Changing the way i feel

Tested my bike

in 1 minute going at my normal speed , the bike read 30,1 (km i suppose) i covered 500 metres.burnt 10 calories.so for 40 minutes is 400 cals only i go faster on and off.
I was checking out this site that you fill in your weight and how fast you ride and how long you're ridind and it tells u the calories burnt.
For me it says 696...Thats even better
but you guys are making me think maybe thats not right?30km isnt THAT fast...am i calculating wrong?
I googled it and its about 18,6 miles /hour.


thanks guys for your words.He hugged me this morning didnt say anything about yesterday though...I will bring it up sometime when he is in a good mood....i hate all the fighting and long faces....
 
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katehunibun said:
Hi Jasper.
I really understand how hard it is focusing on trying to eat healthy when you are unhappy. I have been there. Quite a few years ago my other half (we are not married but have been engaged for 20 years) was always grumpy, snappy and finding arguments in everything. We are all good now. But it was really hard at the time. I found standing up to him really worked. 'don't speak to me like that' is a great line. Try not to let him make you feel small, hold your chin up and be proud of who you are.

Take a look at the post on my diary that Jjjjay wrote and 'zen duck' or you could even go for the 'ninja duck' lol.

Thinking of you sweetie and keep it up, you are doing so so great and look at what you have done for me in just a few days!!!! Your comments have made such a huge difference to me.

Big hug. Xx
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so sweet of you thanks hunibun!I remember jjjay's comment with the zen duck!!!!Im ok today,well better anyway!Starting another hopefully healthy eating day!
I really appreciate it , that even with a few words i could help u a little!But remember that the 99 percent of credits go to you!!!!:)
hope u have a great day!
 
Hey Jasper, I'm sorry to hear that you had a bad day yesterday :(

I know that with a young child, as a parent it can be difficult to always keep your cool - if you are feeling stressed, or tired or hot and bothered, we can all say stuff to them that if we stand back and take an objective look, is mean or too loud or unfair. Don't be too harsh on him for that - part of being in a partnership is about saying "you look like you are getting frustrated with our son's/daughter's behavior, remember they are only little, go outside and take a break and I'll sort them out" - if you both do this for each other then it doesn't turn into a big issue. On the other hand, if you are the parent that has snapped at the child and someone is telling you not to talk to them like that, you know you shouldn't have deep down and you get even MORE defensive.

However, this doesn't excuse the way that your husband spoke to you. Is he quite traditional in his view of men and women's roles?

I found I argued a lot with my daughter's father when she was young but we always tried to keep it calm and fun around her. It was a product of us both being tired and overworked and stressed out - this made us work against each other not together to tackle the little hard bits of the day.

How about a sit down with him and just calmly talking through that you both don't seem to be working together to tackle stuff and ask him to talk calmly about what he finds difficult about how you approach things and then you talk about what you find difficult and see if you can agree to try in those different areas to compromise?

One thing to watch with the cycling - is that calories are also affected by resistance so you can be pedelling at a high speed but very lightly or really pushing against resistance and burn more calories.

Keep soldiering through hon...you are getting there...slowly but surely!
 
i dont cycle on a resistance its so hard for me.I do put resistance leven one on and of during the workout though~
Thanks for your reply I guess you;'re right.When i am angry,even if i am wrong , and somebody tells me of i get even more angry....
I will sit down with him,but i have to wait for a good moment!


Well here are the beach photos.....Dont judge!!!PLEEEEASSSEEEEE:banghead:
 
When cycling I prefer to program the Watts rather than the resistance. That way, the bike automatically adjusts the resistance to the speed you are cycling at. When speeding up, the resistance reduces and when you slow down the resistance immediately goes up - the watts dont change. As a result, all you have to do is just cycle. Its really a most practical way to ensure that you cycle at exactly the level of effort you want to make.

Make sure you only work your legs when cycling - dont move your upper body.
 
You look great in your beach pictures....you are in a suit appropriate for your size..its a great cut and style.....your legs look slender and your thighs are smooth...you should should be proud of your hard work..I think you look great and it looks like you had a great and fun time. Enjoy your successes you have earned them :grouphug: :) :grouphug:
 
Sweet daily thanks so much for your advice!!!

tetemcg thanks for your kind words so much!

We were at the beach again yesterday , and when i came hoe i couldnt get on to the forum.\There was some kind of technical problem on this site...

So here is what i ate yesterday and at night i had the rest of the salad.
I didnt like the meat steak so i just had a little of it and gave the rest to Rubi my beagle.!!!She enjoyed it a lot!!!(well she probably \OVER enjoyed cause after the steak she ate the remote control for our tv...........)
No exercise again.I came home at 9 , 30 pm...gave the baby a bath and just rested.We are going to swim again today so i ll try and get some bike done after cleaning up the house!


I a mfeeling bloated for days, ithink its time of the month,but still my period hasnt come....i got on the scales 86,8......???i just hope i am bloated and next week i'll be down to 85,5.......
I want to change my ticker\!!!!
 
