Cate's Diary

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Cate life sucks right now for a lot of people. I hope this passes quickly for them . Here too separated families are not allowed to visit. You will all get through this
And have a wonderful reunion. Good to cry it out though.
My mother in law also sees no one now . We call her everyday. I feel she has very low days too.
The saddest restriction I have encountered though is where a husband died , was buried and his wife could not attend his funeral and is now living alone in isolation and no one can visit. I think if she was my family member I would have to break the rules.
 
Here we have exceptions for separated families; I´m so sorry your GKs are "stuck" with their mother and your son can´t go see his kids... But I walked past a kindergarten this morning where someone had hung a painted rainbow on the door with the words "everything will be ok". And it will be. It sucks for now but a year from now we´ll all be living like it never happened.
 
Cate said:
Thanks LaMa & Petal. I'm having a good cry over our older son not being able to see his kids this weekend & having to try to deal with his ex-wife. He is really upset & my heart breaks for him. It's never easy for him. I'll explain later. The floodgates have opened xo
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We are all here for you :grouphug:
 
Sorry you are upset Cate, but as I said in LaMa's diary, I think crying is the best way of dealing with things! It really helps.

I like your earlier post about focusing on your gratitudes. I think when the chips are down, you realise how good you have the majority of the time. I know I do anyway.
 
@alligatorob - Thanks, Rob. Our son got to see his kids. He took pizzas & they sat on the front lawn & talked (from a distance). He sent me a lovely photo & said he felt much better.
@liza - Thank you, hon. The day got better, thank goodness.
@Petal001 - What a sad story. That poor woman. It's complicated with our son. His ex-wife wanted him to take them for a couple of days, but his partner works in aged care. We had it half planned for him to bring them here & stay down the other end of our house, but if they had it unknowingly & gave it to him then the consequences could be dire. It was unsafe to have them. They understood. They are smart cookies.
@LaMaria - Separated families are allowed to continue with their normal arrangements too, but it just wasn't safe. Things will settle down & arrangements will be made that will work, but it's all so unreal & daunting for now. It will get better & everything will be ok again. I feel much better today & hope you will too when you wake up xoxo
@Trusylver - thank you, Tru. I do feel much better today xo
@Emilyrose - thanks, Em. Crying is exhausting though, but I think it is healing. I wouldn't want to cry too often or feel the need to. I think it was an accumulation of things & then our son being so upset on top of it that tipped me over the edge. I am really grateful for the things I have.

I got a message back from the dog breeder who does not have any pups at present. I am morally against dog breeding so I think I am actually relieved that she doesn't. When she offered me a 12-month-old "breeding bitch" if a sale falls through I knew I did not want to get a puppy from her. When I spoke to R yesterday I asked him to mention to K again about me wanting a dog as she may hear of someone needing to re-home one as she is a vet. R said I have so much love to give a dog. That was sweet. I had a cry yesterday while I was talking to him. He rang to try to work out what was happening with his brother. I said it doesn't matter how old your kids are when they're upset, I am upset. I am so happy that he is doing so well.

I got in two good walks yesterday. G has been going with me & I have been enjoying that. I don't stop & take as many photos or just sit in silence, but it has been nice. I need to be more mindful of what I am eating as the occasional sweet treat is sneaking back in, but I won't be replacing anything & there's not much left. I will need to do a fruit & veg order by Wed but will ring it through & just pick up.
 
Glad to hear you are feeling better Cate and that things worked out for your son and his kids to visit in a way that everyone felt good about. It'll take us all a bit to figure out how exactly to navigate all this. Yes very tricky when people can be carrying and not knowing. It makes me feel on edge about all sorts of things :(
@Petal001 That is such a sad story. I really hate thinking of all the lonely isolated people, but having had a husband just die and then be isolated on top of it all! So so sad.

Hope your dog works out for you soon, Cate. I grew up with lots of animals around always. What a joy and comfort they can be!

Good for you on the walking!
 
Hey Cate, it sounds like you and your son are making very rational, if painful choices. I sure hope this doesn't last much longer.

