Cate's Diary

Hi, LaMa. I was only ever a "pretend" hippie, ie dressed up as on, but am in spirit. There's nothing wrong with love & peace, that's for sure.
The forum going down yet again is frustrating but gave me more time off the computer this morning.
I played golf with the women today. It was a very mixed day & I really do wonder if it is worth the bother. I played my best game for a year & won the comp by 6 shots. The 2 women I played with talked about other people's weight for most of the comp, which I found shallow & irritating. They also talked about the NY's night out at a local restaurant that they & a few of the other women went to. I wondered why one of them looked embarrassed when I said G & I stayed home all night watching rock show on TV. I wasn't invited. These women have husbands. They also made comments about my game as if they were wanting me to fail. I don't get that. I am always encouraging others & praising their good shots. I started letting it get to me but quickly stopped. I am glad I was able to do that. I am not going to take on other people's negativity.
 
If that's what counts as normal it's no surprise the club's in trouble! How was G's trip to the possible other club last week or so?
 
From what I have gathered over the years & hearing stories about most clubs of any sort is that most clubs have cliques. I'm my own person, & I will be honest & open with my feelings. G's visit made us realise that we are too far away from other clubs for it to be practical.
 
cate said:
I played golf with the women today. It was a very mixed day & I really do wonder if it is worth the bother. I played my best game for a year & won the comp by 6 shots. The 2 women I played with talked about other people's weight for most of the comp, which I found shallow & irritating.
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I think this is why most of my friends are men, woman are so very shallow, my brain just seems to shut down when conversation is about other people or the latest inane TV show.
 
cate said:
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I played golf with the women today....
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my first job was as a caddie (@ 14 years + 1 day old). having a foursome of women was probably the easiest round, but boring ... every shot pretty much right down the center of the fairway. they would never ask about clubs or distances and in fact most could have gotten away with 4 clubs... off the tee, on the fairway pitching wedge, putter. ... just a 50 year old flashback. hope you had fun!

in case anyone wonders... about 90% of Caddyshack was fairly accurate. i worked at the same sort of course... Baltusrol, Springfield, NJ.
 
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Wow, I just thought it was me who had trouble talking to other moms about interesting things. I am relieved other people have trouble connecting, too, and it's not just my social anxiety. I am in a weird situation where I work from home and mostly see other moms when I go out, so I don't have many friends because of the type of conversations you guys are talking about - bleh! I usually have guy friends, but it's hard to make guy friends when you are a mom doing mom things all day! Hence my need to find a good meditation group and a good artist group! It's been so nice here hanging out with all my nerdy, happy brothers in law - they are artists and martial artists and Comicon type people and it is a blast catching up!

Cate, maybe you could take a meditation class. It really helped me getting all my questions answered in person, plus the peaceful energy of meditating in a group was very helpful plus I met interesting people who were interested in the world around them and in becoming deeper, more present people. I do have to take my own advice and do this!!!!
 
overlandflyer- My golf is definitely not boring & I would love to be more consistent. Playing right down the centre would be good! I use all of my clubs. I actually play with my husband's old clubs. I have a driver, a 3 wood (my equal favourite) & a 5 wood. My irons are a 3, 4,5,6,7(my other favourite), 8, & 9, a pitching wedge & a sand wedge & obviously a putter. I putted very well yesterday. I have never had a caddie. I really do love playing golf & that is what keeps me going. When you really strike the ball well, it's a wonderful feeling.

Marsia- I'm sure there is a whole lot of people out there that we can both relate to. I am going to seek out a meditation group, and/or a Tai Chi class and/or a belly dancing class. I am also going to listen to more live music this year. I can still play golf with the women, but I'll continue to state my opinion when I want to. We don't all have to think the same or have the same interests & I can still play golf with them & explore new friendships. I'm not going to put up with negativity or nastiness this year.