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oooowwwhhhhh!!!how happy am i????:hurray::cheers2::hurray:

take a look at the pics beneath..before and after!!!! I was waitinf for this moment sooo bad!!!it means so much 2 me!!!i mean ok i didnt have easy time getiing the zip closed,but it CLOSED!!!After all this time!!!!I knew that 84 was my weight when it was made for me....I can just imagine another 3 kg gone and it will close normally as it should as it was made for!!!!!!!!I am going to update my album aswell with more pics i took to compare!!!!
 
OH WOW!!!!!! Well done you!!!!!!
That is such an awesome achievement, i bet you are so so proud. Oh and your dress is beautiful!!
I bought myself a pair of jeans 2 years ago when i was probably 15lb lighter than i am now and they were a bit too tight so i never got to wear them, now i cant even get them over my bum lol. I am going to use them as a goal. You have given me that idea!!!
Again, well done sweetie. Xx
 
thanks!!its a great idea to have some clothes you can check out after some lbs have gone!I love taking photos and comparing later!!!its so motivating for me to SEE the before and after.!!!
That dress was made for a wedding dress.Never actually happend though :-(
 
Gongrats for fitting in that gorgeous dress!! You're lookin' stunning my friend! Keep on going and you have to buy a smaller dress! :party:
 
thank u eerika!!!!i'll keep on going for sure!!!!

At the beach today again!
Not much food
Coffees as usual
Lunch only a salad with tuna but it was really big
And dinner i just had fruit.I didnt have all thats in the pic, the kiwi was bitter and the cherries the same...
So im going to see a film on dvd now and just sit i m really tired!
GOod night to all
 
thanks!!!:)
I feel i'm living only for the day i'll be slim....i know that not a good thing,but i am feeling a little obssesed.An every time i see a difference with clothes or weight , i get more obssesed.....in my head im thinking"im doing this,this time,look at me!NO FAILIURE"
\My next goal is 84 kg---185 lbs, and thats just around the corner...After that comes the difficult stuff....going on to the seventies!!!!
When i started my diet i was 96 kg---212lbs,and i was trying to think how much would i want to weigh.So i first decided on 75 kg===165lbs cause i never thought i'd even get close.But i reallized i can do anything i want and really went wild!!! 65 kg===143lbs
Thats just like a DREAM!!!!Never even thought of those small numbers!!!!!But know i am fighting every day getting closer and closer!i am so happy this is happening!!!
THANKS TO ALL YOU GUYS!!!!!!!!!!!
 
My girl Jasper!!!!

You look awesome in your dress!! I am so proud and happy for you!!! You've slimmed down a lot!! Damn girl!! The dress looks like its fitting perfectly for ya :)

It definitely is addicting when you see some real results and not just a number on a scale. I still have a little ways to go before I see some real difference but this motivates me a lot!

no failure! only more proud moments like this as we both slim down :)

*jumping high five*
 
Wow girl!!! Good on you! i love your line:-

I'm doing this, this time, look at me! NO FAILURE.

That is an awesome line to have around the house. i might write it on some paper and stick it to the fridge etc!

I know what you mean about being obsessed with losing weight but i think hey, at least it isn't being obsessed with thinking about eating which is what i did a few weeks ago. So i'm happy with weight loss obsession.
 
Im at my mother-in-laws house right now,i didnt have agood day...I got so hungry from nothing to eat from 9am i woke,i was on the run and didnt have anything ...so the first thing a found i ate and that was a pastry cheese pie...i didnt even taste good, but i had it anyway....
Then we came here , and she had made linguini with fresh tomatoes and had a plate PLUS 2 slices of bread....So i guess im done with food until i go to bed!its nearlly 7pm,i sleep at around 2 in the morning...its gonna be a difficult night!!!!!
i dont know if it was the food of the heat today but after eating i felt soooo tired....i coulnd keep my eyes open....i felt sluggish...

Thanks so much again for the kind words!Its a real battle going on here!!!so im glad that some people can read what i m doing,going through and get some strenght out of all this!

My mind is on loosing -8 kilos in the next 2 months..By semptember 4th but i dont think its going to happen.
I was 86,7 this morning.I am going to review previous pages of this diary to see how long i've been aroung here!It seems too long....
 
Well i was 87,5 on the 1st of July
week after that i must of been 86,7 (lets say i lost a kilo that week...)
week after that is on thursay comimg i should be 85,7
I'll just have to wait and see...

maybe i should think my eating over ....
I need to look good for that baptism coming up....i actually have less then 2 months
 
You don't look awful AT ALL on the beach! At the weekend I saw a woman who was at least 300 pounds on the beach in her mismatching thong and grey bra. Now SHE looked awful. You don't! Hope that finally fitting into your gorgeous dress made you see that.
 
hello!I was really on the go these days no time to get online...
Its my time of the month...so i am not going on the scales until its over !
Trying to be good.
Yesterday i had lots of fruit,it was a good day.
I havent had time to post pics so here are some of my main meals from past days.
\after the meals i only had fruit at night,so i think i did well.

Rainbow thanks so much!I do feel a lot more comfortable on the beach,last year i didnt go once to swim cause i just hated the way i looked,now after loosing 10kg i DO fell better.I actually went to the beach bar to get a coffee wearing my costume!i walked there just in my bathing suit!!!!
 
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