Starting Over

AmyRB said:
I had to write a college paper for my friend's boyfriend in exchange for free babysitting and landscaping services. Lol! She'll watch Bella while he rakes my yard and trims my hedges. Too funny!
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Don't let the courts get wind of that...haha. D:

Good luck with the custoday date. I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you. I wouldn't blame you a bit for wanting to strangle SS's "mother." That is unbelievable about them not removing the sexually abused girl from her home. It is so sad than an agency whose sole purpose is to protect innocent children too often protects the guilty abusers. Sick!

I'm glad this new med is making you feel so much better. When is the next weigh in? I hope the scale shows you some love finally. God knows you deserve it. :grouphug:
 
Blancita said:
Thinking of you! Hoping you'll come back with some good news.
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I come bearing crappy news. The bitch filed a continuance. Last friday she told Sean that she did not have a lawyer. He told her that she was being irresponsible and that we were going to prove that she endangered our son on multiple occasions. She freaked out and hung up. ON tuesday, we suddenly get a motion from the lawyer that she used at our last trial for a continuance. She also file a "compassion of the court" petition stating that it was her (the lawyer's) fault nothing got filed earlier because her husband is critically ill and she had been tending to him. It's sad but she COMPLETELY LIED. She didn't know about this case until monday. Even better, she has lied in the past for this woman. This SAME LAWYER prosecuted the ex-boyfriend 5 years ago for beating the shit out of his girlfriend (this is a few months before he met SS's mother). SHe then defended the mother and this guy last year stating that he was not violent and had never hit her when he was in jail two months before the trial for busting her head open (10 stitches). ONE WEEK after our settlement date in which the mother was forced to keep this guy out of her home and away from my SS, she went to jail for violating her probation and my SS was left alone with HIM for two days in their home. When she got out of jail, she freaked out thinking she was gonna get caught and tried to kick him out. He then beat her up again and stole her car. The next day she filed ANOTHER domestic violence case against him and he was found guilty. This is from a man who is "not violent".

The judge could look at this woman's history and see that we need this trial ASAP but they put it off until April 15th. This lawyer said she needed time to review the case. WHich, in reality, she is trying to give the mother enough time to get a job, get her bills paid up, go to church a few times and try to act like mother of the fucking year. Our lawyer told us that everything she is trying to do right now is obviously because of the case and the judge will see right through it. God, I hope so.

I have been absent on here except for a few comments due to his bad news completely bumming me out. We got the news on Tuesday but I haven't felt like talking about it until now. My H was actually crying about this, it's tearing up apart on the insides. I got home and busted open a bottle of wine and tried to relax a bit. Instead I ended up cleaning my house from top to bottom until 2am to let off steam. Sean was flying all night so I was climbing the walls.

Thanks for all your support. We really need it right now. Two more months of watching my little guy go through hell because of his stupid mother. *sigh*
 
god that really sucks...

I have no good words for you... I really hope that justice does prevail for this kid the next few years in your care will make up for the past... He knows you love him and are fighting for him... that will mean a lot to him...

Hang in there -- you are an amazing woman who good things will happen to...
 
hey soory to hear about that. it is disgusting what some people will do in selfishness!!

poor child i mean he is getting the worst of it possibly. hope you are doing ok. it must be really difficult. i cant even imagine what you must be going through and your H.

just hang in there like Mal said and the right thing will happen.

x
 
OMG, Amy! That is so horrible. I cannot believe she did that. I cannot imagine how awful you and Sean must feel. :hug2: I don't even know what to say, except that I hope mid-April comes soon, and that this nightmare ends well at that time. *sending all kinds of hugs your way*

Keep your chin up, honey. :grouphug::grouphug:
 
Hey Ladies, thanks for all your kind words and concern. I just haven't had time to post much here lately.

Sean and I are doing a little better with the custody case, we are trying to stay positive. This at least gives us more time to find dirt on her so we can bury her in court. We will be in OH this weekend for our monthly visit with my SS so that's something to look forward to. I can't wait to see the little guy, I miss him very much.

I refuse to weigh in right now because I want to give the new drugs time to take effect on my metabolism. I plan to weigh on 3/15. The doc's scales showed me at 173lbs which was super discouraging considering the heavy exercise and uber strict diet the past year. The refeed period where I was consuming 2300-2500 calories/day made me actually GAIN weight. Oh well, he said it's amazing I didn't gain tons of weight with this problem and that my current metabolism makes my "maintenance calories" much lower than a normal woman's. I just have to keep telling myself that and stay positive. He is determined to fix this so I can get these damn lbs off.

I took a couple weeks off from exercise to just relax and wind down a bit. I got back into it last week but not full force. My mind was not in the right place for it after the bad news about the case. On saturday I got the "Old Amy" back and went running around the neighborhood. It felt great to not have to have a WWII inside my head to make myself get through it. The past 16 months I have had to battle myself mentally because the energy was not there. I have somehow been able to summon the "force" and get through my workouts. Lol! The past year has been so mentally and physically straining and it is such a HUGE relief to not feel that way anymore.

