Cate's Diary

Had an absolute ball in Melbourne!
Why wouldn't I drink French champagne most of the afternoon and evening and not worry whether I was going to have a hangover or not? I was so excited to be there. We both felt like kids anticipating some wonderful pleasure. These friends are our true friends. We have shared so much with them. They know so much about us. We know so much about them. The friendships have endured through marriage break-ups and tough times, minor arguments etc. We had so much fun together over almost 40 years and still are having fun with them. It was just like stripping away all of the outer layers that we put on ourselves and the years that have passed and being right back to our real selves, only much older & greyer! It was delightful! I really love them.
We didn't speak much about our children or grand-children but a few of us said that we are proud of how they have all turned out and agreed that is probably one of the most important things that we could ever have done. One thing the champagne drinking did though was commit me to holding a 60th for my LH in 2009. Whoops! Now I just have to stop myself from worrying too much about it, follow my own advice & just do it.
I still have the sore throat etc but feel on a high from the week-end. It really was such fun! I love how I feel drinking champagne. It's a pity my income(what income?) doesn't allow me to have a bottle of French champagne at least once a week. Cheap wine really plays up with my allergies. It's the nasty sulphur. Actually it was probably more the company I kept that made me feel so good. I ate quite a lot but didn't eat any bread, potatoes, dessert so have not suffered any bloating. Considering how much alcohol I drank that's an achievement. I'm not proud of myself for drinking too much, by the way. It's not a habit that I'm going to keep.
Cheers for now(drinking lots of water- m mmm) Cate
 
Thanks CohenInAz! I did have a wonderful time. I'm still feeling great. I also received a lot of nice compliments. Well we both did, which was sweet. I never think about how old I look and don't mind anyone knowing how old I am but we were both told that we looked great. One old friend said as we were leaving that he thought the 2 of us had held up the best of anyone and looked fantastic. This was coming from someone who I didn't think ever cared about looks or vanity, or, indeed would even notice how anyone looked. Our friends said things quietly like "You're looking good- keeping the weight off I see. Well done, " that sort of thing, usually so no-one else heard. I love that. It makes you feel good, rather than a circus freak. I think you all know what I mean by that.There was only one loud, embarrassing comment at the airport from a mother of our OS's best friend, who I haven't seen since BC (before Cohen's). I really do not like that. I cringe & want to run away! Well, I did really, onto the plane!
I accidentally just posted so will continue on.
Weight only up .5kg after the champagne/yummy wine fest so all's good.
That will go in a flash and now I'm moving on to lose about 6kgs so that I can have a new, improved buffer zone.
I think exercise has to become part of my daily life and I am not doing this yet. I get on the bike occasionally but I think I need company to spur me on.
I will make a couple of calls in the next couple of days re an exercise class starting up in the new year. A local person has a private gym apparently and takes Pilates classes plus has private gym classes, either in small groups, singly or in pairs. It's a bit costly, however, and I still don't have an income.
I haven't heard back re the job application but it's early days yet. I hope I at least get an interview even though I will be nervous about it. I'll just have to learn to get over the fear and push myself.
I don't have anything to lose so that is what I must think.
I won't commit to anything until I know one way or the other though as I can't waste our money.
Looked after the GK's yesterday. Had the GD during the day & OGS for the night. It tires me a bit as they are so full on but it's ok. I know I'm really helping them out by doing it & I like to think it's cementing a lovely relationship with our grandkids.
I was going to go shopping though, but instead I'm reading diaries & typing away in mine. It's my way of relaxing. Tonight I'll be out to 8-ball & I'll go to the supermarket then as there's one around the corner.
Cheers for now, Cate.
 
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Fell asleep in my chair yesterday afternoon. I felt so lethargic & tired. It must be the after-effects of my over-indulgence at the week-end!
We went to 8-ball last night & I had a couple of piccolos of Aust bubbly. What a let down. I'm back to the water, I think. I've been spoiled!
Nothing tastes as good as slim feels and
Nothing tastes as good as French Champagne!!!!
I have been busy today ironing & house-cleaning so have taken some time out to post.
We are off to another 8-ball calcutta tonight but I won't have to drive thank goodness.
I do feel fairly tired at the moment.
We have too much on in the next few weeks. Christmas is crazy! I haven't drunk enough water obviously in the last couple of days as I've bloated. My body is holding on to the liquid, worrying that it's not getting enough. I'll go get another big glass & toss it down.
I think I only drank about 2 litres yesterday and have only had about 1.5 so far today. I might have to start pouring out a 3 litre jug each day tomake sure I drink enough. I think it's because it has been cold again.
Nothing much to say today for a change. I love the activity in the forum at the moment and it's fun to see participation in the handbag thread, including from non-Cohenites. I think heavy handbags are a common cause of neck/shoulder & back pain in women. I keep an eye on that now & my back is grateful.
Cheers Cate
 
