Cate's Diary

Yay for loving hubbies who wash dishes, and yay for loving friends who listen & help share life's burdens....
...they say any sadness is lighter once shared....

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maryann
 
Cate thanx for the lovely post in my diary.

Tears often just release all the tension and sadness, so cry your heart out hun. I'm sending you a big hug and maybe have a glass of wine :)
 
Maryann & Mands, I would have bet money that I had posted this morning, in reply to your kindness. Internet Explorer kept crashing & I must have given up in disgust. I think my sister may have rung while I was downloading Mozilla Firefox, now I think of it.....
You are both so sweet & I really appreciate your kindness. I have had a very difficult day. I have been without my car & my mum refused to eat or drink today. I feel like she is so confused that she has given up. The sister in charge rang me this afternoon worried about her & then had to ring me back & then I must have been on the phone(for about 2 minutes) when she did......I'm going to see her (& Mum!) in the morning. I just said to my LH that I am going to put Mum in a wheelchair & take her out for a "walk."
I spoke to my sister today but have not rung back to tell her what happened today. She & I are good medicine for one another. we usually laugh about nothing.
I almost forgot to eat today.
I have pulled my golf bag/buggy apart & cleaned everything & have been making labels for all the compartments because-
a) I am playing at another club on Monday :eek:
b) I can't remember where I put anything
c) I have (had) WAY too much stuff in my bag
d) It was quite grotty
e) It was distracting.......
OK. I am having a wine & totally trying to tune out.
Love to all & thank you to my very special WLF friends,
xoxo Cate
 
I'm sorry to hear about your Mum, Cate. That is hard. Hopefully she will eat something soon, and you were able to take her out on that "walk". The fresh air is always nice. Enjoy your golf on Monday, with that freshly clean and organized bag. Take care, Cate! :)
 
Thanks Jen_r, The sister had got mum to have 3 drinks at least & I'm calling in to see her this morning to talk about Mum. At times she can seem really snappy (she is a very hard-working person with loads of responsibility) but yesterday she was so caring & determined to try to build mum back up. She was very understanding & compassionate. I needed that. It is too hard being the one pushing for care for mum & I need some help. Qualified help is even better!
I hope I able to take her out. It's a lovely sunny day. I'll call them in a sec to see what time suits them best to have her dressed & ready & to borrow a wheelchair. My bag looks great & I am really looking forward to golf on Monday. Thanks for your kindness Jen_r xo Cate
PS I didn't go over my calories yesterday :D
 
Tough day! I don't know where to start really. When you almost spoon feed your Mum, wipe her bottom....
On the good side, as I have to find a good side, I managed to achieve in a few hours, apparently, what it has taken all week for the staff to achieve, according to them. My Mum was so dehydrated that she had not had a pee all night or all morning. I think she was very close to being put in hospital, on a drip.
I had first taken my MIL down the street & to the local market & then did her shopping for her.
Mum would not get dressed apparently but I still took her for a walk in the wheelchair & took her all around the home, in her PJ's & dressing-gown & then sat with her in the dining room.
After leaving Mum I just couldn't go home on my own, so I went out to the golf club.
I am now home, drinking more wine than I should have, but I have survived the day... almost..
We have the 2 younger GK's tomorrow & I am playing golf 3 times this week I think, with my very organised golf bag. I am going to relax & enjoy my golf, without any talk of mothers or M'sIL. Life is not going to get easier I know so I must find ways to cope. Golf, golf, golf.... preferably without the alcohol Cate!
xoxo
 
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I am glad you have the golf to relieve some of the stress on those tough days. Have fun with the GK's and thanks for the support in my diary :)
 
Hi Cate - hugs to you , so sorry to hear your Mum is struggling - but glad you were able to perk her up a bit by being with her ... so glad to hear that your sister is helpful and supportive ... I know when my own Mom was ill , my brother & I really leaned on each other...it really helped us...

