Miss Ladybug
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Amy girl, where are you!! I hope this means GOOD NEWS and your out celebrating in a big way. My thoughts are with you!! hope everything went well.
Kim
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bikinibound
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Did your lawyer think it went well? Let's hope the judge has his/her head screwed on right. Hope you get good news soon!
AmyRB
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We're still waiting. It's killing us! I flew back last night to get Bella and am at work today. Our lawyer is optimistic about the trial and thinks we have a huge shot. Especially since he dug up way more dirt on the mother. Remember me telling you about the abusive criminal she had living with her? Well we went to trial last year and forced him out of the home. She then got a protection order against him, just so we'd get off her back. In november he robbed his employer of $1300 and ran. In mid december the cops found him hiding out at HER HOUSE. He had been there for weeks and he has a cocaine problem now. She was told by the cops that if she didn't turn him in and cop a plea, then she would go to prison with him. She did and he was arrested. This is the same man she told OUR JUDGE was a dangerous man and that she feared for their safety. Nice huh?
What's really F'ed up is that she still HAS A CHANCE of keeping him! Due to the fact that the boyfriend is in prison and no longer a threat. I am praying the judge takes into account that she has zero regard for the law and her bad decisions put my SS in harm's way. Grrrrrrrrrr!
What's really F'ed up is that she still HAS A CHANCE of keeping him! Due to the fact that the boyfriend is in prison and no longer a threat. I am praying the judge takes into account that she has zero regard for the law and her bad decisions put my SS in harm's way. Grrrrrrrrrr!
Krystal1
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Keep your hopes up lovey. I have you in my thoughts...this horrible woman doesn't deserve a uterus
Poor kid. Hang in there...I know you guys are going nuts having to wait. Have faith. The judge HAS to see what a wingnut his mother is, and hopefully this will all be over soon. I LOVE that he gave her that little reprimand right before you guys left the courtroom tho...how friggin awesome was that!?!
And did I hear you say you went to WORK today? What did I tell you yesterday? After that whooooole conversation about making me worry worry worry, and you still went in? Oy. Fifty lashings coming your way missy. Wet ones. With a big leather paddle. Wait, what was my point????
Oh yeah, and I'm down 29 pounds this morning.
Poor kid. Hang in there...I know you guys are going nuts having to wait. Have faith. The judge HAS to see what a wingnut his mother is, and hopefully this will all be over soon. I LOVE that he gave her that little reprimand right before you guys left the courtroom tho...how friggin awesome was that!?! And did I hear you say you went to WORK today? What did I tell you yesterday? After that whooooole conversation about making me worry worry worry, and you still went in? Oy. Fifty lashings coming your way missy. Wet ones. With a big leather paddle.
Wait, what was my point????Oh yeah, and I'm down 29 pounds this morning.
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bikinibound
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Ooohhh! Dish the dirt girl!! What did he say to her??
bikinibound
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I just spoke with her. Not good news.
Lets all send our good mojo her way. She needs it.
OMFG!! Are you kidding me????? That judge must have his head up his ass!! WTF???
Oh Amy, dear, I am soooo sorry, honey!
I swear this is black Thursday. Everywhere I turn bad news. I don't know what to say except, if there is any way to fight the judgement (a bad one, indeed), I hope you and Sean will. My heart goes out to you and your family. 
AmyRB
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We didn't get him. The judge admitted she makes bad decisions and put him in danger but that she was suffering from battered woman syndrome and needs counseling. He admitted my SS would have a fantastic life with us but it would be too traumatic to remove him from her home. So basically this bitch BREAKS THE LAW, puts a dangerous criminal who is on cocaine in the home with my SS, and spends our child support on stupid shit and keeps her kid while we pay $900/month and still pay for all his clothing, shoes, coats, and activities. PLUS another $500-600 more each month to go see him.
I am sooo angry right now I can't even think. I wanna hit something, preferably HER.
I am sooo angry right now I can't even think. I wanna hit something, preferably HER.
bikinibound
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It would be too traumatic for him to remove him from a terrible situation and put him into a wonderful one that he wants? That is utter bullshit!! That judge does have his head up his fucking ass. I wanna punch HIM! Can you appeal the decision?? Battered woman syndrome my ass. She's just a fucking lunatic, period.
AmyRB
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It would be too traumatic for him to remove him from a terrible situation and put him into a wonderful one that he wants? That is utter bullshit!! That judge does have his head up his fucking ass. I wanna punch HIM! Can you appeal the decision?? Battered woman syndrome my ass. She's just a fucking lunatic, period.
