This Trucker Fights Back

[T2 Trucker]

I just came from brother's house. I took with me the obligatory food list and 3 hours worth of frank and open discussion. I covered it all. I shared my tips, hints and suggestions. I took two cans of Coke Zero with me for him and his wife to try.

He is still scheduled to see a bariatric specialist later this month, which I highly encouraged to keep. Now that he's home and no more medical pampering, it's all pretty much in his face.

"Get busy living or get busy dying" - I left that note on his fridge. Unoriginal perhaps but certainly accurate.

Forums hugs to you Ali. You're so sensible it scares me

 

[ali2]

"Get busy living or get busy dying" - I left that note on his fridge. Unoriginal perhaps but certainly accurate.

Forums hugs to you Ali. You're so sensible it scares me

Wow, I don't think anyone has said that about me before Thanks.

I love that quote, when it comes down to it, there really are only two options in life. Every decision you make comes down to one or the other, IMO.

You have done all you can - it is his turn to stand or fall.

 

[PAPrincess72]

Hi Randy, just checking in. I finally am out from under the graduate class mountain of work. And, I'm done!!! I graduate this Saturday. YAY me!!!

Sending more prayers to your brother!!

We need to catch up soon. I miss our Tuesday nights together. A bike ride is in order. But, my weekends are so busy... we'll come up with something. A weekday off work, perhaps? Let's talk soon!

 

[wishes]

I just came from brother's house. I took with me the obligatory food list and 3 hours worth of frank and open discussion. I covered it all. I shared my tips, hints and suggestions. I took two cans of Coke Zero with me for him and his wife to try.

He is still scheduled to see a bariatric specialist later this month, which I highly encouraged to keep. Now that he's home and no more medical pampering, it's all pretty much in his face.

"Get busy living or get busy dying" - I left that note on his fridge. Unoriginal perhaps but certainly accurate.

Forums hugs to you Ali. You're so sensible it scares me

You rock T2
I love that quote as well, but yeah its pretty scarey watching people you care about killing themselves when you know you can help them change.
I look back at what i was and wonder how i was so friggen stupid thinking i was just big and jovel and pretty healthy and it had nothing to do with what i was eating, my mother was fat so clearly it must have just been bad genetics! nothing to do with the food i was shoveling in my face!

Props go out to you though, i think you should get your bro out cycling with you every day if you can, or walking. Perhaps give him your cocoa butter recipes!

 

[daiseeangel]

Thoughts on the draft?

I'm happy.

 

[T2 Trucker]

Wow, I don't think anyone has said that about me before Thanks.

I love that quote, when it comes down to it, there really are only two options in life. Every decision you make comes down to one or the other, IMO.

You have done all you can - it is his turn to stand or fall.

Sensible, to a woman, is as big a compliment I can pay Such a rare thing, yanno !?!? *ducks*

It would be a remarkable turnaround. I'm pretty excited about the outcome. I lack patience so I have to work on giving him a wide berth. It's only fair I let him find his own stride. My methods weren't well received on here, and admittedly, I did make some mistakes. I hope his professional helpers give him better data than what I used at my beginning.

Hi Randy, just checking in. I finally am out from under the graduate class mountain of work. And, I'm done!!! I graduate this Saturday. YAY me!!!

Sending more prayers to your brother!!

We need to catch up soon. I miss our Tuesday nights together. A bike ride is in order. But, my weekends are so busy... we'll come up with something. A weekday off work, perhaps? Let's talk soon!

Yay you !! lol what did you graduate from, btw ?? You are an official _________ ??

Hey far be it from me to hold you back from playing hookey *winks*

You know where to find me

You rock T2
I love that quote as well, but yeah its pretty scarey watching people you care about killing themselves when you know you can help them change.
I look back at what i was and wonder how i was so friggen stupid thinking i was just big and jovel and pretty healthy and it had nothing to do with what i was eating, my mother was fat so clearly it must have just been bad genetics! nothing to do with the food i was shoveling in my face!

Props go out to you though, i think you should get your bro out cycling with you every day if you can, or walking. Perhaps give him your cocoa butter recipes!

lol @ the cocoa butter (you brat !!)

He's clearly in denial of what and how much he eats. Yesterday's sit down proved that to me, however, I think we've all been there. I know I was at some point in time, obv.

