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Holly88

Holly88

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Hi folks,

So I've been here now for months, on and off. Mostly off lately!

I've managed to regain 10lbs since before Xmas when I came off the wagon and it's really not looking good. I'm also ridiculously unfit at the moment.

And to be honest I'm just a bit sick of it.

I'm sick of myself - letting my appetite win and never learning to correct my mistakes.

But here I am. I've got to do it. I've decided I will NOT start the 4th year of my degree with an overweight BMI. I will be under 10 stone 10 for the first time in my life by the time of my 23rd birthday (September).

I've got one aim. One month of healthier food, daily exercise, and hopefully these 10lbs gone. That's what I'd like. I'll post tomorrow to say how I did :)
 
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Good luck Holly. You lost 13lbs so you know how to do it. Now that all the holidays are over it should be easier to get back into the swing of things. Good luck, you can do it :)
 
Dude, we are around the same weight (still!!) and my birthday is September 7th and I have the same goal! We can do itttttt. So glad to see you posting again. Stay active here and stay accountable.
 
Thanks Val :)

OK so today hasn't been a great start: woke up late, no time for breakfast or to pack a lunch. Subsequently I had a really unhealthy choice of lunch (pie and chips! and a chocolate bar, gargh)... But I'm going to rectify this with a better dinner tonight (chicken, boiled new potatoes and veggies).

Plus I'm going to embark on my aim of jogging in the mornings tomorrow. Now the sun rise has gotten earlier I should be able to fit in 25-30 mins of jogging before I get ready to go to my placement. I have to fit in breakkie too so I'm foreseeing a much earlier alarm setting :(

OK so that's the plan. And I'm going to do a healthy food tesco shop tonight so there's no more excuses!

It's so difficult getting back into the swing of things but it's gotta be done.
 
Oh hey! I didn't see your post there.

Yeah tell me about it, accountability is the key I reckon. Although it's taken me ages to get back here I'm glad there was a 'here' to get back to - does that make sense? Else I think it would've taken even longer!!

You're so close to being under the magic 25 BMI, you must be excited? I hope I'll be a lot closer in a few weeks/months.
 
Spamming my own thread here...

OK so I think I need some extra motivation so I've concocted a solo 4 week 'Health Kick Challenge'!

Plan is to set a couple of new nutrition and exercise goals for each week, weigh in every Wednesday (and only then, which'll be tough) and record my progress in here.

First week (beginning 16/02/11)
Nutrition goals:
- Cut down on chocolate - beginning with a limit to every other day
- Eat 3 sensibly portioned meals a day + fruit snacks
- No added salt (bad habit I got back into lately)

Exercise:
Wed - >15mins cardio
Thurs - " cardio
Fri - " weights
Sat - " cardio
Sun - " cardio
Mon - " weights
Tues - " cardio
... and I'll increase by 5mins each week

Initial weigh in: ?st ?lbs

Wish me luck :)
 
you got my blessings :biggrinjester:

back in 2007 when my whole brain switched from fatty diet with no sports to superbly healthy diet with cardio workout 6x per week and drinking 2-3L of water per day, I lost 10-15 pounds... per week..

but maybe that's something only obese men can accomplish.. after all we were born to run, hunt and kill..

one-dimensionality is the key :D

again, good luck to you, and may the universe bless us with some pictures :)

Björn
 
Challenge Day 1 Week 1
Starting weight: 13 stone 0 lbs

Breakfast: 2 wheatabix and semi skimmed milk
Snack: 1 half of a twix and a cup of tea (tsk, chocolate, which means none tomorrow!)
Lunch: Wholewheat pasta, tinned salmon and mayo
Snack: 2 clementines
Dinner: Homemade chicken curry with rice. Blueberries, fat free bio yogurt and honey for dessert.

Not really sure what the calories are for today but I don't think I've done too bad. Goals for tomorrow: no chocolate! and remember to pack a lunch box.

Exercise: 50 minute walk and 30 minutes cycling

I'm pretty pleased overall.

In other news...

