twolilangels - a journal of a tired mommy...LOL

Cinderelly, Cinderelly *OHD warps back to Walt Disney mode* :p :p :p Hey, I rather like it!! Sweet!

Sooooooooooooooooooooooo glad you're back girlie, was missing ya to pieces! *HUGS* :D :D :D :D
 
Ohappydaye said:
Cinderelly, Cinderelly *OHD warps back to Walt Disney mode* :p :p :p Hey, I rather like it!! Sweet!

Sooooooooooooooooooooooo glad you're back girlie, was missing ya to pieces! *HUGS* :D :D :D :D
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Thanx Sweetie Pie!!! I came back for you...I have missed you as wella nd I am over to your diary!!!
 
Heya's Yay your back same ole 2LA just a princess now:) !
So how are thing's going with you. Here is my yahoo addy
incase weird things happen again niannah123@yahoo.com
jot it down and keep it girly.I was trying to figure out what the
deal was and we all tried.I am glad your back now we can kick
each other in the booty after XMAS (26th for me)to lose the rest
of our weight.Have a gr8 day,Tammy:)
 
niapage said:
Heya's Yay your back same ole 2LA just a princess now:) !
So how are thing's going with you. Here is my yahoo addy
incase weird things happen again niannah123@yahoo.com
jot it down and keep it girly.I was trying to figure out what the
deal was and we all tried.I am glad your back now we can kick
each other in the booty after XMAS (26th for me)to lose the rest
of our weight.Have a gr8 day,Tammy:)
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I did email ya girl this morning...I could still access the sight but not post so I found it in your profile or w/e...

Ive missed you Tammy, I am proud of you!!!
 
I am off to check my email.I thought I did today,
ohhh and I forget about the bulk mail! GLAD YOUR
BACK!<3<3<3:) TAMMY
 
Welcome back 2LA!!! I was wondering like crazy where you were! I got so caught up in real life that when I came back here you'd poofed. :(:(

Anyway!! Welcome back!! Yay!! :D:D:D
 
Oh man my kids are well typical kids countin down to xmas, LOL...they are both drivin me crazzzy...Im gonna have a head full of gray hair by the time I am 30...I have a 12 yr old and a 2 yr old and they are in the same growing stage it is frustrating, LOL...Ive alomost got xmas done, I need to buy a few last minute gifts tomorrow after payday...Taneesha's DOra table and chair set and chalk board and Kaylea's Ipod Nano...but ya know what she told me that her friends told me...you can buy htem for cheaper if you ask to buy the open ones or ones that have been returned it never would have occured to me...great kid hey...she is telling me how to get her big santa gift for less money, I guess I raiesed her well after all, i should stop kickin myself in the ass!!! Oh and a total last min gift for the oldest, Superstore and liquidation world have temporary body art machines...at Liquidation world they are 20.00...Im so buyin her one, best mom award here I come!!! She always draws on herself with preminate marker this way I dont care if she writes on herself!!!
 
Well have fun gettting all your stuff done! Mine is done and now I can't wait for the kids to open them. But DADDY sayes we have to wait for X-mas and I am over ruled!! LOL Ok I'm a bit of a kid at heart!!!:eek:
 
Ohappydaye said:
*OHD presents mommy of the century award to Cinderelly* :) :)
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*UGH* she got suspended today for bring a pocket knife to school....no award here :( I havent figured out how to deal with this yet, will explain more latta when I have more time...They are lettin her off with just today and tomorrow and she can return back to school after the two week break...It it werent for htat it would be a 10 day suspension...IEIEIE...so close to xmas as well...
 
Heya's and yikes suspened from school those were the days lol J/K!
I am sorry hope things get better for ya! My oldest daughter whom is 8
brings home a weekly progress and she is having trouble in school she
already goes to afterschool tutoring on Mon for reading and Thurs for
math but get this she brought me home a letter saying she is having
a difficult time in reccess :eek: how in the heck can you have a hard
time at recess?Her and her cousin have words all the time they don't
get along and I think thats getting her into trouble I am meeting with
her teacher after xmas break!
It gets stressfull whgen it's homework time we go round and around she
gets aggervated which gets me aggervated geeesh my other lil girl she's
7 is the oppisite loves school and has very high grades and she took a test
that said she had 3rd grade levle smartness she loves to read ect complete
oppisites lol!I love them all to death! Ok have a good night and things will get
better girlie Have a gr8 weekend Tammy:)
 
Well I've been worried about the pocket knife thing with my son! He wouldn't do anything bad with it , but showing off to his friens is very tempting for him, I know!! Hang in there! :)
 
Thanx you two...the pocket knife thingy is more serious...she brought it to school for protection...she is scared of soem girls tht have been threating her, I still havent gotten down to the bottom of it all...I was to tired to deal with it and havent figured out fully how it is going to be dealt with...she knows she is in big trouble and made a big mistake...she understnads that she could have dealt with everyhtign differently, but seh truly was afraid....

I also have no idea where she got the knife from, there are like 3 or 4 diff stories I have heard so far...also she got called into the office because some girl told the principle Kaylea was threating her wiht it...so ya...LOL

Needless to say she is in big trouble, she really screwed up this time...it is hard to though because she was crying uncontrolably and is upset and so on and is worried abt what will happen to her...ie punishment, this goes on her perminate record and she needs to speak to the police in the new year and hte knife got taken away...

Ikinda saw some of this happenning, well not htis but she has been outta control lately now at least I have a reason to wipe the slate clean and come down hard on her and start fromt he beginning...

What also worries me is if she seriously felt threatened and had the knife for protection, what would she have done with it ???

And it wasnt a tiny little knife either...when the principle called me he is like and let me tell you it is quite the knife...

It is also a reflection on me and my parenting...it makes me as a single mom of two working all the time look like I dont parent my children...which inst the case, my kids couldnt really spend anymore time with me, LOL...they are always at my side...

I reassured her htat even good kids and good people make mistakes and bad choices...
 
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I wouldn't necessarily say its a reflection of your parenting, people/kids make mistakes. She does however need to talk to someone, you of course but a counselor or therapist. Someone she will completely disclose to and help her brainstorm. If you've seen a change in her lately, there's definitely something going on and you can't let it continue. From what I hear, you've done a great job with them both...the problem is that we can't shield them from the real world. And when things happen we need to find ways to give them the skills to deal with it versus acting out of fear...which could (and did in this case) get them into trouble.

She's a good kid that mad a bad choice, but its likely not an isolated sitaution. If she feels bullied or threatened by those girls then she needs someone to talk to in order to problem solve and get it off her chest. She may not feel that she can trust counselors at school (I know I didn't) and as a preteen she may not necessarily want to tell you everything ( I KNOW that hurts...but think back to being that age). If the REAL issue isn't addressed here she may do something else to get herself into trouble or worse continue to walk around with these feelings eating away at her. Neither of which you want.

Continue to love your daughter as wonderfully as you do and talk to her about finding her someone to talk to that will be confidential and allow her to get everything out and help her to problem solve. Life at her age is hard, I remember being a preteen. It's awkward and social situations seem so overwhelming...it's not until a few years later that you realize that it really wasn't but going through it is miserable. This age really is a turning point in her life.

Sorry if I seem like I'm lecturing but with my line of work I see this everyday. The knife isn't the real problem, it's just a visible symptom. I know you'll handle this situation appropriately and I also know that its very stressful on you. Enjoy the holidays, let her know that she's loved and then find her someone to talk things out with. Best of luck to you all...it WILL get better.
 
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