Byebye Big Bum!

LOL!!
Jay's soap opera!! I suppose it is!

Jana - I do that too!! Sneaky conversation extending emails!! LOL. Just forgot to do it here. I will definitely be in touch with him again, don't worry, we have got past that stage.

For me, weight loss is very bound up in what's happening elsewhere in my life - like for example, I've had a couple of KILLER days at work - a 6 hour meeting on Tuesday without a break or any food, I worked 7am to 7pm yesterday in the office to prep for today - and ate my way through most of the vending machine (ended up around 2000 cals for the day but only because my main meals were pretty sparce) and today I have a 9am to 5pm meeting - will be lucky to get a break in the middle for lunch to be honest. Its all pretty intense at the moment and I don't think we're going to settle the deal anytime soon...so emotionally I end up grabbing food when I can and TRY to control this by being organised and having healthy fall back options....In terms of men...I cannot lie, throughout my adult life certain men have been my motivation for doing things...and for the main part its pretty positive...I would never have taken up rock climbing if I hadn't fancied a guy, or canoeing...or sailing...OMG, my head is so easily turned!!! hahhahaha. At least I get the benefit of having tried all this cool stuff.

On the other hand, the negative is that if things haven't gone well, I'd usually open the fridge and eat...big time...or get out the sweets...but NOW I'm more likely to go "urgh rubbish day..I'll go for a run to clean out the cobwebs" and it sorts me out mentally.

Right, off to drive up north now for this mega meeting...cheerio til later on!
 
you look awesome! :D congrats on all your success so far :D

the way you look now, is how i want to be at the end of all this :D

as for Mr. X, sometimes us gals have to be a little more proactive :) depending on how much you like him of course...but honestly i'd call and say ' what's up? i didn't get a reply back from you via email'...and you should be able to tell from the tone of the call whether he was really just busy or if he is not entirely interested. just my two cents.
 
I'm also enjoying the soap opera. Even if it doesn't come to anything in the end at least you are enjoying it. It's a safe harmless little relationship which is good for your ego so enjoy it while it lasts. I remember something similar years ago. I was working at a branch office and talked daily with somebody from the head office. When I finally got to meet him he was drop dead gorgeous but it never got any further than heavy flirting as we were never unattached at the same time. 30 years later I still have fond memories of him.
 
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Don't be too impressed I am at work 8hrs a day with mabe 30 min of actuall work!LOL Got to say that your diary is very fun and interesting to read!!! Sailling and Rock climbing look like so much fun!!!!
 
Looking very nice so far. you have so much motivation it is inspiring. Hopefully I can someday try as hard as you do. your doing great so far keep going and never give up!
 
jjjay said:
In terms of men...I cannot lie, throughout my adult life certain men have been my motivation for doing things...and for the main part its pretty positive...I would never have taken up rock climbing if I hadn't fancied a guy, or canoeing...or sailing...OMG, my head is so easily turned!!! hahhahaha. At least I get the benefit of having tried all this cool stuff.

Right, off to drive up north now for this mega meeting...cheerio til later on!
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Though I've been chronically single for a while now (oh, so very single), in the past in relationships I tended to be that way as well, trying the things that they wanted to try. But it occurs to me that now, since these changes have been happening, if I were dating again it would be more likely to be the other way around. I think I'd be the one suggesting "Oh, let's try this!" now. Do you think it could be like that for you, too? Why not be the one suggesting all the fun and exciting new things to try? :)

Hope you have a good trip and a great day. :)
 
Hi jjjay!

Just got a minute to say hi and "WOW!". Great pic! You dont look 186 at all!

I'll catch up on Sunday.....hope you have a great weekend! Hugs!!!
 