Good work on staying in your calories, and turning your anxiety into positive energy & cleaning out your golf bag. ! it's definately a lot nicer golfing when your golf-bag is all in-order !
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Hope the visit with GKs is nice., best of luck for the busy golf-week ahead , good distraction from your worries, AND GooD EXERcise & FRESh Air ....

cheers, Maryann
 
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Hey Cate, I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. It brings sooo many memories back when I had to feed my mom, bath her and change her nappies. It's amazing but God gave me the strength that I never thought I had to get through it all (assuming you believe in God) And I drowned myself in my photography and it got me through. So it's very good that you have the golf to focus on - just use and abuse it with a super clean bag;)

Enjoy the wine - but don't overdo it hey.

Enjoy the visit with the Gks!

Sending plenty hugs your way!xx
 
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I am glad you have the golf to relieve some of the stress on those tough days. Have fun with the GK's and thanks for the support in my diary :)
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You're welcome & thank you! The forum is great for mutual support (& also for helping stay focussed.) It's an excellent stress reliever!
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Hi Cate - hugs to you , so sorry to hear your Mum is struggling - but glad you were able to perk her up a bit by being with her ... so glad to hear that your sister is helpful and supportive ... I know when my own Mom was ill , my brother & I really leaned on each other...it really helped us...
Good work on staying in your calories, and turning your anxiety into positive energy & cleaning out your golf bag. ! it's definately a lot nicer golfing when your golf-bag is all in-order !
Hope the visit with GKs is nice., best of luck for the busy golf-week ahead , good distraction from your worries, AND GooD EXERcise & FRESh Air ....
cheers, Maryann
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Thanks Maryann, I am feeling much better today & am glad that I did manage to get Mum eating & drinking. The 2 little GK's are hear (watching tv atm) & I'm off to golf tomorrow with a lovely woman & a nice tidy golf bag. I can't be with my mum every day so I hope she decides that she will eat today......& tomorrow....& the next day...... :(
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Hey Cate, I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. It brings sooo many memories back when I had to feed my mom, bath her and change her nappies. It's amazing but God gave me the strength that I never thought I had to get through it all (assuming you believe in God) And I drowned myself in my photography and it got me through. So it's very good that you have the golf to focus on - just use and abuse it with a super clean bag;)
Enjoy the wine - but don't overdo it hey.
Enjoy the visit with the Gks!
Sending plenty hugs your way!xx
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Thanks Mands! I didn't overdo the wine as it's not an answer to anything. I think most women have an inner strength & we are capable of much more than we think we are. Some days are just harder than others with Mum & it takes a lot of getting used to. It's mainly seeing her so skinny & frail looking that I have trouble coping with. I have lots of patience & love. Golf is a great outlet & I must make sure that I don't talk about my Mum or my MIL while I am at golf. It's hard because it's a small community. The woman I am playing with tomorrow(M) works in the home Mum lives in. I am a little crazy I know but I am looking forward to M having a laugh at my bag as I have put little tags(made like ear-rings out of letter beads) on each of my bag pockets. I don't mind being laughed at (with)as it's great to hear laughter. I made my Mum laugh a few times yesterday & the staff commented on it. :D
I had better go spend some time with my very sweet little munchkins grand-kids. Our older GS is at a friend's today.
Lots of love & thanks for all your kindness & support, my WLF friends, xoxo Cate
 
Sorry for the tough times Cate. Had to go through it with my Maternal Grandmother about 8 years ago and it was really hard on my mom. She's basically why they came down to Arizona from up north (and I came down about a year after to be closer to them). About all you can do under these sorts of impossible circumstances is the best you can.
 
