Wanting to Be Fatter

ABBAgirl said:
It especially bothers/concerns me that this woman has a child!!! Talk about a horrifying example to be setting, not to mention denying the child a normal/healthy life. There are surely psychological issues at play here, and I hope someone close to the family will see it and insist on outside help, even just for the sake of the child.

It is outrageous that someone would set some kind of twisted goal for themself like getting to a weight of 1,000 lbs! And who has to pay the related health bills???
Grrrr...:cuss:

ABBA
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Yes this bothers me too. Being a parent comes with a lot of responsibility. How I see her situation she is neglecting her child and causing self harm. It's the same as an alcoholic or someone who cuts themselves.

She is choosing to slowly and deliberately kill herself, she is broadcasting it.

How very, very sad for that child to have a mother like that.
 
There was an episode on Oprah earlier this year, with the same kind of thing..EXCEPT these women were from a tiny country in NW Africa. Sorry forget the countries name. The Fatter, more stretch marks and bigger their arses the more valued they are. The men are to be skinny stick like. They've been doing it for IDK a few centuries. To be slender, is repulsive to them. I guess health concerns weigh over how they are viewed physically.

They start the little girls off in the morning to late at night by force feeding them. Their focus is to make them fat. They feed these children (girls only) till they throw up, and than feed them some more. This is now illegal to do so...yet they still try to get away with it when they can.

This is their culture, it is all they've known. A young women whom was on the Oprah show was saying how she moved to America, and when she goes back home, they ask her why she's lost so much weight? And is she feeling well? Is there something wrong with her? So she just no longer brings up the topic of losing weight with her family and friends back home for health reasons. I cannot recall what the average age was there either, but I think it was lower.

So a woman here in America having these issues, I would say she's having "problems" too, but it really all depends. I would have to say I am a fence sitter with this one. I do believe that there are of course underlying psychological issues at stake, but I believe that for anyone. No I don't think she's happy with herself, if she were why would she need to prove otherwise..?
 
Wow...okay, so let's take children away from mothers who suffer anorexia. I'm really not seeing how people are being so judgmental. I understand that it's OBVIOUSLY not healthy, but it seems like she has an eating disorder. Just like an anorexic person wanting to remain "thin and beautiful," maybe she wishes to be morbidly obese. I don't know the entire story behind this women, but I see no difference between her and just another person with eating habits and person problems that she needs to sort out.

I'm not saying to just let her be, but it isn't necessary to imply that she's just some attention-seeking pig. She needs a lot of help.
 
I've met and treated a lot of beautiful bbw's and most of them like their current size or want to be bigger. I think it has a lot to do with the acceptance and the circle they are in, believe it or not there are a lot of guys who like them big. it is one of the most popular fetishes on the net. I don't judge their choice I respect them and I do believe everyone is beautiful no matter the size, but we should all take health under consideration.
Many women that have tried many diets and can't seem to lose weight often choose to find these acceptance circles. I know it because I once signed into one and soon realized I didn't fit in there as I wasn't big enough and I even got criticize for being ''too skinny'' at just 30 lbs over. the other side of the coin, really weird situation!
 
Why is the audience applauding these women? It's bizarre. Everyone is acting like they are doing something great for society.
 
Amiba said:
I've met and treated a lot of beautiful bbw's and most of them like their current size or want to be bigger. I think it has a lot to do with the acceptance and the circle they are in, believe it or not there are a lot of guys who like them big. it is one of the most popular fetishes on the net. I don't judge their choice I respect them and I do believe everyone is beautiful no matter the size, but we should all take health under consideration.
Many women that have tried many diets and can't seem to lose weight often choose to find these acceptance circles. I know it because I once signed into one and soon realized I didn't fit in there as I wasn't big enough and I even got criticize for being ''too skinny'' at just 30 lbs over. the other side of the coin, really weird situation!
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It's not about being beautiful or about being able to get sex because some men are into chunky women. That's all nice and well. It's about the practical and healthy side of things......I had all the sex I wanted when I was at my heaviest, and looked decent enough (I guess) but that didn't change the fact that my back was hurting, I was out of breath just looking at stairs, I woke up at night thinking I was suffocating because I stopped breathing due to my weight pressing down on me. I don't care how good they look, or how much sex they get, they can't tell me that they are happy with not being able to wipe their bum properly because they're too fat for it (example, there are hundreds of other things). B*ll*cks to that!!!
 