Weight back down to LW+5.5kg so I'm back on track. It's funny but I seem to need to change things around, even now, to make my weight move. Some Carbs make it shoot up fast. Sometimes I'll have Chop Suey(minus noodles) for breakfast, sometimes yoghurt & fruit, sometimes eggs/mushroom/tomatoes on crackers. Whatever it is I eat I have to keep carbs(pasta, rice etc) to a minimum. Wine on it's own doesn't seem to upset the equilibrium or weight-loss so long as I stick to the maintenance guidelines & resist eating late when the pizzas etc come out!
We went to the 8-ball calcutta last night and didn't get home until 1.15am. I wasn't driving, for a change. I drank 1 too many Merlots though as I woke up very thirsty. I was surprised to see the scales 1kg lighter this morning. Instead of thinking that it's ok to drink too much & it won't hurt me, either on the scales, or just health-wise, I know this is not true. We are going to a Christmas party tonight & I'll stick to water or Diet Sprite(also not healthy I know).
My LH is working all week-end and I might try to get some more ferns potted for the market. I also have some other stuff I might try to sell, like some huge polar fleece jumpers & some leather handbags etc.
I have zilch energy today, due to very late night & too much Merlot so will try to get on the move. Cheers for now, Cate.
 
Just got back from my LH's work Christmas party. I couldn't have diet sprite as it was not BYO at all so I had a Coke Zero & 1 glass of Merlot after dinner. I didn't enjoy the party at all. Now I know how my LH used to feel like at my old work dos.
I'm so glad I don't have to go anywhere at the week-end. I might hermatise.
I'm tired.
It's my DIL's birthday tomorrow & I might just visit them briefly in the morning before they head off for the day & give her my present. I bought her some resistance bands & sports socks as she's really enjoying getting into exercising and she could use them at home easily. She's looking good & getting fit going to classes. I wouldn't mind going too sometime to see if I would like it but am a bit hesitant. It's her space.
Too tired to make sense of myself tonight so I'm off to bed, 'night, Cate
 
Slept in until 9.15! Did very little today. Rang my sister(she had left a message last night) & spoke to her/listened to her for about 1.5hrs, read the paper, cooked some vegies & that's about it really.
I don't feel so tired I'm grumpy any more though. Just lazy.
Also rang my DIL & wished her happy birthday instead of visiting as it was teeming down this morning. Wild & woolly. It's also very cold. Yesterday am it was hot! Crazy Spring!
Cheers, Cate, (yawning)......
 
Coooeeee!!! Im Back

hi Cate,


So happy to hear your time with friends went so well.... Nothing like having a good time to make you feel goood in more ways then one...

I think you are on the right track with the exercise, Light weight bearing exercise are also a good option, great for the muscles,skin,bones and soul..
I am sure if you talked to your DIL about the classes you may be suprised.. You seem to have a good relationship... exercise can be good when you have company.. i find sometimes its the only way to get it done.. ha ha ha...

Well i am doing the rounds this morning lot and lots to catch up on... so trying to keep everything short and sweet...

Ps. i am not a big drinker just the occassional tipple but i do miss it...:drool5:

TTFN
Chelle
 
Hi Chelle, Thanks for the visit. I'm feeling a bit sensitive & almost teary today. Certainly very touchy. I rang my DIL yesterday & wished her Happy Birthday, but later in the day msg them both & my DIL again this morning to see if they were going to be home for a quick visit to give her my present & hadn't heard back until 1 minute ago. I was starting to do the bloody female thing- "What have I done wrong?" & getting my knickers in a twist for no reason. My DIL has lost her phone. They are just on their way out. I hope they call in later as I think I need a dose of family.
If I still had TOM I would think it's about to arrive the way I feel.
Actually I don't feel well. I have asthma badly today again & did yesterday as well. It'sbeen raining heavily and I also got "Lynxed" at theFriday night Christmas party. I am allergic to many perfumes & de-odorants, Lynx being one of the worst for me. Someone nearby got a Lynx pack as his Christmas present & opened it & sprayed it all over himself. It takes my breath away literally. I had quickly gotten up & moved away fast but it was too late. I'm getting to the stage where going out to functions means I suffer for a few days afterwards. I didn't from my Melb trip which was lucky.
My sister in Vic suffers worse than I do & has to wear a mask in public. I really hope I don't get to that stage but I know it's getting worse & it scares me. After a strong reaction like that one you almost feel that you have chronic fatigue. I dragged myself out of bed at 9.30 this morning & once again feel exhausted.
My son just msg me again & sounded sweet. I haven't told anyone, including him, that I don't feel well. I hate complaining & sounding needy but just typing that has made me a little teary. What a sook!
I think I'll go for a walk. I hope they don't visit while I'm gone though. I'll leave a note & they can ring my mobile if they do.
I had better go before I make anyone else miserable,xo Cate(won't delete, as part of my saying it how I feel warts & all "motto")
 
