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Hey Holly,

I found that one post really insensitive and it's a shame because I really appreciate the fact that you're sharing your personal life with us on here. Especially after all the garbage I've spilled out to you guys in my diary. Your relationship is the most important thing in your life and it's only natural to get consumed by it at some point. What I've found in previous relationships is that you go through phases. Sometimes you'll want to spend all your time with your other half and you lose friends. Other times you'll go through a phase of being more independent and regaining your friends on some level. Whatever phase you're in, just try to remember that nothing is every permanent. Your relationship will evolve and change constantly and over time you'll realise whether or not it's worth hanging on to. By the sounds of it, it is! It's ok to be angry with each other and be hurt by what he's said or done, but just accept the fact that NOBODY is perfect .............
 
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.....and that perhaps his faults could be a hell of a lot worse than getting pissed and a twat once every two months. Also, if once upon a time he felt like you emotionally cheated on him, naturally he's gonna be paranoid. Just playing devils advocate, tell me to shutup if I've stepped out of line. Anyway I hope you find a way to get through this, WITHOUT compromising who you are and what you want from your relationship xxxxxxxxxx
 
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Thanks for the replies Red, Tik and Pip. I appreciate it. None of you were out of line, it was nice to have other opinions on it.

The way I try to look at all relationships is that it's not a cage. I can leave whenever I want. So I've just got to ask myself every day 'are you happy?' and if I say 'yes' then I stay. If there comes a day where I say 'no' - then I walk away.

And today I want to stay. And I will tomorrow and the next day. We'll just have the see what happens in a few months or years!

Thanks again. I'll write more back when I've got more time xx
 
Hey.
I totally get what everyone else is saying. I've been in a crap relationship where I was in a cage as you put it. I didn't realise until I got out. But you seem to have your head screwed on right :)
 
redpiggy said:
Hey.
I totally get what everyone else is saying. I've been in a crap relationship where I was in a cage as you put it. I didn't realise until I got out. But you seem to have your head screwed on right :)
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Totally agree!! You have a good head on you!!! You're a smart gal!

Always feel open to sharing with us! You might always get a few posts that are not positive, but you'll get a lot that are! And we're here to help you! :)

Take care!

Hope Monday treats you well! :) :auto:
 
Thanks ladies, it's a really big help.

I've had a cheerful day today. I had fun on placement and I'm generally in a good mood.

I can't remember what the last day of my challenge I had got up to was! I think it was day 4. So, yesterday I can't even remember exactly what I had. I know I had pork chop, potato and vegetables for dinner but not much else. I did have chocolate though. Today wasn't much better: coffee and cake in the morning, dodgy looking cafeteria mince and veg for lunch and beans on toast will be for dinner I think because our tesco shop doesn't arrive til late.

Not a great two days. Exercise, again, was lots of walking (I'm making a conscious effort to walk everywhere, not take the bus or metro) but not much else!

I'm not too bothered that I haven't been on my best behaviour food wise. I think eventually I'll get back to calorie counting, probably in the next few days, but for now I'm happy with just trying to be a bit more sensible and not binge.

I think I might start a blog elsewhere so I can write about more personal things. Somewhere I can make it more anonymous :)
 
Hey there!!

Great work! I think it's important to do things in steps- otherwise it gets WAY too overwhelming! :)

I hope you have another fantastic and cheery day!! :)

Happy Tuesday!
 
skunkrider said:
it's a definite defect in women's psychology to blame themselves when a man is acting like a jerk.

oh, add 'drunk bastard style jerk' to that.


I'd say dump him .. but you women are always so forgiving and unassuming ... well, remember my post when he beats your children

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That was definitely not a well thought out or considerate post. What a useless and insensitive thing to say.

Holly, all the girls have made great points, I can't really add anything but feel free to keep venting! Hope you had a great weekend, pretty.
 
Hey,

Just a short post because I'm uber stressed with a uni presentation at the moment. I'll be back on Saturday hopefully less stressed, once everything is out the way.

Food is terrible and no exercise, ha! But next week I'll be trying harder to get back to cal counting etc.

Much love xxx
 
Ok so because I thought it was about time I posted some pictures and because I want to procrastinate, here are my befores and inbetweens...

So this is a pic of my heaviest, when I was about 14 stone plus (I think I was 17 at the time) ... HATE IT!! This was my 'prom'.


This is a pic of when I was beginning to lose weight seriously for the first time (12 stone 4lbs I think) - I was dressed as a bunny for no real reason, just me and my best friend decided it would be fun for a night out.


My lowest weight (11stone 4lbs) whilst in Barcelona. I miss having legs that look like that!


And me now (13 stone!), at a ball I attended recently. I was posing for a caricature! This is not a flattering picture and it scared me. I was thinking 'Oh my god do I seriously look like that to other people? Gross!'... And yet I still haven't done much about it since. Sigh!


(lol when I put this pic on my desktop I named it 'fatty' and then the next day I saw it had been renamed 'pretty', my bf is so cute sometimes!)

So there you go. Me through the ages/weights. I would be so happy just to get back to 11stone4, it felt so much nicer to be that weight than it does to be this one.
 
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aww bless your boyfriend that's so sweet!!

You do look good on it though still. You might not feel it, and yeah compared to the other two, you are bigger, but MY GOD I've seen worse :p
 
I love you with blonde hair...majorly HOT. I think you look good as you are, I'd love to be able to wear a sleeveless dress...I gotta say that is one of my aims...I hate my arms you see. But I also know that if you look at a photo and see a heffalump (even if there isn't one there) then that's simply the way you feel. Photo's are really good motivation, good on you for posting...maybe I should lol x
 
your bf is so sweet! That is absolutely adorable!

And girlie, you're beautiful!! And the picture in which you think you look horrible, you look so pretty! That is SUCH a lovely colour on you!!

But it's all how YOU feel...it's awful seeing pictures of yourself and hating them...there's no other feeling like it. It can totally ruin your entire day.

You're doing excellent so far on your weight loss!!
 
Thanks everyone :) what sweet comments.

Ha @ Red. Yeah I reckon there's always worse, in any situation!

Pip - I still think my arms are one of my worst features (after my thighs haha) but nobody loves every part of them, right? Or maybe they do. Damn them! Ha!

Tik - thank you, it's lovely of you to call me beautiful :) you're a real sweetie! x

Sun - You've made me miss being blonde. Saying that, I was blonde not so long ago; it was for a few months up until last Christmas but then I decided I wanted my dark hair back. Basically I can never settle with a hair colour lol.
 
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(lol when I put this pic on my desktop I named it 'fatty' and then the next day I saw it had been renamed 'pretty', my bf is so cute sometimes!)
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That is beyond adorable!! - totally made me smile :) and you are just so so pretty!! Best of luck with everything, I'm really enjoying reading your Journal :D
 
Hey there!!

Just stopping by to wish you a happy monday! hope the weekend treated you well!!! :)
 
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