Petal, that is a sad story, not sure I would have been able to observe the social distancing thing in that situation. Lets hope people won't have to for much longer.
 
Cate glad you are feeling better . I agree with the sweet treats slipping in so we will cut them out together . As you say don't replace them .
 
liza said:
Hope your dog works out for you soon, Cate. I grew up with lots of animals around always. What a joy and comfort they can be!
Good for you on the walking!
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Thanks, Liza. I really, really want a dog, but I will wait until the right dog comes along. The walking is saving my sanity in this insane new world.
alligatorob said:
Hey Cate, it sounds like you and your son are making very rational if painful choices.
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Thanks, Rob. He saw his kids again today & took the Easter eggs we paid for. I have loved seeing the pics of him seeing his kids.
LaMaria said:
Yay for creative solutions Glad you´re all feeling better.
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Thanks, hon xo
Petal001 said:
Cate glad you are feeling better . I agree with the sweet treats slipping in so we will cut them out together . As you say don't replace them .
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Thanks, Petal. No way am I buying any more sweet "treats". We can do this!

G & I have gone for 2 walks today, I have done a little gardening & I feel much more positive :)
 
DietAccountability101 said:
Glad you're feeling a bit better in yourself :) it's easy to get up bummed about what's going on, but at least we know that the situation is only temporary.
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Thanks, 101. I feel better again this morning. Our older son always has money problems too which compound the whole thing.
jackbenimble said:
That's a heart-rending story about your son, Cate. It will be nice when we can finally emerge from our caves and reconnect with loved ones.
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Thanks, Jack. I hope some good comes out of all this.

I have felt better not feeling like I am "on a diet" and I also have not weighed myself for about 3 weeks. That must change though as I need to know. Last time I weighed it depressed me too much. I will make tomorrow the start of a new week etc & will weigh in regardless. I might start doing what alligatorob does & weigh 3 times a week- maybe Mon, Wed & Fri & take an average. OK- starting tomorrow....
I stopped the squats as they were hurting my knees.
I have been having 2 walks every day & getting my steps in each day.
I have not been doing 5:2. I haven't been able to get my head around doing it.
 
Thanks, Rob. I weighed myself this morning & was surprised & relieved to find no gain. I will use your 3 times a week average from now on. I have been scared to get on the scales.
I have developed a headache this morning & will wait until after lunch for a walk.
I did an online shop this morning & it will be delivered on Thursday afternoon. I'll see how that goes.
 
I find too many squats hurts my knees too Cate. Good to stop as we need our knees! I still include some but not too many. The walking you've been doing sounds excellent. Great about the weigh-in!
 
Cate said:
I weighed myself this morning & was surprised & relieved to find no gain.
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Not gaining is good. Hope your headache is gone.

On the squats I have to tell you when I was in Louisiana visiting my 96 year old uncle he had to show me that he could still do full squats. Your squat thing has shamed me into trying to equal him!
 
Yay for no gain! About the squats: if you´re doing them to a point where they´re properly strenuous it would probably help to only do them every other day. Or three days a week if you prefer. All or nothing doesn´t usually work for dieting and it doesn´t usually work for exercise.
 
Cate glad you had no gain . I weigh myself about 3/4 times a week too just to make sure I am not gaining to much ! but never think of taking an average . I usually go with my mid week weight .
yeah no sweet purchase now . We can do this .
 
Hi, Liza, Rob, LaMa & Petal. I think I'll follow LaMa's advice & do squats 3 times a week. The walking I'll stick to every day. It is so hilly where we live that my legs get a good working as do my knees. It was a nice surprise to not have gained during our self-isolation. Seeing a gain almost always lead me to eat something I really would rather not. My brain works in mysterious ways.
I am doing a 500 cal "fast" today. I am also trying to stretch my eating window out, but my stomach is making one heck of a racket & that may not happen. I had a fast day soup in the freezer & may have that soon. It's mostly celery.
G & I will go for another big walk today up the road. I hope to have some other contact with humans, even if it's just a wave.
 
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