I exchanged lots of messages with my OS & have told him how I feel about something that has been bothering me for a few days. I don't want to share it with you but the gist is we have resolved the issue. He has reassured me. I will stop worrying.
I went for a good walk & did some physical work down in the bush. Would you believe I just tidied up branches into a big pile, ready for burning sometime. It might take me a while to tidy up 50 acres don't you reckon? I just needed to get rid of my negativity & the physical exercise helped as always.
The air has cleared in more ways than one. It's not quite as humid & I'm breathing better. I was really nervous telling our OS how I felt but I am relieved that I have. We have brought our sons up to be honest & they are very honest. Part of that is hearing about some things that maybe we wish they didn't share. You can't have it all. I love them so much and I said worrying is part of my job description as "Mum". He has not done anything wrong. Neither of them do. I am really proud of our sons. I guess I am always scared when I say how I feel about things to them as I am scared of risking our relationship.
OK- just thought I would let whoever's reading this know that I'm ok.
Tomorrow it's going to be exercise, exercise, exercise.
Exercise= positive Cate.I had forgotten!
Cheers, Cate
 
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Thanks CohenInAz! I share my feelings here more than anywhere else. It probably saves my family's sanity but not the forum's!
Woken up feeling much better. Told my LH about my day and he said little but was sweet. I know how lucky I am to still have this lovely relationship after 37 years.
Had an early night for a change and he's gone to work again. He has the next 3 days off & we're going to go dig up some more ferns for the market stall on one of those days-probably Wed. He plays golf Tuesdays and I have the GK's
It looks like I'm not going to get an interview for the job I went for as I haven't heard anything back yet, except for the initial "We have received your application" blah blah standard letter. If I don't hear back it will be the first job that I have applied for that I didn't get! I'm not really bothered. It's only the money I want. I don't need a job to feel fulfilled any more.
It's another wild & woolly day today but I'm feeling good. I'm not sure what I'll do yet. I might sort through some things to try to sell at the market, other than plants. I wish I had a ute. I enjoyed my couple of hours in the bush yesterday. I think "going bush" is excellent therapy for me.
Which reminds me....I don't think I'll bother going to see the film "Australia". It sounds really silly. On the other hand we saw the new James Bond movie "A Quantum Of Solace" in Melb. last Monday and I loved it. I have always liked James Bond movies. They are escapism at it's best. Well, I like them anyway.
I haven't weighed myself for a couple of days. It should be ok as I'm eating "Cohen's food" only. I have had a bit of an upset stomach, probably from getting stressed so feel the scales would not be an accurate reflection of where I'm at.
Thurs. we are going in to my MIL's to help her (we'll do them) make her Festive cakes and then my LH will play 9 holes of golf. Instead of staying at my MIL's afterwards I might go catch up with the guy who said he would show me how he runs & how he warms up etc. Then I can go pick up my LH & come home. Sounds like a plan. I hope my asthma has cleared up by then. I have a little belt that holds a water bottle & a puffer & my keys that I will wear so I should be ok. I won't go running if I feel bad though.
I kept a page from a Melbourne paper with instructions on building up to running and was thinking of doing that instead but I like the idea of going with someone.
Better go do the dishes, washing etc.
Cheers, Cate
 
I just ordered The Beck Diet Solution online. It's not in stock so I'll have to be patient. I have never thought as a thin person so I guess a little bit longer shouldn't hurt too much. The power of cognitive therapy shouldn't be sneezed at. Only $29.66 Aust!
Cheers, Cate
 