JanaNanner said:
Though I've been chronically single for a while now (oh, so very single), in the past in relationships I tended to be that way as well, trying the things that they wanted to try. But it occurs to me that now, since these changes have been happening, if I were dating again it would be more likely to be the other way around. I think I'd be the one suggesting "Oh, let's try this!" now. Do you think it could be like that for you, too? Why not be the one suggesting all the fun and exciting new things to try? :)

Hope you have a good trip and a great day. :)
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Ah, I may not have explained in the best way...I mean, I do things I have always fancied doing but REALLY go off and learn how to do them properly because I like a guy that does that thing. I.e. fancied a guy who liked rock climbing, so I went off, joined my uni club, got really good at it, made loads of friends who are climbers, then got to be friends with the guy because I bumped into him lots at climbing places and by that stage, I WAS a gnarly climber :D hey presto. I get a new hobby and friends that I really like, he gets impressed by me hahahah. But I kind of liked him in the first place BECAUSE he liked doing that sort of stuff that I'd always fancied doing...does that make sense?

In relationships I am usually quite independent and adventurous with lots of hobbies and friends, but I do have a tendancy to pick up a new hobby, be a bit obsessive about it for 6 months, get really good at it, buy all the gear and then do it on and off whilst I pick up my next new hobby a year or two later! In fact, if I fancy trying somethign out, I usually just go off (not bothered about doing this on my own), join a course or a club and meet people as I go along. Great fun :D I think it probably comes from being an only child and just having to get on with doing stuff by yourself.

Flumes said:
Hi jjjay!

Just got a minute to say hi and "WOW!". Great pic! You dont look 186 at all!

I'll catch up on Sunday.....hope you have a great weekend! Hugs!!!
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Oh Flumesy, you are SO missed by all and sundry here!! Come back soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooon!
Our loss is your family's gain though I guess!!
Big hugs from this side of the pond!


Urgh. Today was BUSY with a capital BUSY. In a meeting from 9am until 6pm with no break - just sandwiches brought in partway through. Still managed to eat too much as there were chocolate biscuits...sigh...needed the sugar rush to keep on top of my game in this meeting - pretty tough negotiation with 7 of them, 4 from my clients and 2 of us. Fun stuff though.

No time for a run tonight...nor any energy sigh. Wish I could fit it in. The next week is looking more and more impossible though. I have so much work before holiday next week - in fact, ARGH. What am I going to do in Turkey for 2 weeks with no internet access?!?!? EEK! I wonder what international roaming AND internet charges on my iphone would cost - a small fortune no doubt!! Better ring the cable company to check before I go LOL.
 
jjjay said:
Ah, I may not have explained in the best way...I mean, I do things I have always fancied doing but REALLY go off and learn how to do them properly because I like a guy that does that thing. I.e. fancied a guy who liked rock climbing, so I went off, joined my uni club, got really good at it, made loads of friends who are climbers, then got to be friends with the guy because I bumped into him lots at climbing places and by that stage, I WAS a gnarly climber :D hey presto. I get a new hobby and friends that I really like, he gets impressed by me hahahah. But I kind of liked him in the first place BECAUSE he liked doing that sort of stuff that I'd always fancied doing...does that make sense?

In relationships I am usually quite independent and adventurous with lots of hobbies and friends, but I do have a tendancy to pick up a new hobby, be a bit obsessive about it for 6 months, get really good at it, buy all the gear and then do it on and off whilst I pick up my next new hobby a year or two later! In fact, if I fancy trying somethign out, I usually just go off (not bothered about doing this on my own), join a course or a club and meet people as I go along. Great fun :D I think it probably comes from being an only child and just having to get on with doing stuff by yourself.
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Yeah, I see what you mean now. :) But you did make me think about how I would probably be different now in a relationship, if it weren't for the fact that I am chronically single. :D

What's interesting is that I have a sister and we're really, really close and I think that because I always had her around I didn't need to meet new people as much, so it's kind of an opposite situation from yours. I'm terrible at meeting new people. Really, really terrible. But I often didn't feel like I needed to and now that I want to I'm so awful at it. :D I hope you'll rub off on me some.
 
JanaNanner said:
I'm terrible at meeting new people. Really, really terrible. But I often didn't feel like I needed to and now that I want to I'm so awful at it. :D I hope you'll rub off on me some.
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Same here. Growing up there were 6 of us kids and we were army brats, moving where ever they sent my father, so we were always each other's friends and never bothered trying to make new ones in all the new places.

