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thinking more about it - i havent been particularly stressed today either.

work was ok (although too damn much of it), i havent heard from the donor, and the kids have been behaving themselves.

I came home from work and made linguine carbonara using some lovely ham i had, sour lite cream, garlic eggs and parmesan. all low fat and my son ACTUALLY SAID HE LIKED IT. this from a boy who wont eat ham (I lied and told him it was bacon - he swears theres a difference). I have enough leftovers for lunch tomorrow.

Im catching up with an old "foodie" friend for dinner tomorrow....Ill just go easy and have no bread or anything fried.
 
Hi

I think that you will be less stressed because you got some walking in. My husband swears that I am more tranquil since I started walking a lot.

Despite your uncertainties about bringing your children and knives together - I think that it would be a great move. They need to learn to cook sometime - they are not going to be at home with you cooking for them when they are 50 years old. They might as well learn now and learn to make healthy meals. It should reduce your workload too.

I have seen your postings in the weigh every day club. I weigh every day. I keep all data that is linked to my weight loss project in a spreadsheet and would encourage you to do the same. I find it so useful to look up and see what main meals I was having two months ago when I maybe had slightly better weight loss and that type of thing. How exercise might have changed etc. It is so easy to think "I will remember" about things - but I am always checking up on things in that spreadsheet. It has helped me identify which foods I always gain weight with - and which I almost always lose weight with.

If you can - stay away from takeaways. They tend to be expensive for what they are - and really fattening. We quite often have fish and it really doesnt take much preparation and cooking time.

I agree with what the others say about not giving your children a choice in the menu - if they are hungry they will eat - and they will certainly be better off in the longrun if they eat healthy food.

Take care
Best wishes
Margaret
 
Thanks M :)

I went out for dinner with a friend last night, anyway this is (was) a very close friend who I am suddenly hardly seeing due to the fact that shes met a man.

She met him on July 5 and is 16 weeks pregnant.

Last night I told her that I didnt like him. She wasnt very happy about it but I felt I had to be honest with her. Hope shes not too upset with me....

Anyway I am not going to weigh today cos I had dinner and a couple of glasses of wine so if Ive put on im going to get depressed. Ive already been out in the garden this morning and got a mild sweat going. Ive taken two days off of work because Im tired and needed a break, also to catch up with a few things that have gotten away on me, eg paying bills, and hopefully it will be a good time to get my butt back in the gym.

Ive only just been paid and the moneys gone already.

Ugly hasnt paid child support (again) so I called them and had a big whinge, anyway after 8 years of being shafted I have HOPEFULLY finally found someone who will investigate the whole situation. I dont have much hope as every experience Ive ever had with CSA has been bad for me financially, but this time I insisted on speaking to a senior case officer and he has promised to send it all to a special investigation. I have been requesting this for 8 years so feel that finally something is being done. Or at least someone has finally listened.

Im also off probation at work as of yesterday, now they cant sack me :) one less worry to have in the back of my mind.

All in all...things are looking up!
 
Hi tiredaussiemum, just read through your journal.

I'm glad things are looking up for you. Seems like you've had it hard these past few days.

It's a good thing that you didn't check your weight after dinner and wine. Weighing yourself in the evening is not a great choice because you will always be heavier. The morning is the best choice, before you put anything in your mouth, and after you've went pee. Sorry for the image, but true.

I also agree with everyone about your children needing to help you out and eat what you tell them to eat. They should start eating healthy with you. They may fuss and whine and have a complete fit, but in the end it's better for them and they know it and they will appreciate it when they get older, and they are in good health because of it.

Anyway. I wish you success. I'll be stopping by often, to check in on you.

Jennifer
 
hey there...thanks for your post!

I agree re. the kids. But I just find it easier to do it myself (mostly). The trick is being more organised so I have more stuff in the freezer, and more stuff they can easily throw together themselves, that is healthy. I have been relying on junk food just because of my exhaustion levels, however now Im trying harder to regain my fitness, hopefully that will be less of an issue! I do feel much better on the days Ive gone for my hell walk (on treadmill).
 
Hey aussiemum!!

Now you have got to stick with the program here and lose weight and stay on this forum!!! Cos I want another Aussie!!! I'm a few days late... but

tiredaussiemum said:
hey there...thanks for your post!

I agree re. the kids. But I just find it easier to do it myself (mostly). The trick is being more organised so I have more stuff in the freezer, and more stuff they can easily throw together themselves, that is healthy. I have been relying on junk food just because of my exhaustion levels, however now Im trying harder to regain my fitness, hopefully that will be less of an issue! I do feel much better on the days Ive gone for my hell walk (on treadmill).
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My kids are 14 and 11. Thank goodness I never have to work 10 hour days at work (how do you do that!!), cos I already get it about how much you can do having kids around. I just heard another woman at work yesterday, say that when she makes her kids sandwiches she doesn't cut the crusts off and tells them "I don't have time for that!" OMG Revelation for me!! LOL!! So that's what I was supposed to say all those years.