I just realised I hadn't posted. I have been flat out all day gardening/burning etc. Have had a very physical day. Had our OGS last night so forgot to post about my day. Did lots of gardening yesterday as well. The place is looking pretty good but with 50 acres there's a lot left to do. Ha ha, as if!
Yesterday- visited our OS & DIL for a couple of hours and didn't have our GD for the day. I got off lightly! They were doing some gardening. I just had to come home to do some more.
Our grandson is so easy to look after. Noisy but so easy to get on with. I adore him. He's not perfect and he tunes out all the time, especially if I let him(when I let him) play on the computer. He does love Mathletics though which is good. I limit the non-educational games, because I can!
I am enjoying the grandparent bonding, which is my reason behind having them. I absolutely loved my grandparents & great Aunt & Uncle who I saw as often as I liked as they lived within walking distance. It's a shame we don't have that any more. Globalisation does have it's down sides.
We're off to 8-ball again tonight. I feel really bloated tonight & am retaining fluid. I figure I must not have drunk enough with all of my exercise the last few days.
I will fix that tomorrow. I have booked myself in for a haircut tomorrow which will give me a wonderful excuse for not staying at my MIL's after we finish the cakes.
Cheers for today, Cate
 
What a wondeful life

Wow, Cate you certainly seem to have lots to keep you busy... how lovely...Glad to hear you are sounding better/happier...Occupied... Cakes... yum what sort?... I am just posting quickly as i need to get the kids off to school... I am bad, tut tut... My mum has a cd and book called think yourself thin.. it really is quite interesting cant think of who its by.. A man, i shall try and dig it up.. whats this beck diet? Well i hope you have a good day.. i better go.. lots to do christmas wise today.. Take care and be kind to yourself.. Goodluck with your cakes..

TTFN
Chelle
 
The cakes are Festive cakes, full of chunky-cut dried fruit & nuts. My MIL gives each of her "children" one for Christmas but we now make them for her at her place. The day was very difficult & we both felt like strangling her by the time we got out of there. I'm going to type the recipe up & she can give each of them the recipe along with the cake for Christmas. I asked her today if she wanted me to & she thought that was a good idea, which surprised me. It's a bit silly us making them when they are all more than capable of making them themselves.
I sometimes sound like a real bitch but if you met my MIL you would realise I tone down how she is. She is the bossiest person I have ever met! I do, however, love her & she is my LH's mother so I still do things for her. Enough of that.
I had my hair cut this afternoon, after dropping my Lh off at golf. I didn't get it so short this time. I saw myself side on in a mirror while I was waiting & I got quite a shock that I looked just like my OS, who I adored. I decided to keep the length at the back & just keep it wispy. I so much miss my sister!
After getting the haircut I went for a big, brisk walk around town for about an hour. I sure got the heart rate going. It was excellent!
I bumped into a friend today & her partner has just gone into care. He has dementia & is only my husband's age. He has gone downhill so fast. How scary and how sad?
It's time for an early night tonight I think as my LH has to work tomorrow & we have a dinner to go to. Another Christmas party! Is it just me or does Christmas go forever. A friend of mine said yesterday that "everyday is Christmas for all of us" and I think I agree. I have told our OS & DIL not to buy us anything & I must tell our YS as well. I would rather the money was spent on the kids(grandkids) than us.
We might have to have a bit of an austerity drive anyway for the next month. I haven't heard anything about the hospital job since my initial application acknowledgement so obviously am not going to get an interview. I think I prefer the "stress" of not having much money to the stress of having an interview or starting a new job. Crazy I know.
I ate some toasted sandwich last night at 8-ball & have felt uncomfortable all day. I feel like I have a brick in my stomach & it hurts.
Bread hurts me! I have tested this so many times that you think I would have learned my lesson by now. They looked & smelled so good. Silly me.
I'm feeling mentally good at the moment though. Exercise= happy Cate.
Good night folks, Cate
 
