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There are other things you can do too. Are you doing any weight lifting. Even if you just using 3-5 lb free weights the extra muscle will help tone and burn more calories.
Hope you get to feeling better!! How's the baby????
 
I never even thought about weights! Maybe I'll give that a try tonight. I'm off to see the doctor now, hopefully I'll hear some good news.

The baby is great, 6 weeks old, and last night he slept for 8 hours!:)
 
Isn't that wonderful when they can sleep through the night.

Yeah, if you can't work your lower body because of the incision, then you might as well tone your upper while you wait for things to heal up.
 
I really need a kick in the butt...it would be nice if one of you were here in person to do it!

I've been down lately...partly PPD, I think, and partly because my boyfriend and I split up several months ago when I was 6 months pregnant (after 4 years). He's in town this week, and is taking his new teen girlfriend (along with my kids) to his family dinner so they can meet her. I'm sooo in the dumps, and can't get my butt off this chair. The only good thing about this week is that I haven't let myself snack...no junk food while I'm sitting here. It's hard to get motivated when there's no one to walk with, etc.

Anyone have the boost I so desperately need?
 
/me winds her left leg up... pulls back... looses her balance and falls over on her behind...

No kick in the butt from me -b ut how about - he's a freakin loser who you are better off without... he had to raid the preschool to find a girl -not evena woman who woudl have him :) ( i could go on and on about how awful he is and I don't even know him)

You need a to torture

Come take a walk with me and do all sorts of trashing of him :D

Hang in there...
 
Thank you, that giggle was just the kick I needed.:) Anytime someone can make me smile without me having to force myself is a good thing!

(On a brighter note, my ex's grandpa just called to see if I was bringing the kids over to supper, I told him no, that he was bringing his current girlfriend instead. Grandpa sounded disappointed. The ex's family still considers ME family, which is nice)

Anyway, I'm giving myself 5 more minutes, then I'm forcing myself to take the kids for a walk. Thank you for responding so quickly Mal.:)
 
Well, we ended up on a 20 minute walk, which helped my mood a bit. Even better, I did my exercise video tonight! I feel so great; I had forgotten how good it felt when I was done. I don't know why I quit:p Love endorphins!

I'm doing the Susan Powter "Burn Fat and Get Fit" step aeobics. She does intervals with weights and leg lifts, and ends with an ab workout. I love her; it's like having a cheerful, encouraging friend in the living room with me.:D
 
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I'm doing the Susan Powter "Burn Fat and Get Fit" step aeobics. She does intervals with weights and leg lifts, and ends with an ab workout. I love her; it's like having a cheerful, encouraging friend in the living room with me.:D
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She scares me... Years ago.. I tried her stop the insanity diet... it was insane alright - made my hair fall out - or at least thin out considerably.. one of those lessons learned the hard way- fat is important in your diet.. low fat andno fat is a bad thing... (and my hair never relaly did recover -it's not as thick as it was...
 
The kids and I went for 3 walks today, and I did my video again! Feeling so good, although very hungry, so I'm going to down another glass of water and get to bed.

I met with the ex's girlfriend yesterday...she's not exactly a slender reed, but she looks better than me. So I'm using her for motivation this week.:D
 
The motivation worked:D I went out for a quick walk today, without the kids, and ended up power walking, burning off anger. I soooo want to show the ex what he gave up:p And I feel great tonight!
 
Oh DQ,
Revenge is sweet, but success is it's own reward.
Remember, you're doing this for YOU - not for your ex or his reed!

Also, go easy on yourself, you are still recovering from major surgery, and a C section IS major surgery!

Are you nursing? That should help with the weight loss and allow for extra calorie consumption ;) Can't beat that!
 
Revenge is sweet, but success is it's own reward.
Remember, you're doing this for YOU - not for your ex or his reed!
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I am doing this for me too...I've been chubby for too many years, and want to be healthy and get my self-esteem back. However, looking better than her would be the icing on the cake. I do like her, and I don't want him back. I know he knows I'm smart, a good person, and a great mom, and I just want him to see the me that was lost for the last few years.

