Ed's Diary

Wow. Whoever thought that my appreciation for hot chicks in black dresses could ever spawn such serious discussion.

Or both parents teach the daughter to respect herself and stick up for herself... and have her understand that abuse is never ever acceptable -even once..
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I only wish it were that simple.

I'm glad you got yourself out of the bad relationship MissD. That is a unique personal dynamic I will never understand. I don't think anyone can ever really understand that unless you have been there yourself and from women I have talked to even then you dont know WTF happened or how they let it happen.
 
edco76 said:
I don't think anyone can ever really understand that unless you have been there yourself and from women I have talked to even then you don't know WTF happened or how they let it happen.
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You're right and it's very much complicated indeed, while to the outside world it's like "Duh, stupid, get OUT" making it even harder on the person being abused, because now they feel dumb for being stuck. What is it, a vicious cycle? Yeah, all people and especially women would benefit from lessons in self-protection early on. I think martial arts is pretty good for that......
 
Curvie Girlie said:
You're right and it's very much complicated indeed, while to the outside world it's like "Duh, stupid, get OUT" making it even harder on the person being abused, because now they feel dumb for being stuck. What is it, a vicious cycle? Yeah, all people and especially women would benefit from lessons in self-protection early on. I think martial arts is pretty good for that......
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I teach my daughter BJJ with emphasis on guard control.

I dont see why high schools dont require a short course in Jui Jitsu. You have no idea how easy it is for a flexible girl (especially a long legged one) to snap and arm from the guard position.
 
I think schools don't want kids too smart--they might overthrow the government or something.

Also, they're probably afraid that date rape will go down and arm-breaking will go up. Personally, I'm for the concept but you know how expensive doctor visits can be....
 
Curvie Girlie said:
I think schools don't want kids too smart--they might overthrow the government or something.

Also, they're probably afraid that date rape will go down and arm-breaking will go up. Personally, I'm for the concept but you know how expensive doctor visits can be....
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Yes in todays crazy world they would make the girl pay the bill. Some crazy ass liberal lawyer would contend that it was excessive. I guess if you wanted to be but if you wanted to avoid the lawsuit you could pull out the old triangle choke. Or gogoplata. I would love to see the look on a bad guys face when he thought he was gonna rape some hot model chick only to have her throw a gogo on him.
 
maleficent said:
you have to save yourself
mom hopefully is teaching you that
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There were lots of shoulda coulda woulda's that happened during that time... I've learned so much from that experience.... Everyone tried to tell me to get out, but it wasn't that easy or at least it wasn't until I had enough.... It took a LONG time to finally realize that I was better than that... he made me think I deserved it....
 
edco76 said:
Yes in todays crazy world they would make the girl pay the bill. Some crazy ass liberal lawyer would contend that it was excessive.
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No kidding I was kinda thinking about the laws regarding self defense, must be different from state to state I bet. As much as I adore fighting, I have never been in one, and I didn't have siblings BUT I was the oldest grandkid, BUT I did not beat up my younger cousins (on purpose!). So when faced with violence I'd probably try to RUN away. That's my plan. Unless an attacker was into running as much as I was, I'd be in the clear. Uh, unless he grabbed my hair. Uh oh! :eek: Ok not a good trajectory of thoughts, I'm gonna drop it!
 
MissDFITT said:
he made me think I deserved it....
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That's the idea unfortunately. Makes me want to :puke:

MissDFITT said:
I've learned so much from that experience.... Everyone tried to tell me to get out, but it wasn't that easy or at least it wasn't until I had enough....
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Some of us need to experience the great lows in life to learn and change and grow, as horrid as the lows can be. But yeah, in theory, abuse should never be tolerated. It's a controversial topic...
 
Yup, and I think someone mentioned you could never understand until your in a situation like it... and its so true. And honestly I thought I would have been stronger than that... but he knew how to get to me and he knew how to break me down... time and time again.

I am just thankful that I finally wised up... He went out of town for a weekend to party with friends and I moved my shit out.... I was wonder woman that day... But it's taken years to get ME back, if you know what I mean.... I had zero self confidence and felt worthless.... and thank goodness for Stephen, he has been my saving grace!!!
 
Trops said:
Here you go, Ed. From today:
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No justice in this world. I hope he gets away. If it was Ca. I'd say he didnt have a chance but it may swing his way in FL. If you see a nude stranger in your home you should be allowed to hit him with a pipe. I'm pretty sure that in the constitution.
 
MissDFITT said:
He went out of town for a weekend to party with friends and I moved my shit out.... I was wonder woman that day... But it's taken years to get ME back, if you know what I mean.... I had zero self confidence and felt worthless.... and thank goodness for Stephen, he has been my saving grace!!!
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Well glad to hear that! :party: I know exactly what you mean, and I always liked Andre Nickatina's "...and I never sacrifice who I am" line because I was like, well fucking fabulous for YOU buddy! Words of wisdom from a coke-addicted rapper. Stranger things have happened! Well he may have laid off the yayo by now butcha never know....

Zero self confidence and worthlessness usually lead to bigtime trouble. It's amazing how a person can go from confident and proud to the opposite just because of one little relationship, isn't it? Good thing most people on here have excellent significant others! Makes me happy :) And being single is good for me, I needed to toughen up and find inner peace alone, without unhealthy dependency on "love." The casual sex was fun, too. Now that it's over I'm left with the path to enlightenment. hmmmmmmmmmm :toetap05: We'll see how that works..............
 
edco76 said:
No justice in this world. I hope he gets away. If it was Ca. I'd say he didnt have a chance but it may swing his way in FL. If you see a nude stranger in your home you should be allowed to hit him with a pipe. I'm pretty sure that in the constitution.
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No justice at all! Glad I have friends in the concrete business...yep right next to Hoffa, thanks!
 
Curvie Girlie said:
Zero self confidence and worthlessness usually lead to bigtime trouble. It's amazing how a person can go from confident and proud to the opposite just because of one little relationship, isn't it?
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You said everything right there! People should come with warning labels..."Warning- this person will tear down your confidence and belittle your worth, may be verbally or physically abusive, and be an outright ass!"
 
jzthedetermined said:
You said everything right there! People should come with warning labels..."Warning- this person will tear down your confidence and belittle your worth, may be verbally or physically abusive, and be an outright ass!"
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LOL! What would be even cooler is something like this: "WARNING: this person may seem dull, but they are full of awesomeness, please take for good times as needed."

Hi ED! :waving: Ya'll come back now, ya hear?
 
Nothing exiting. I am dreading telling my boss I am leaving. I hate doing that. I hate all the hub-ub people make. Like they really give a shit. But every one in the office will be emailing, calling, or coming by my desk. Acting like they are upset that I am leaving.
 
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