We are appealing immediately. We have an appointment with our lawyer tomorrow and it will be filed by the end of the day. It's going to take all my willpower to keep from wiping that smug look off her fucking face this weekend when we pick him up.
bikinibound
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Ugh...the smug look. Just be super acidicly sweet to her--she won't expect that and it'll throw her off.
Great that you're appealing right away. Hopefully you'll get a different judge who has their wits about them. I would love to be a family court judge. My decisions would be based on "You're a sorry excuse for a parent, so the other parent who has their shit together gets custody." 'Nuff said. Oh, if only it were that easy...
AmyRB
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I did not fly back to Ohio this weekend. Bella and I checked in yesterday morning at the airport but she was so excited and hyper while waiting, I decided to spare the other passengers and go home. I have had such a mentally, emotionally and physically exhausting week that I just couldn't handle any tantrums while crammed on one of NWA's small jets. I think that would have been my breaking point and I would have ended up bawling my eyes out mid-flight. She and I are home and I am now well rested and feeling a bit better.
We spoke with our lawyer yesterday and this case isn't over yet. He said we can prove she committed perjury on the stand and may get the decision reversed. She stated she turned her ex in on her own, not because she was threatened by the sheriff about going down with him. The judge saw her as a battered woman who did do something to protect her kids (turning him in) and since we couldn't prove otherwise, he was bound by law to come to that decision. Otherwise it would look like the courts are victimizing an already battered woman. **cough, bullshit!** If we prove she had NO INTENTION of turning him in, we prove she was not protecting her children and purposely put them in harm's way. We are also proving that my SS was in the home during the time the ex was living there (3 weeks). She and her mother both lied and said he stayed at his grandmother's house. We spoke to him on the phone during this time and he was at home. Our attorney was shocked with the verdict and can't stop apologizing to us, he says it was his fault because he honestly thought we had enough evidence submitted to win this. He said he will do whatever he can to fix it.
ALSO, we have found a counselor there who believes my SS is suffering from "Hero Syndrome". My SS has excellent grades, is great with his teachers and is top in his entire grade. The judge stated that he seems to be okay regardless of the abuse that has gone on in the home for the past 4 years. The thing is that he severely punishes himself if he makes the slightest mistake in anything and is an extreme overachiever. This is quite common in HS. Basically children in traumatizing situations will react two different ways.
1. Act out, become depressed, substance abuse, failing grades, etc.
2. Excellent grades, popularity, extreme self-criticism, low self esteem, etc.
It is an unconscious need to be needed,appreciated or valued that disguises itself as a good thing, but threatens to destroy you.
This is an EXACT description of my SS. So basically we still have a chance!
I'll keep you all updated!
We spoke with our lawyer yesterday and this case isn't over yet. He said we can prove she committed perjury on the stand and may get the decision reversed. She stated she turned her ex in on her own, not because she was threatened by the sheriff about going down with him. The judge saw her as a battered woman who did do something to protect her kids (turning him in) and since we couldn't prove otherwise, he was bound by law to come to that decision. Otherwise it would look like the courts are victimizing an already battered woman. **cough, bullshit!** If we prove she had NO INTENTION of turning him in, we prove she was not protecting her children and purposely put them in harm's way. We are also proving that my SS was in the home during the time the ex was living there (3 weeks). She and her mother both lied and said he stayed at his grandmother's house. We spoke to him on the phone during this time and he was at home. Our attorney was shocked with the verdict and can't stop apologizing to us, he says it was his fault because he honestly thought we had enough evidence submitted to win this. He said he will do whatever he can to fix it.
ALSO, we have found a counselor there who believes my SS is suffering from "Hero Syndrome". My SS has excellent grades, is great with his teachers and is top in his entire grade. The judge stated that he seems to be okay regardless of the abuse that has gone on in the home for the past 4 years. The thing is that he severely punishes himself if he makes the slightest mistake in anything and is an extreme overachiever. This is quite common in HS. Basically children in traumatizing situations will react two different ways.
1. Act out, become depressed, substance abuse, failing grades, etc.
2. Excellent grades, popularity, extreme self-criticism, low self esteem, etc.
It is an unconscious need to be needed,appreciated or valued that disguises itself as a good thing, but threatens to destroy you.
This is an EXACT description of my SS. So basically we still have a chance!
I'll keep you all updated!
AmyRB
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So last week was a major setback. I was too stressed and saddened that I did not keep up with my nutrition or all my exercise. This week is different! I have recovered from the bad news and thinking positively again!
