To happiness...and beyond!

Tik said:
Hi All!

Thought I would write an entry, as I'm having a hard time and need some majah venting.
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Jill,

The best thing I can say is the trip will be over soon and you will be back in your groove and locus of control. I know some people who want to lose weight and would like to sabotage my weight loss as well, they have done it many times in the past because I was feeling "iffy"..."what if I don't lose weight, what if I'm doing this for nothing..." etc etc i wrote in my diary how many times I've started and stopped only to think a year later..."if i would have stuck to the program I would have lost so much weight!" I tried the weight loss plan I'm using some years ago and quit because it was inconvenient for me. Now that i am back on the plan, I went to the forum and saw this post...the initial post only two days after I first joined the forum...the woman weighed 545lbs and was afraid she would fail. Well here we are about three years or so later and I'm starting the program at the same weight I left off and she lost over 300lbs! She weighs less than me now! Don't doubt yourself, you can totally do it...I think getting past the starting phase when the results are minor can be difficult. I found the best thing to do is to celebrate your little successes until they accumulate to big ones. So the gym, the weight loss, and everything else are making a difference and they will be making a bigger difference with time. Sometimes fatter ppl have more stamina because their bodies are used to carrying around so much weight, and some muscles may be stronger (especially the legs if they are somewhat active), but the weight affects endurance--I doubt their endurance would surpass yours. Don't be hard on yourself right now because you are in a situation that is totally temporary, and you can always get back on track.

*hugs*
 
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I think losing weight really shows you who your true friends are. Oh sure, they will say great things and be happy for you for maybe the first 10 or 15 lbs, but I've noticed that the more I lost, the less friendly most of my so called 'friends' became. There have only been a few that have stayed supportive of me during my entire weight loss journey. And those few are now inspired to lose weight themselves. All the rest just liked to talk the talk, but sure didn't want to walk the walk when it came right down to it. And now they don't even talk to me any more because the new skinnier me is just too much of a reminder of their failure - even though I've tried numerous times to help them in their journey.

It kind of makes me sad, but I'm not going to dwell on it. It's their loss if they don't want to be friends any more.

I think it's really shitty the way your friends are treating you. Makes me wonder if they are truly your friends after all? Sure doesn't sound like it to me....
 
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Aw so sorry to hear you're having a crap time sweetie! You're friends don't sound like great ones, they should be supporting your decision to lose weight. To be honest if they're saying that the gym isn't working, it sounds as though they are trying to put you down, maybe jealously? Because you have willpower and are seeing results....maybe they even feel threatened you'll look better than them? Girls can be bitchy! :( You should also ask yourself whether these friends are really worth the hassle, if they continue putting you down, maybe you should be letting them go!

If you want a water bloody well order one. And tell your mates to shove their high calorie drink up their own arse if it's that important to them!

Hope your trip has taken a turn for the better by now hun! Big hugs! :)
 
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Those friends sounds like a joke to me!
You don't need negativity, fine new friends!
Continue to stay positive......
Lots of Lugs!!!!
 
I'm sorry that I didn't see this post sooner! I'm guessing that you're back from the ski trip by now though and hopefully feeling much better about things!

I truly can't believe sometimes how awful people can be to each other. I agree completely with what everyone has posted above (profanities included!). Age does not mature some people or cure them of jealousy!

I hope you were able to salvage the rest of the trip and at the very least, enjoy learning how to ski!

Regardless of what the #*@&$'s said during your trip, we are all here to support you in getting to the goals that will make YOU happy!

Hope to hear from you soon!

P.

PS: I skied for about 10 years when I was younger, then I switched to snowboarding for the past 15 years or so.... I recently tried skiing again and ya... I was aching! It had nothing to do with stamina. Learning any new skill takes time and you won't last very long out on the hill until you've been doing it for a while!
 
Wow guys! Thank you so much for such wonderful responses to my post. I'm sorry I didn't respond sooner! I did check your responses out while I was away, and each one warmed my heart and made me know that I was just in my feelings- and that I don't EVER deserve to be treated like that!

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Thank you all again!! I knew coming on here would give me so much encouragement :)

I finished up the week really enjoying the skiing! And excelling in my classes each day! I stuck to runs that were for beginners and did great!! The rest of my trip was really fabulous.

I talked to my friends and told them that they can't talk to me like that, and told them how hurt I was. Surprisingly they apologized (that doesn't make it right), and for the rest of the trip supported my healthy choices, and since then have been asking me all about the gym.

It seems like such a silly thing to stick up for yourself- it comes so natural to a lot of people...but sometimes it's hard having the confidence in yourself to know that you're not in the wrong about being upset, and that you deserve to put your foot down. I'm glad I stuck up for myself...and I realize, reflecting on what you have all said, and the conversations I've had with them...that they're really the unhappy ones...and even though it was mean, I can't take it personally, because they're more upset that they're not as motivated and determined as me :)

My mother has been so supportive throughout this process, and continually tells me how well I'm doing, and sets me up to succeed! When i returned home, she had fresh (and super healthy) homemade soup for me! It was great!!