Since the ball I went to last Friday I have seen some terrible pictures of me. I look so huge right now. It's kinda depressing. Lots of the girls on my course are teeny tiny sized. Like size 10 is big for them. It's hard not to compare and I end up feeling massive, even though I'm only a little bigger than average compared to the general populace.

All I can do is try to change my habits and eventually I'll be teeny tiny too haha one day, maybe?
 
Hollllllllllllllllllly my long lost luverrr (said in my farmer twang),

So glad to see you writing again, you're so eloquent. I'm really happy that you're getting back into it, cos I am too and I feel like yours and my journey have been pretty similar thus far. Can't wait to see your progress, I know you can do it, X
 
Good luck, Holly! You look like you already have a great plan, I really like the challenge idea :D

...and maybe I should follow your example and cut down on chocolate too D:
 
Hey there!

Glad you came back - and congrats for your fantastic achievement of losing 13lbs! That's great!

I totally know how you feel about the girls in your class. I think university is torture for people who are not a size 0!!

But you can do it! I like to think that my journey is made up of choices that I get to make...and that I am the one in charge of losing the weight!! It's corny, but it makes me feel guilty! hehehe guilty enough to change my choices :)

Good luck! And I hope to see you around :)
 
Hey, thanks for all the posts ladies!

Pip - I'm really glad you're still here too. I feel a great deal of solidarity between us!

Sara - thank you! The chocolate is a seriously difficult habit to kick, but kicking it needs!

Tik - hi, yes you're totally right, it is all our own responsibility and it's important to recognise that. I think I have too much of a 'I wish' and 'I hope' mentality and not enough 'I CAN' and 'I WILL' ... It does sound pretty self help though, right? Haha.

Challenge Day 2 Week 1
Breakfast: coffee and a banana
Lunch: egg and cress sandwich on wholemeal, 3 small clementines
Snack: wholemeal bread, low cal spread and jam
Dinner: pork kebabs with peppers, red onion, courgette and noodles with peas. Dessert of blueberries and yogurt again.

A much better day food wise I think! Again, no idea on the calories but I'm trying to just concentrate on eating better and more sensible portions, rather than exact cals. We'll see how it goes.

Exercise consisted of a lot of walking, almost 2 hours.

I'm getting the bf to hide my scales tonight so I can't weigh in until next Wednesday!

I always get to the end of my post and want to write more personal things about my life but I get a little anxious about saying those kinds of things... Maybe another time!
 
Tik - hi, yes you're totally right, it is all our own responsibility and it's important to recognise that. I think I have too much of a 'I wish' and 'I hope' mentality and not enough 'I CAN' and 'I WILL' ... It does sound pretty self help though, right? Haha.
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Ahh! TOTALLY ME!! I'm my own worst enemy! But that changes! I have to consciously tell myself positive things when I start getting negative!! But it's hard! I've lived my entire chubby life being down on myself- but no longer! Hey, we rock, lets face it....we just got to tell us more!! :)

And never feel like you can't divulge the personal stuff on here! THis is the place to do it!

I often find myself letting go and spilling my guts (I'm sure people think I'm an emotional rollercoaster!! hehehe) ...but it helps!

You're doing fantastic! You're diet and exercise is great! And you're keeping at it which is...AWWWWESOME!! *two thumbs up* :)
 
Justina - thank you for the support :)

Tik - Thank you for your lovely words. I think I'll open up in time, maybe, lol I just get worried because I'm in a degree where professional behaviour is important and I'm not sure I should say too much about my personal life in a public forum. I've probably said too much already!

Han - Thanks. I'm not sure it's going to be amazing but it should at least be relaxing, hopefully!

Day 3 Week 1

Breakfast: banana
Snack: crudites and hummus
Lunch: ham salad sandwich and low fat yogurt
Dinner: beans on wholemeal toast, some cheddar cheese and an egg
Snack: cup of tea and a caramel biscuit thing

Exercise: none! Eeep, I was meant to do weights. I guess I'll do them today!

