Becoming a Beauty Queen in 2013 ;)
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MrVee
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Sorry to hear that Xenon. I wish there was something/anything any of us could say to fix it, but having been medically diagnosed with clinical depression I know that there isn't.
"Overwhelmed" is one of those words that tends to pop up when I have those same sorts of feelings. One suggestion is to not worry about what you're going to do with the rest of your life, worry about what you're going to do with the next month.
In terms of your weight, maybe that just means setting yourself up with an easy opponent to overcome. Instead of trying to eat 1400 calories and go the gym 4 times a week, eat 2000 and go twice (and maybe mix a few walks in). Want a burger? Eat a burger and skip the fries. In other words, improve. All it takes to get from where you are all the way to below 200 pounds is to improve. Even if it's just a little, a small improvement every month or two adds up to big improvements eventually. Think less about what it is you 'should' do, and more about what you know you can do.
As for the relationship, I am so much the wrong person to give advice on that sort of thing.
Chin up, beauty queen. It does get better regardless of what happens.
"Overwhelmed" is one of those words that tends to pop up when I have those same sorts of feelings. One suggestion is to not worry about what you're going to do with the rest of your life, worry about what you're going to do with the next month.
In terms of your weight, maybe that just means setting yourself up with an easy opponent to overcome. Instead of trying to eat 1400 calories and go the gym 4 times a week, eat 2000 and go twice (and maybe mix a few walks in). Want a burger? Eat a burger and skip the fries. In other words, improve. All it takes to get from where you are all the way to below 200 pounds is to improve. Even if it's just a little, a small improvement every month or two adds up to big improvements eventually. Think less about what it is you 'should' do, and more about what you know you can do.
As for the relationship, I am so much the wrong person to give advice on that sort of thing.
Chin up, beauty queen. It does get better regardless of what happens.
Xenon1
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Awwww thanks so much Mr. Vee. *hugs*Sorry to hear that Xenon. I wish there was something/anything any of us could say to fix it, but having been medically diagnosed with clinical depression I know that there isn't.
"Overwhelmed" is one of those words that tends to pop up when I have those same sorts of feelings. One suggestion is to not worry about what you're going to do with the rest of your life, worry about what you're going to do with the next month.
In terms of your weight, maybe that just means setting yourself up with an easy opponent to overcome. Instead of trying to eat 1400 calories and go the gym 4 times a week, eat 2000 and go twice (and maybe mix a few walks in). Want a burger? Eat a burger and skip the fries. In other words, improve. All it takes to get from where you are all the way to below 200 pounds is to improve. Even if it's just a little, a small improvement every month or two adds up to big improvements eventually. Think less about what it is you 'should' do, and more about what you know you can do.
As for the relationship, I am so much the wrong person to give advice on that sort of thing.
Chin up, beauty queen. It does get better regardless of what happens.
Thanks Justina.Hey sweetie, so good to see you back here - missed you!!!
Stay around here for support - you will most definitely get it!!
Well guys I am so sorry I do not update often...I have been trying to steadily improve with the eating as Mr. Vee said. Down to 266 now but still not feeling safely away from the 270's and I have been eating like hell this weekend.
Xenon1
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Thanks so much Storm and lol Justina I will. I just feel so bad about the challenge...I really thought the end date was the end of march and I was thinking as long as I post my info on the last day everything will be fine...but now I'm counted as nothing more than a dropout
Well at least my hard work paid off and I am down to 266...I think I started the challenge in the 280 range.
I will. I just feel so bad about the challenge...I really thought the end date was the end of march and I was thinking as long as I post my info on the last day everything will be fine...but now I'm counted as nothing more than a dropout Well at least my hard work paid off and I am down to 266...I think I started the challenge in the 280 range.
Xenon1
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Veronique!!