Today was my first day back- back to healthy eating and exercising! I was SO excited to get to my PT appointment today! And the first thing my trainer said was, "damn girl! Look at you! You're looking great!" and she kept saying that I looked like I had lost a lot of weight - which, I take as a genuine comment! She's never said I looked good, or that she seeing progress...which isn't bad, it just makes these moments all the more wonderful!

I weighed myself today, and I'm actually down a lbs...I don't know if it has to do with hormones, or what...but I can NOT believe I didn't gain any weight! I'll wait a few days before I get too excited about it! I'm sure all the beer will creep up into my butt in no time!

I had a great time at my PT today- it's my last day of the foundation phase! Yippee! I've noticed a huge difference in my strength - I'm able to get deeper in my lunges and squats, and my plank awesome!

PT Session for Feb 14, 2011

Set 1 X 4

barbell squats (5lbs, 20r)
medicine ball rotation w/ throw (10 on each side)
dumbbell hammer curls (12lbs, 15r)

Set 2 x 4
Bosu back extension (15r)
Dumbbell shoulder press on bosu (15lbs, 15r)
Lat pull down (15r, level 3)

Set 3 x 4
Walking lunges (20)
stability ball plank (1 minute)
incline dumbbell flies (15lbs, 15 r)


Food for Feb 14, 2011
8am : oatmeal, 1/2 banana, 1/2 fresh blueberries, glass of H20
11am: Celery sticks, glass of H20
1pm: Homemade stew, glass of H20
3pm: Apple w/ 1tbsp peanut butter, glass of H20
5:30pm: 2 tbsp of goat cheese with 5 7 grain crackers, glass of H20
7:30pm: Chicken w/ (very healthy) sauce, 1/2 cup of stir fry veggies, roll,glass of H20

My food was good until dinner. It was my aunt's birthday, so we had her over for dinner...I tried to be good, buuuuuuuut *sigh*, the chicken was calling my name! Tomorrow I want to get back into counting calories...I just find it takes a lot of time- and I was so busy with work today!!

Feb 14 was a good day today! i got a few valentines from people, which was great! :) It's nice to go away, and come back and find people missed you! I had posted all over my desk from a coworker saying that she missed me! :) (She also told me how great I was looking!! Which totally made my day! Proof that I AM making visible progress *hair flip*)

I hope you all had fabulous valentines day with those that you love, beit a partner, a child, a friend, or your pet :party:

I can't wait to hear about all your great times :)

Thank you again for all your awesome support :)
 
Glad to hear that the rest of your trip went well and I think it is great that your friends apologised :) Excellent job on the workout, diet, and H20 wooohoooo :hurray:
 
Tik said:
...I'll wait a few days before I get too excited about it! I'm sure all the beer will creep up into my butt in no time!...
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ROFLMAO

You have such a way with words!!! I'm going to have to use that line if you don't mind.

We're glad you're back...hasn't been the same without you here. Also glad you got things worked out with your friends and had a good time. I'm still amazed at the differences between gals and their friends and guys and theirs. Yall tell each other how stuff makes you feel...we tell each other "*%^$# you, hater" and go on about our stuff ok with it. My wife just shakes her head.

Anyway, glad you're back...keep up your awesomeness!!!
 
Hi Tik,

Nice to have you back. I am glad things worked out for you. I think people sometimes don't realize how serious we can be about losing weight. They think we are just being a fun-sucker-lol. Good job on staying strong and following through on your goals.
 
Welcome back sweetpea :) Glad your friends said sorry- How rude!! My nan still tells me what a fat face I have every time I see her--Some people will never change! *rolls eyes* Glad the trip didn't hurt your weight loss! xxxxx
 
I'm glad that you were able to enjoy the last part of the trip & that your friends were able to adjust their attitudes towards your healthy lifestyle efforts!

Welcome back!
 
I just wanted to come and say hi :) I noticed your start and goal weights were similiar to my own so I've really enjoy reading your journal - keep up the great work!!
 
Welcome back from your trip!

:iagree: with what everyone else has said.

LOL at the *hair flip* - so sassy! And just wait - the compliments will keep pouring in from here on out!
 
Eee! Thank you everyone for all the wonderful comments! *twirls* Coming on here always makes me happy!!! And I needed it today!

I think I'm finally seeing the result of burning the candle at both ends...I KNOW i just got back from vacation, but it wasn't the relaxing, restful vacation that I need! Work has had me swamped the past few days...and it's not just swamped, it's stressful swamped! It was "Jill, I need this done task which really takes a week, done in 1 day...and I'm not going to really tell you what I want, I'm only going ot give you a vague description of what I need, and then make you do it" ... so I've been uber stressed out!