Day 4 Week 1
Breakfast/Lunch: 2 slices of wholemeal bread, lowfat spread and jam
Snack: banana
Dinner: (quality!) sausage casserole with butterbeans

Exercise: 1hr20mins walking,
possibly 20mins weights?

OK so I did alright yesterday. I have no idea how much I weigh though because the bf was true to his word and hid my scales until Wednesday. It's quite motivating actually because I want a nice surprise on Wed and I know the only way I'm going to get that is to work hard.

And so far today I haven't done too badly, toast isn't exactly the best lunch but it'll do!

So ... yeah ... personal stuff! I don't have many people to talk about what's going on in my life. I have so few friends now a days. When I was 16, in school, I was at the centre of a huge group of girls but now I spend nearly all my time just with my boyfriend and can probably count my total friends on one or two hands. I'm just not as confident or as social now a days.

Don't get me wrong, I love my boyfriend and I love being around him, but it is difficult to get some things out of my head, things that really need to get out.

We've had some problems lately. He is lovely 99.99% of the time but when he gets to a certain level of drunk (every couple of months or so) he just becomes this total b*stard. I hate it, especially because my dad had a drinking problem, and it makes me so unhappy when it does happen ...

The last time it happened, about 2 weeks ago, he accused me of cheating on him. I haven't cheated on him so it was horrible to be accussed. However it's a kinda gray area because there was a time, last summer, when I got way too close to a guy who I met online and it was verging on what you'd call an emotional affair I suppose. It really hurt my bf and I stopped talking to this guy completely now. I feel horrible because even though I knew what I was doing, I was telling myself it was harmless. And it wasn't. So I've lost his trust now. But I still feel like I don't deserve being accused of cheating. Especially when he accused me of cheating with a man who was simply walking behind me before I came home. I had never seen that man before in my life. That's another problem, the bf is so paranoid sometimes.

I just hope I'll get his trust will back if I can show him that I'll be totally faithful here after.

I don't know what to do. I'm just trying to live in the day.
 
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it's a definite defect in women's psychology to blame themselves when a man is acting like a jerk.

oh, add 'drunk bastard style jerk' to that.


I'd say dump him .. but you women are always so forgiving and unassuming ... well, remember my post when he beats your children

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You see this is why I don't write personal things. This is definitely not the sort of reply I was hoping for...

I began to write more but you know what: I don't have to defend my relationship to anyone. Especially not online! I'm very happy, even if we do have some issues we need to work through.
 
Hey hun.
Sorry your first reply was a bit twatty.

Every relationship has their ups and downs! And most guys get paranoid all the time.
Even me and Martin have words about drinking, and neither of us are big drinkers.
I've not been accused of cheating by him, but that surprises me to be honest, most guys would worry. Chances are, if it happens so rarely, he just loves you :)
 
Hey Holly!

I think redpiggy and skunkrider both make good points.

My perspective comes from someone who just got out of a very nasty 5 year relationship. Having been out of it, I realize now- that when I said I was happy, and how lovely my bf was, I was just trying to convince myself otherwise.

I lost myself in my relationship, I stop seeing friends, stopped doing what I loved, and that's wrong and unhealthy! A healthy relationship allows both parties to have lives outside of the relationship! You should be able to have a friendship (and emotional friendship too), with girls and guys! If you two trust each other, and love each other, there is no need to worry!

With all that said, every person has different limitations for what they will put up with in a relationship. Each person has different things that they value...that's why advice or comments on a person's relationship is hard. What one person might put up with, another person might not...it's what YOU are getting out of the relationship!

If he treats you right, loves you, respects you, and you're happy- then no one but you can judge your relationship!

I hope this helps! It's important for you to be able to talk about your personal life, and the things that bother you! You need an outlet :)

Also, your relationship with your bf is completely in your hands! You know what's working, and what's not!

Don't take the advice to dump him seriously, but do take from it the fact that you should be aware of what's working, and feel ok to evaluate whether or not you're in a healthy, loving relationship!

The most important thing to get from all this, is that it's YOU who knows your relationship, and it's YOU who knows what YOU want out of a relationship :)

Trust yourself and your honest feelings- most of the time, they're right!
 
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