SOMEONE had enough nerve to point out that I have a hard time spelling ,so therefore my opions and problems don't mean crap because of this?
I'm not going to down people who can't spell because I know there's a lot of them out there, but I always am a little prejudiced when I see stuff like that. Maybe it's just the technical editing major in me, but I tend to think more that it's a natural reaction, like hearing someone talk like a valley girl over the phone. People immediately make judgments about others based on what you see/hear/read. I'm not saying it's right, just that we ALL do it.
I don't think it means your opinions and problems don't count. Just being honest about how I react to stuff like that. Superficially, because I only know people on online forums through their written word, I'm just inclined to judge by that sometimes, and I know other people are the same.
On to another problem I notice alot of recipies being posted and always someone has to point out something they don't like about it if it's not for you then be on your way don't be so crisizing(yeah probally spelled wrong).
Imho, People have as much right to criticize recipes as they do anything else around here - if a recipe is unhealthy, or plain out didn't taste good to somebody, people have a right to know before they try it themselves. It's just like if you posted a review of your favorite movie instead of your favorite casserole - tastes are different, and while it might be your absolute favorite, there's going to be someone out there that says So-and-so did a crappy job in it and the script was terrible.
There IS a difference between constructive criticism and flat-out meanness. Sometimes the line is a thin one, and sometimes bruised egos find it difficult to tell the difference.
Sometimes, it seems to me there are two people on this site that think they are all knowing and man have I, on a few occasions wanted to put them in their place. (unfortunately, I don't know enough to call their bs, lol) One of these people even made a comment that they hate when people lose wt. and then tell others how to do it. That's all this person does. kind of funny.
Don't know who you're talking about, of course, but lots of the people on this forum who talk like they're all-knowing have either a) lost the weight, b) pursued some kind of degree which concerns nutrition/fitness, or c) actually done their homework. That being said, these are all opinions here (even the ones with a degree to back them up) and everyone is free to double-check them against their doctor, local dietician or the Internet at any time. It's really just not that big of a deal. Don't like 'em? Ignore 'em. Just like real life.
Or call them out by name. That's another option.
Realize where it's coming from and go from there. I think that's what most of us have done.
Awesome advice.
Stay focused on your goal and not the morons on the forum. And, unfortunately, most forums have a few of 'em.
True enough.
the person that posted the porn I was shocked to see him in a thread saying some really nasty mean cruel stuff over the spears pregnacy which is a touchy subject for us parents and he was in there just being down right ugly towards a friend of mine and when I gave her a BEWARE that this is the creep that gave me a hard time I was put down over my spelling by a MODERATOR and not taking seriously over someone that shouldn't be on here calling people "whores" and alot worse than that.
This is probably the only real problem I have with your complaint. If you don't believe in negativity, why did you feel the need to retaliate his bad behavior in a public forum? A private message to your friend with a heads-up and another to a different moderator if you felt there was a serious issue probably would have been more effective if warning her was your intention, and would have minimized drama on the thread in general.
I have no clue who you are talking about. Hell, it could even be me since you've decided to judge people using very broad categories. There are a lot of people with a lot of posts around here.
Me being one of them finds this offensive. If number of posts is what you go by to judge people that's piss poor judgement IMO.
And pretending you know anything about what makes them tick and how they feel is extremely pretentious.
Yup.
I hate censorship and when you start banning people simply for being a terrible debater or even for spreading terrible advice and information, you are censoring.
That's how I feel about it, too. We're all adults here. Hopefully, we should all be able to act like adults and ignore those who act like children. *shrug*
Not sure on the topic but the guy was challanging in some way and it wasn't done in a nice matter he was beeing jerky!
What's wrong with being challenged? We're all here for a challenge, and we're all going to have different opinions, not just on how to go about weight loss, but about life in general. That's why forums can get hairy. Throw a bunch of strangers in a room together who don't know each other in real life, tell them to display their most intimate (read: anonymous) opinions and stories, some of them will act like jerks. That's just life. There's always someone in the office/playdate group/class/forum that's going to be a jerk. It's just a test of everyone else's character to see how they react to it.
There's nothing to resolve, self-centered, arrogant people are fine the way they are, according to them. I'd rather not deal with them and rather leave them to be in their own world, not part of mine.
So you'd rather complain about it anonymously than honestly and civilly confront people who you think are in the wrong? Maybe they are the way they are because others are too weak or lazy to challenge them openly. Which just reinforces their notion that they are in the right.
This is probably the harshest opinion I'll put down here, but if you disagree with someone or their behavior, but you don't have the nerve to confront them directly about it, you don't have the right to gripe about it, either. Kind of like you don't have the right to gripe about the president if you never vote.
I don't want to pollute the forum with this stuff.
Could have fooled me.
I must really do a good job of staying out of the threads where this hate is, thank goodness. I've always felt this place was easy going. Sure, there are a few rattles here and there.... but that's to be expected when you're dealing with so many different people.
Me too, apparently, because I have ran into hardly anyone I have any kind of issue with in this forum. (In fact, this thread is the most negativity I've seen in one place.) Sure, there are a couple of people out there who troll or are a bit misinformed and spread bad information (especially when it comes to starvation diets, which pisses me off in a personal way because I have personal issues with pro-anorexia cats) but it's my job (and everyone else's, imo) to be the adult in the situation and either confront them calmly in a civil manner about it, or ignore them entirely.
Obviously you dont feel comfortable but I dont think there's anything wrong with posting the names of this person that pointed out your misspelled words, the person that posted the porn, and the moderator who didn't delete the porn and just told you to block it.
Great point. If there is a real issue (and not just drama) let's be open and honest about it. That's what creates the difference.
So yes, sometimes it does get out of hand here but I always say to myself you have to take the good with the bad or --snaps fingers -- there goes the censorship and where does it stop. Well it should definitely stop with falsely marked porn that said it was a weight loss link. Now that is outrageous and not respecting the members of the forum.
What she said.
Not trying to down anybody, this is just what I think and you can take it as you will.