I am so happy to see you back. I was asking about you in my old diary when I came back. How have you been and how are you doing? Can you please give me the link to your diary. I will look around and see if I can find it in the meantime. Well I went shopping today to find a business suit because I have an interview for a job tomorrow and I could not find anything really nice. There was one suit that I really liked and it looked like firm cotton, but when I tried it on it had some sort of lycra/spandex thing going on and it was TERRIBLE! OMG my belly looked like a bag of cellulite and you could see the outline of my bellybutton in the skirt. The top part looked nice but the bottom part was awful. I felt so depressed and have actually been thinking about gastric bypass all day. I feel like I probably will never be successful in reaching my goal of being normal weight without additional help. The thing I worry about with gastric bypass is the loose skin and loss of hair. I have seen a lot of friends and coworkers who have had the surgery and this is the worst part about it. One of my friends actually went to Columbia to have multiple plastic surgeries for correction. I am not a big fan of surgery but I just want to see better results and I am tired of being so huge.
Justina
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Hey sweetie, (hugs)
It's hard to lose weight for some people. I know. I am one of them. You can do this, we are all here to help you!! You get your support!!! You have been doing so well!!! One day you fall off the wagon - don't give up - just pick yourself up & continue...we have all been there!!!
The surgery sd defo be a last resort.
x
It's hard to lose weight for some people. I know. I am one of them. You can do this, we are all here to help you!! You get your support!!! You have been doing so well!!! One day you fall off the wagon - don't give up - just pick yourself up & continue...we have all been there!!!
The surgery sd defo be a last resort.
x
Xenon1
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Thanks so much Justina. I actually had a much better day today which helped me a bit with my self image issues...but just for today. I have a lot of work to do with my inner self and such. I feel terrible about the challenge still but I guess I just need to get over it lol no one else is as concerned about it and everyone has moved on. I am just so sorry I let down my team and I think I will stay away from the challenges until I get myself sorted out a bit more.
Other good news I had an interview today and they hired me on the spot lol. That has never happened to me before. Granted this is my second interview with the company, but I have never had a second interview that went this way. It's not a really progressive big job or anything like that, but I guess its big to me because it will help me a lot financially. I am very happy about it.
Ate sort of well today. I have decided to do a gradual restraint thing and just let everything flow. I often get worked up about what I am doing and being perfect and then when there is a mishap I totally fall off track. I have been doing ok so far this year but I really need to get that scale moving. The first thing I am cutting out is sweets. I went without sweets for a month before and I lost 10lbs that month. Coincidentally I also felt more balanced and ate a lot less...like 40-50% of what I normally eat.
Other good news I had an interview today and they hired me on the spot lol. That has never happened to me before. Granted this is my second interview with the company, but I have never had a second interview that went this way. It's not a really progressive big job or anything like that, but I guess its big to me because it will help me a lot financially. I am very happy about it.
Ate sort of well today. I have decided to do a gradual restraint thing and just let everything flow. I often get worked up about what I am doing and being perfect and then when there is a mishap I totally fall off track. I have been doing ok so far this year but I really need to get that scale moving. The first thing I am cutting out is sweets. I went without sweets for a month before and I lost 10lbs that month. Coincidentally I also felt more balanced and ate a lot less...like 40-50% of what I normally eat.
Don Keykong
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Hi Xenon,
First off, thanks so much for stopping by my diary and taking the time to read it, then leaving such a nice comment! I just read this diary cover to cover... it sounds like there's another, older one floating around, but I think I'm up to speed.
Congrats on the JOB! That is fantastic and you should be greatly pleased with yourself for nailing it!
GREAT job on dropping weight! It looks like you've dropped, what... 16+ pounds? That is excellent! Despite all the of the "failings" that you've been keying in on, you ARE getting it done.
