its going okay with your boyfriend and everything. Try not to feel too bad, if u want a few days off from being a die hard calorie counting weight loss fanatic, that can be very stressful aswell sometimes if you've got alot going on. Enjoy your time at uni, nothing wrong with doing that, you have to make yourself happy aswell. Anyway im sure you'll do what's best for you and your family :) come and have a rant if u need to!
 
AYou lot have just got me properly blubbing.

I just can't do it.... I just don't really want to do it. My head is a complete mess and I have just had a HUGE bombshell dropped upon me. Don't worry, I am not going to leave you all, I love all you guys, and I want to carry on spying on you and giving you advice (that I don't want to take myself :D). I just have eaten so much, its like I'm making up for lost time. I haven't got any food guilt and I am wondering how the hell I stuck to eating good for so long.

I'm sure that sooner or later I will become absolutely sickened with myself and start again. I hope so.
 
AI'm just really fed up. I'm not going to moan about nick any more, as I just forgive/forget/ignore everything he does which is unacceptable. I am just to weak to walk away. And that's my own fault.

Too weak to walk away from eating rubbish as well. I have eaten nothing good today. A big packet of chocolates, a box of 16 chocolates, a huge bowl of cereal, about 10 lollies, lots of sugary coffees, two packets of crisps, and so much spag bol which didn't fill me up no matter how much I ate, until afterwards when I felt like my tummy would explode.

I blame being socially conditioned by the book "the hungry catipillar" when I was a kid.
 
Hi Ruth


sorry to hear that you are struggling a bit at the moment but happy to read that your college is going well. my 2 cents worth is this:


Its a damn good idea to ignore that nick person. Just push him into hte background of your mind if you can't leave him or push him out of your life. Just minimise his impact on you in anyway you can. I know this also takes quite a lot of mental strength. Its hard to not take on anyone sniping at you or whinging or other wise being annoying. But the buddha had some ideas about how to handle such people.


I was just reading it last night.


One is to develop compassion for the person.

I can't remember hte middle two

But the last one is to forget or ignore them. I think this one is probably the easiest.


But whatever you do, try to keep the hate and resentment from building up because my word for it is that its poisonous. Hate and resentment poisons you and messes up your day. If you can think of nick as more like a mosquito then it might be easier to not get so upset by his behaviour. In trying to develop this attitude towards him, it might pay to spend a few minutes visualising it. You have to build hte idea in your own mind so that in time it becomes stronger and you are less affected by him. Ultimately this will probably lead you to a mental place where leaving him might be easy.


Also you could consider looking for some councilling support at your college. Could you?


Don't worry about the food. I think we can only eat well when we are in on an even keel. Try to develop equanimity. I highly recommend you buy the book Mindfulness in Plain English and start a daily meditation practice. I am finding it really really good. Even though i am a beginner, one of the things i am finding is that ideas about how to solve little problems keep popping into my head. IN that light, i know that a practice of meditation would really help you with your studies too.


I have had the opinion for some years that a relaxed mind is a creative mind. As you are in a creative field, you need to develop a relaxed mind. Meditation can help with that.


I know you might not be quite ready to take on what i suggesting but i hope that sometime soon you can do it. I realise that the first book i told you about might not have been the one you needed to read for where you are at now. But that doesn't change the fact that its still a good book and who knows where it might lead you.


Big hug to you my dear. We all want you to be strong and happy and to get over this rough spot and you will. Just hang in there and try to send yoruself positive useful messages. ok. :)
 
Arainbow even if you are eating crap keep note and come here to tell us about it.Keep track of your bad eating .This is your diary for better or worse and im sure youre dealing with stresfull things right now,maybe you will gain some but its ok just be here we love you and i think of you every day like "wonder if shes eating ok today!" or " think things are better with her bf?" or " maybe shes doing some crunches too!" kind of strange i should say!Dont worry im not a pshyco!!!!im just really used to you and all you great people that have helped me so much by just stoping by my diary that it comes naturaly.So whatever it is you WILL get through it,just stay close!
 
AHey girly.
I am the same as Jess. I think about you every day. I think a special kind of friendship develops on these sort of forums (either that or i have been blessed with all you amazing people) because we can be open and honest, it's a bit like therapy really. Just keep posting sweetie, you will get thru this topsy turvy (what a great phrase huh lol) part of your life.
Just remember we love you and are here for you.
Xxx
 
Hello my motivation to lose weight:) Im so so sorry to hear that things are not pleasant at the moment:( Hope things improve soon darling


Ah shut up hun, i dont want to hear any of that, YOU ARE NOT WEAK, You're and amazing strong person that is a great mother:)


As for eating crap, oooh Ruth girl, i have eaten like shite allll week. We must start properly again tomorrow okay?


Hope tomorrow is a better day for you, lots of hugs xxxxx
 
AThanks so much people.

I think I have been semi doing that anyway Andrea. I just can't bear to be near him recently. Thank you so much for taking the time to write that message, it makes operfect sense. I will see if they have that book to reserve at the library. They probably will have. I used to go to councilling a long while ago and it didn't work for me. But thanks :)

And Jess, I will carry on logging my food.

I think we are lucky to have such great people on here kate :)

Princess- I am weak!!! But thanks.

Another bad day, although not as bad as it has been. Things are settling down a bit at home but it is still all to much for me atm. Hopefully getting out of the house and going to my first full learning day at college tomorrow will help. I just wish I was happy right now. I don't want to repel people with my negative vibes.

I think I am going to do healthy food shopping for wednesday, whether I like it or not. I was considering buying all salads and soups and fruit and giving myself a fitness bootcamp. But I don't want to get back into the all or nothing mentality that I had once upon a time, long ago. Its going to be really hard to get back on track. I really didn't want to eat thyat big bar of chocolate, but I couldn't help myself. I am aware of how pathetic I sound! Arrgghhh.

Food
Bowl of shreddies with sugar
Bowl of porridge with sugar
handful of cheese
2 bits of chicken, half a burger, jacket potato and a salad. Salad!
A huge bar of chocolate
5ish sugary coffees
 
AHi lovely lady :) Sending you hugs and awesome vibes for a great week...mentally... physically and emotionally. :grouphug:
 
AHey girly

How was school today?

I am not going to mention food or men. I wanna hear all about school.

Keep posting hun, i'd be lost without you sweetie.

Lots of squishies
 
AThanks for the vibes Tete!

Ah, Princess, if only I had a good day today!

I actually am repulsed by myself. I am a food slag. Instead of opening my legs to everything, I am opening my mouth to everything. Everything I fancy, and even stuff I don't really fancy. I'm doing it because I can. I am on a one woman revolt again diets.

Uni was okay. I was a bit nervy going there. I think my delight at actually being accepted made me forget to be worried about being alone in public the first few journeys up there. But I was quite paranoid that everyone was staring at me today. I was tired as well and not exactly glowing with happy. But I still had a good chat with a couple of people. The work today was very simple but apparently it will get harder. Its a shame there is only one lunch break every week to get to know people in.

My evening class was a laugh. I was much more relaxed. Did a bit better on my still life objects today. Still crap though! I am going to practise loads. I really want to be reasonable at art.

Ate 2 nutri-grains, a kfc twister meal, a packet of chocolate digestives, a hersheys nut bar, cappuccino and 5ish coffees. Rrrrrrreally didn't want to write that. But there it is, in black and white.
 
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