I think 2000-2400 cals a day will surprise him a bit. He says he's ready, I have to believe him.

Funny you mention the bike ride. I bet him he'll be on the trail with me in summer 2010 for the whole length. My baby bro bought a Trek 820 today as he's committed to drop 30 lbs, also. He wants to start riding with me. I think everyone in my family is grabbing a slice of my thunder now. I couldn't be happier.

Thoughts on the draft?

I'm happy.

Pittsburgh sports is a maker of stars. They never buy the best till they've proven themselves.

Sweed was an excellent pick. I think Dennis Dixon is a great value pick for the future and I'm really high on Ryan Mundy. Mendenhall is pretty talented but only one season as a starter. Leaving as a Junior is always risky. If he thinks he's ready, the Steelers will find out, won't they !!

 

[wishes]

lol @ the cocoa butter (you brat !!)

He's clearly in denial of what and how much he eats. Yesterday's sit down proved that to me, however, I think we've all been there. I know I was at some point in time, obv.

I think 2000-2400 cals a day will surprise him a bit. He says he's ready, I have to believe him.

Funny you mention the bike ride. I bet him he'll be on the trail with me in summer 2010 for the whole length. My baby bro bought a Trek 820 today as he's committed to drop 30 lbs, also. He wants to start riding with me. I think everyone in my family is grabbing a slice of my thunder now. I couldn't be happier.

Indeed bout bloody time they jumped on the bandwagon. Then again, whats the chances this is just another 2 week fad :/
I have a mate who is in the same boat, however he is committed to change and counting the calories as of today (hes a cyclist also).

 

[daiseeangel]

Pittsburgh sports is a maker of stars. They never buy the best till they've proven themselves.

Sweed was an excellent pick. I think Dennis Dixon is a great value pick for the future and I'm really high on Ryan Mundy. Mendenhall is pretty talented but only one season as a starter. Leaving as a Junior is always risky. If he thinks he's ready, the Steelers will find out, won't they !!

I am very excited about them as well! My boyfriend watched the whole thing with me (to watch for his team too, of course!), and he kept telling me that we had a great draft! I am so excited for football season to start!

 

[bethann1156]

Hi ya Randy!

I sure hope your brother and his wife will commit to being healthier people...that is the secret. Sometimes I think we all bite off too big of a bite at first and get discouraged. I am guilty of that. Small changes often bring big results. My dad, simply gave up drinking Pepsi and switched to diet Pepsi products and lost like 40 pounds...one simple change. He already plays tennis three times a week, but the added sugar in his diet was hurting him....so if your bro and sis-in-law can make one change for the better, I think they can see the positives for them.

Good to see you're doing good things for you too!

 

[MissJellyBelly]

You're a good man for trying to help other people, especially family.

Have a good week. Mwah!

 

[PAPrincess72]

Hi ya Randy!

I sure hope your brother and his wife will commit to being healthier people...that is the secret. Sometimes I think we all bite off too big of a bite at first and get discouraged. I am guilty of that. Small changes often bring big results. My dad, simply gave up drinking Pepsi and switched to diet Pepsi products and lost like 40 pounds...one simple change. He already plays tennis three times a week, but the added sugar in his diet was hurting him....so if your bro and sis-in-law can make one change for the better, I think they can see the positives for them.

Good to see you're doing good things for you too!

I agree with you, Beth. I think his brother is probably feeling way overwhelmed at the amount he needs (or should) lose. You have to start small. Cut back, take small walks. Don't try to do everything gung ho your first week out. I hope he can find the strength to make the little changes that will count in a big way.


Randy, I'm officially a graduate with a Master of Arts in Organizational Leadership. So, I guess that means the next bike ride I am certified to lead ;-)

 

[T2 Trucker]

. Then again, whats the chances this is just another 2 week fad :/

I'm braced for it. After all, I'm a realist. Just when you wonder if you make an impact at all, a surprise visit from me at lunch time (while out on my 2 hour walk) provided me with the visual of broski and wifey eating salads for lunch - all to my specs that I dropped off yesterday.

I gotta say, that was very rewarding for a start. He re-assured me "it's on" (the weight loss). A quick look around the kitchen still showed no signs of replacing all their bad shit I threw away awhile back.