The way I see it, even if we don't get my SS right now, we will eventually. At least this has opened her eyes for a little while as to what kind of shitty mother she is. The judge stated plainly in the decision that the court is VERY CONCERNED in the kind of decisions she makes as a mother and the fact that she has repeatedly put her children in danger. Amazing she still got to keep him. For now anyways. I'll keep you all updated on the perjury issue.
All right, back to my workouts and calories. My nose is back to the grindstone this week. My goal is to get 7.5 hours in of exercise and not to go above 1400 calories AT ALL. I have been eating at maintenance (1800-2200) for the past three days in an attempt to help my metabolism along a bit more. Bella and I am about to go to the gym on base, they have a play area for her with machines all around it so moms and dads can work out with their kids. I am going to attempt 1.5 hours, depending on how she acts the entire time. She is in a great mood right now so I am about to leave and take advantage of it. I'm sure you moms can sympathize!
Awesome news though. Yesterday I put on the khaki cargos that roll up into capris that I wore all the time last summer and I had to take them right back off. They were WAY TOO BIG!!!! Although I'm only 14lbs lighter than last year, but I have toned up a great deal as well. They were super baggy on my ass and thighs. Woot!
Also the weird thing is that I am back into my favorite t-shirt. I have a plain black tee from my skinny days that I loved to wear when I bartended. It's more snug but fits and I'm wearing it right now. ANd I still have 30lbs to lose to get to my old weight. This tells you how much weight I carry in my ass and thighs!! Plus, I surprisingly have alot more muscle now than I had before my pregnancy. I think this is due to how hard I've been working for the past year and a half. I wear a size 10 in jeans/slacks and a medium/large in tops. A co-worker who weighs almost 20lbs lighter than me but doesn't work out at all wears the same size. This makes me happy! It's amazing on how much different I feel with this new thyroid med. I no longer am down and depressed about my weight and body image and feel happy and positive almost all the time. It's such a nice change.
Well, better get to the gym before this little girl decides to take a turn for the worst!
The way I see it, even if we don't get my SS right now, we will eventually. At least this has opened her eyes for a little while as to what kind of shitty mother she is. The judge stated plainly in the decision that the court is VERY CONCERNED in the kind of decisions she makes as a mother and the fact that she has repeatedly put her children in danger. Amazing she still got to keep him. For now anyways. I'll keep you all updated on the perjury issue.
All right, back to my workouts and calories. My nose is back to the grindstone this week. My goal is to get 7.5 hours in of exercise and not to go above 1400 calories AT ALL. I have been eating at maintenance (1800-2200) for the past three days in an attempt to help my metabolism along a bit more. Bella and I am about to go to the gym on base, they have a play area for her with machines all around it so moms and dads can work out with their kids. I am going to attempt 1.5 hours, depending on how she acts the entire time. She is in a great mood right now so I am about to leave and take advantage of it. I'm sure you moms can sympathize!
Awesome news though. Yesterday I put on the khaki cargos that roll up into capris that I wore all the time last summer and I had to take them right back off. They were WAY TOO BIG!!!! Although I'm only 14lbs lighter than last year, but I have toned up a great deal as well. They were super baggy on my ass and thighs. Woot!
Also the weird thing is that I am back into my favorite t-shirt. I have a plain black tee from my skinny days that I loved to wear when I bartended. It's more snug but fits and I'm wearing it right now. ANd I still have 30lbs to lose to get to my old weight. This tells you how much weight I carry in my ass and thighs!! Plus, I surprisingly have alot more muscle now than I had before my pregnancy. I think this is due to how hard I've been working for the past year and a half. I wear a size 10 in jeans/slacks and a medium/large in tops. A co-worker who weighs almost 20lbs lighter than me but doesn't work out at all wears the same size. This makes me happy! It's amazing on how much different I feel with this new thyroid med. I no longer am down and depressed about my weight and body image and feel happy and positive almost all the time. It's such a nice change.
Well, better get to the gym before this little girl decides to take a turn for the worst!
bikinibound
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That is good news that the appeal looks very promising. 
And also good that you're feeling better. I think that was a good decision to stay home this weekend. A little battery recharge is always good.
Congrats on the clothes fitting!
That is always a morale booster. I hear ya about wearing the same size as someone 20lbs lighter. My gran is the same height as I, and weighs about 5-10bs less, but I wear about 2 sizes smaller than she does--I'm sure this is due to muscle.
