Attracting Shy, Athletic, Driven girls

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There's a girl that caught my eye today while I was guarding the pool. She's got one of the most rockin bodies I've ever seen, and I am going to talk to her.

Since she was doing her workout and when I got off the lifeguard stand, was already in the pool, I couldn't make a move. So I started asking around. Apparently, she's my age, never had a boyfriend, made the olympic trials for swimming, and doesn't talk to ANYONE.

What experiences have you had with these types of women? What are some methods that have been found effective for you? I've talked to other hot athletic chicks before, and they are all different from average hotties.

Since I don't work tomorrow, I'm thinking of going to her while she's warming up, and try to do her workout with her. That should get me some conversation points. Plus, it looks easy as hell. I could do it in my sleep and I'll be able to check her out at the same time. Well, the dryland portion is easy.
 
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I guess just try to act casual and friendly. Your plan sounds pretty good. Just talk about what interests her or something that pertains to what you are both doing, like working out. The fact that she's never had a boyfriend is kind of a warning sign if you ask me. She's probably really shy and she may not want to open up to you especially if you come on too strong. Or she could have some self esteem issues. Proceed with caution. Approach her as a friend and nothing more. Maybe a friend is all she needs right now. Once you get to know her and if she seems okay with you, then you can make your move.
 
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Yeah, you've got to determine why she hasn't had a bf. If it's because of outside influence (parents, coaches), or if it's just because it hasn't worked out. That'll make a huge difference. If it's because of the coaches/parents I would probably try to come on VERY easily as a friend, and slowly let it become known that you're interested. If it's only because it hasn't worked out, you could let her know you're interested a lot sooner, and probably be a little more aggressive sooner also (Aggressive as in asking on a casual date). I've delt with both types, and let me tell you it's hard to overcome the elders telling them they don't have time. Possible, but it takes a lot of work, and she better be hott.
 
What teh stud sez. A lot of individuals whom are qualifying to compete in the Olympics have NO outside social life.

You could always just say hi to her and ask her long she's been swimming and what type of workouts she does to get her in shape for the competitions. I don't know as if I'd try to workout with her right off the bat.

Tell her it was nice to meet her. Find out when she usually works out and tell her you hope to see her soon. Then after a few run ins, ask her if she'd like to go out sometime.
 
From a girls perspective I can't imagine anything worse than some guy at the gym following me around and doing my weights with me, I'm too polite to tell them to leave me alone but I wouldn't feel comfortable at all.

The best way to go for it would introduce yourself, ask her about her swimming and tell her about your interests too. If she's shy she'll like the fact that you're taking some of the focus off her by talking about how you work as a lifeguard if I read correctly.

Just relax and treat her as a friend then maybe after one of her sessions one day after you've spoken to her a bit ask if she wants to join you for something to eat because we all know everyones starving after they work out :) Being casual is the best way to go about it and not to scare her off. Give her a little and she'll want a lot more :p
 
I don't mean following her around, that would be ****ing weird. I meant to aggressively show interest like, "can I get your number if I do this **** with you?" kinda thing.

I don't have time/patience for subtle!

Embarrassingly enough, I've never had a girlfriend, either. Except I've never made the olympics...Anyway she's hot enough to where I will hate it if I don't try.
 
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Dude my mrs is a swimmer and I met her in the pool. What you got to do is just be friendly. DO NOT go too quick, if she goes to the pool often just make sure you train at the same time as her. Make a game plan, say hello the first time and introduce yourself. Open a convo like. Hey this pool is a bit dirty then come around to asking what her name is.

After that you just gotta keep happening into the pool at the same time as her. Strike up a repore with her and then ask her out. Make her laugh but do it tastefully. Compliments are good but only ONE!

The thing about swimming chicks is that they are one track minded, you gotta make sure you play it right. Stuff it up and its all over.
 
Oh and hell whats the worst that can happen? She says no? My mrs told me to beat it the first time I asked her out. I managed to make her laugh and she gave me a chance!
 
It's not embarrassing I think you're both in the perfect position. It's a good idea to take interest in what she's doing, I'm glad to hear you won't follow her around! You only live once so go for it, the worst thing that will happen is she'll say she's not interested and at least you'll know :)
 
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Shove a Baguette down your speedo's and tell her you're a powerlifter, works everytime with the shy types :)

To be honest I've always found girls like the one you described to be too much work. While you're young get yourself a bit of experience with some easier girls and wait until you're 25-30 before going after women you'd want a relationship with
 
ok, Mreiks approach sounds good. I don't know if I would call it a friend though. It is very important to let her know you are interested before you become too close friends, otherwise she'll drop that "I don't want to ruin our friendship" stuff on you. I've learned from experience that it is not smart to become a real friend. but becoming "the guy at the pool" is not such a bad thing.

I will say one thing though, if she is really shy, that might be your biggest problem. I'm a pretty talkative guy and never really have a problem finding something to talk about, but shy girls won't give you anything to work with, that can be a problem.
 
Karky said:
It is very important to let her know you are interested before you become too close friends, otherwise she'll drop that "I don't want to ruin our friendship" stuff on you.
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If that ever happens, try Vodka, friendship boundaries mean less then

Girls only use that 'friends' line if they don't fancy you, because lets face it, if Brad Pitt was a 'close friend' of their they'd still shag him.
 
CCR said:
If that ever happens, try Vodka, friendship boundaries mean less then

Girls only use that 'friends' line if they don't fancy you, because lets face it, if Brad Pitt was a 'close friend' of their they'd still shag him.
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Sure, but that's because Brad Pitt is famous :p
I don't think they just use it when they don't fancy you. Sure it is a popular excuse, but I think some women (not all though) really think that way. Specially if you become a close friend. and another thing is that as you become a close friend they often stop seeing you as sexual in that way, thus even though they think you look good, is a nice person and stuff, they will still say no when they might have gone for it had you let them know what you wanted right away and not become a good friend.

Guys don't have that thing where just because a girl is a friend you stop thinking about her sexually, some girls have that (I've asked around :p)
 
Phate89 said:
Just pull down your pants and shell come running.
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More like shell GO running... :D

Just bum her silly...
 
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