*fingers crossed*

I am very excited about them as well! My boyfriend watched the whole thing with me (to watch for his team too, of course!), and he kept telling me that we had a great draft! I am so excited for football season to start!

lmao !! all you're doing is making me wanna watch some football !! is it pre-season yet ?!?! !!!11

At the rate you're going, maybe you'll be ready for open tryouts this year ?? If you make the team, I want an autograph !!

Hi ya Randy!

I sure hope your brother and his wife will commit to being healthier people...that is the secret. Sometimes I think we all bite off too big of a bite at first and get discouraged. I am guilty of that. Small changes often bring big results. My dad, simply gave up drinking Pepsi and switched to diet Pepsi products and lost like 40 pounds...one simple change. He already plays tennis three times a week, but the added sugar in his diet was hurting him....so if your bro and sis-in-law can make one change for the better, I think they can see the positives for them.

Good to see you're doing good things for you too!

Oh yeah, I'm not stopping my daily deal, you heard it here first !! I did stick my size 12's in my mouth in a half-promise something to the affect of losing 50 lbs. this summer by switching to sugar-free soda and decent foods.

I didn't get that benefit because I was on diet soda looooong before my wl but I feel in my heart this change will support my prediction, given they allow it to happen.

You're a good man for trying to help other people, especially family.

Have a good week. Mwah!

*wipes mouth* yummy surprise ya nailed me with. I'm glad I brushed my teeth this morn

We'll see how good of a man I am if he fucks this up....

<--- He don't want none of this

I agree with you, Beth. I think his brother is probably feeling way overwhelmed at the amount he needs (or should) lose. You have to start small. Cut back, take small walks. Don't try to do everything gung ho your first week out. I hope he can find the strength to make the little changes that will count in a big way.


Randy, I'm officially a graduate with a Master of Arts in Organizational Leadership. So, I guess that means the next bike ride I am certified to lead ;-)

So this could be perceived as:

A.) You didn't like looking at my ass last trip.
B.) You want me to look at your ass for 26 miles this time in all fairness.
C.) You want your educational dollars at work even in playtime - which would really freak me out.

I truly emphasized small ball changes. He'll spook way too easily with a truckload of shit to master straight away. I knew he couldn't absorb my methods. WLF has taught me that the general population needs to go about wl in ways I didn't. I'm ok with that.

 

[MissJellyBelly]

Your breath is so fresh and minty. mmmm You shouldn't have.

 

[ali2]

We'll see how good of a man I am if he fucks this up....

If he fucks it up, it is on him and not you...you know this

Ease up on the pressure, I know you have so much invested but at some point, he has to be responsible for his own future.

 

[MsGhettoBooty]

Randy... my happy lil snatch cake.... thanks for dropping into my diary and damn near having me drown on my water from reading your response. Bastard. Anyways, I just wanted to say that you're such a good brudder... awwww... I'm doing the same with dad right now and, like you, I'm crossing my fingers and hoping he stays on track.

-HHB

PS... I need that surgically removed cock ring. I want to make it into a septum piercing. Love yas, trouble. Thunder Twats.... Gooooooooo!!!

 

[T2 Trucker]

If he fucks it up, it is on him and not you...you know this

Ease up on the pressure, I know you have so much invested but at some point, he has to be responsible for his own future.

I must be writing in 'Objects are closer than they appear' mode. Apprehensive perhaps; pressure, I feel none. I'm pretty lousy at carrying anyone's cross for them however if someone needs the nails pulled out of their feet or hands, I'm the guy to call on

Randy... my happy lil snatch cake.... thanks for dropping into my diary and damn near having me drown on my water from reading your response. Bastard. Anyways, I just wanted to say that you're such a good brudder... awwww... I'm doing the same with dad right now and, like you, I'm crossing my fingers and hoping he stays on track.

-HHB

PS... I need that surgically removed cock ring. I want to make it into a septum piercing. Love yas, trouble. Thunder Twats.... Gooooooooo!!!

oh yeah, honor me and flatter me now. such a charmer. bitch. you knew you could waltz right on in here and smooth me. I hate you for your talents. aight, I'll ship da ring. you win. again. *sigh*


FWIW, Dads always listen to daughters. It's our weak spot. Keep talking to him, he's listening *winks*

 

[T2 Trucker]

My day:

Kinda bland but it had a good groove to it. I took brother back to Danville for a visit to his 'infectious disease' doctor. It seems the antibiotics have done their job. So weird no source was ever located .:quizzical screwy face:.

