Cate's Diary

LaMaria said:
Yay for sisters! I hope you find a way around the bossy women. Diplomacy usually doesn´t work on those types. They weaponize the social contract against decent people.
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I will find a way, thanks, LaMa. I have to. I really dislike unfairness & bullies.
Petal001 said:
Cate hope all ok I will reply later as late now . Hugs
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I'll be ok thanks Petal xo
I abandoned my FD today. I'm fine with that. I have not eaten anything unhealthy but really have felt like eating good food. I'm going to have veggies & some avocado on oat toast for dinner in about an hour. I have not eaten meat since Sunday. I have felt good about that. It was an opportunity with G away to eat what I felt like.
 
Dinner sounds really tasty. Sorry to hear your stomach was acting up.

As for the women in the golf club, if I were you, I would contact the president of another golf club and get their opinion on whatever it is they are proposing. Then you can go back and say, 'I've consulted with x and this is not the standard for how golf clubs should be run...'
 
I was rushing this morning Cate . I hope your belly ache is better . It's been a bit iffy on and off now for a bit .
Regarding the meeting I think just give your opinion as diplomatic as possible . Not all presidents as we know keep their views to themselves .
Hope you feel good when you wake and have a super day
 
Em- I'll do that. I'll message a few women I know from other clubs & ask them. Good advice.
Jen- All settled down now, thanks.
Petal- All good this morning.
My stomach has been playing up for a while now & I will make a doctor's ap't for next week. I'm fairly sure it's food-related, ie intolerances. Whenever I have something with gluten and/or wheat I get constipated & bloated & then when I try to fix that I go the other way. I do try hard to avoid gluten.
R, our younger son, just rang & it doesn't look like he & his GF are going to stay together. It's complicated, but they both feel it's not quite right for either of them. He's a little sad about that (& so am I ), but he seems to be in a good headspace at the moment. He hopes that they can still have a good friendship after a bit of separation.
I'm going out to lunch today with the golfing women. I'll wear my new clothes- navy slacks, shoes, merino cardigan & pale blue chambray shirt, with my multi-coloured (incl. blue) silk, paisley scarf. I just realised I don't have a blue bag, but will use my taupe one. We will not talk about golf or meetings etc.
It is a beautiful, sunny, Spring day :D
 
Stomach problems... :puke: Even if stuff still comes out the right end. I seem to be struggling again, too.
Sorry to hear about R and his girlfriend.
The lady from What Not To Wear always said color coordinating everything makes you look older, so yay for the taupe bag :)
 
I really agree with LaMa. The nasty ones (like at your golf course) are usually very sure they are smarter than everyone, though, so there is usually a way to quietly work around them. Glad you have your sister for moral support!

Sorry your stomach is acting up again. That really stinks, and hope it settles soon! Hugs!!
 
Sorry to hear about R. I know you really wanted things to work out for him and his girlfriend. Some of us need more time than others!

What foods for you are trigger foods for a sick stomach? I always think gluten and wheat are just in bread, is this incorrect?
 
Hi, LaMa, Marsia, Em & Petal. Thanks for your friendship & support xoxo
I'm feeling a little sad today & emotional. C, R's GF rang me yesterday & we had a 20 min conversation when I got home from lunch. I came away from the call not really knowing why they split. I thought it had been a mutual decision, but am not so sure now. She wasn't trying to get me onside but I think she wanted to explain why they were splitting. She felt that she had much stronger feelings for him than he has for her. I'm not so sure about that.
I was going to do a FD today & was also going to go to the market. I think I'll abandon both ideas. I also have Asthma from lunch yesterday. One of the staff smelt very strongly of an overpowering perfume that gave me a sore throat & literally took my breath away.
I just sent him a message & started bawling!
 
Oh Cate, I'm sorry things are a bit tough right now! Hope you feel better soon and everything works out. Nothing wrong with staying home if you need a break from things, it can be pretty healing.
 
Thanks, Lucy. I hate it when I get really emotional. I wish I hadn't sent him the message really as he has to go to work this afternoon. He just shared this video. It is beautiful & sad-
The lyrics are-
"On bended knee is no way to be free
lifting up an empty cup I ask silently
that all my destinations will accept the one that's me
so I can breathe.