A couple of things I caught while reading... you mentioned dealing with weight loss, loose skin, hair issues... I've had my head there too... don't try to solve it all today. Your head will burst. Keep it simple: Eat right, hydrate, exercise, lose weight. Repeat. If you fall off, get back on and stop blaming yourself. Sh*t happens. WHEN you've lost all the weight, IF you have hair or skin issues, THEN worry about them. Maybe I'm losing weight too fast myself and will suffer some issues as a result... I'm OK with that and I'll deal with it when the time comes. Right now, I just want to lose weight in as fast a way as I can in a healthy manner.
For people like me, when there is a LOT of weight to be lost, it is a day by day process. I'm not worried about the last 10 pounds I'll need to lose, I'm worried about the NEXT ten. Once that ten is gone, I'll briefly celebrate, then start plotting to kill the next ten. I can't walk a mile in a single stride. Maybe this attitude will help ease your mind sometimes too.
Keep plugging away and check in here as often as you can... win or lose, good or bad. Being accountable to yourself is the first step toward being successful in the long term.
First off, thanks so much for stopping by my diary and taking the time to read it, then leaving such a nice comment! I just read this diary cover to cover... it sounds like there's another, older one floating around, but I think I'm up to speed.
Congrats on the JOB! That is fantastic and you should be greatly pleased with yourself for nailing it!
GREAT job on dropping weight! It looks like you've dropped, what... 16+ pounds? That is excellent! Despite all the of the "failings" that you've been keying in on, you ARE getting it done.
A couple of things I caught while reading... you mentioned dealing with weight loss, loose skin, hair issues... I've had my head there too... don't try to solve it all today. Your head will burst. Keep it simple: Eat right, hydrate, exercise, lose weight. Repeat. If you fall off, get back on and stop blaming yourself. Sh*t happens. WHEN you've lost all the weight, IF you have hair or skin issues, THEN worry about them. Maybe I'm losing weight too fast myself and will suffer some issues as a result... I'm OK with that and I'll deal with it when the time comes. Right now, I just want to lose weight in as fast a way as I can in a healthy manner.
For people like me, when there is a LOT of weight to be lost, it is a day by day process. I'm not worried about the last 10 pounds I'll need to lose, I'm worried about the NEXT ten. Once that ten is gone, I'll briefly celebrate, then start plotting to kill the next ten. I can't walk a mile in a single stride. Maybe this attitude will help ease your mind sometimes too.
Keep plugging away and check in here as often as you can... win or lose, good or bad. Being accountable to yourself is the first step toward being successful in the long term.
Xenon1
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Great post Don and thank you so much! Yes it is better to focus on 10 #'s at a time but I just can't seem to do that. I just keep thinking about the 150#'s I have to lose and how far away I am from that. Focus is important and it is even more important to focus on the right thing. I think I will start trying my best to do the 10# interval thing...and maybe just keep my ticker at 10 pounds.
For losing weight naturally I am more concerned about sagging skin issues ... but I think I will have some plastic surgery... maybe a tummy tuck. I was considering gastric bypass and am worried about the side effects of that. I have decided to keep plugging away this way...at least for the rest of the year and reassess my goals then. If I am still a fatty then I may just need the surgery.
Again excellent post. Thanks so much for visiting my diary.
For losing weight naturally I am more concerned about sagging skin issues ... but I think I will have some plastic surgery... maybe a tummy tuck. I was considering gastric bypass and am worried about the side effects of that. I have decided to keep plugging away this way...at least for the rest of the year and reassess my goals then. If I am still a fatty then I may just need the surgery.
Again excellent post. Thanks so much for visiting my diary.
Justina
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Hey sweetie, well done on getting the job! 
Sagging skin - I think we are all worried about it in one way or another. But it really does not matter - because you gain much more!!! If you do it slowly and eat the right food, take care of your skin etc - you can minimize problem skin (sagging).. yes stretch marks will be stretch marks...ain't nothing you can do about them. Think about that though - my little sister (29) she has stretch marks! she has never been bigger than a US size 8/10 - so really, do not worry about it.
Cross the bridge when you come to eat.
