Screw my ex-friends...

[Qjay]

>> friends are dieters worst enemy.

Hahaha, I love the one liner above. I'd have to agree with this, with exception for workout buddies that are on the mission with you. But then again, that only last until one of you quits are starts losing weight faster than the other.

I've had this problem many times in the past couple of months. It's surprising how quickly it goes from "You can do it!" to "Try to keep up, dammit!" or "Uh, yeah, I can't make it to the workout tonight." or even just a no-call, no-show. Good friends are important, but having a reliable workout/weight-loss buddy is irreplacable.

 

[jojo224]

So I'm not telling certain friends that I'm losing weight. Probably because they're not really friends. I can see me telling them I'm trying to lose, and them snickering like "Yeah right, good luck with that fatty." I'm not the most respected in the group, probably because I've never really commanded it. And I haven't been hanging out with them lately. You know how you can tell the people who will probably support and congratulate you, and not the people who will probably not give a sh*t one way or the other, or stay silent because they definitely DON'T think you'll actually do it? These so called "friends" are definitely the latter.

I'm almost 30 friggin' years old, and having a touch of wanting to fit in with the in-crowd, the cool clique. It's sad and shameful for sure but it's the truth. I've been sort of a nerd/loner all my life and though that finally a few years ago I met all these really cool people that accepted me and wanted me to hang with them. Cut to 5 years later and they're dreadful to be around. They give me weird looks, talk major sh*t all the time. I must seem like such a dowdy loser to them. I only met them because of my boyfriend and now he's tired of hanging with them too. I must've liked them better when I smoked weed all the time. Now that I'm clean, I see that I have nothing in common with them. But it still sucks to not be invited to parties and nights out.

With the big 3-0 coming up I wanted a major life change. Now I've gotten clean, lost some weight, and are starting to hang with people that I have the potential of building actual, healthy friendships with. Still I can't wait to show those old f$ckers my new, thinner body. And then they can snicker amongst themselves how they didn't think I had it in me. f%ckers.

Sorry for the bad language. Just needed to vent big time.

i knoe how you feel. i've tried and failed to lose weight for such a long time that no one believes i will actually do it. I am determined to do this by myself. I refuse to depend on anyone, do it for yourself and no one else.

 

[lecola]

I take some of what I said back. Friends can be a great support and motivation for going on strong with you diet. The ex-friends I talked about are actually that... ex-friends!

perelle, I totally feel your pain. When I tried to do this with a girlfriend, it brought up competitive and jealousy issues that were a bit too much for me.

 

[jmnewsome]

Lecola,
I completely understand about not wanting to tell some people. It's as if, sometimes, those people will try to sabatoge you. It's crazy! They should be excited and supportive (ideally, right?)
Anyway - you can do whatever you set your mind to; I'm proof of that and you've definitely come to the right place for support. You can definitely share your goals here and have a whole cheering section!
So - you can totally do it!!!!

 

[xspongex]

friends are definitly not the dieters worst enemy.
you guys make it seem like all people are assholes and that weight loss means you have to cut all ties and fend for yourself. completely false.
i love my friends, they are an extension of myself and I wouldn't trade em' for anything. =\

i think what the person means is that when ur a bit chubby (me) and u tell ur skinnier better looking friends that uve started on a diet to lose weight, they are going to go behind your back and make fatty jokes with other friends.