I got back tonight at 7pm. We did not fly, we drove...so I'm exhausted!
Everything is improving with FIL, he's stable but not released yet. Kimberly, he is not diabetic, he is paranoid schizophrenic and had a deep wound he left untreated because he is untrusting of medical professionals. The gangrene spread through his blood stream, causing the other problems. They've had to keep him sedated the majority of his hospitilization as he bcomes violent and irrational with staff. They've done partial amputation, and are trying to save the heel.
My husband has not had direct contact with his father since before we dated, as his father was abusive to his mother and tried to kill my husband. When we were called about this, it was frightening to find out that he knows where we live and our contact information.
He refuses treatment for his mental illness, and that makes it difficult for my husband to maintain a relationship with him. I've never even met him, as my husband does not want me around such an unstable, violent individual. He fears his dad would hurt me to punish him.
He is in Los Angeles.
My best friend's dad is in New Mexico and thats where I've been. She needed to go there to help the family sort things out, prepare things, etc. But she has a five year old and a three year old. It's hard to be helpful with them in tow. So I went to take care of the kids while she helped out.
2 days drive out 8 days there and 2 days drive back...4 days in a car with small kids. No wonder I'm tired!!
They really are good, delightful, sweet kids though. I only lost my cool twice and needed a break. That's pretty good since I was with them almost 24/7, including sleeping in the same room with the five year old every night and the three year old half the time.
Her dad is doing better, although they are worried about water building in his lungs. He will need bypass surgery this fall, also.
As for diet...since I was with a heart patient, we ate really well. As for the car trip part, not so much. I guess I'll find out Monday at the dietician.