Then my parents divorced in my early teens and my mother moved us back to her small hometown (population 700) - which is one of THE HARDEST places to try to learn how to make friends with people. They always exclude outsiders it seems.

So even though I was kind of shy, and it REALLY put me outside my normal comfort zone I figured I would fake it till I make it. I went all out in activities like drama club, annual staff, et (but NO SPORTS!)

Even all these years later I still sometimes fall back into my old shy ways - keeping to myself, not meeting new people. I've lived here almost 20 years, but I still feel like and outsider because I wasn't born here. My husband (the social butterfly) says that it makes me appear stuck up because I don't talk to people. And people find me unapproachable. He thinks I intimidate them because in a small town of 300, I'm one of the few college educated people with a good job that pays more than minimum wage.

Besides, I think most of them are just a bunch of nosy gossips because when I DO talk to them, all they want to know what my salary is! My own husband doesn't know what my salary is - so I sure as heck am NOT going to tell the town gossips!
 
shygemini said:
you look awesome! :D congrats on all your success so far :D

the way you look now, is how i want to be at the end of all this :D

as for Mr. X, sometimes us gals have to be a little more proactive :) depending on how much you like him of course...but honestly i'd call and say ' what's up? i didn't get a reply back from you via email'...and you should be able to tell from the tone of the call whether he was really just busy or if he is not entirely interested. just my two cents.
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Aww thanks Shygemini - I know exactly how you feel - I would have jumped with absolute joy when I started at 238lbs at being this size, in these clothes and looking like this...in fact I AM JUMPING WITH JOY now (I mean, not right now as that would make typing quite difficult!). With hard work and focus you'll get there - its all so doable, you just got to want to do it enough.

As for Mr X....yeah, I am doing a fair bit of the running LOL...I will call him at some point, I KNOW if I did today, he'd be pleased to hear from me and we'd have a great chat. Or if I sent him an email saying please give me a ring, he'd call back the moment he next sat down at his desk. But I'd feel like I would have to have somethign to discuss with him. He won't just call or email me - his position is too....official....and IF he were to be over friendly and someone thought it were inappropriate, he could get in a great deal of trouble if someone made a complaint about him. So its a bit unbalanced like that, whereas I am a mover and a shaker and a networker and it only improves my commerical connections and working well for my clients, to be in touch with people like him...so I have a "bonefide" reason for how I am acting :) ...whereas he is more open to just appearing like he has a crush on someone and not maintaining objective judgement IF he starts being the one making the moves. Think along the lines of...he's like a district attourney/prosecutor and I'm like a (slightly more junior) defence lawyer - him calling me on official business is never good news for one of my clients!! It's all good fun and games really...:coolgleamA:

eyckmans said:
I'm also enjoying the soap opera. Even if it doesn't come to anything in the end at least you are enjoying it. It's a safe harmless little relationship which is good for your ego so enjoy it while it lasts. I remember something similar years ago. I was working at a branch office and talked daily with somebody from the head office. When I finally got to meet him he was drop dead gorgeous but it never got any further than heavy flirting as we were never unattached at the same time. 30 years later I still have fond memories of him.
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:iagree:Definitely my sort of interaction - fond memories and a bit of a "what if" thought...makes the day so much more fun.

size32someday said:
Looking very nice so far. you have so much motivation it is inspiring. Hopefully I can someday try as hard as you do. your doing great so far keep going and never give up!
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Thanks size32someday! :waving:

Tigpuppy said:
Same here. Growing up there were 6 of us kids and we were army brats, moving where ever they sent my father, so we were always each other's friends and never bothered trying to make new ones in all the new places.

Then my parents divorced in my early teens and my mother moved us back to her small hometown (population 700) - which is one of THE HARDEST places to try to learn how to make friends with people. They always exclude outsiders it seems.

So even though I was kind of shy, and it REALLY put me outside my normal comfort zone I figured I would fake it till I make it. I went all out in activities like drama club, annual staff, et (but NO SPORTS!)

