Screw my ex-friends...

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lecola

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So I'm not telling certain friends that I'm losing weight. Probably because they're not really friends. I can see me telling them I'm trying to lose, and them snickering like "Yeah right, good luck with that fatty." I'm not the most respected in the group, probably because I've never really commanded it. And I haven't been hanging out with them lately. You know how you can tell the people who will probably support and congratulate you, and not the people who will probably not give a sh*t one way or the other, or stay silent because they definitely DON'T think you'll actually do it? These so called "friends" are definitely the latter.

I'm almost 30 friggin' years old, and having a touch of wanting to fit in with the in-crowd, the cool clique. It's sad and shameful for sure but it's the truth. I've been sort of a nerd/loner all my life and though that finally a few years ago I met all these really cool people that accepted me and wanted me to hang with them. Cut to 5 years later and they're dreadful to be around. They give me weird looks, talk major sh*t all the time. I must seem like such a dowdy loser to them. I only met them because of my boyfriend and now he's tired of hanging with them too. I must've liked them better when I smoked weed all the time. Now that I'm clean, I see that I have nothing in common with them. But it still sucks to not be invited to parties and nights out.

With the big 3-0 coming up I wanted a major life change. Now I've gotten clean, lost some weight, and are starting to hang with people that I have the potential of building actual, healthy friendships with. Still I can't wait to show those old f$ckers my new, thinner body. And then they can snicker amongst themselves how they didn't think I had it in me. f%ckers.

Sorry for the bad language. Just needed to vent big time.
 
sometimes you're better off keeping yur plans to yourself -there are a lot of people out there who will try to sabatage out of spite or whatever reason.. but there are also a lot of people who will support you in your journey..

dont close them alll out.. and good luck
 
I know how you feel. A few years ago when i was about 40 pounds heavier than i am now I told some of my thinner friends i was trying to loose weight, and i became the new walking joke. I stopped seeing those friends because i switched schools but i saw them recently and some of them are much bigger than I am now. I was once the joke but all they could do was cmpliment me on how good i looked. Revenge is sweet. :D
 
I hear ya...and I totally understand. I had the 'fit in with the cool crowd' needs for most of my life. I finally got over that, but I still want to rub my weight loss in my ex's face (not literally!). Vent away, we're here.
 
lecola --- Oh man, do I know how you feel.... people can grow-out of friends like they grow-out of clothes, but sometimes it's really for the best. :)

Right now, only two of my friends know that I'm exercising and eating better, and honestly they were the only ones I wanted to tell because I knew they would be 100% supportive.
 
I don't tell people when I'm dieting because it becomes one of two things;

1. They watch everything that you eat and begin to comment on your choices. " Hey , how can you eat that ? Aren't you on a diet?'

2. or They secretly route against you.

I rather have them tell ME that I look thinner.
 
anyone who tries to bring you down for changing your life in a positive way a) are not a friend, and b) are jealous of you.
don't let 'em bring you down!
 
Hehe, thanks for your support. I just start thinking of people in my life, how they treat me. It's easy to get frustrated. On the other hand, I did this to myself. I mean, for a long time I didn't think I was worth taking care of or looking after. I let myself *go* and food became my best friend. No more. Things are gonna be different in 07, I'll tell you that much. I'm gonna start living my life the way I want to... healthier, more adventerous, and feeling great about myself. I don't want to be scared about getting diabetes, or being treated differently because I'm too big. And I'll gladly drop the people who are not in my corner because I deserve better friends than that.

I won't drop the all though, there are a few people in the old group I'd love to keep in touch with. But the rest of them can jump off a cliff. I'd never considered until today that I have another important reason to lose weight... simply to show the haters I can do it. It's like every time I see a loss on the scale I'm giving the finger to those guys. Nice motivation! :)
 
lecola said:
Hehe, thanks for your support. I just start thinking of people in my life, how they treat me. It's easy to get frustrated. On the other hand, I did this to myself. I mean, for a long time I didn't think I was worth taking care of or looking after. I let myself *go* and food became my best friend. No more. Things are gonna be different in 07, I'll tell you that much. I'm gonna start living my life the way I want to... healthier, more adventerous, and feeling great about myself. I don't want to be scared about getting diabetes, or being treated differently because I'm too big. And I'll gladly drop the people who are not in my corner because I deserve better friends than that.

