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One of you needs to be smart and sober for her. I'm sorry things sre like that for you. Makes me very thankful for my hubby and I hope you find a good one for you and your children one of these days!:)
 
OHD, Mechelle, Heidi, and Cerella...thank you all so much. I don't even know how to feel right now. I'm going to talk to him tomorrow nite. Hopefully he'll be willing to TALK instead of just walking away.

I'm going to bed now, otherwise I'm going to start bingeing. :(
 
Big cheesy hugs, sis...... You know how I feel, we've discussed it all over and over and over and over and over again. LOL! I'm here for ya!!!! But, you know that. :D :D :D :D
 
Im so sorry Dari, ive been there done all that over and over and over again...some men are such asses and it really isnt fair to us or our children...we all know he isnt worth it though, so try to find it in you to remain cool...I hope finacially it doesnt totally screw you..you are dependant upon what he pays you ??? Arent you ??? I remeber before form the other forum I think you stated b/c of him you dont have to be working ??? Im sorry he is an ass!!! I really trully am, you know Ive been through the ringer and back with my jerk..I can totally relate Dari, totally, I am here for ya
 
dariqueen said:
I was right, it was too good to be true. The ex called. He quit his good, well-paying job with benefits so he can run the local restaurant. No benefits, no steady paycheck. Idiot. Now what am I supposed to do? I'm so flipping tired of dealing with him. And he's NOT taking Abba tonight because he wants to get drunk.

Man, I'm p*ssed. I wanna go get drunk. Or something. ;)
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I can understand you being upset about him being an arse for the kids sake, but how does him quitting his job and being a complete ass really affect you? Sounds a bit like you still see him as not an ex, or you're relying on him a little much.
You dont have to "deal" with him, just be honest with the kids if they ask where he is. Expect him to never turn up or do anything even if he says he will, this way if it happens you'll be happier rather than just "ok".
You cant control him or make him do anything, you can only control your actions and reactions. If you get all worked up over him just being who he is and not who you want him to be then you're setting yourself up for failure (the whole "i wanna get drunk/eat chocolate/etc" thing).

You're an awesome mother, and an awesome person. Sit back and let him make an arse of himself, have a laugh and wait for the karma to kick in (oh yeaaah it will happen .. i have 4 kids and 2 ex's so believe me, i know ALL about it lol).

Hope this didnt come accross to critical of you or anything, Im just trying to be helpful as a friend. Take care of yourself girlie :)


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Yes our babies grow up, wait till she is 12 Dari then come cry to me...I cant believe my baby is 12...next year is high school and I am not even 30 yet!!!
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 Tell me about it, my oldest is 15 and i only just turned 33 ... feels like yesterday he was being all cutesy 2 year old :D
 
I can understand you being upset about him being an arse for the kids sake, but how does him quitting his job and being a complete ass really affect you? Sounds a bit like you still see him as not an ex, or you're relying on him a little much.
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I'm trying to sit back and let him do whatever he wants with the kids, and not get worked up about whether or not he sees them. Sometimes it works:rolleyes: But I'm on maternity leave right now, so I get paid less money. With this new "job", he'll be making a lot less, so I might have to go back to work right away. Which sucks, as he agreed to give me enough child support so that I could stay home with the kids this winter.


Anyway, I took my water and went to bed, so I didn't binge last night like I wanted to; yay me! Off to shop for Christmas presents today...I'll have to really take it easy and budget, but it'll be fun anyway!
 
Budget ??? LOL...what is that !!! HA...I need to learn how to budget better...and this christmas will be the same for me as well, I will let you in on a secret...Since I had Taneesha (the youngest) I only buy for the girls, it is all I can afford...last year this time I was slowly recovering from surgery and could hardly walk or work, plus I had a root canal and this year I need another stupid root canal, right before xmas *UGH*

Have fun
 
Great Job DQ... water and hitting the hay sounded like a better solution.

It will all work out.... it always does. God never gives any one person more then they can handle:eek:
 
Hey DQ,
Wanted to say howdy,and have fun
shopping I love to shop and run over annoying shoppers
that that like to hog the isles! Hope you feel better have
a gr8 night,Tammy:)
 
It will all work out.... it always does. God never gives any one person more then they can handle
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"I just wish He didn't trust me so much..." I think Mother Theresa said that.:D

Good day today...did my Christmas shopping. Talked to the ex a little. Abba's gone for a sleepover. What else? Oh, had my WW weigh in today, and got below 175 lbs! Which is awesome, but now my daily points go from 24 to 22. Tough adjustment, but I'll muddle through somehow!
 
Rewards? Not yet. But I've been asking my family for either money or gift cards for Christmas so I can buy new jeans once I hit the next size down. :D
 
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