Originally Posted by
tetemcg

Awe Jasper so sorry your husband was mean and dismissive..maybe it was just the money part and it turned into other things...so sorry hun....YOU HAVEN'T given up on this journey ....so don't let him tell you any thing other!!! You are determined...you have done so many things for your health and happiness!! Stay strong and positive!! hugs to you my dear!-
Thank you Tete, i belive i havent given up on my weight loss / get healthy and fit journey , but hearing it from him amde me realize that i WAS that person.I know money is a big issue these days for us,i really hopw money was a major reason he said that but i dont think so.....
Originally Posted by cate
Jess I'm so sorry too that your husband was not supportive. They're not perfect & quite probably it's the money thing. Money, or lack of it, is one of the biggest stresses on any relationship. I know that it's hard financially for you & maybe that's his biggest issue, rather than not having faith in you personally. Like me, you have tried lots of things and given them up. We all do that until we find what suits us. You are proving to him sweetie that you can do it & that is the only way. Make do for now if you can with what you have maybe & broach the subject again later. Perhaps you can say that you could put aside the money you used to spend on cigarettes to save for some good running shoes. Don't be too set on which ones. Nikes may not suit your feet. It's much better to get fitted properly for shoes by someone who knows lots about them & isn't pushing a particular brand. Don't despair Jess. You'll get there in the end sweetie. We'll cheer you on. Put a smile on that pretty face of yours & keep doing what you're doing. Lots of love & hugs, xoxo Cate
Sweet cate!thank you!I dont think it was really money,cause he did say i should go get my face cream instead!!!!I think he only know me as a fat smoker...anything else doesnt really seem like ME!so maybe he thinks i will go back.But i really am not!
He didnt support me in my cutting smokes either.Actually he made it clear that its all in our minds and if we say STOP we stop,didnt belive a word i said about nicotine is addictive and i went through symptoms,my body went through symptoms.Nope!He doesnt give me any credit.And if he does then he sureky doesnt show it!
Originally Posted by success
Jasper,
I'm sorry to hear about your husband. Sometimes people don't realize how deep the things they say really can go. it's especially hard when you're dieting and trying to stick to something which is definitely NOT easy. (especially when your friends are eating fries and yummy food from mcdonalds around you, just an example) but all you can do is try to communicate to him how awful it makes you feel. I'm sure some of it has to do with the money as well but you know the best way to solve this right? the best way to silence the doubters is to prove them wrong.....YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!
Thank you success~~~!!! It is not easy we all know it and every day we come along obsticles.Sometimes we overpass them and some bad days we dont.But i see it as a big success casue we keep going~We dont quit!We can all do this cause we really want it and we will get where we want to!!!This year is going to be amazing!!!!
Originally Posted by
overtherainbow
Hiya, Hows it going my lovely? Just caught up with all your posts since I've been gone, and it looked like you had got loads of motivation back again, going for you runs as well, but you haven't been on here for a week
Lets make this a new year and a new start! By summer we can both be at our goal weights!
I will be on here properly to talk to you soon, I feel all dizzy atm. You will be getting some serious nagging from me if your off track! BEWARE!!!!! Lol x
RAINBOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!I saw you post earlier on and was sooo happy you are on here again so happy for the possitive message im getting!!!I really hope you get better soon to come on and start nagging about me not having any more biscuits!!!!
I have been posting daily , you probably got mixed up beautiful,i am really trying to get fit , Kate gave me the idea of running since she has already made it , (Kate got the idea from Joh!!!!)I remeber you also did a bit in front of the telly~!!!!
Looking forward for your return!!!!!
Originally Posted by feelinggooder
Keep focusing on the positives that you've already accomplished since starting and try not to to read too much into the idiotic things us menfolk have been known to spout out without giving any thought. Sometimes our internal filters gets clogged with Mcdonald's and sports and we forget to clean the filter.
As tete, cate and success have mentioned above you're on an amazing roll and making tons of progress with the running, diet and smoking. Have no idea if this might apply to your husband or not but I can remember a few years back my wife went on a major health kick while I did nothing. Looking back I know I didn't provide the support to her that I should have. Think for me, there was a bit of jealousy coming into play although I wouldn't have admitted it at the time.
thank you feelinggooder!After your reply i changed my signature and now it has ALL my weight loss from last May until now.I Had another diary but then i was having real bad days so i made this one and all the weight i had lost 19 kg i didnt take into mind.I started at Zero.But you are right aswell as other friends on here that told me that i must remeber ALL my success from day 1 and that is what i will be doing,
I do agree with the clogged filters in guys!!!yo made me laugh there!And i did think about the little jealousy part.I am 14 years younger than my husband , he used to play football till 2 years ago , and be kind of active but after loosing his job he stopped so maybe he is feeling a bit down about this new me , but i think he will be proud of me one day.and i hope more supportive~
Originally Posted by
mady
Jess, sorry to hear about your husband not having faith.

Try to keep a positive mind.
I’ve a history of projects similar to yours (numerous weight loss attempts, dance lessons etc). And my dad’s always saying I can’t finish anything I start. And every time I started something new, I wanted to prove to him and my family I can do it. And every time I quit I also felt really bad because I couldn’t prove to them I’m better than they describe me.
But this time I feel it’s different because I’m not doing it for other people, I’m doing it for myself. And I’ve also stopped comparing myself to others and trying to gain their approval (well, maybe except you girls when you say you’re proud of me

).
I’ve read and seen all the awesome changes you made in your lifestyle. Maybe they’re not so easy to see by someone how’s living daily with you and has know you for years. For us is easier to see your commitment and motivation. He will eventually see what we all see. Because you’ll reach your target weight and be healthy and bloody gorgeous!!!!!:biggrin:
aw Mady Thank you so much !!!This time IS different cause this time we are doing it!And the best art is we have lovely people that will support us and feel for us , just like i found lovely support in here today from all you lovely people!!!!Thank so much!
Breakfast 2 coffees 50gr muesli with low fat milk ,
Snack 1 kinder kid chocolate
Lunch chicken with rice lots of spices it was lovely!!!!salad
Dinner 1 rice cake and 6 mini cheese pies.
Ok so i didnt have a good day , not terrible but not good
I didnt go for my run i was TOTALY ON THE RUN ALL DAY.I have ironed for 6 hours belive it or not......and i still ahve more for tommorow!!!!!!!!!!!Then i cooked , cleaned...omg i am so tired.
So my husband gave me a present !money!Yeap for running shoes!!!!I took it so bloody fast and i was out of the house in seconds!!!!I went to a street that has many outlets for sports stuff.I dont know any special shops like cate said.That would be ideal!
I found a couple of pairs i liked and ended up with a last year model adidas that s purple that i love!plus the man explained to me that it is kind of what i am looking for (not very coushioned) and they where only 50 euros from 100 , after 50% sale!!!so i got them and i also got my face cream andeye cream!!!WOW!!i just had my bath and gave my face a boost with my lovely creams!Aw i loooove my creams...i hate living without them...!!!!!!
I am going tommorow for my run with Aris , at the stadium.Well its not really a stadium.It is a football field a normal sized one and around it it has the running lines , and it is NOT indoors its out doors.So its not a stadium!!!OMG!!!If my mum saw me write like this she would have a fit!!!!!She hates the fact that i speak and write fluent greek but my english that is actually my mother language is not so good!
My lovely friends i really want to say thank you again for supporting me andfor just putting up with me!!!I found all your posts here today so upliffting!!!!Thanks a million!!Loves and hugs!Im really tired so i will read on all your diaries tommorow!!!!goodnight!!!