I stopped nursing my baby last week :( , I didn't want to, but there was too much pain. So I've been working on watching how much food I'm eating. It did help me lose ALL the baby weight I gained though, so at least I'm starting at my pre-pregnancy weight!

Sorry for the rambling...I'm still a little down, and it IS almost 4am (baby just went back to bed), so I tend to need to talk. Where can you ramble on the most but on a message board to strangers?:) I appreciate all of you who are offering encouragement so much.
 
reading you

Well I've read all of your posts. A new baby...how exciting. I recall the new little bundles and the nerves that came with them...I miss that new feeling and the cuddle times...
I am glad I'm done though! haha.

I totally understand where you are coming from, wanting to look good so your ex can see you and wish he didn't let you go....It gives you drive doesn't it? It's harmless.

My husband has a daughter with another girl, this girl is a real *itch. She abused their daughter and lost custody, my husband got custody after a battle in court. She has to pay child support and takes him to court trying to get out of paying it. Every month he is in court and the kid is 8 now. She also spreads many rumors about me. Claiming I am a witch and put spells on her. She said I had a threesome and am currently cheating on my husband...and then has the nerve to say I am fat. Well I was quite rotund during her accusations and she thinks she is just so pretty and hot. Well I am pretty, and am working on the hot. However I want to look better than she does physically. She recently had another kid (three kids, custody of just one) and looks quite plump..so I'm off to a head start. However I am doing this for my physical and mental health. I too get depressed, not PPD but I was diagnosed as clinically depressed....So I conquer it with proper diet...skip the drugs!
 
Thanks Lyndah...I appreciate the words; it's awesome to know others are in the same boat.

I am attempting to combat depression with fresh air and exercise, lots of water and eating healthier (also seeing a counsellor in 2 weeks). I think it's working for the most part, with a bonus side effect of helping me lose weight!


Tonight, my sister and I ditched our kids to various family members, and hit the roads for a long power walk. It's so much nicer when there's someone there to talk to; we last 40 minutes! And when I went to pick up the kids, their aunt commented that she could see a difference in me already:D
 
mm comments about losing weight make it all worth it:)

Feeling depressed is such an obstacle for losing weight but you seem to be doing so so well! And I agree that as long as you are also losing weight for yourself and your health that trying to look good to your ex is harmless ;)

Goodluck! you're doing an amazing job!
 
I haven't posted anything for 2 days because I feel like I haven't gone anywhere...I start out the day eating well, then slack off. Last time I tried this, I got a big start - 12 lbs in a week or so (water weight of course), then my weight stayed the same but I lost another size.

This time, it's been almost 3 weeks and I've only lost 5 lbs, and not so much as a millimeter down on the measurements. So I'm a little frustrated. I know it's my own fault. I've gone out several times in the last week, so have had quite a few drinks/pops while out. This rarely happens, so this week I wanted to take advantage of going out. I'm going to try another jump start. I've purchased a few more workout videos...different types so my body won't get used to the same one over and over.

Good luck to me.
 
Hi Dari.

Thanks for stopping by my diary. Don't overwhelm yourself. Start with one or two things like you must drink so many glasses of water a day and no eating after a certain time. Then add another goal like no soda etc..... You are doing great with the walks. You will see results eventually. Don't get discouraged.
 
Thanks Pineola:) I have started small, and increased it. In the beginning, I couldn't do much for exercise, so my goals were to drink 8 glasses of water, go for a short walk, no snacking all day, and no food after supper. I managed all of those.

My next goal was to go down to 2 cans of pop a day (I was up to 4 before), and I did that. In fact, some days I only had 1 1/2, which is a big deal for me. I think I'm going to try and go down to one pop today :eek: . I've also made it up to 10 or 11 glasses of water a day :)

So, what should my next goal be? I'm already doing cardio exercise 4 times a week, as well as walking every day. I think I need to get off this computer. I'm addicted to my message boards (not a lot of them, but I spend too much time)...maybe I'll make myself earn computer time by cleaning the house and doing stairs when I'm feeling antsy.
 
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