San said:
It's not about being beautiful or about being able to get sex because some men are into chunky women. That's all nice and well. It's about the practical and healthy side of things......I had all the sex I wanted when I was at my heaviest, and looked decent enough (I guess) but that didn't change the fact that my back was hurting, I was out of breath just looking at stairs, I woke up at night thinking I was suffocating because I stopped breathing due to my weight pressing down on me. I don't care how good they look, or how much sex they get, they can't tell me that they are happy with not being able to wipe their bum properly because they're too fat for it (example, there are hundreds of other things). B*ll*cks to that!!!
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I don't believe all big women are really unhealthy, but it depends on the size and how you carry your weight.
any excess is bad so I don't support morbid obesity because you seriously damage your size..
I agree, some men just like them big. and there's nothing wrong with it- it is nice to have variety. but it does have an impact on your self esteem. I know this because when I was a little bigger and joined one of these sites I enjoyed the attention from guys who enjoy bigger girls

I do know big girls who don't have breathing problems and such. the truth is they do feel conscious from time to time especially when it comes the time to find clothes that fit properly and people staring at you.

why wouldn't you be able to wipe your bum?
I am scared!
 
ohhhh im hurt, i was with somebody cooler, but then he got a heater :/

Sorry mate, you're it!

I saw a doco today, unsure if its the same one you guys saw, but one chick seriously didnt look happy about being fat, but happened to be married to a guy who loved fat chicks, and he fed her till she almost died. then she got gatric bypass and he almost divorced her and they had lots of arguments. He doesnt get off on her now and isnt attracted to her and all this.

Come on girl, shes sad and depressed, shes half dead and dependant on him, he doesnt love HER, he loves the FAT! :O
 
:seeya: Earlier on someone posted asking if children should be removed from anorexic mothers (obviously she did not think so).

Every mother/parent/adult has issues which will (sadly) affect their children. Whether it is depression, anger, selfishness, etc., being human means we all have baggage. However, addictions and eating disorders (which I would put in the same category) seem different to me.

Severe eating disorders (anorexia and morbid obesity) lead ultimately to death. Kids in these homes are watching it happen, slowly, to their parents. Not to mention the twisted ideas they will also likely develop regarding nutrition. Any kid being raised by an "addict" is being neglected as the parent is consumed by his/her addiction.

I don't say that removing the child is the only option, but I certainly do think early intervention (possibly including removal) is the best option.

JM2C
ABBAgirl
 
ABBAgirl said:
:seeya: Earlier on someone posted asking if children should be removed from anorexic mothers (obviously she did not think so).

Every mother/parent/adult has issues which will (sadly) affect their children. Whether it is depression, anger, selfishness, etc., being human means we all have baggage. However, addictions and eating disorders (which I would put in the same category) seem different to me.

Severe eating disorders (anorexia and morbid obesity) lead ultimately to death. Kids in these homes are watching it happen, slowly, to their parents. Not to mention the twisted ideas they will also likely develop regarding nutrition. Any kid being raised by an "addict" is being neglected as the parent is consumed by his/her addiction.

I don't say that removing the child is the only option, but I certainly do think early intervention (possibly including removal) is the best option.

JM2C
ABBAgirl
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And you think ripping a child out of a home isn't going to create terrible psychological issues for that child?
 
this reminds me of a doco that we had of a local lady here in nz. she was morbidly obese, and her daughter was a normal weight. Mum was unable to even really get up and out of bed unless absolutly had to. So her daughter had to take her to the toilet, feed her, do what she wanted etc. The daughter said from about the age of 8 she had to change her mothers menstrual pads which she now thinks is normal.
At age 17 desperate to get out from under her mothers control (using guilt etc to control her) she met a boy, and got pregnant.
Well of course the relationship didnt last. but the girl had a baby, and the most disturbing thing in the entire documentary was the girl at home with her newborn baby explaining to the camera man how she loved her mother but almost couldnt wait for her to die so she would be free, her baby was fussing and she excused herself to feed the baby.
Took a bit to change the baby by which time the baby was really screaming and hungry, she sat down and started to feed the baby. At this point her mother screamed out to her 'im thirsty! can you get me a drink of water!', she replied 'im feeding the baby, ill do it in a minute'. The reply back was 'you will damn well get me a drink of water right this minute, i need a drink of water!'. The girl got up, put the screaming newborn baby down and went to get her water, and then make toasties and whatever else her mother wanted. the less than 7 day old baby lay screaming starving.
Effectivly the children become the enablers who are guilt tripped into doing things most of the time.
So i think if a child was in that situation it would be better to take the child away, yes absolutely.
 
LowFatMilk said:
I simply think that she was speaking far too casually of taking children out of the home, and without acknowledging the fact that it in its self is very damaging.
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How would you rather have her address the matter? You can't put icing and sprinkles on everything. The situation sucks and therefore some of the actions that may or may not follow suck. No one has to acknowledge that taking a child out of their family home is hard. It's fairly obviously.
 
calcium said:
How would you rather have her address the matter? You can't put icing and sprinkles on everything.
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Wait, what?

I wasn't implying she put icing and sprinkles on it. I was implying that taking children out of the home is more serious than she made it sound.
 
familyweese said:
Yeah but coming home and finding your mother dead would in my opinion be worse on a kid than having to live with someone else while your mother got help. I'm just saying that in my opinion seeing someone destroy themself is something you never get over.
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And I don't think you or Abbagirl is wrong that there needs to be some sort of intervention if the child is going to be with their mother. I'm just saying the above stated opinion about that specific post that was made.
 
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