Even all these years later I still sometimes fall back into my old shy ways - keeping to myself, not meeting new people. I've lived here almost 20 years, but I still feel like and outsider because I wasn't born here. My husband (the social butterfly) says that it makes me appear stuck up because I don't talk to people. And people find me unapproachable. He thinks I intimidate them because in a small town of 300, I'm one of the few college educated people with a good job that pays more than minimum wage.

Besides, I think most of them are just a bunch of nosy gossips because when I DO talk to them, all they want to know what my salary is! My own husband doesn't know what my salary is - so I sure as heck am NOT going to tell the town gossips!
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I can understand the small town thing Tigpuppy - although not quite as small as 700!! The mind boggles!! I moved to a small town in the UK from london (still like 15,000 people though...) but people here have known each other all of their lives...they aren't looking for friends because they already have their close friends. I only really started to make friends (and even then not THAT locally) when I started working in the closest big city where the people are more transient and looking for new social circles, and when I joined sports clubs nearby me. Fake it until you make is definitely the key. I have a little mantra whenever I walk into a room full of people - like a business event when I need to network - "Everyone here feels worst than I do. My job is to put them at ease"....you find that other people are just grateful for someone to talk to and they are FAR more worried about themselves than about how you look etc...

Its so much more difficult to be social and to have confidence in meeting people when you are overweight - that's why I feel like the last 6 years are a blip in my life in terms of my personality - it just didn't feel like I was me any more. I was overweight before I had my daughter but not to the point where it affected me that much. I was perhaps a size UK18...but ballooned to a UK22-24 after that.

I couldn't help but laugh at your last sentance - your husband doesn't know what you earn?!?!?! LOL. You are one independent woman!!!:rotflmao:

JanaNanner said:
Yeah, I see what you mean now. But you did make me think about how I would probably be different now in a relationship, if it weren't for the fact that I am chronically single.

What's interesting is that I have a sister and we're really, really close and I think that because I always had her around I didn't need to meet new people as much, so it's kind of an opposite situation from yours. I'm terrible at meeting new people. Really, really terrible. But I often didn't feel like I needed to and now that I want to I'm so awful at it. I hope you'll rub off on me some.
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Well, if it makes you feel any better, from your avatar picture, you look so friendly and interesting that you be one of the first people I'd make a beeline to chat to in a room full of folks! You just got to go out and DO it. What's the worst that can happen?!? You pick a sport or activity that you don't enjoy like underwater basketweaving or something...so you don't go again!! You talk to someone and they are rude or boring...chalk it up to experience and move on to talking to someone else! You pick up a mad obsessed stalker...ok so this one is probably a worse case scenario...and I don't have an easy solution, but on the up side, at least they think you are "someone special" ;)
 
jjjay said:
Well, if it makes you feel any better, from your avatar picture, you look so friendly and interesting that you be one of the first people I'd make a beeline to chat to in a room full of folks! You just got to go out and DO it. What's the worst that can happen?!? You pick a sport or activity that you don't enjoy like underwater basketweaving or something...so you don't go again!! You talk to someone and they are rude or boring...chalk it up to experience and move on to talking to someone else! You pick up a mad obsessed stalker...ok so this one is probably a worse case scenario...and I don't have an easy solution, but on the up side, at least they think you are "someone special" ;)
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That's really sweet of you to say. Thank you... :) Haha, and I'll watch out for those obsessed stalker types. :p
 
Tigpuppy said:
Same here. Growing up there were 6 of us kids and we were army brats, moving where ever they sent my father, so we were always each other's friends and never bothered trying to make new ones in all the new places.

