Happy Belated Birthday Cherry!! I am happy to hear you talking about being more open. Think of it as 2 lifes. A fat one and a not fat one. Both are the real you but I hate to say people treat each of them completely different. Open up now and you will not regret it. Thats how I look at it anyways.
Happy birthday Cherry! I am so very glad to see you deciding to live now and not when you've lost weight, though I know the feeling to an extent -- which sometimes occurs even when your just 20 lbs overweight believe it or not.
I was also floored by MJ's death, as were many people, even though I was troubled about him as well. I was one of the millions that bought Thriller at age 13. But gosh, so very young it is just surprising.
As to the weight not budging, try not to get too upset about it. Could be monthly womanly fluctuations etc, though I know how discouraging it can be. You must try to remember to take pride in your actions toward weight loss rather than your weight and its evil fluctuations.
1) no more counting of calories for a while (i started on my lifestyle change and did it successfully for 3 months without counting calories and was doing just great untill i decided to start counting cals the last few weeks and it's like all of a sudded i became over-obsessed with the whole calorie counting business which when i look back seems to have taken me a few steps back instead of forward, i don't know if that makes sense. please don't get me wrong, i'm not saying there's anything wrong with counting cals, it's just that it's not working for me right now so i'm giving it a break.) i'll just keep eating healthy portions of balanced meals as i was before.
2) no more weighing everyday for a while (i'm hoping i can weigh myself once or at most twice a week), just to see what it feels like to see a slightly bigger change on the scale as opposed to little or no changes because of weighing daily.
3) maintain exercise at 5-6times a week. at least the one thing i'm still proud of is managing to make it for exercise so will keep this up and keep trying to vary workouts every now and then.
so those are my goals for now. i hope i can keep them...thanks for all of you who checked up on me...i hope all's going well with you all as well xoxo
Time to evaluate whether this method change has made improvements, or caused some backslide.
My personal Views of it.
1)Some people can get by on this, I... for the most part am not one of them. I try to figure it in my head, and my subconscious sneaks a little more than i need on to my plate, my subconcious likes being fat for some reason, but if i keep track of everything I cant let it take me for a ride to larger pant sizes land
I think the people that don't have to pay too much attention to this are people that don't have much of a weight problem to begin with. again just my opinion
2)If you're obsessed with a number, and seeing a change on the scale, then yes this CAN be a good idea. But weight loss is not linear, especially in women. Its rather erradic with sudden gains, and losses, but if you are hitting a calorie deficit (you'd know if you were diligently counting) trust the process and it will decrease in time.
I personally weigh myself everyday and log it into fit day so i can see the trends in the graph. But Im a huge data geekMY weight fluctuates a lot, What if i only weighed once a week, and it was at one of those peaks? or one of the low points, and next week was a peak? I'd rather see the process unfold daily myself.
okay, i think that's all for now...my birthday was...sad. since i've completely shut myself out from the world i realise now more than ever that i'm REALLY lonely. for a while there i've been telling myself that i need to work on my weight loss and drop a few more kg's before i start putting myself out there.....but you know what? i'm realising now that that's not living. it's made me realise i still have issues and need to get back to concentrating on loving myself and believing that others can love me.
....it's times like these i realise we have to live everyday to the fullest...that's something i haven't done since i was a kid. my weight has always held me back, and i need to start LIVING now and not 'as soon as i've lost some weight'. i need to start opening up more to the world, i need to start LIVING.
On a more practical note, it sounds to me like you have to make some changes to your routine to get off this plateau. Maybe some serious changes to your diet and exercise programme. I don't have any good suggestions as to what those should be, unfortunately.
I personally found counting calories to be very useful at first, and did it diligently for the first 5 or 6 weeks until I had a solid handle on what I was eating. It seems to still be working. I didn't feel like i was obsessing over it, just using it as a tool.
Exercise - maybe try less cardio and more weights? That might shock your body a little.
Scale - I support the not weighing every day; it is too easy to obsess over the numbers on the scale. There are lots of different ways to measure progress.
hey just to make sure.. how much sleep are you getting?
Why not make yourself another tracker and keep it in your favourites on your pc, say for a special event which could be celebrating X lbs off etc etc etc and just keep resetting. Reward yourself with a little something at each goal achieved. Just a thought, probably a daft one but I'm a bit daft anyway.
I just love seeing things come down and charts, does wonders for me.
Belated happy birthday and keep smiling.
Hmmmn, great ideas for changing things up. I used to lose weight just lifting weights as vigorously/heavy as possible. Really worked well. I admire your decision to do more weights as I would say it takes a modicum of balls to walk over to that "male" area and get into it! Once you really know what you're doing and have your form really tight, the males oggle and look impressed hehe.
i would say at your point the cardio is a little more important than the stregnth, not saying it should be excluded, but i would say a lot more cardio than weights. i actually am going to shift to a heavier cardio load myself, i find that i am becoming really defined and such, which is nice, but i want to be a bit smaller before ii get too defined.. maybe when my body fat is like 25%.. enough about me.. just keep at homegirl, it'll fall off soon enough.