Bread- That's it.No more bread.
Feel better today, after BM, but is not worth the pain & discomfort. I'll spare you the details!
I am feeling so much better for exercising. It's cold & wet here today so won't be going for any brisk walks. I'm going to follow the guidelines of building up to running that I got from a Melbourne paper & that means today is a rest day. Ha ha. Good timing.
We have to go to a dinner tonight & it's the last thing I feel like doing. We'll be at a table with a snobby woman I don't like much who is married to a good friend of ours. She probably says the same thing about me, except for the snobby bit.
I'm still in my PJ's & want to be a hermit today!! I really hate it when you have to go to something social & just don't want to. It's funny but it nearly always ends up being fun when you least expect it to be. I'll try to hold that thought.....
Feelings- I think as I get older some of the characteristics that I had as a child seem to be exaggerated. I'm too touchy. I analyse almost everything. I alternate between feeling self-confident but then the rug gets pulled out & I fall flat on the floor. I see slights where probably there are none. This is with our circle of "acquaintances" rather than anyone else. Going to Melb. & catching up with our old friends has re-inforced how much I really miss & love them and how different our so-called "friendships" are these days here in Tassie. We have lots of "acquaintances" but very few real friends. We have very few common interests with most of them here. Luckily we have each other. OMG how lucky I am!
MIL- I still haven't recovered from our day with the MIL. I'm bashing the keyboard.
My toes are freezing so I had better admit I'm still in my PJ's & summer slippers at 10.56am & get myself off to the shower & think about doing some housework & going out tonight.
This may sound like I'm as cranky as all hell but I'm only moderately cranky. Menopause? Maybe!
Jan- I just realised I read Jan's message to me last night in Chelle's diary & didn't reply because I was too tired & went straight to bed. Jan I have been in here too long today ranting & raving so I won't go back in there now or I'll never get dressed. I just wanted to say you made me laugh out loud, which was great after my horror MIL day!
You seem very sweet & I can tell where your daughter gets her sense of humour from! I'll be back tomorrow and post to you in more detail. Take care and thanks for all the trouble you went to for me. That's really nice, xo Cate.
P.S. I'm not usually such a grump. My MIL brings out the worst in me. She makes me want to scream.
 
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...Hmmmm......

Dear, dear, Cate,

Obviously we all would like to stay deviation free... That would be ideal..perfect... EASY..
Re: Deviation thread, i regret terribly having posted the thread.. this forum is too small.. i just thought it was a bit of fun... a friendly time waster... but hey, i have done it now... i saw it on a different forum and it was very busy... More of an encouraging brag then anything else, a reinforcement to not deviate rather then an option to deviate... I may just kill the dog now and not post in it again... and hope, it slips off the page eventually....

Forum's are all about opions, advice and encouragment.

As you have said previously this is your diary.. all about you.. you post what you like... We all try to be considerate of each other when posting and no one can ask for more then that.. There will always be conflicts/disagreements it happens with groups of women....HA HA HA HA.. No seriously, we are individuals with the blessing and ability of free thought...

I think the touchy, over analysing thing is just part of our DNA... we are all human and i think 99% of the population experience it, the rest lie.. :sifone:...


The power of the MIL is a strong one, feel the force within you Cate, I can...

Take Care
Be good....
TTFN:seeya:

Chelle
 
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Yesterday- I revved myself up into a good mood to go out by tidying up our Snooker room while listening to our old vinyl LP's. I put up posters & silly drunk sayings from our old pub and had a dance in between and then decided to try to teach myself the finer points of Snooker. I ended up playing a couple of games(still dancing to The Rolling Stones). I can now actually remember what colours are worth what points for a change. I am going to try to improve my game & then sneak upon our sons & surprise them. It seems silly having a beautiful Snooker table & not using it.
We went out to the golf dinner & had an ok night. We were seated at the "official" table but the company was good up our end of the table. Met a really nice couple and got on very well with the wife. We discussed playing golf ourselves & both said that we wouldn't mind having a hit but dont particularly like large groups of women, don't like being bossed about and probably would never talk about anything else with our husbands if we started playing ourselves.
After the dinner one of the bossiest women came up & pulled up a chair next to me & asked me if I would like to start playing golf with them. The other woman & I both burst out laughing & then had to explain that we had been talking about "having a bash" sometime. I can't possibly explain why I don't want to join them as it can only be offensive. I said I'd have a think about it & thanked her for asking me. There are a few very bossy women in the club, one of whom is just like my MIL.
Speaking of MIL- She just rang & was sweet to me. Sigh.........
I would love to have a go at golf but am not sure I can mix with the women. We helped last night cleaning up & the main one was ordering me about. She also talks about "her ladies" as if she's the Queen Bee" or something. She thinks she is & I don't know if I could stand it.
Market- I cancelled going to the market today.
I could give lots of reasons but won't. The main one is my LH was asked to work & I am scared of doing anything for the first time but especially on my own. There is another one in 2 weeks & he is not working. I don't have the confidence on my own. I never have had much confidence.
The Beck Diet Solution- I had ordered it but it is out of stock & they can't promise it so the company thought it best to cancel the order. I'll try again.
I haven't had my breakfast yet as I woke up really full from the dinner but will go have some yoghurt anyway.
Cheers, Cate
 
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We read messages the way we choose to.. It is hard to punctuate a posting... I was not totaly offended for goodness sake...Cate you are being to sensitive.. I am okay... No skin off my nose.. i was trying to tell you not to worry...

Dear Dear Cate...
Chelle
 
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