Cate's Diary

I'll have to, Tru. I don't like being seen as the "baddie" but I am so over the club. I'll get through to G that he has to stop losing sleep over it. That's why we left.
 
You know he likely won´t stop volunteering your time and energy until you simply refuse to do it even though he already has promised. There will always be "just this one time". Maybe this time you can show them how it´s done, then excuse yourself and go for a walk while they do the actual work?
 
LaMa- as much as I like your idea & the thought behind it, neither of them is capable of doing it. It will be the last time & I will make that very plain.
 
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I think it's great that G and you really like a new place. For me it's way easier to get involved in something new that I like as a way to stop doing something old out of habit or feeling overly responsible. Maybe it would help to talk to G about a hard deadline where he doesn't volunteer his time at the old club anymore or maybe just pointing out how they are trying to sneak responsibilities back in until he is roped in again? Anyway, it's great he has a new place to go that you both really like. I bet it all works out fine!
 
Thanks, Marsia. I do too. Next week, after the annual tournament, is going to be the deadline. LaMa will laugh as I did, that B, my old "antagonist"/ best friend is going to "help" with the secretarial duties. Good. She knows everything ;) so they shouldn't need our help.

I decided I would go visit my old friend, V today & said I would get there at 10.30'ish. She has not been particularly well for the last few years & I really like her. She has had a very tough life.
I'll come back later, xo
 
I had a lovely visit, LaMa & then did some shopping on the way home at the fancy grocer's. Got some lovely looking veg& fruit. The cherry season has finished :(
I got home & got into my snake-proof outside clothes, boots, gaiters etc & attacked an area in our veggie garden with a mattock, that was really overgrown. I plan on transplanting a mini lemon tree into that spot & am getting it ready. The physical work felt good. I didn't disturb any wildlife :)
I was wandering around afterwards seeing if there were any more snakes in sight & my phone rang. I had cancelled the alarm on my phone & forgot about picking up A to take him to work, Whoops! I'm always early & that's why he rang. I got him there 2 minutes late.
Last night just before I went to bed there was a bat flying around our living room. I turned off the inside light & turned on the outside one & opened up the big sliding doors. I'm not sure if he went out or not. It's wildlife month up here!
I re-set my phone alarm to go back & pick A up.
I told V today about the hassles we had at the club (in precis form) & she was shocked. I really like her & will have to visit her more often. I'll take her somewhere next time I think as she can't drive far any more.
I had been thinking about going out to the club tomorrow as it's a day G & I have sponsored, but I just don't want to. The thought of it makes me cringe & I don't want them thinking I'll be back.
 
Bats and golf clubs and snakes, oh my! ;)

Well, I don't approve of you doing 'one last job' that G volunteered for but needs you to do it. There is surely someone else in the club that knows how to do it? I feel it's still taking up far too much of your headspace.
 
Em-I don't approve either, Em. It is taking up too much of my headspace. I meant it when I said I will be laying down the law. This will be the last thing I do. Next Monday's effort will be the "line in the sand."
LaMa- A mini lemon tree is a small grafted tree with normal-sized lemons. It was grown to live in a pot or in the ground, but I think it should be in the ground. We also have a lime tree that needs to go in the ground. They need to be on the wrong side of the house though as that is fenced off from the Wallabies, but it faces South.
M2M- Yes. IN our living room. Our house is made from stone & little bats seem to like it& can get in somehow. I think this is the one we get-
"Little forest bat, Vespadelus vulturnus
This is the smallest Tasmanian bat. It produces a single young and roosts in tree hollows. The little forest bat has mid to dark grey for on its back and dark grey fur with lighter tips on its belly. Forearm length: 29-30 mm, Body length: 40-50 mm, Weight: 4-4.5 gm."
They are cute little things. We try to shoo them out when they do get in & usually turning off the inside lights & turning out the outside ones & opening the sliding doors works. We live in the bush on 50 acres & have LOTS of wildlife, mostly harmless. Last night I would have seen about 30 Wallabies & Pademelons on the 2 km drive back from the highway. We call it "Wallaby party night" when that happens. It was a brilliant moon & that brings them out. Also one possum.
* Dropped that kilo I had gained. I knew it had to be water weight, but it was scary to see on the scales. I have 9 kilos to lose. *sigh*
No wine yesterday & stuck to 1400 cals.
 
Okay Cate, that sounds good to me.

