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Cate

Cate

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Being kind to yourself means lots of things. It is much harder to approach becoming healthy & happy with your body if you are coming from a position where you don't think you are worthy.
Being kind to yourself means not holding yourself to impossibly high standards. It means putting an end to comparing yourself to others and to beating yourself up for making a mistake, or for not being good enough at something. No-one is perfect. Being kind to yourself means being your own cheerleader.

Treat yourself as you would a very good friend.

When we feel compassion for others, we feel kindness toward them, empathy, and a desire to help reduce their suffering.
It’s the same when you are compassionate toward yourself. Self-compassion creates a caring space within you that is free of judgment—a place that sees your hurt and your failures and softens to allow those experiences with kindness and caring.
We find it so much easier to feel compassion for others. It's important that we make more of an effort to be self-compassionate.

Any ideas on how we can work on ways to be kinder to ourselves, please feel free to add them.
This is just a start. Thanks, Amy for prompting me to start this thread.
 
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Oh, brilliant!! Yes, yes, yes to all of this. :hurray: Thanks, Cate!

I've been trying to think of ways to be kind to ourselves, so here's three to start with:
  • For those run off their feet: Lie quietly and just breathe for five minutes.
  • Buy yourself a bunch of flowers - or even a single flower!
  • Look down at your body, and say: “This is a great body, and I’m going to treat it right!”
Cate, can you post here that brilliant "strawberries" graphic? I think that is so on point!
 
Good idea for a Club Challenge Cate.

You know I've heard people say this a lot, and I guess I know being kind to yourself is a good idea. But to be honest I have always thought of it in the abstract, not something I've ever applied to myself. You have me thinking now.

I do and have done a lot of things because I want to and can, some of them have not turned out so well. But that's not really the same thing. I'll think on it.
 
I love this idea and I am getting better at it . But I have always been hard on myself , so critical , compare myself to others so much and I have a huge lack of confidence. I have made huge inroads into not now giving a damn what others think though and I am happier that way . But I do need to care for myself because I do put everyone else before me , mainly my family and extended family . I get totally overwhelmed and exhausted so this thread is definitely needed for me . Thanks Cate x
 
Cate said:
When we feel compassion for others, we feel kindness toward them, empathy, and a desire to help reduce their suffering.
It’s the same when you are compassionate toward yourself. Self-compassion creates a caring space within you that is free of judgment—a place that sees your hurt and your failures and softens to allow those experiences with kindness and caring.
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So beautifully said. I´ll spend a lot of time sitting around on airports today so I´ll try and have a think about specific actions that can help lead us to more self-kindness.
 
Petal001 said:
I do put everyone else before me , mainly my family and extended family . I get totally overwhelmed and exhausted so this thread is definitely needed for me
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It is admirable to do for others, particularity your family. But I don't think you can make people any happier than you are yourself, so making yourself happy is being good to others. Or at least I think so.

There will always be some people who you can't make happy, those are the ones not to give a damn about. Particularly people who make you unhappy, that does no one good.
 
I think Rob I am what you would call an old fashioned Irish mammy . It’s what we do best looking after others but I know got to put ourselves up there too in the looking after list .

sitting with feet up here with cup of tea . Me time
 
Being kind to yourself takes concentration & mental effort. It also means overcoming those feelings that you grew up with. Some people say that self-praise is conceit. There is such a big difference.
I said something to myself this morning that I blush to type here, but I will.
"I am a good person. I deserve respect."
I have been feeling very hurt at the way I have been treated recently, as most of you know & this is me telling myself that I did nothing at all to deserve this.
I think it would do us all good to just greet the day saying something nice to ourselves.
:grouphug: to everyone!
 
Good for you, Cate! Yes, you deserve respect! And thanks for the start-the-day hug! :) And good for you, Petal - a cup of tea, with your feet up - a breather! (Is that a known word? I mean a chance "to take a break, to catch your breath".)
And this is really one to ponder:
alligatorob said:
I don't think you can make people any happier than you are yourself, so making yourself happy is being good to others.
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Thanks, Rob!
And now I'm off to get some *flowers*, as well as potatoes and carrots!
 
This is a perfect post! To be kind for yourself it is the most important thing in our life. If you are kind to yourself- you are kind to everyone.
I work on it every day and it really works.
Smile more often, say truly sorry to everyone who you think you should say that and be thankful for everything :beating:
 
I'm being kind to myself today by not trying to do more than I genuinely want to do and have energy for without beating myself up for not cramming every single minute full of activities :) It's a start!
 
I'm going to be kind today by stopping going & over & over how I feel about how I have been treated at the club. I'm going to say "Stop!" the minute my brain starts. No more tears. I felt sorry for myself yesterday & got out into the garden & got my hands really dirty. Our tomatoes got planted out & a Hebe was re-potted. I was fine last night again.
Just before going to bed last night, I moisturised my face & hands, looked in the mirror, smiled & said: "Goodnight" & felt good about myself.
 
aiminglow said:
A long walk to an unknown neighbourhood and a visit to a bookshop!
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That really sounds nice, I hope you do it. Bookshops are getting far and few between here, hope you still have some nice ones.
Cate said:
Hebe was re-potted
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What's a Hebe? I am guessing you are not talking about Hercules' wife. I envy you, last weekend I pulled up the dead tomatoes and other dead veggies and did a little prep for the winter. We are 6 months away from being able to plant anything.
 
i just noticed my post from yesterday didn't go up. It said I got up early yesterday and painted my toenails . Yesterday was a little hectic but today should be more relaxed. Like what your saying Cate , turn on that stop sign in your brain. I have to do that too . Amy I might go to book store today as I will be taking guests to town. I will go off for a wander on my own for a bit. Sounds like a nice idea !!
 
Thanks Cate, I looked the Hebe Jeebies up, appear to be a nice plant, but I think we are in the wrong climate and maybe even wrong hemisphere for them. We don't have many wallabies to feed either.

Petal, I don't paint my toenails, but when I wore sandals and my niece was young she would sneak around under the table and paint mine when I wasn't paying attention. It was kind of fun.
 
"What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us."
 ~Ralph Waldo Emerson ​
 
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