Still Feeling Fat

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younggirlie

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Hey everybody. I've been reading this forum for a while now and it's made me feel much better to read other people's stories. I'm a college student working on losing 71 pounds, from 231 to 160 (I'm 5' 7.5"). I've been overweight my entire life - I've never been a thin girl. So when I accomplish this, it will be my first experience being a "normal" weight. I've lost 34.6 pounds as of today (after 4.5 months) and I feel proud; I'm officially in "onederland" and not in the 200's anymore. But I don't feel like I look very different. I can see it in my face a little bit but I still feel extremely fat and ugly. Do you have any tips for feeling more confident? Has this happened to anyone else?
 
Some times it just takes awhile for your mind to catch up withyour body. If you have pictures from before you lost the weight to now I suggest looking at them. 30+ pounds is a lot of you should def see results if you look at them in picture form.
 
Younggirlie, I am pretty much exactly the same place as you weight wise and loss wise. the place where you will notice the difference is in clothes! Go put on some of the clothes that you used to wear at 230 and see just how baggy they are now!

Or, stick 36lbs worth of something in a rucksack (or pick up a 5 year old) and try and walk up and down stairs or a hill - that's what you were carrying around all the time before. You will notice a huge difference then!

I guarentee that there's no way you have lost that much weight and it not look very different. Like you, i still feel fat and unattractive, but have to admit to myself that I am a lot LESS fat and unattractive than I used to be!
 
Hi younggirlie=)
I totally understand where you are coming from! First of all, I want to tell you congratulations...losing 35 lbs is such a great accomplishment! I lost 40 a few years ago and still look in the mirror and feel fat in my "new body." This is called a distorted body image and it does take time to walk confidently and surely in your new skin. You may not quite ever feel like this is really you until you accept and love yourself and the body you are in. Remember you are beautiful though no matter what the scale or your pant size say!! We are not numbers, do not let the number dictate who you are or how you feel each day! I would love to help you in any way I can along your journey! Mine has been long and challenging, but I have learned so much along the way and continue to each day! Good luck to you and if you have any questions or need any other help I'm here for you=)
 
Thanks everybody! It's funny. I always had a ton of confidence in myself as a kid and all through high school - but somehow actually losing the weight is forcing me to accept things about myself and my confidence has taken a huge hit. So I know in my head that I've lost a bunch but I can't seem to see it or let myself feel it. I guess that's just as much as part of the process as the weight loss.
 
U R beautiful!

Hi younggirlie=)
Just remember this...you are more than just a body or a number! I know it takes LOTS of time to feel that new number or real in your "new" body, but you must also love you for you! Love this..."For the Lord does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart." 1 Sam 16:7
 
Make no mistake, 35lbs is huge. Likely you can't see it because the changes are gradual and you look in the mirror everyday. But I'm confident there's progress where you might mistakenly think there isn't. You can't argue with the scale, right?

Putting 35lbs in a pack and carrying it around will highlight just how much you've lost. And it should go to show you that you're more than capable to stay on this path if you want to. I would bet you're in the top percentile of people who can actually stay motivated enough to achieve this kind of weight loss. Plus, I'm sure you're fox : )

Good job. Keep it up.
 
WOW Congrads on the 35 lbs!! Its a fantastic accomplishment
Yeah, the mind takes a while for it to catch up with your body.
My advice, go get a makeover.
Get your hair done, then buy a new outfit and when your in the dressing room surrounded by the mirrors, take a GOOD look.

Youve accomplished alot
 
Thanks everybody so much for responding and encouraging me! I'm feeling a bit better these days. Last week I gained a pound (water weight, being a woman is great) but just now I've reached 36.4 pounds gone - just over my half way point! I'm very excited. And more importantly this week I picked up a tee shirt from my sorority that I ordered a few weeks ago. It's a size large and it is just too big! I was irritated that it looked silly and I'd wasted my money but then I realized what I was irritated about and saw that it wasn't an inconvenience at all!

I'm still working on getting my confidence up to match, but I'll get there. I go home for the summer in a few weeks and when I do I'm going to get my hair cut and spend a day on myself.

How is everyone else doing?
 
Hey hun!

So proud of you! You even "sound" like your confidence has gone up! When you start seeing clothing sizes change, maybe that will help reality set in:) Just remember if I can help you in any way at all please let me know! It's hard to find that perfect balance in life as I believe that is what we are all truly seeking, just come to that place where you truly feel comfortable and happy in the skin you are in=)
 
Your story is a lot like what I am going through right now. I started at about 220 and want to get down to 150 (ok, more like 135, but 150 is my first big goal), so I'm looking to lose 70 pounds and I've lost about 32. Yeah, we are pretty much the same.

And I know exactly what you mean. My hubby would tell me that he could really see a difference, but I just didn't see it. One person who didn't know I was losing weight just recently commented on how I look great, but no one else has said anything.

The things that have helped me are looking at my wedding photos (1 year ago) and fitting into jeans I haven't worn in 3+ years.
 
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