Have a great week, sweetie!
And also good that you're feeling better. I think that was a good decision to stay home this weekend. A little battery recharge is always good.
Congrats on the clothes fitting!
That is always a morale booster. I hear ya about wearing the same size as someone 20lbs lighter. My gran is the same height as I, and weighs about 5-10bs less, but I wear about 2 sizes smaller than she does--I'm sure this is due to muscle. Have a great week, sweetie!
Miss Ladybug
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Hey Amy girl!! Congrats on the clothes getting baggy! I'm sure your toning yourself BIG TIME! You work out so hard all the time, so keep up the great work, and you will be down to your size before you know it!
It's good to read the up beat attitude, I'm soo sooo soo happy your feeling better!! Sorry I didn't get a chance to call you this weekend, I've been out almost the entire time, except for this evening when my brother came over and lookedat our sons car to confirm the worst, looks like car shopping is in the works, which means more money out of our pockets, oh well I kind of new this was going to happen.
I wanted to get online to quickly catch up as Monday's are usually to busy for me to try and post.
I hope you have a very good evening!! YOU GO GIRL!
Kim
It's good to read the up beat attitude, I'm soo sooo soo happy your feeling better!! Sorry I didn't get a chance to call you this weekend, I've been out almost the entire time, except for this evening when my brother came over and lookedat our sons car to confirm the worst, looks like car shopping is in the works, which means more money out of our pockets, oh well I kind of new this was going to happen.
I wanted to get online to quickly catch up as Monday's are usually to busy for me to try and post.
I hope you have a very good evening!! YOU GO GIRL!
Kim
AmyRB
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Hey ladies! Back to the daily grind, bleh! I have piles upon piles of drawings laying on my desk to be reviewed. I now understand why people ask me why I enjoy doing what I do. It is very tedious and monotonous and BORING. Oh well, for some reason I enjoy it most the time. Though today I am tired.
It turns out the gym on base closes at 7pm on sundays and 11pm the rest of the week. We didn't get there last night until 6:20 so I managed a 35 minute workout which was all cardio. My jogging stroller was sitting in the garage when we got home and while I was unloading my bag, Bella crawled up in it and kept saying "go!" So we went for a brisk stroll around the neighborhood for about 15 minutes, she had had enough and wanted to get down and play. Unfortunately I was too busy picking up and cleaning after she went to bed that I didn't get any more in. Tonight I WILL get an hour and a half in!
The scale also showed me to be 1.0lb up today. But I'm sure it's due to very little water yesterday and a sodium rich dinner. I think I may see a loss this week! **fingers crossed**
It turns out the gym on base closes at 7pm on sundays and 11pm the rest of the week. We didn't get there last night until 6:20 so I managed a 35 minute workout which was all cardio. My jogging stroller was sitting in the garage when we got home and while I was unloading my bag, Bella crawled up in it and kept saying "go!" So we went for a brisk stroll around the neighborhood for about 15 minutes, she had had enough and wanted to get down and play. Unfortunately I was too busy picking up and cleaning after she went to bed that I didn't get any more in. Tonight I WILL get an hour and a half in!
The scale also showed me to be 1.0lb up today. But I'm sure it's due to very little water yesterday and a sodium rich dinner. I think I may see a loss this week! **fingers crossed**
AmyRB
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Thanks so much ladies!! Honestly, I really don't know how I would have gotten through this past year and a half without you. I was severely depressed this time last year, partly due to my thyroid and partly due to being so damn frustrated. You all managed to cheer me up on a daily basis and you have no idea how much it helped me get through all this. I thank you all so very much!!
I'm feeling really great today. I have been swamped at work but the weather is superb and I am itching to get out on the pavement and get a good run in. I think I may run the trails on base then hit the gym for some heavy duty weight training (full body). I am at 700 calories for the day so far and I've already had breakfast, lunch, and a snack. Lunch was a delicious cajun grilled fish with baked squash and green beans. Yummo!! Dinner will be 400 calories and a snack of light yogurt and granola should put me around 1300-1400 for the day. Woot!
I'm feeling really great today. I have been swamped at work but the weather is superb and I am itching to get out on the pavement and get a good run in. I think I may run the trails on base then hit the gym for some heavy duty weight training (full body). I am at 700 calories for the day so far and I've already had breakfast, lunch, and a snack. Lunch was a delicious cajun grilled fish with baked squash and green beans. Yummo!! Dinner will be 400 calories and a snack of light yogurt and granola should put me around 1300-1400 for the day. Woot!