Thanks Mr Vee. It is hard but I am trying to do the best I can & golf is helping me take time out. I'm off to play in an open day at another course & am trying not to be nervous. I know that it's silly as it's meant to be a fun day, but when a good golfer asks you to play with her, you want to play well. Of course that's why you have handicaps in golf & mine will be handy but I still want to play well. That's why I am on the computer, chilling out with a coffee. I have to leave home in 10 mins. I'll report back tonight.
Bye for now, Cate
 
Golf- I had a wonderful day yesterday! I played quite well & the women we played with all thought I had been playing for YEARS! They were very sweet to me actually. I didn't play one AWFUL shot at all. We were only 3 shots off winning! I can't get over how much I LOVE GOLF!! & dare I say it. I can hit the ball fairly well, when i relax & enjoy it. I plan on getting my handicap down at least another 10.
Mum- Sat with her again today & got her to eat & drink a reasonable amount. She is having an aged care assessment on Friday, which they want me to attend. I am going to sit with her in the dining room & eat lunch with the residents. I get on really well with lots of them. You can tell the staff appreciate the fact that I care.
Old friends!! I bumped into some old friends today that i haven't seen for about 7 or 8 years. It was just lovely! She was gob-smacked at the new me! It was soooo nice. I felt really proud of myself.It was funny but i didn't even twig what she was talking about until it dawned on me that she hadn't seen me since I lost weight. It is starting to fade into my background. I must never forget how far I have come!
Golf.....again! I am playing a full round again tomorrow & am really looking forward to it. Oh boy I have this golfing bug bad! :D :D
Cheers to all, xoxo Cate
 
Cate, you are becoming a pro at the golf!! Nice to see mum is eating and drinking a bit more. Your efforts are paying off.

Its an amazing when you haven't seen people for a while and they see the new you - a total confidence booster and a reminder just how hard you worked to get where you are today. That deserves a pat on the back!

Glad to see your spirits are up again!! Enjoy golf! x
 
Hi Mands, hardly a pro, ha ha, but definitely becoming an addict! Yes, it was a big boost for my self-esteem & made me feel very good about myself. With my mum I must look on the bright side. If I had left her in a home up where she lived she would have been lucky to get a brief visit once a week from my brother. I will make the most of whatever time I have left with her & try not to let it get me down too much. Off to golf again, tra la la, :D :D xoxoxo Cate
 
Had a lovely day at golf, although it was really hot on the course. It was 30oC & I was covered in sweat the whole time. I drank 3 water bottles though & stayed hydrated. I have dropped another shot off my handicap (that's 7 down now, in 4 months) and am happy about that. I played only OK I thought, but did have a birdie ( a 2 on a par 3- I drove onto the green & then sank a 10' putt!). My putting lets me down a bit so I am going to get out there and practise a bit more. Sorry.....I'm rambling on about golf again. My LH & I are going out & playing nine holes again this afternoon, which will make it 3 games in 4 days for me! :D He wants to play as he's not playing on Saturday as we're going to see Jimmy Barnes in an outdoor concert in Launceston.

I have never seen him live but have always loved his "music" although many say he's a screamer. I can't wait! I do love my rock'n'roll!
I didn't see either mother yesterday but will call in to both today. Mum is having her aged care reassessment tomorrow & they want me with her & then I am staying for lunch to get her to eat. There is no point stressing about it all & golf makes me feel so much better about everything. Talk about great exercise. I struggled to finish yesterday in the heat as did most. Not all actually got through. Talk about burn calories!
Better go see if I can find my YS on Facebook or Skype. he's arriving home for a visit in 2 weeks time & he hasn't told me for how long or times at all. I only heard about it on FB!!
Love to all, xoxo Cate
 
Good luck with your mom tomorrow Cate. Aaaah its amazing how much news get broadcasted on FB first. LOL. Enjoy your golf x
 
Thanks Mands! I did enjoy my golf & apparently would have won another chicken as I got 21 points in the 9 hole Stableford. :D LOVE IT, LOVE IT, LOVE IT!! Down another half a kilo today & feeling slim again. 4kg to go to my GW!! Again!
Off soon for Mum's assessment and then heading to Launceston to do a few things including getting a 5 wood. :D
Bye for now, xoxo Cate
 
Really nice work in here Cate! 4Kg? You can see that finish line or since you're a golfer you are on the green of the 18th hole.
 
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I did enjoy my golf & apparently would have won another chicken as I got 21 points in the 9 hole Stableford. .
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... oh my - there U go with those chicken's again Kate !! great work on another 1/2kilo down- U will be super-shape for Paris/Rome !

cheers, maryann :)
 
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