BikiniBound's Diary

Hey--I understand. Admittedly it's only been about 4-5 months of it, but yeah...I still feel bad that I let it get to me, you know? I think a lot of us have a high opinion of ourselves somewhere but our interpretation of our behavior overrides it. We our our worst critics. UGH!

I want to shine a little sunshine instead of a raincloud--we need some hot ass in here!!!!
 
Ok, I've been working on those application questions tonight, and am halfway through. I've got #1, #3 and #4 done. #5 and #6 are very hard for me--I can't think of a thing...lol. I have very little management experience. I think the closest I've ever come was managing classrooms of 40+ Korean college students. Does that count?? lol

1) What are the important knowledge, skills and abilities that you would bring to the Foreign Service? (List no more than four.) Why do you consider these skills important for the Foreign Service?

2) In the Foreign Service you may confront obstacles and/or adverse circumstances. Describe briefly how you have dealt with such a situation in your experience. (What was the situation? What steps did you take to deal with the circumstances/obstacle(s)? What was the result?)


3) In the Foreign Service, you will be called upon to interact with people from different ethnic, racial, religious, geographic, economic and other backgrounds. Describe a significant experience you have had with another culture, either abroad or in the United States. (What was the experience? What did you do? What was the result?)

4) Communication skills are critical to successful diplomacy. Describe a situation in which you used your communication skills (either in English or another language) to further an aim or achieve a goal. (What was the situation? What steps did you take to deal with the situation? What was the result?)

5) Foreign Service Officers are often required to manage projects, demonstrating the ability to plan and organize, set priorities, employ a systematic approach, and allocate time and resources efficiently. Describe a project you managed or helped to manage and how you sought to achieve the project’s goals. (What was the project? What steps did you take to manage the project? What was the result?)

6) Leadership can be defined as motivating others, encouraging creative solutions, establishing positive team relationships, or significantly influencing the direction of the work. Describe how you have demonstrated leadership, either on one particular occasion or over time. (What was the situation? What steps did you take to show leadership? What was the result?)
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Anyway, Margaret, you should be temporarily satisfied that I'm working on this. :)
 
So sorry you are going through this Kimberly.... what more can be said? Marriage is about giving and taking.... finding a balance. He doesn't seem willing. Worse yet, he seems downright destructive in terms of the relationship and your emotions.
 
Hi Kimberly

Firstly - I am sorry that the latest communication between you has been so upsetting. It was always bound to be the case - but sad just the same. People do tend to say hurtful things when they hurt themselves - so his reaction although wrong can be understood.

Maybe the purgatory will soon be over. I am sure that better things are on the way.

Well done for remaining focused on your future opportunities enough to look at the questions and say which you are having difficulties with.

So #5 and #6 are causing problems as your managerial experience is limited - and you have difficulty in producing witnesses.

One thought occurs to me - it may be stupid but - managers have to work with and through others in order to achieve results. They need to demonstrate organisational skills, a logical approach, the ability to communicate and support at various levels and the ability to build and utilise a network of contacts.

Much of this is stated in their question - with some extra bits of brainstorming thrown in.

As far as I can see you can demonstrate all this by your approach to your weight loss project, and the way that you support others towards theirs.

Hey - you even run the challenge - a bit of an example of leadership there!

Does it matter that no-one has paid you to do this. I cannot see that it does in their question.

If you went down this route there are an abundance of people "who can verify your answer--cannot be a spouse, close family member or person under supervision at work" - like all your friends on the forum, people at the gym etc. And you are in permanent contact with them.

Just something to mull over. You may be able to think of something better.

Sometimes it helps to "think outside the box" - God I hate that phrase.

Take care
Love
Margaret
 
Hey Twin, I have no wonderful, great or fantastic things to say that will help your current situation, WHY??? because it's something you have to work out and deal with on your own. No matter what we say, it has to be "your" learning experience, be it bad or good, this one is yours alone. I will say, that no matter the outcome, if you feel good about the decision you make, then it will be a forward step to a new beginning. I'm sorry to hear about the depression history, it's very difficult to go through a lot of stress and still stay positive about it. Your so fricken smart, AND SPECIAL, I know regardless of what you decide to do, you will come out on top!!!

Way to go on getting started on those questions, it's one at a time my friend, your doing it RIGHT!! Stay with it and stay focused and if it's meant to be it will happen. I was quite excited when I read you saying that you don't care if you have the money, or a good job that you were ready to make a change, THAT'S the exact attitude I had when I made my leap into a new life, it was very rewarding and the light at the end of the tunnel was more than I expected, I can't wait until you get to yours.. HUGS TO YOU!!!
Kimmers:hurray::p
 
Steve said:
So sorry you are going through this Kimberly.... what more can be said? Marriage is about giving and taking.... finding a balance. He doesn't seem willing. Worse yet, he seems downright destructive in terms of the relationship and your emotions.
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:iagree:

That bout sums it all up.

I can't add any more to what I posted a few days ago about this but like I said in the pm I sent you. Need to vent, I'm all :bigear:
:grouphug:
 
:iagree:too!

Been there...

It does get better, once you're done pulling your heart out through your clenched teeth...

You deserve sooo much better, beautiful!

David
 
Hey girl, I just read through some of your diary. I should have stopped by much earlier. I am so sorry to hear about the divorce. MLB is right about figuring it out for yourself. Just try to stay positive and just think about how much better life will be when you are happy.