Delighted that the kilo disappeared fairly quickly. I can only commiserate with you that the scales aren't moving for you right now. I do think that we can hold weight in the body when going through challenging times, even without pigging out. I suspect it could be that survival instinct kicking in - the body prepping itself for lean times. It's mad how our biology takes a lot longer to catch up than the rate of progress seems to be. Why do our brains and bodies still think we are living in the earlier time periods of human existence? That kind of stuff intrigues me.

Anyway, you just gotta keep going Cate. Wallaby party night seems like the stuff of nightmares, lol. I'm not a fan.
 
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M2M- Yes. IN our living room. Our house is made from stone & little bats seem to like it& can get in somehow. I think this is the one we get-
"Little forest bat, Vespadelus vulturnus
This is the smallest Tasmanian bat. It produces a single young and roosts in tree hollows. The little forest bat has mid to dark grey for on its back and dark grey fur with lighter tips on its belly. Forearm length: 29-30 mm, Body length: 40-50 mm, Weight: 4-4.5 gm."
They are cute little things. We try to shoo them out when they do get in & usually turning off the inside lights & turning out the outside ones & opening the sliding doors works. We live in the bush on 50 acres & have LOTS of wildlife, mostly harmless. Last night I would have seen about 30 Wallabies & Pademelons on the 2 km drive back from the highway. We call it "Wallaby party night" when that happens. It was a brilliant moon & that brings them out. Also one possum.
* Dropped that kilo I had gained. I knew it had to be water weight, but it was scary to see on the scales. I have 9 kilos to lose. *sigh*
No wine yesterday & stuck to 1400 cals.
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OK - I heard raccoons in the backyard last night - that's the extent of our wildlife lol
I'd probably have a heart attack if one showed up in my living room!

Nice work dropping that kilo and sticking to your calorie goal!
 
Glad your uninvited kilo left so soon, too. Some day when I get my life in order I will have a tiny lemon tree in a huge pot even if I never get a garden.
 
Great the kilo disappeared back where it came from! I love the sound of wallaby night under the full moon. Sounds like those scrolls of foxfire foxes meeting under the full moon. So wonderful you are gardening!!! One of the reasons I want a greenhouse is that it is too cold in the winter for mini-citrus trees here, so I want to have a few in big pots in a greenhouse. LaMa, could you have a window box herb garden where you are?
 
Em- You did make me laugh & that is not easy this morning. (I'll explain why later) You are not a fan of wildlife? Wallabies are harmless, cute critters :) I think there seems to be something in the body holding on to the fat/fluid when stressed. *sigh*
M2M- I wouldn't want snakes in the house or possums or wallabies, but a tiny little bat doesn't freak me out. A racoon in the house would be messy :)
LaMa- A small lemon tree in a big pot would be nice. We have had so many lemons from this little tree over the years, but I think it really needs to go in the ground or into a bigger pot with new potting mix, but it is in as big a pot as I can get. Do you have a little balcony?
Marsia- The Wallabies were out & about again last night, but not as many. Gardening is very good for your soul. I'm glad it doesn't get so cold here in Winter. When I stayed with my sister in Baltimore I was shocked at how cold it was. It was at the end of Winter but the ice made walking almost impossible & the wind almost froze your face & hurt. UGH.

OK- I am actually angry this morning. I got yet another call from a vet who saw he & another were not in the draw & he entered before we quit. I know that I passed this on to M & that they had paid online. I rang M & he I hadn't but that they would fit into the draw. I let this go & rang the guy & said it was probably my fault & that I had been stressed at the time. I could cope with that, thinking this will never happen again.
I woke up stressed this morning & said to G that I still felt like we were in the loop & had been lying awake upset about it all again. He then decided he had better tell me more. Apparently, while he was away M rang him FIVE times & in one of those calls asked him to go along on the day to sell raffle tickets as he "does such a good job". That in itself does not surprise me. What really upset me is that G said yes. I cannot tell you how angry & upset that made me. I told him M is playing him for a fool. I really am in shock about this. It has made me think that he will go back. I am incredibly disappointed that he could not say no to what is blatant manipulation.
I just said to him "Do you realise that M will ring you today?" G said "I know- because they had a meeting at the club last night" and I said "Do you want a weekly call from M for the rest of your life?" to which he replied no. Do you think he will ever be able to tell M that he doesn't want to hear about the club? I don't. I am going to have to be that sort of a wife because he just can't be that person who says no or says how he feels to other people.
I really hate being angry. It actually makes me feel physically ill.I'm also feeling bloody teary again. Bloody golf club!
 
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I don't know what to say, this is a terrible stress on you.

Some men as much as we love them don't see how much they are getting manipulated by others. :dupe:
 
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