They weighed him in. He's lost 6 lbs. so far. It certainly opened hope, smiles and a hot bed discussion for the two hour drive home. I still revert back to his upcoming bariatric appt. for a lot of his specifics in the majority of questions. I'm far from authorized to give out factual programs and whatnot. I can be a cheerleader effectively and not much else.

I was the total buzzkill refusing to stop at Wendy's after we left the hospital. I told him and the wifey "It's been 26 months since I've had fast food" I think they were waiting for the punchline. I said "I'm not stopping there to eat" Wifey said she was sick from nothing in her belly, headache, wah, whatever...

Bro had burgers (and worse) on his mind. He gave me the money in the hospital parking lot, that's how preemptive this was. Oh, wait. Yes, the "there's a Wendy's" was mentioned on the way into the hospital. I didn't respond.

So I pull in the parking lot. Bro says 'if you're not eating, neither am I; I'll wait until I get home and have a salad'. I beamed. Wifey says "order me..." I interrupt, "Slide over to the other window and I'll pull up so you can order at the speaker".

So she gets some wrap shit, terrorized the interior with foul-smelling greasy fries and Bro ask for a full sugar jumbo Sprite. My heart sank. I know, people. it's hard for them. I'm not judging unfairly. I feel like I was in a coinflip and the coin landed on its edge. oh, wtfu gonna do..

I threw my T shirt in the garbage when I came home. That fucking fast food stinks - seriously. Toxic clinging agents and all. It's a fucking conspiracy I tell ya.

Hey, I rode my 26 today. Now that blew the animal fat off me *winks*

 

[wishes]

oh no, i hate it when that happens, and no doubt they are going around saying 'oh i did try to loose weight but <insert excuse here and blame something other than themself>'

You did good Randy, i love ya for it. If i believed in heaven, you'd be going there for caring enough to be pissed off at the least

 

[ali2]

So she gets some wrap shit, terrorized the interior with foul-smelling greasy fries and Bro ask for a full sugar jumbo Sprite. My heart sank. I know, people. it's hard for them. I'm not judging unfairly. I feel like I was in a coinflip and the coin landed on its edge. oh, wtfu gonna do..

I would bet money that one of the hardest parts of his battle is going to be dealing with his wife. I know that my overeating was fueled by my husband and there were many times when he would bring shit into the house and could not understand why in God's name I didn't want to eat it. I don't know if it is subconscious sabotage or not but it does make the effort that much harder.

 

[T2 Trucker]

oh no, i hate it when that happens, and no doubt they are going around saying 'oh i did try to loose weight but <insert excuse here and blame something other than themself>'

You did good Randy, i love ya for it. If i believed in heaven, you'd be going there for caring enough to be pissed off at the least

Well, that's family - the caring part. I feel it's my duty to extend support. Some of it will be in a manner they may not care for. I know your no-bullshit stance and forever you'll own my admiration, Liz. Tough chicks are my Achilles Heel.

Weight loss = serious business.

I would bet money that one of the hardest parts of his battle is going to be dealing with his wife. I know that my overeating was fueled by my husband and there were many times when he would bring shit into the house and could not understand why in God's name I didn't want to eat it. I don't know if it is subconscious sabotage or not but it does make the effort that much harder.

Yes. Until I started reading first-hand accounts on here, I didn't totally wrap my head around spousal sabotage for insecure reasons. If Wifey really wants bro this big, then she's plain whacked or eye-spying future insurance claims. Who knows..

Don't get me wrong, I gained (and so did my ex) the bulk of my weight during my married years and really only got serious about unfucking that mess until I was a loner.

A real two-headed sloth, IMO. You lose interest along with the self-esteem and yet the loneliness fuels another thought that 'you'll never get another piece of ass in this disgusting body'.

I wonder if I would've ever tackled this project with an enabler in my life ??

I'll ponder this over some drinks at the Derby Party here very, very shortly.