Amy
 
bikinibound said:
He is VERY cute--but he looks like total jailbait!! Then again, when they're young you can mold them to be how you want them....hahaha :reddevil:
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Jailbait? Pardon moi! If they're old enough to walk.....LOL! Nah that's too perverted, even for ME!!

James said:
Oh... I am here... The thread dancer never fails...

*flex*

*buttwiggle*

*wink*
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LOL! Hey I never even SEEN a picture of you! No fair :p


David! What the hell I thought you left???

Kimberly, I hope your days shines bright :D
 
Steve said:
So sorry you are going through this Kimberly.... what more can be said? Marriage is about giving and taking.... finding a balance. He doesn't seem willing. Worse yet, he seems downright destructive in terms of the relationship and your emotions.
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Thanks Steve, sweetie. H has always had problems expressing his feelings--typical man..lol. I think he has a great fear of making himself vulnerable. He is like his father was in many ways. Everything is laughed off, nothing is dealt with, vulnerable emotions are not displayed--to anyone--not even one's wife. That would be unmanly, apparently. It is hard to be close to someone who cannot let down the drawbridge and let you inside the castle. He lashes out when wounded, instead of discussing it. He says I cannot have a rational discussion about politics or social issues, and yet he cannot have one when it comes down to his emotions--yes, he has them--he just doesn't do well at displaying them. I'm a very open person--he is very closed. He would have a shit fit if he knew I was talking to anyone about this..lol. But I'm the kind of person who HAS to talk to somebody. And as I cannot seem to talk to him about it, well, here I am. :banghead:
 
Omega's got your answer to question's 5 and 6 - no reason why that it can't apply - it's no different that a college essay - just a little poetic licence and it's accurate.. .ever do a charity project? just because it's not on your resume -doesn't mean it's not valuable...
 
Margaret-- You read my mind! I was already thinking about those things. I am leary of mentioning the Challenge because I wouldn't like them to know about my wicked, pervy ways here at WLF...lol. But I think I'm going to use my weight loss for Q #2--my gym can verify that--they've got my progress recorded. So that leaves 2 more Q's to answer. I'm getting there. :)

Miss Ladybug said:
Hey Twin, I have no wonderful, great or fantastic things to say that will help your current situation, WHY??? because it's something you have to work out and deal with on your own. No matter what we say, it has to be "your" learning experience, be it bad or good, this one is yours alone. I will say, that no matter the outcome, if you feel good about the decision you make, then it will be a forward step to a new beginning. I'm sorry to hear about the depression history, it's very difficult to go through a lot of stress and still stay positive about it. Your so fricken smart, AND SPECIAL, I know regardless of what you decide to do, you will come out on top!!!

Way to go on getting started on those questions, it's one at a time my friend, your doing it RIGHT!! Stay with it and stay focused and if it's meant to be it will happen. I was quite excited when I read you saying that you don't care if you have the money, or a good job that you were ready to make a change, THAT'S the exact attitude I had when I made my leap into a new life, it was very rewarding and the light at the end of the tunnel was more than I expected, I can't wait until you get to yours.. HUGS TO YOU!!!
Kimmers:hurray::p
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Yeah, I was doing well, and things have happened in the last 24hrs, and now I don't know what's going to happen. I really don't think H wants a divorce, but he is going to have to step up and make some drastic changes in order to avoid it. I am not going to be filing for it until we have a talk--hopefully tonight. I feel like I'm :banghead:
 
bikinibound said:
H has always had problems expressing his feelings--typical man..lol. I think he has a great fear of making himself vulnerable. He is like his father was in many ways. Everything is laughed off, nothing is dealt with, vulnerable emotions are not displayed--to anyone--not even one's wife. That would be unmanly, apparently. It is hard to be close to someone who cannot let down the drawbridge and let you inside the castle. He lashes out when wounded, instead of discussing it. He says I cannot have a rational discussion about politics or social issues, and yet he cannot have one when it comes down to his emotions--yes, he has them--he just doesn't do well at displaying them.
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Two different people walking two different paths... Doesn't make either one of you wrong or right -just different... Too bad it wasn't discovered before you did the I Do's but - I don't gets you out and on with your life.

I can relate a lot to how your husband is - because I have much of the same properties - and it's quite difficult to change a person -unless they want to change... and change isn't easy when it's the only thing you know...

You tried your best to make it work -and it didn't... what's next :)
you're going to the foreign service :)
 
bikinibound said:
Margaret-- You read my mind! I was already thinking about those things. I am leary of mentioning the Challenge because I wouldn't like them to know about my wicked, pervy ways here at WLF...lol. But I think I'm going to use my weight loss for Q #2--my gym can verify that--they've got my progress recorded. So that leaves 2 more Q's to answer. I'm getting there. :)
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you doon't have to give them the website or reveal your secret identity -just explain the challenge set up the recruiting of the players of the game - the setting of the rules and the goals of the challenge and the active participation...
 
AmyRB said:
Hey girl, I just read through some of your diary. I should have stopped by much earlier. I am so sorry to hear about the divorce. MLB is right about figuring it out for yourself. Just try to stay positive and just think about how much better life will be when you are happy.

Amy
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Thanks for stopping by! I've been meaning to stop by your diary, too, as we are always posting in the same diaries, it seems.

As soon as I figure out what will make me happy, I'll be good to go. I know exactly what I want--it's a matter of figuring out how to get it. That's the frustratingly hard part. :)
 
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