about2loseit
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I love the symbolism of the candle thingy. Very cool that the girls are taking an upfront role in the ceremony. It will be something that they will remember forever (at least the older one will).
I've always thought about a wedding as being more then just the commitment between two people. It's the public affirmation of what you are as a part of your community and society. Your girls are part of that in a major way, as well as everyone who is in attendance in a more minor way.
My sister is getting married next month and she didn't want any brides maids or any of the usual pomp. She was a bride's maid for my wife when we got married and I told her how much it meant to me that she was not just there for the wedding but part of it. That she stood up in front of everyone and supported me publicly. It changed her mind, and even though she isn't having attendants or anything, she found ways for each of us to be part of the whole thing. Not an easy thing since she has seven siblings and 8 nieces and nephews that she is very close to. (oh, and she is getting married on my anniversary)
Yeah, that's not an easy thing. Very hard when you have so much family and you don't want anyone to feel left out. We have minimal attendants - my sister is my maid of honor, Mike's best friend is his best man, my oldest girl is in charge of the rings (the rings will be in a lace pouch, which is attached to her bouquet instead of ribbon), and the my little one is the flower girl. (That's going to be interesting . . . lol)

