How different is what your wife likes to eat & what you think would be a healthy diet?
We are probably closer now, if I prepare some meat to go with her vegetarian food I think it will work. Sometimes anyway. We have been sharing the Hello Fresh meals, I get half the meat, the dog the other half... Works so far but today is the last Hello Fresh day.
Hello Fresh mostly seems like a way to avoid spending time meal planning and shopping (and maybe to reduce the stress of infinite choices while hungry). If you the time and motivation I'm sure you can do better yourself.
I think you are right on the Hello Fresh thing, even this first order that was at a 50% discount it cost about what it would have at the store. At full price its no bargain. Will try it on my own for a while.
I don't think it's wrong to keep counting calories, although it might make sense to aim for maintenance rather than weightloss while you're establishing your maintenance calories. And while most people tend to eat more one day and less another day that probably won't feel ok for you at least for a good while. (1200 kcal feeling safe and binging feeling alluring are both bad signs for that).
But if you have a bit of time maybe sit down and add up your calories for the past two months or so. Assume days you didn't track were binge days and reconstruct some binge days to the best of your ability to get a general idea of how many calories to add for the untracked days. Average out your calories per day and compare them to your weight change between the start and end of that time. See if 2500 kcal/day is ballpark reasonable given what the data says. Due to your activity level I expect it probably is. And if so it might ease your anxiety a little, which in turn might make it easier to stick to your plan.
I have thought about trying to figure out how many calories were in the binges, but to be honest I don't remember well all I ate. I am sure the average was in the 2,500+ range. I was gaining weight, slowly and in spurts, sometimes down when I could hold off the binges longer. But the long term average trend was up.
You’re not. You’re doing great! Cate and Llama are encouraging you too, Rob! More wholesome food is fantastic!
Thanks, and yes Cate and Llama are being supportive. They have always said something like this is what I should be doing.
Oh no! This, right here. You’re viewing this through your weight. It’s obsessing on your weight still. You have to let go of this thinking, Rob. Let go of your weight and celebrate the success you’re already achieving. You are not bingeing and you’re eating more, healthier food every day. Those are wins, every day! Let that be your success and driving behavior, not your weight!
I can't completely let it go. To be honest I fear gaining weight at the calorie level I am eating now. So I decided to not weigh for a month and then just check to see that my weight was not going up, or going up much. It has been hard to resist the scale, I see it every time I go in the bathroom, but so far I have not stepped on it. It would make this feel better if I knew I was not gaining weight doing this. I am with you on the not bingeing being the best measure of success, but I feel the need to calibrate calories.
I still have urges and want to eat more, been able to control them so far and am hopeful I can make the month that way. Today, right now, I feel the need to eat, after a good relatively high veggie with some meat 500 calorie lunch. It doesn't just go away...
I think you need to eat even more and am interested in your activity calorie estimates…
Got a new fitbit today, charging now. Hopefully I can track things tomorrow. Will see what it says about calories burned.
What do you mean by this?
Just that I am still trying to figure out shopping, cooking, etc for the new diet. Hello Fresh was my first experiment, not an awful way to go, but I will now try just shopping for myself.