I won't drop the all though, there are a few people in the old group I'd love to keep in touch with. But the rest of them can jump off a cliff. I'd never considered until today that I have another important reason to lose weight... simply to show the haters I can do it. It's like every time I see a loss on the scale I'm giving the finger to those guys. Nice motivation! :)
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I luv the new attitude! 'Cause that's exactly how I feel. More power to you. :D
 
I really can't stand girls in general. I have one best friend-she is literally my other half. Even if she doesn't approve, she does her best to support me.

I've also been blessed with a very nice boss and work with my best friend. And we're the only three that work at my place of employment. We all went on a diet together on the 1st of the year, though I've been dieting since Nov/06.

True friends are definitely hard to find.
 
I lost about 30 pounds during the summer months and it was nice to have people I hadn't seen in a while tell me I looked good but it seemed like my ex-friends who were/are also overweight tried to ruin all my progress. They would make comments about what I was chosing to eat or they would want to go eat at a buffet restaruant for our lunch dates or they would ask if I was trying to become the next Nicole Richie. I finally realized I don't need freinds like them so I have distanced myself from them.
 
hey there dude.....I love the title of your diary.......i hear ya on all the above...... I think that living well is the best revenge.....don't waste your energy on thoes loosers they are not worth it.........and like you said its like givin em the finger whith every success!!!! That rocks!!! have a good one man........later STAR
 
>> friends are dieters worst enemy.

Hahaha, I love the one liner above. I'd have to agree with this, with exception for workout buddies that are on the mission with you. But then again, that only last until one of you quits are starts losing weight faster than the other. :)
 
friends are definitly not the dieters worst enemy.
you guys make it seem like all people are assholes and that weight loss means you have to cut all ties and fend for yourself. completely false.
i love my friends, they are an extension of myself and I wouldn't trade em' for anything. =\
 
not all friends.........just the butthole ones who are unsupportive and saboteurs!!!!!
good friends don't do that kind of stuff.......they are supportive and happy for ya!!!
and yeah screw the mean suckie ones!!!!
STAR
 
Nemesis said:
friends are definitly not the dieters worst enemy.
you guys make it seem like all people are assholes and that weight loss means you have to cut all ties and fend for yourself. completely false.
i love my friends, they are an extension of myself and I wouldn't trade em' for anything. =\
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I have to agree with that. My friends and family have been incredible, without them I wouldnt have been able to stick at it as dilligently as I have. All those little good comments they made, made all the difference. Even when I didn't see it...
 
gsk said:
I have to agree with that. My friends and family have been incredible, without them I wouldnt have been able to stick at it as dilligently as I have. All those little good comments they made, made all the difference. Even when I didn't see it...
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you are lucky to have such great family and friends........
 
I had this problem last year. My best friend and I were both overweight and decided to get into weight loss together. She was more motivated then I was so I figured it was a great idea. The only problem was that my body responded to dieting much better, I had more will power and an overall better attitude towards the whole thing. In time, as I lost more and more weight, I also lost her friendship. She would cheat on her diet all the time and try to coax me into doing the same. She would make rude remarks. At the gym, she would stare at my treadmill, trying to keep up with my speed. When she couldn't do it, she would give up and make a fuss for me to stop my exercising early so we could leave. As soon as we stopped being friends, weight came off ten times faster. Trust me, its a LOT harder to lose weight without the support of people you care about. Not to mention, real friends only want the best for their friends. Get rid of any negative energy that will bring you down. I wish you all the best
 
perelle said:
I had this problem last year. My best friend and I were both overweight and decided to get into weight loss together. She was more motivated then I was so I figured it was a great idea. The only problem was that my body responded to dieting much better, I had more will power and an overall better attitude towards the whole thing. In time, as I lost more and more weight, I also lost her friendship. She would cheat on her diet all the time and try to coax me into doing the same. She would make rude remarks. At the gym, she would stare at my treadmill, trying to keep up with my speed. When she couldn't do it, she would give up and make a fuss for me to stop my exercising early so we could leave. As soon as we stopped being friends, weight came off ten times faster. Trust me, its a LOT harder to lose weight without the support of people you care about. Not to mention, real friends only want the best for their friends. Get rid of any negative energy that will bring you down. I wish you all the best
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Thats what I was talking about.
 
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