Not to mention I have SO much work for school to get done...it's one of those weeks where I've finally realized that I've overloaded myself with WAY too much...but it'll get done...just have to kick myself in gear! :)

Also, I think I'm getting a flu...I'm SO tired (I had to drag myself out of bed)...not to mention I have a crazy sore knee and ankle. So sore that haven't been to the gym yesterday or today - and I hate that! I know I need to listen to my body, but I'm so worried that if I don't go for a day or two, I'm going to get out of my routine, and fall back into my old lifestyle of sitting on the couch :( And I DON'T want that at all.

So, tomorrow, regardless of how I feel, I'll have my PT appointment, and do some kind of cardio....if my knee and ankle are still sore, i'll take an easy walk on the treadmill and do the row machine for a bit....doing just the littlest bit will make me feel better...and sometimes I think it's all mental blocks :)

I've found my new addictive meal!!!! (I've had it for breakfast, lunch and dinner - during the past few days!!)

two slice of 7 grain home made bread, 1 teaspoon of dill goat's cheese, thin slice of baked chicken, slice of tomato, and slice of avocado....SOOO GOOD!

I think avocado is my new favorite addition to a dish! Adding just a slice or two to a sandwich or salad is so yummy :)

...hmmm...I don't like to be Debbie down...but lately I've been having a hard time with myself and weight loss...I feel like I'm so close to reverting back into all my bad habits, and that I'm not pushing myself to reach my goals. It might be a bit of backlash from my trip (where I did no exercising and didn't follow my diet), and now returning home and not feeling very well...but do you guys ever feel like you're on the verge of slipping up and failing? I just feel like I'm going to slip up like I always do; that it's just a matter of time that I give up...and it makes me so sad! What do you guys do when you feel like that?
 
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AriannaErin said:
I just wanted to come and say hi :) I noticed your start and goal weights were similiar to my own so I've really enjoy reading your journal - keep up the great work!!
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Hey! Welcome to the site :) It's nice to meet someone else that is on the same path/goals as me :)

I must check out your diary and follow along :D
 
Tik said:
I just feel like I'm going to slip up like I always do; that it's just a matter of time that I give up...and it makes me so sad! What do you guys do when you feel like that?
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Step 1: Write about it on here.
Step 2: Get support from my friends on this forum.
Step 3: Snap out of it.
Step 4: Go to bed.
Step 5: Wake up and get ready to kick some ass.

Yep! Really that's what it takes :) Have you tried setting mini goals for yourself? This was something that REALLY helped me (and Lisa, "chubbygirl") when we FIRST got serious about weight loss. We would set specific dates for when we'd like to be at a certain weight. Sometimes, we would set the SAME dates for our goals so we could help push each other or just for more motivation to beat the other person to it :p Right now I have a goal to be 137 by the time spring break comes around (which gives me exactly one month to lose roughly 6 pounds). March 16th is the date, how about you set yourself a goal weight for March 16th and we'll battle it out?! :coolgleamA:

Take care Tik! And DEFINITELY give your knee a rest. I know it's hard when you're starting out with weight loss and all you want to do is exercise but if you do too much too soon you could make things a lot worse. I've gone through it before and it is very frustrating. So I think it's a good idea to keep the cardio light but still keep kickin' ass at the gym! :D
 
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skkroll said:
Step 1: Write about it on here.
Step 2: Get support from my friends on this forum.
Step 3: Snap out of it.
Step 4: Go to bed.
Step 5: Wake up and get ready to kick some ass.

Yep! Really that's what it takes :) Have you tried setting mini goals for yourself? This was something that REALLY helped me (and Lisa, "chubbygirl") when we FIRST got serious about weight loss. We would set specific dates for when we'd like to be at a certain weight. Sometimes, we would set the SAME dates for our goals so we could help push each other or just for more motivation to beat the other person to it :p Right now I have a goal to be 137 by the time spring break comes around (which gives me exactly one month to lose roughly 6 pounds). March 16th is the date, how about you set yourself a goal weight for March 16th and we'll battle it out?! :coolgleamA:

Take care Tik! And DEFINITELY give your knee a rest. I know it's hard when you're starting out with weight loss and all you want to do is exercise but if you do too much too soon you could make things a lot worse. I've gone through it before and it is very frustrating. So I think it's a good idea to keep the cardio light but still keep kickin' ass at the gym! :D
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Aww! Thank you skkroll! You don't know how much that means...just to know I'm not alone, and to have someone want to help! It's so ...warm and fuzzy!! :)

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I love your advice! I think your steps to get over it are great! And so true...I especially like the "snap out of it" - sometimes I think I'm my own worst enemy!!!!

I would LOVE to have a goal!! I would love to make March 16th the day I hit 190/189! Eee! I've been looking forward to that! And I think you're right- having someone keep me to that goal is great :)

I'm going to head to bed soon, read my book, tell myself I'm awesome, and then tomorrow, when I wake up, I'm going to start the day with a new attitude! I'll take care of my knee, listen to my body - but also push myself to break a sweat! :)

Thank you again! :) It's so great to know I can come on here, voice my feelings without feel guilty or judge, and know that I'll receive the warm, welcoming motivation from all of you :)
 
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