I have prepared an email about how I take care of my skin - have I sent it to you? I don't remember - I did send it to a few people here.
Sagging skin - I think we are all worried about it in one way or another. But it really does not matter - because you gain much more!!! If you do it slowly and eat the right food, take care of your skin etc - you can minimize problem skin (sagging).. yes stretch marks will be stretch marks...ain't nothing you can do about them. Think about that though - my little sister (29) she has stretch marks! she has never been bigger than a US size 8/10 - so really, do not worry about it.
Cross the bridge when you come to eat.
I have prepared an email about how I take care of my skin - have I sent it to you? I don't remember - I did send it to a few people here.
Xenon1
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Thanks Justina. I really do need to worry less about those things and get on with it. And that is just what I have decided to do.
So I have been laxing around and doing basically nothing in light of weight loss for the past week. Still having TOM but decided to peek at the scale and it was awful. +5.8 lbs! It has only been a week so I'm guessing this has a lot to do with TOM.
Aside from that I am feeling more motivated, but not in a sort of giddy way, more like I just need to get this done and out of my way. I have been having a lot of pains in my leg joints and I strongly feel it is related to my weight mostly. I would say totally but my mom is also having one of the same issues with her ankle and she is not obese--must be genetics. I have mapped out a basic diet plan for myself that I know I will be able to stick to.
Breakfast
Choice of egg whites and veggies or fruits
Lunch
Soup and salad of any variety
Dinner
Chicken and rice or protein and starch of any variety.
Free veggies of course and snacks not to exceed 70 cals. I also may alternate lunch and dinner options on some days.
I think I also need to work on my emotions and inner self ... I have no faith whatsoever and I think if I can mirror something close to spiritual things maybe I can get some sort of balance. So I will be looking into things like meditation and yoga and possibly read up on a religion or way of life...like buddhism or jainism.
That's all I got for now...off to bed.
So I have been laxing around and doing basically nothing in light of weight loss for the past week. Still having TOM but decided to peek at the scale and it was awful. +5.8 lbs! It has only been a week so I'm guessing this has a lot to do with TOM.
Aside from that I am feeling more motivated, but not in a sort of giddy way, more like I just need to get this done and out of my way. I have been having a lot of pains in my leg joints and I strongly feel it is related to my weight mostly. I would say totally but my mom is also having one of the same issues with her ankle and she is not obese--must be genetics. I have mapped out a basic diet plan for myself that I know I will be able to stick to.
Breakfast
Choice of egg whites and veggies or fruits
Lunch
Soup and salad of any variety
Dinner
Chicken and rice or protein and starch of any variety.
Free veggies of course and snacks not to exceed 70 cals. I also may alternate lunch and dinner options on some days.
I think I also need to work on my emotions and inner self ... I have no faith whatsoever and I think if I can mirror something close to spiritual things maybe I can get some sort of balance. So I will be looking into things like meditation and yoga and possibly read up on a religion or way of life...like buddhism or jainism.
That's all I got for now...off to bed.
Sunflower2
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Working on yourself is a good idea. Yoga would be fab for you You can do this.
You can do this.
Xenon1
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Thanks Sunflower. I think TOM is officially over...got on the scale and weight is 270 :-/ so 4# gain. I have been eating like hell this week and not exercising. Getting a handle on that today! Also thinking of buying some home workout videos.
I have a major astrophysics paper due this week which I am having tons of fun with but I know completion will be time consuming and am unsure of how to manage the time.
I have a major astrophysics paper due this week which I am having tons of fun with but I know completion will be time consuming and am unsure of how to manage the time.
Justina
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Xenon - have you thought of the ten minute solution series (DVD)? I have a target toning one, my sister bought one of the pilates ones. Anyway - it's good for her because she never has time...so she can just do 10 mins..there are about 4-5 (-6) 10 minute exercises.
Maybe check them out online - see whether you like any.
Good luck!
Maybe check them out online - see whether you like any.
Good luck!