Being single is interesting. It took me many months to get used to it, but as we all know, human beings have a knack for adapting. What screwed me up in the past was intense emotions. So like, a friend could do/not do, or say/not say something, and I'd take it lightly. If a boyfriend caused hurt by one of these things, I'd get upset and confront him, and if he disagreed with my perspective, then drama would ensue. As an independent single person, I learned not to rely on a loved one for certain emotional stability. Lots of married people and smart people in good relationships are hip to this--it took
me a while. Still, I've seen some fucked up behavior in my day and am glad I'm not going to be prone to it.
Another cool thing is, since I don't see "Thomas" a lot, I have endless patience. He's nice to begin with, but he IS very stressed out from his job, and last night he was also tired (didn't affect his prowess, though, hahaha) so he said a few things that COULD have had a touchier girl making comments that would cause the situation to spiral into perhaps, a minor tiff. But since I was absolutely happy about helping Chris clean, and watching a cool movie, and having a good day at work, and being so happy that he decided he wants me in his life again, that I said something real cute and started massaging his shoulders, which were hurting him. He was putty in my hands
All in all, if it did nothing else it kept me out of trouble and probably spared me lots of drama. Now I feel like I know more what of what I want when it comes to that, what will work and what won't... 