I have had quite a pleasant day today. I visited a golfing friend who was away yesterday & she was tickled pink that I had won the comp. I get on very well with her but we both can get too tangled up with talking about the club so managed to talk about all sorts of other things today & left feeling good.
G was really despondent again & I had a good talk to him & said either he leaves the club & goes and plays at another or he has to not let it get to him. He never speaks up when people bitch & moan. He never processes it & takes it all onboard & it gets him down. I tell people now that I don't want to hear about it. I'm getting better at getting things out of my system & not stewing. It's a breakthrough. He thinks being assertive is being aggressive. Being assertive often just shuts people up that go on and on and on and on, thinking that they can get away with it.
 
cate said:
.... When you really strike the ball well, it's a wonderful feeling. ...
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i'll second that... my clubs are ancient, the irons are blades and the woods are actually wood, but when you hit that sweet spot (about the size of a dime), it is a great sensation!
 
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i'll second that... my clubs are ancient, the irons are blades and the woods are actually wood, but when you hit that sweet spot (about the size of a dime), it is a great sensation!
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My clubs aren't quite that ancient but do have steel shafts, whereas most people play with graphite. I just don't feel my ability warrants getting new clubs. I also dislike waste & don't feel the need to replace old things with new, unless they break.
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I agree that it´s important to speak up when people get petty or hateful about others: if you don´t they´ll just convince themselves everyone secretly agrees with them.
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Absolutely. Most people, I think, see silence as acquiescence.
 
Hi Cate
Love your post. I am a 43 year old male and also very active when I was younger. In my mid 20's this changed and I started gaining weight. With the pressures of work, family and excuses one makes as you get older the kg's just add on. So 2019 has kicked off and yes I want to lose weight like many with the New Year commitments we make. I tried Keto in November last year but I felt i got sick at work and low levels of energy. What do you or anyone in the forum think about this in the link attached. Have you or anyone in the forum used it or come across it before?

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Oh, Doug. I do hate being spammed. If you want to be a valuable & supportive member of the forum, you are welcome. We are here to genuinely support one another, not spruik products (any products).
 
Hi, Jen & the same to you. I'll stick with golf until I can't play any more I think or it stops being fun. I do need to take up something else though. I am feeling very uncomfortable in my own body at the moment & had better get on the scales tomorrow. I'm missing doing IF. I might go back on it tomorrow & take my meds at lunchtime & see how that goes.
I don't have another doctor's appointment until next Friday.
The week after that I have my first appointment with the counsellor.
Time to start writing down notes to take with me!
 
Hope the doctor will have something sensible to say about IF. I was going to say fingers crossed for the scale but of course that was three days ago :eek:
 
I haven't weighed myself :(
I don't have much hope for this doctor at all. I need to change doctors. I'll try a different one next time. The one I was going to see seems to have disappeared. Someone said he'd done a runner.
I did not expect the forum to be back today. I wonder how many people have given up on it in the NY.
We're off to a funeral today. The woman was 92 & is the mother of one of our Vet's golfers, I play with his partner & I used to visit her when Mum was in the home. I liked her. It won't be sad. Like my Mum, it was way past her time.
 
Yeah, it was gone for ages this time! Worrying. We should have a plan in place in case it does go completely. I would hate to never be able to chat with ye again.

Are you avoiding weighing yourself? Sometimes if you know you won't like what you see, you're better off.
 
Hi Cate, so happy the forum is back up! I hope you find a nice belly dancing or any type of dancing scene or class - I bet a change will do you good, and when you write about dancing, you seem sooo happy! Hope you get a great doctor and therapist! Could you see a nutritionalist who specializes in IF if your doctor doesn't know enough about it?
 
Hi Cate enjoyed reading but zoomed through as I need to get ready for work. Reading your post about the ladies playing golf and the NYE dinner sounds too familiar to me and reminded me about cliques. I stopped going to lots of activities for the same reasons , the constant talk about weight and other people's weight . And realising too you are not invited to something that everyone else was at . That used to bother me but now I'm just so much happier as my own person.
 
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