My kids like some flavours of rice thins or rice/corn thins. I don't know how healthy they are, salt wise, but they are low calorie. Also they like Vive crackers and so do their friends. (Paradise brand: Vive Wellbeing, Soy and Linseed Crispbread. You can get them in boxes with individual 4 packs in them. I eat the Vive Wholemeal Crispbread instead cos there's a few less calories. Here, Woolworths stocks those flavours and Coles does not.) My girl likes light philadelphia cream cheese, which you can get in portions (though you pay extra for that). When they were less keen on salad I saw that they found it much more attractive if they could have a bit of low cal french onion dip with it, so that helped. Whole or rough chopped veges are a real bonus timewise, and great for low cal tummy filling, if any of you find them appealing. I also taught them how to cook scrambled eggs and omlettes. Toast can be handy.

Mainly I find that if I just plug along for a while, saying things (to myself) like "I'm glad I'm not eating that (thing the kids eat), because not eating it is making me thinner"; after a while, any rubbish food around me has lost its appeal and even walking past the bakery in the shopping centre is less of a trial than it was!! When I started here last November, I used to let my eyes slide off the food that might drive me crazy, and tell myself that it was revolting! LOL! Kinda silly but it helped – and it helped more after a while than it did at first too. :D

I get it about it being easier to do things yourself than get the kids to help. I decided this year that I would get the kids to help more. I worked out that when I'm too busy I don't ask them because I don't have time. (For example it took me quite a while to get the solidified Omo powder back out from the liquid final rinse dispenser!). Then when I had time I would feel like “Why was I asking?” cos I could easily do it myself! and they would even ask me that exact thing!! View attachment 5047 So in the Christmas holidays I explained that to them - how they needed to learn while I did have the time to teach them, and that I would increase their pocket money a little. Kids are just as likely to whinge cos you want them to help now ... and later on complain cos you didn't make them!!!! :D Well clearly I have a way to go in getting the participation right with my kids, but it has helped.
tiredaussiemum said:
Day two and ive nearly made it.

I weighed this morning, I was only 84kg (loss of nearly 1kg) which Im just going to put down to fluctuations.

I actually got on my treadmill this morning! yayay

I havent over eaten today at all...I have a theory that the days I break a sweat are the days I seem to have control over my bingeing. Is this because of the "feelgood" chemicals exercise releases? probably.......so why dont I do it every day?

good question....
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I lost steadily here for a long time, but just recently had a hump to get over when I let a holiday disrupt my habits. I noticed the exact same thing this week about decent exercise - that it's really helping with my food as well. I remember seeing a thread Mal put up months ago about women having less appetite if they exercise before their main meal too. I find this is often convenient in the summer and can start out legitimately feeling ravenous and come back feeling kinda hungry but like it's not a biggie any more. :) Why don't we do it every day? I think we have to ask ourselves "how can I do it every day?!!" :D Well I do. LOL! Cos there are so many legitimate reasons why not. But the more you allow yourself to take the time you need and do it anyway, the more it becomes what you are hankering for, and and make time for, well in my case anyway. Whereas any break makes me ask whether I'm ready to start again yet :rolleyes:

Anyway, probably TMI from me, but I am really glad to see you here and see you are making progress and I will be back ............

Ooops - where are you running to ....

I can be quieter ....

I was very excited to find another tired Aussie mum on here!! Stay!! :D Please!! :D
 
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Hi

I am pleased that things are looking up. Together we can all stick to our projects and get to goal.

It is good that your employment is more secure - and hopeful that your general financial position may improve re your ex. These things may all help you to focus on your weight loss project.

Jennifer is right. Weigh in the morning.

They say that you should weigh yourself at the same time of day, wearing basically the same clothes in roughly the same circumstances.

Generally you want your weight at it's lightest.

Hence a lot of people go for naked, first thing in the morning after going to the toilet.

I am a bit odd!!!

I go for a six mile walk (without eating) and then go to the toilet again - I have this theory about it burning up some of my fat.

Anyway - ignore what I do and follow the norm and you will not go wrong.

Walking is beneficial on all kinds of levels. It is constructive - aiming towards the weight loss goal and also in a way it helps you to think. My husband swears that I am more tranquil since I started walking a lot.

Take care
Love
Margaret
 
Hi TAM
If I read your posting right, you had the courage to tell your good friend that you aren't too keen on her fella. I say "Good on ya, mate!" because only a true friend risks a friendship by telling the truth, even when it hurts. Been there, done that. Not always a happy ending, but...

At any rate, now that you have come to the end of your excuses, and you own a treadmill and a gym membership, it sounds like you are truly ready to do battle! Keep at it, even when it feels like :banghead: because it is SOOO worth it.

Best of luck
 
Hi everyone

I cant believe its been so long since I last logged on.

I am now having problems at work which are exacerbating my financial issues. I have been on depression meds for a while now and due to negative cash flow, couldnt afford them. Hey presto - within a week my entire life has ended up down the toilet.