Circles they grow and they swallow people whole
half their lives they say goodnight to wives they'll never know
got a mind full of questions and a teacher in my soul
so it goes...

Don't come closer or I'll have to go
Holding me like gravity are places that pull
If ever there was someone to keep me at home
It would be you...

Everyone I come across in cages they bought
they think of me and my wandering but I'm never what they thought
got my indignation but I'm pure in all my thoughts
I'm alive...

Wind in my hair,
I feel part of everywhere
underneath my being is a road that disappeared
late at night I hear the trees they're singing with the dead
overhead...

Leave it to me as I find a way to be
consider me a satellite forever orbiting
I knew all the rules but the rules did not know me
guaranteed... :

Eddie Vedder - Guaranteed This video is property of Sony Music Entertainment. No copyright infringement intended.
 
I'm so sorry Cate. It's so hard watching your kid go through things like that. It must be so hard hearing two completely different stories about it, too. I hope you find a way to make peace with everything.

Mine "went out with" a boy who had been her friend for years and he broke up with her by blurting out he just wanted to be friends over a seat in the bus, semi-publicly. Then his mom prompted him to try to be more considerate when I told her about this, and so he explained to her that he didn't want to have to have a whole half hour conversation about why he broke up with her, so that is why he just blurted it out. So I had to coach her a lot and explain about the cluelessness of boys that age.

Even something so innocent as this was really hard for me to watch and to not get over-involved in, so I really empathize with what a hard position you are in. Hopefully things work themselves out for the best! :grouphug:
 
Ah Cate so sorry to hear all that . Were they together for a long time ? You know sometimes a break is needed and if it's to be for them they will find each other again and if not well let's hope they find a path that will take them on a happy journey.
It's a worry when your kids are not happy and content . Even though mine are younger I have witnessed sadness in them at times and the worry I have for them is unreal and that was just on teenage angst . So I imagine this is tenfold but it's good he can talk to you and share .

That sore throat sure doing the rounds of us all although I know yours is allergy related. Sorry you encountered fumes again . You had been doing well .

I hope you get to look after yourself for the weekend and feel better . Think we all need a bit of care and attention to ourselves for this weekend . Sending you big hugs
 
Thanks for all of your comments & kindness. I think it's his decision mainly & I will accept that. He just rang me in a work break. I told him I'm missing his Dad, which I really am. I'm such a sook!
I decided to ring G & he just called me back. I feel better now although I got a bit teary again. I think he did too. I think he's as disappointed as me about R & C. He'll be home Monday morning, thank goodness! I so love this man.
 
Sucks about the breakup ... hopefully they can remain friends, though.

Funny, I was just reading about "Into the Wild." I read that book years ago and watched the movie. I have been a bit obsessed with Alaska lately and was reading about how tourists want to see the bus (and have basically scavenged it so nothing is left) and the townspeople kinda just want to set it on fire because they are having to go out there and rescue the people who visit. Tourists just really don't get Alaska. It's nothing to mess with. My first husband (now deceased) was born and raised there and it's life-threateningly dangerous if you are not prepared. There's a reason why there are more missing people in Alaska per capita than anywhere else in the US. They walk "Into the Wild" and they never walk out.
 
Jenniquest said:
Sucks about the breakup ... hopefully they can remain friends, though.
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I'm quite sure they will, Jen. He remains friends with all of his old GF's.
"Into the Wild" was a brilliant movie & one hell of a story. By R sharing that song on FB yesterday morning, he explained more to me about how he feels, than if he had talked to me for days trying to explain it. I understand him.
It is a beautiful day today & I am feeling much better. I started looking at tours again last night & found one that I liked the look of. It's Greece in Depth & is run by the same company that we went to Sri Lanka with & were really impressed with. I'm sure it would be much cheaper if we organised it ourselves, but I find that absolutely daunting. I'll keep looking. It does not include Venice or the Emilia-Romagna area in Italy, which we both would love to go to. I'm sure we could add that on at the start, but it will be even more expensive. This may be our last big trip though so I want to see the places we have always wanted to. More homework......
 
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