So even though I was kind of shy, and it REALLY put me outside my normal comfort zone I figured I would fake it till I make it. I went all out in activities like drama club, annual staff, et (but NO SPORTS!)
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Actually, my family moved around a lot too. We even moved from country to country. I think that really played a large role in it for me too. If only I'd been better at faking it. :D
 
I'm the same about friends. My sister is my best friend and we do everything together and phone each other up 10 minutes after spending the day together. We have one really good friend that over the last year has started to do everything with us and has become like another sister as we both adore her. I have been let down more by girlfriends than I have by the men in my life which makes me very cautious about who I get very close to. I've got lots of casual friends but very few really close friends. I think our little group might go up to 4 this winter when another friend of ours gets her smallest daughter off to school and she will have more time to spend with us as she fits in really well. :)
 
jjjay said:
I couldn't help but laugh at your last sentance - your husband doesn't know what you earn?!?!?! LOL. You are one independent woman!!!:rotflmao:
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When we were first married he told me he thought he would have a problem if his wife earned more than him, so we just pretend he makes more than me. ;) And I sure as heck didn't marry him for his money, because he doesn't have any! LOL! I control all the money and pay all the bills because I would have a problem being like my mother and grandmother where they know nothing about the family's finances and when their husband left of died, they were screwed. I always vowed that I would never EVER be dependent on a man like that in my life.

It's not exactly traditional, but hey, it's been working for us for over 18 years now - so why change it, right?
 
LOL sounds like a great arrangement to me. I see so many women in bad relationships that can't leave because they are financially dependent which is why I have always pushed my daughter to get herself a career so she can never be in that situation.
Sorry Jay, looks like we've hijacked your thread. :)
 
Naaaaa it's fine - go ahead!! A bit of rampant feminism never hurt anyone! Actually I'm the same - never considered anything other than a career and earning my own cash. Had a few nice offers though - a rich sailor once offered to buy another yacht and moor it in the med and for us to live 6 months on one side the world in the sun and then switch to the other side!! I turned him down as I wanted to have a career rather than live off of him! Another time a Venezuelan business man I'd been out with a few times told me (in the same breath!) that he actually had a wife back home but would like me to be his uk mistress and would buy me an apartment and car etc as long as I was there whenever he came to town!! Hahaha needless to say I didn't stay beyond the starters that night and that was the end of that!!


ooh ooh I rememebr what I wanted to tell you guys. I went on a bit of a shopping expedition after work yesterday (as a side note, switched the new pedometer application on my iphone on that links up with Sat Nav GPS thingy...and I walked 15 km!!! Bizarre!! It was into town, back to work, back into town, back to a bar, back into town..etc...) but the exciting bit is that I went Bravissimo !! Home of the plunge bras!! I've gone from a 38FF to a 34F :D 4 whole inches! PLus, I bought a tankini and it does not half look bad!!!! I am not going to be ashamed of being round the pool thats for sure...I mean that feeling might fade when I see a load of size 10 skinny minnies but at the moment, I'm ok with being seen in public in a tankini!
 
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Oooh, congratulations on a 4-inch loss. That's terrific! :) But on a side note... you're a size F? Holy moly. That must make it a little difficult to find bras, at times.

Have lots of pool-side fun in your new tankini this sumer. :D
 
I dunno Jana, I used to be a c cup before pregnancy, then I went up to what I thought was a DD..but THEN I went to Bravissimo - a specialist bra chain for women with big boobs and ALL shape bodies, and they put me in a FF, and I have to say, it uplifted, minimised, supported and looked great! However that size in one manufacturer was completely different to that size in another - they don't measure at the store, the fitters just look at you and KNOW...hahahah they just KNOW!! And they know all the different brands and designs and whether they come up big in the cup or tight on the back or suit certain shape boobs.

I just sort of assumed all quite large women were quite large cup sizes - am I wrong?
 
Good morning everyone!! Urgh. Somewhat the worst for wear here - but of a night out with the girls last night... Bad parts were lots of wine, a mojito and a glass of baileys with some chocolate on the side...good bits were oven baked sea bass with no sauce and veggies on the side rather than chips at the restaurant! Walked a fair distance yesterday and today too to try and make up for it.

Probably a 3000 cal day yesterday and I'm at about 1000 cals today by lunchtime.

Friends I saw yesterday hadn't seen me for two months and were quite surprised at how different I looked which was nice. And I'm just driving down to see family in London who I haven't seen since Christmas so should be interesting!!

Four more days to go till holiday!! Better get some running in beforehand! Taking my running gear with me though as hoping to find a place to run around the hotel complex before most people are up and about.

See you all later, hope everyone is having a good weekend!
 
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