Ive needed major electrical repairs, an emergency cat desexing, and this week I broke my tooth in two so had to rush off for emergency dental repairs.

Needless to say while all this has been going on Ive been too stressed to even think about exercise and diet. In fact when Im stressed part of me says that the only good thing which is going to happen to me today is something nice to eat.

and off I go...another round of bingeing and out of control eating.

I have chucked a sicky today, I fully intend not to go back to work. I have been treated in a disgraceful way and have no desire to return. Ive contacted a counselling service to help me cope and have just found out im entitled to 3 months of free pshyciatric help which im going to use.

I just seem to take one step forward and two steps back in life.

Stop the ride, I want to get off!
 
Well the three months help sure sounds like a step in the right direction. Clearly right and necessary. I hope you get someone who really knows their stuff and keep those steps moving along there.

It makes sense that you have found the last little while to be a time when you were not up for dealing with a change in habits to help you lose weight. Rest assured that when you do get that sorted out, knowing that you are able to eat right and get in some exercise on a given day can turn itself into "the only good that's going to happen" in a day.

It sounds like you've posted here now because you have a little more time and you're still interested in this process towards better health. Yet another sign that however embattled you feel, positive change is still available to you. Baby steps they sometimes say - sounds like this might be the time for that.

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I agree with Felici that the counselling sounds a very good idea.

No-one can understand better than me the appeal in food when the world gets stressful - but I would encourage you to try and fit a walk in to the day.

I find that when I am out walking - it is the time when my mind is able to work through the problems that are stressing me. I am often able to come up with an answer that I otherwise may not see. I think it is in the solitude of the walk. You get to think things through without the interuptions and diversions that are elsewhere.

The fact that walking would help you lose weight is an incidental benefit.

Whether or not you return to your weight loss project, I certainly wish you well in dealing with your problems.

Take care
Love
Margaret
 
Just calling by to wish you a merry Christmas. I hope that you are feeling much better and more in control of your situation.

Take care
Love
Margaret
 
Life has been fairly awful for a while, to cut a long story short I had to quit my job and I had money problems anyway, well its all sorted and now I have a new job which although it doesnt pay as well, is a lot more laid back and enjoyable. :) I have more free time to go to the gym too.

I have been eating like a pig lately. I put it down to stress, then after a while it becomes habit and like any bad habit you have to break it. I went for the first walk on my treadmill in 2 weeks.

My diet has been shocking but there is no excuse now, I have more spare time to get healthy food in the house.

I need to check in here every single day. I want to go to Weight Watchers but always seem to find an excuse. Maybe Im ashamed to go because I dont want the whole world to know how much I weigh! Im too scared to get on the scales, my guess would be Id weigh around 86kg by now. :(:newangel:
 
Thanks for the kind wishes ladies, sorry I havent replied before now.

Felicia that vid was amazing! especially as I used to live in Auckland! Very inspiring.

Ive realised what I havent done is plan my day today. I will do housework which is a good workout, and maybe take the kids for a walk on the beach.

I will spend the day planning my food for the next week.
 
Congratulations for getting back to the forum even though things havent been going well. I am sorry to hear that you have been having a bad time.

Probably everyone here has had quite a lot of experience with emotional eating - so having a relapse and doing just that brings no shame here. We all know just how easily it happens in times of stress. 86Kg is light compared to where a lot of us have been.

You may lose a battle but you will win the war.

Do not be frightened of the scales. Unless you know what you weigh - you will not be able to quantify the extent of your achievement when you lose weight. Weight that you have recently gained should come off very quickly. Check out the diaries. Off the top of my head I know that The Krinse put on ten pounds over Christmas and lost it all by about 10th January.

It is great that you have more time for exercise and it is great that you have been back on the treadmill.

Good luck for a bright new start to your weight loss project.

Take care
Love
Margaret
 
Hi Margaret

Thank you for your kind words of advice. I am going to try really hard to check in here every day and actually stick to my resolution for once. I have to change my "all or nothing" thinking patterns to succeed - be able to accept slip ups will happen and not turn a small slip into a landslide!

Things are looking up for me and I hope to make 2008 a year of positive change.

I did go and weigh myself, scary as it was, and found I weighed 86.2. Its frightening how quickly and easily I can pack weight on. I got very annoyed one day when I figured out that getting fat is the only thing im naturally gifted at!
 
Ok so Im going to pin this week down.

Tomorrow its back to work so I promise myself I will get up and do my treadmill. 30 mins, 3 mins each side and 24 minute programme with elevations.

I will eat well all day. I will have 2 pieces of fruit MINIMUM and I will record every thing I eat. I will make a concious effort to take my vitamins and drink 8 glasses of water. I will make my own lunch. I will always eat something at 3pm.
 
You think that you are naturally gifted at putting on weight. You are an amateur (lucky you!) Check the start weight / BMI on my ticker.

86.2 kg is fine - and now that you are getting back on track it will soon be less.

You have some excellent plans in place. You will feel healthier and better about yourself if you stick to them.

Take care
Love
Margaret
 
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