The doc just called and can't explain why my body is doing what it's doing. The labs came back but he forgot to order the adrenal, estrogen and RT3 tests. They will be done at my next checkup. My cholesterol and triglycerides are PERFECT, but I already knew that. He thinks the main problem may be the RT3 which is Reverse T3. It keeps the T3 in my blood from being absorbed metabolically which destroys my metabolism. By putting extra T3 in my system with this new drug may be what's helping everything. I soooooooo hope so! This would finally be a concrete answer to my problems and we can treat it properly. Either way, I feel great right now and that's what matters.
 
So glad you're feeling well again Amy. I think its a good idea that you took a break from the working out. You deserve it.
 
hey good to have you back. i bet the break felt good.

hope the doc does his thing and gets you sorted so the damn pounds can come off.

have a good wednesday

x
 
Hey beautiful,

I'm glad you're feeling better about all things. I like the idea of taking a break from the scales. Hopefully by mid-March your body will have sorted itself out with this new drug, and you'll be pleasantly surprised when you weigh in.

Here's your TLD Boobie Soaping. :waving:
 
This is why I love where I work. For christmas the partners bought the staff a 52" flat panel TV with a Wii and an XBox to go in our lounge. The first game of the official Wii Bowling Tournament has begun and I am listening to all 23 of them screaming in the back right now. Lol!! The last Thursday of every month we all pop up a huge batch of popcorn and spend the last 3 hours of the day playing in the lounge. Too much fun!! I am trying to find a Big Lebowski t-shirt to where to the next session when my team will be up.

What do you do for recreation?
The Dude: Oh, the usual. I bowl. Drive around. The occasional acid flashback.:smilielol5:
 
That sounds like a lot of fun. H just told me today he thinks I should get a part-time job. Are they hiring? Now that would be a commute. :smilielol5:
 
Typical crappy Monday, but today I'm at home with a sick baby. For all of you that hope to have a baby soon, there is no better way to start your day/week than with vomit in your hair and down your back. She also has a double ear infection and a cold. She gave me her cold so I've been running fever all weekend with body aches and major congestion. I'm much better today (just congestion) but she took a turn for the worse.

We stayed home this weekend from going to OH to visit my SS. Sean flew up by himself and they had a "boys' weekend". They went to COSI (cosi.org) which is this amazing science and discovery center for the whole family. Thank goodness my SS got the "nerd gene" from my H, he loves doing educational activities. We are the type of family to either spend the day hiking in the mountains taking pics of interesting plants and animals to research when we get home, or going to a museum or art gallery. Very nerdy. My SS is 7 and his all-time favorite place to go is the Franklin Park Conservatory (fpconservatory.org) in Columbus, OH. Most kids his age would pick Chuck-E-Cheese's but he likes to sit and sketch the wildlife on the new art set we got him. We are very proud of him, he is so damn intelligent for his age. I think part of it is being like his dad, but sadly, I think it is also due to having to grow up too fast. He has seen so much violence and heartache because of his mother and has been "made" to lie about it to everyone. Sad.

This whole thing with my SS has been so trying. I never imagined I would be a stepmom, I never really thought about it. Nobody thinks about these issues when they are daydreaming about being "happily ever after". I am lucky because I do believe my H and I will always be happy together, we have an amazing relationship, but I have really LEARNED a lot from my SS. He is s strong and brave and has handled way more than he ever should have endured. What is really the most startling is how much I love and adore the little guy. I always knew I would love him because he is Sean's son, but I never realized how much. After having my daughter I was overwhelmed with such fierce love that it scared me. I once read a quote that said "the most dangerous place to stand is between a mother and her child". This is so true. I am surprised that I feel the SAME fierce love for my SS as if he were my own biological child. Right now I am angry and desperate to get him out of that woman's house. I want to give him the life he deserves, a life full of love, affection, nurturing and zero crime or violence. He deserves this. It is breaking my heart that he is still there living in filth and poverty because of his stupid mother.Oh how I hate her.

Sean met with our lawyer and he thinks we are definitely going to win. I really hope so. All this waiting for the next trial date in April is killing us.
 
Aww...sweetie! I'm so sorry you're family is having to through all this. I hope that lawyer is right, and that come April, you will all be one happy family--TOGETHER.

I do not envy you waking up with :puke: in your hair, poor thing! I hope both you and Bella are well soon. No wonder you were offering her to me for adoption the other day. :D And then once I nursed her back to health you'd want her back. :biggrinjester:
 
Hey little miss Power House!! I've missed ya!! here are some hugs your way!! ***hugs thrown to her girl**** Hope your feeling better!! Is it to late for me to join the challenge?? probably, but I would love to if not! Please let me know, I'm really swamped at work, but I'll squeeze in the time I PROMISE! I'm on a mission girl and it's 10 lbs off before April.
Hugs and Love
Kimmers
 
Amy my little Power House Miss Thang!! do you want to get us set up for the challenge with the little Aussie cutie, since Cita seems to be MIA at the moment and I really want to start this challenge, we can pull Cita in on the next one, which I'm most certain there will be one. LOL LOL

Let me know when you can, and you can call us ANYTHING YOU WISH! I've got to run I have some work to catch up on this morning, then I'll be back by later this afternoon to see what's up. Hope your doing well today.
Love ya babes!
Kim
 
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